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Advice needed for friend in abusive relationship

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So a little background to start off with:

I work for a nonprofit where I'm the supervisor of 10 people that work under me. Last fall a young woman, lets call her Jennifer started to work with us through an outside fellowship. Now she's the kind of person that just commands attention as soon as she walks into the room. She is very pretty but just has one of those personalities that everyone likes you know? I had to train her when she first started but was very surprised by how quickly she picked everything up. We do a lot of legal work and it's not easy for people without previous experience to learn so quickly. So this should give you a good idea of the kind of person she is.

I immediately took a liking to her because of her work but also how easy she was to talk to. During our training, I would say we became pretty close. So much so that I would text her outside of work about non work related stuff. Also she sends me snapchats a lot, random stuff like shows shes watch like friends do. We even go to happy hour alone sometimes and I think I am the closest to her at work. One time she even had lunch with my mom and I when my mom was visiting town.

So she is someone I consider a very good friend and want the best for her.

Now here's the problem. About two months into her working with us, I found out she has a boyfriend. TO CLARIFY I DO NOT HAVE ANY ROMANTIC INTERESTS AND DO NOT CARE THAT SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND. I really don't care that she has a boyfriend but felt a little manipulated that she never mentioned him before. I am supervisor, been training her for a few months, we have been talking about a lot of stuff so it just comes off as hiding something. People who work in small offices will know what I'm talking about.
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>>18523813
>Friend in abusive relationship
>Not interested in the boyfriend I swear
>Doesn't mention anything about abuse

wow seems like you're just a typical jealous bitch lying to yourself and everyone else to try and get approval from your frenemies.
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It was a little hard for me to trust her after that but I kept it to myself. She was still a great employee and her having a boyfriend did not change anything because apparently she has been with this guy for 5 years now. He doesn't live in the same city and they barely see each other from what I understand.

So months go by and everything is going really well. So much so that I was even thinking about recommending her for a promotion. We became even closer during this time. About two weeks ago our parent group is hosted a fundraising gala. I asked Jennifer if she wold like to go with me and she said yes. I always have a great time with her so I was really looking forward to it. The night of the gala I called to see when I should pick her up and she said her boyfriend was in town and he would drop her off so she will just meet me there.

This is the first red flag I noticed. Is this guy really that insecure that he can't even let her date take her to this gala? Five years and this insecure? That's a problem. But I just agree and say okay I will meet her there.

I get to the gala and start to mingle. She eventually gets there but I don't approach her. Honestly, still pretty bothered by what happened earlier so I wanted her to come to me and apologize. She came up to me and we talked but she never apologized for what she did but I ignored it. Soon we were talking just like before and honestly really enjoying each other's company.

Here's when I noticed the second red flag. Jennifer and I were talking to another couple when she excused herself because she had to take a call from her boyfriend. I thought it was pretty rude and she has never done something like this before. A little later she comes back and says that her boyfriend is picking her up and she will leave early.

THIRD RED FLAG. She was very much looking forward to this night and suddenly she wants to leave early? You know when you can just tell someone isn't happy in their situation? Yeah I definitely did.
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>>18523825
Protip type shit out before you post it.
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A little while later he gets there and I shit you not, this idiot walked into the gala wearing shorts and a t shirt. I almost wanted to laugh but I didn't want to embarrass him. Jennifer introduces me to him and I make pleasantries but I do make a joke about how must feel a little out of place. He says something like "nah, not really sticking around so not a big deal." Okay? I don't really get what that has to do with anything. My point was that he was at a black tie event dressed like he is going to the gym, I don't care if you're for five minutes or five hours, that's weird. So you can already see he is getting an attitude with me for no reason. I follow up with, "well there are some really important people here" and his response was something like, "I've met senators wearing flip flops, I think I'll be okay."

Holy shit, I'm getting angry writing this. But you see what I'm talking about right? He completely rubbed me the wrong way. So anyways, as she is leaving, I tell her to let me know if she gets home okay.

It gets around midnight and she hasn't sent me a single message. So I sent her a text and no reply. I sent her another around 1am saying I am worried and just to let me know if she is okay. No reply. I have a hard time sleeping that night because I am genuinely concerned. It's just the kind of person I am. I need to know my friends are okay or it bothers me.
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Monday, inevitably we see each other at work and she confronts me the first thing in the morning. Before I even get a chance to speak, she says I made her uncomfortable and she wants to just finish her last two months of fellowship without any contact that is not necessary for work.

This was about two weeks ago. I was really upset at first but honestly I've done a lot of reading. When you are in an abusive relationship, you stop seeing the world the way it is and only the way the abuser wants you to see. It makes me really sad that I am losing a good friend because her boyfriend has insecurity issues.

So a few concerns here. She started dating him 5 years ago meaning she was only 19 and therefore this is pretty much the only adult "relationship" she knows. Also the guy is a lobbyist! She wants to work in public service, help immigrants and refugees but yet dates a lobbyist? Does she really not see the contradiction here?

I think over the past five years he has done a good job gaslighting her and it's to the point where it's affecting her relationship with other people and it breaks my heart to see this happen to a good friend.

My question is this: what is the best approach to let her know of these concerns I have? How can you make someone who refuses to see reality to actually see what is happening? I have spoken to my mother and we both agree it would be best that she is also there when I approach Jennifer. However, do you think it should just be me alone or it would be better having a motherly figure also there to talk about something this serious? And if we have this conversation and she still refuses to break up with her abusive boyfriend, what are the final steps that I should take? To be frank, I'm not sure I can remain friends with her if she continues to date him. I'm simply not the kind of person who will stick by someone who is willingly ruining their own life.
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>>18523813
>>18523825
>>18523831
>boss want to fuck employee
>abuses his positions to get dates
>got BTFOd by her boyfriend
and what's your question exactly?
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I can't stop thinking about this and haven't gotten any work done today. I really look forward to your suggestions and thank you for all your help. For any of you that are currently in an abusive relationship, get out before it's too late.
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>>18523836
If she's not asking for help and you have no physical evidence of any abuse (such as bruises and the like), leave it be. You were put off by the fact that he didn't take the event as seriously as you did, and you went from making a gentle ribbing into trying to shame him.
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>>18523841
>I can't stop thinking about this and haven't gotten any work done today.
You're a nonprofit. Nobody there ever gets any real work done.
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>>18523836
>boss is such an insufferable cunt, an employee is going to leave an otherwise perfect job

well done OP
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>>18523842

No not specifically but we are friends. You wait for all your friends to ask you for help first before you help? If so you're a shitty friend. You see an abuse victim and you wait for her to ask for help??? Do you understand how abuse victims think?
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>>18523836
I swear to Christ, dude. Stop butting into people's business that isn't your own. She asked to be left the fuck alone. Leave her alone. She hasn't been showing up with bruises, saying she fell down a flight of stairs or anything. Just because you don't approve doesn't mean you get to do mental gymnastics to justify your disapproval.
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>>18523813

1. You want to fuck her.
2. You really want to fuck her.
3. You entering the picture probably contributed to her current situation.
4. You desperately want to fuck this girl.
5. Your clarifications are a sign of denial.
6. Women manipulate men! Oy Vey! You're the supervisor and she's using her "assets" to secure employment.
7. You do care that she has a boyfriend.
8. You're pathetic.

>>18523825

1. She was playing your ass to get considered for that promotion. That's how women work.
2. See, you got her ass beat, I don't even have to keep reading to know that he beat the shit out of her because it looked like she was fucking with you.
3. You're fucking selfish wanting an apology.
4. She's at a fancy dinner with other nigger. Man at home ain't going to take too kindly to that.
5. She was probably hoping that you'd show some fucking balls and beat the fuck out of her boyfriend, but you're a pussy.

>>18523831

1. You're an asshole.
2. He didn't give a shit about your swanky humblebrag event.
3. He's an alpha male; you try to hard to appease people.
4. You're jealous as fuck while she was getting railed hard.

>>18523836

1. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
2. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
3. Serves you right for getting involved with people who work under you.
4. She only wants to do what her man wants her to do. That's how most women work.
5. No, you're just jealous that you aren't the man he is.
6. SHE SAID DON'T TALK TO HER SO DON'T TALK TO HER
7. You're just as bad as "the abuser" by wanting to mold her thinking positively towards you.
8. No
9. Her relationship is not a work issue. You're going to lose your fucking job doing this shit. She can claim sexual harassment and that's that.
10. She doesn't want to be your friend. She was only using you to get promoted.
11. She isn't ruining her life. She's dating a lobbyist (who very likely has more money than you) and someone who is clearly a bigger man than you.
12. U Mad fuckboi
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>>18523850
>No not specifically but we are friends.
Not anymore, from what I'm reading.
>You wait for all your friends to ask you for help first before you help? If so you're a shitty friend.
I wait for evidence, and don't go around making shit up to justify meddling.
>You see an abuse victim and you wait for her to ask for help??? Do you understand how abuse victims think?
What evidence of actual abuse do you have? I've read your entire story, and the only evidence you seem to show is that she's dating a lobbyist and that she doesn't want to talk to you after you were a dick to someone who didn't give a shit about your gala.
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>>18523825
Jesus christ there's so much wrong with this.
>Is this guy really that insecure that he can't even let her date take her to this gala?

The boyfriend is being nice and wants to drop her off, oh no it's the end of the world. You didn't even mention prior arrangements. Just that you would be attending together. She had nothing to apologize for.

>Jennifer and I were talking to another couple when she excused herself because she had to take a call from her boyfriend.

She excused herself to make a call. That's sooooooo fucking rude amirite girlfrieeeend.

>She was very much looking forward to this night and suddenly she wants to leave early?

Speaking for her. You don't know what's going on, it could be something important.

>A little while later he gets there and I shit you not, this idiot walked into the gala wearing shorts and a t shirt.

Wow what an ingrate. Clearly should have dressed up for 30min getting everything ready to go pick someone up for 5 minutes.

>It gets around midnight and she hasn't sent me a single message. So I sent her a text and no reply. I sent her another around 1am saying I am worried and just to let me know if she is okay. No reply.

Yep people generally stay up at midnight to make sure their they can text their "friends".

>she says I made her uncomfortable and she wants to just finish her last two months of fellowship without any contact that is not necessary for work.

Gee I wonder how the fuck you managed that.

>When you are in an abusive relationship, you stop seeing the world the way it is and only the way the abuser wants you to see.

I think your ego is abusing your brain because you're clearly disconnected from reality. Either that or you're just a jealous bitch trying to convince yourself you're not.

> I'm not sure I can remain friends with her if she continues to date him.

I think she's made it clear she doesn't want to be your friend. Asshole.
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>>18523840

This. If anything, OP has been the abuser and the boyfriend had to put this shit in check. Surprised boyfriend didn't beat OP's ass, but GF probably begged him not to so she could continue advancing up the chain.

>>18523844

True

>>18523845

She's going to get him fired. Watch it. In a week we'll see a post on here "hi /adv/ got fired from my job for sexual harassment and I didn't harass anyone, promise!"

>>18523850

No, you're not friends. She's a co-worker. She was being friendly with you to advance herself in the organization. Her boyfriend put that shit in check and you're just mad about it. You're not Mr. Save-A-Hoe so don't try to be one.

Even if she's being abused, what are you going to do about it? Call the cops? LOL, they don't prosecute that shit, especially if the woman is unwilling to say anything. Are you going to beat his ass? No, you're a fucking pussy. You couldn't take up for this girl even if she wanted your help, which is why she's not interested in you.
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>>18523858

>The boyfriend is being nice and wants to drop her off, oh no it's the end of the world. You didn't even mention prior arrangements. Just that you would be attending together. She had nothing to apologize for.

No you are completely misrepresenting what I wrote. I didn't want her to apologize for having her boyfriend drop her off. I wanted her to apologize for changing plans that we had clearly agreed upon beforehand. I walked into that event alone while everyone else had someone to go in with. Can you imagine your prom date making you go to prom alone and saying she will meet you there? Exactly. Kindly fuck off.
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>>18523859

>Even if she's being abused, what are you going to do about it? Call the cops? LOL, they don't prosecute that shit, especially if the woman is unwilling to say anything. Are you going to beat his ass? No, you're a fucking pussy. You couldn't take up for this girl even if she wanted your help, which is why she's not interested in you.

Actually I'm wondering if there's a way to get a restraining order against him on her behalf. He has obviously been abusing her for years.
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>>18523862

So you're mad because your image was affected. Lol. I bet you voted for Hillary.

>It's more embarrassing that your only date option for a ballroom function is one of your subordinates at work. Mr. CEO might be fucking his secretary, but he knows better than to take her to a dance. That's why wives and escorts exist. I mean, seriously, you can't get any woman to come to the function besides one you coerced into going?

>She was probably reminded at how bad it would look to be seen at that function with you.

>You should have known better than to "ask" an employee into going as your "date". They have to say yes because they feel stress by not doing what their boss says.

You can get mad at me if you want, but I had to resign due to shit like this many many years ago and I learned my fucking lesson.
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>>18523862
>Cherry picking one of my arguments which is valid based on what you said.

All the other stuff still stands moron. How about you address that.

Nobody bump this thread until he answers. This is most likely a pathetic troll who has a lot of time on his hands.

sage
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>>18523873

LMAO.

Dude, just stop. Seriously. You're going to make me laugh so hard a hemorrhoid is going to appear on my ass. There is no fucking way that you can infer abuse from what you've observed. Unless you see bruises on her, he's done nothing wrong.

You can push this issue if you want, but you're going to lose your fucking job over a cunt. There are many cunts in the world that don't have the problems this one has, so just find another one. Unless you want to lose your job and be a laughingstock among everyone, which doesn't appear to be the case since you're apparently concerned with your image since she "stood you up".

You can't even try to have her fired for incompetence because she has all of those snaps and texts to show HR/management that you've been abusing your power. She has you by the balls, so just hope she works a few more months without problem and then she fucks off elsewhere. Or you might want to find another job because this one gets burned because you harassed this bitch.

I quit my job before they could get me on the harassment.
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>>18523857

>What evidence of actual abuse do you have? I've read your entire story, and the only evidence you seem to show is that she's dating a lobbyist and that she doesn't want to talk to you after you were a dick to someone who didn't give a shit about your gala.

Why is this something I need proof for? Her behavior suddenly changing as soon as he comes is pretty indicative of whats going on.
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>>18523879

It changed because she realized how fucking creepy you are. She probably thought she had to do all of that stuff to curry your favor but he (Rightfully) reminded her that she didn't.

>>18523875

No, he's not trolling. He's just upset that the first girl who has shown him some attention (ignoring that it was only due to his supervisor position) sucks another man's dick and won't suck his.
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>>18523878

>Or you might want to find another job because this one gets burned because you harassed this bitch.

For trying to help empower my colleague?
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>>18523882

>It changed because she realized how fucking creepy you are. She probably thought she had to do all of that stuff to curry your favor but he (Rightfully) reminded her that she didn't.


What a ridiculous statement. WE ARE FRIENDS. WE GO TO STUFF ALL THE TIME. How come everyone is ignoring this part? Why would she go to happy hour and stuff with me but suddenly this would scare her?
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>>18523879
You tried to embarass her boyfriend. You initiated that change.

I'm going to bed. I work 3rd shift at a real job, and it's obvious you've already made up your mind. You're gonna get HR-ed hard if you try anything, though. Stop acting like an Indian.
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>>18523883

For coercing a female subordinate employee into uncomfortable out-of-work situations in return for preferable treatment in the workplace.

I wouldn't be too surprised if you're fired this week. You certainly will be fired if you push this issue anymore. I wouldn't even talk to the woman outside of necessary work communications. Don't even address her personally.
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>>18523887

That's your opinion. Let me tell you how HR is going to see this:

>a young, attractive female employee was given a job she wasn't really qualified for
>she's been doing "great" and has been considered for promotion by her supervisor
>She's been spending a lot of time with her supervisor outside of work
>She's even been to bars (since you said Happy Hour) with him
>He's clearly using his position to force her into non-work activities.
>Fire him before she sues us all.

You're treading a very fine line, son. She's not your friend, was never your friend, and I don't give a shit what you might think contrary to that. She played your ass.
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>>18523882

see:

>>18523850
>>18523873
>>18523883
>>18523887

you see nothing wrong with this idiocy?

sage
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>>18523859

>LOL, they don't prosecute that shit, especially if the woman is unwilling to say anything.


Of course she hasn't told me. Most abuse victims never tell anyone else and they end up dead.
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>>18523896

He's pussywhipped. That's all. Poor boy will have to learn the hard way. There's trolling and then there's just being too goddamn stupid to not know better, and OP is the latter.

>>18523898

Then she ends up dead. That's on her, not you. She doesn't want your "help" and you have no evidence of abuse. You cannot save these hoes, been there done that too.

They will always go back to him or another nigga just like him. Damaged goods can't be repaired.
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>>18523894

I don't see how someone texting and snapchatting and going out all the time with A FRIEND is being harassed. If anything I was led on because she never mentioned the boyfriend.
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>>18523907

You're her supervisor, so yes, it will be views as harassment. You were using your position to gain favor.

1. Don't be friends with your subordinates at work.
2. Don't use snapchat or any of that fucking shit at all.
3. Telephone communications should be related to work-only.

Shitting where you eat isn't a big deal if the two of you are on the same level, but you're a position above her so it's a big fucking deal.
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>>18523858

Twisting my words. You are saying I am upset that she wants to spend time with her boyfriend and that is not the case. I am upset because a good friend is being abused by her boyfriend.

I wasn't upset he drove her to the party, I was upset that he was so insecure he wouldn't let her go to a gala with her friend already had plans with.

I wasn't upset he picked her up, I was upset he made her leave from an event that she was really looking forward to, got all dressed up for, and would meet really important people that will help propel her career.

I wasn't upset she was busy with her boyfriend instead of messaging me. I was upset that he is deciding who she can and can't text after meeting someone for a few fucking minutes.

You're twisting my words and pretty badly I might add. Don't quit your day job.
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>>18523916
Tell that to HR if she states that shit in her formal complaint.
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>>18523912

First of all, she came from a fellowship. I never hired her. Second, I was on the way to recommending her for promotion except that she is caught up in this abusive relationship and its preventing her from interacting with people in a very face-forward environment.
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>>18523916
>Still no proof of abuse just your feelings.
>he is deciding who she can message.

Literally no proof you fucking imbecile.

sage

I swear to god the people who bump this shit are as guilty as the fucking low life who makes these slide threads.
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>>18523923
Do you promise to update us once you turn a mistake in logic into a dumpster fire? This will be good enough for popcorn.
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>>18523929

I'm already being unfairly targeted by posters in this thread just for asking advice on how to help a friend.
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>>18523916

>I was upset that he was so insecure he wouldn't let her go to a gala with her friend already had plans with.

I would not allow my girlfriend to go to a "gala" with another man, either. Especially a man I do not know. For all I know, you might slip her a roofie and rape her. And judging by what she probably told him "yea my supervisor needs me to go to this stupid event", he wasn't too happy and I don't blame him.

You have no idea that she was "really looking forward" to going. She may have felt threatened when you asked her to go, as a denial may have affected her job status. She may have already planned going with her boyfriend BEFORE you asked, but felt that if she turned you down for him that her job wold be affected negatively. Also, she's dating a lobbyist per your admission; if she wants to meet important people, that's not hard for her at all. She doesn't need you.

You don't know that he told her not to text you. She was very possibly pissed off by how you handled the gala event that she doesn't want anything else to do with you. She saw your true character. Besides, she wasn't on the clock and doesn't need to text her fucking supervisor at night.

Jesus Christ I wish I knew where you worked because I'd get you fired for being an insufferable faggot.
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>>18523934
They are trying to stop you from lighting the dumpster on fire.
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>>18523920

The only reason she would do something like that would be because her boyfriend forced her to. We literally were together all the time before he showed up.
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>>18523923

>you're willing to give her a promotion
>except for something that is going on outside of work

Please tell HR that. You're not leadership material and it's painfully obvious. You're in way over your head on this one.

>>18523929

My dick is diamonds dawg.
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>>18523813

Op your view is warped. You overstepped your boundaries as her boss. Even if she asked you out after work, it's your job not to let it go beyond a professional relationship. She asked you out in order to advance her position. A boss and subordinate cannot be friends in your situation, ESPECIALLY when she's a new employee. She has no obligation to tell you she has a boyfriend, much less apologize. That's her private business, friend or not. It's messed up that you were obviously expecting something from her by saying she led you on.

She probably arranged with her boyfriend to call her at a certain time during the party, so she'd have an easy exit if you were making her uncomfortable. She didn't want to be alone in your car with you. You were making her uncomfortable, so her boyfriend rushed over without changing his clothes to take her out of the situation.

It's NOT YOUR BUSINESS. Her family and established friends can help her if she's in trouble. You're her boss and have behaved completely inappropriately. She has asked you not to speak to her again, so your role with her is done. Do not confront her with your mom. Do you not see how intimidating that would be for an employee who'd probably see that as a threat to be fired if they don't change their personal life? If she's as bright as you mentioned, she's capable of making her own decisions about her relationship.
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>>18523941

>We literally were together all the time before he showed up.

You were her emotional tampon. Now her daddy is back in town and she doesn't need your weakling ass anymore.

Yous gon get fired senpai
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>>18523937

I think at this point this is pretty obvious. But cutting of your SO's friends because they are jealous IS ABUSIVE. People on /adv/ write that ALL THE TIME.

>You don't know that he told her not to text you. She was very possibly pissed off by how you handled the gala event that she doesn't want anything else to do with you. She saw your true character. Besides, she wasn't on the clock and doesn't need to text her fucking supervisor at night.

After five years of abuse, I'm pretty sure he can control things without being directly there. I have done my homework and I know how these relationships work.
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Can you niggers stop bumping this shit? This insuferable faggot is clearly a low life troll. There's no way an actual human is this clueless and indignant about this situation. Literally none. Stop making excuses for this faggot and bumping this garbage.

sage you fucking faggots.
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>>18523947

>She probably arranged with her boyfriend to call her at a certain time during the party, so she'd have an easy exit if you were making her uncomfortable. She didn't want to be alone in your car with you. You were making her uncomfortable, so her boyfriend rushed over without changing his clothes to take her out of the situation.

/thread

>Do not confront her with your mom.

The fact that this even crossed a GROWN ASS MAN'S mind tells me everything I need to know. He's a literal autist. A female friend of mine would never meet my mother. That's reserved for an actual girlfriend after a considerable period of time.
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>>18523943
>My dick is diamonds dawg.
I'm gonna save this thread once it retires on the hopes he ignores the advice and gets HR'ed up the ass.
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>>18523953

>I have done my homework and I know how these relationships work.

YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW HOW TO MANAGE A PROPER WORK RELATIONSHIP, LOL

Seriously dude, I hope you go ahead and decide to 'confront' this girl with your mommy. White Knight and save this girl from her serial abuser and then you can be the man that she needs.

Bra-fucking-o.
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>>18523956
If you don't like it, hide the thread. It's the minus button.
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>>18523961

If he's smart, he'll go ahead and resign. That's the only professional way to do it. Cite family and personal conflicts and leave it at that. Then (maybe) he learns not to make the same mistake again.
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>>18523943

>Please tell HR that. You're not leadership material and it's painfully obvious. You're in way over your head on this one.

I have done this for several years now and have been doing a great job. You know nothing about me so keep your speculation to yourself.
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>>18523978
Not him. It's not speculation. You have given us the evidence in your own posts. You are either an Indian, or you suffer Aspergers. Not joking.
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>>18523947

>p your view is warped. You overstepped your boundaries as her boss. Even if she asked you out after work, it's your job not to let it go beyond a professional relationship. She asked you out in order to advance her position. A boss and subordinate cannot be friends in your situation, ESPECIALLY when she's a new employee. She has no obligation to tell you she has a boyfriend, much less apologize. That's her private business, friend or not. It's messed up that you were obviously expecting something from her by saying she led you on.

People keep saying "work friend." WE TEXTED ALL THE TIME OUTSIDE OF WORK. SHE WOULD SNAPCHAT ME. WE WENT HAPPY HOURS ALONE ALL THE TIME. But you just ignore all that and reduce me to a work friend?

>She probably arranged with her boyfriend to call her at a certain time during the party, so she'd have an easy exit if you were making her uncomfortable. She didn't want to be alone in your car with you. You were making her uncomfortable, so her boyfriend rushed over without changing his clothes to take her out of the situation.

But here's the problem. I Do NOT have feelings for her. He's creating all this in his own mind to justify his abusive behavior. We literally see these type of subtle abuse stories here all the time.

>Do not confront her with your mom. Do you not see how intimidating that would be for an employee who'd probably see that as a threat to be fired if they don't change their personal life?

What a ridiculous statement. WE ARE FRIENDS. WE GO TO STUFF ALL THE TIME. How come everyone is ignoring this part? Why would she go to happy hour and stuff with me but suddenly this would scare her?

>If she's as bright as you mentioned, she's capable of making her own decisions about her relationship

Except that even exceptional people can be converted to their abusers point of view after a long enough time.
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>>18524025
Please tell me you're a troll anon. These autism levels shouldn't even be possible. You're passing from the autism dimension to literal psychosis.
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>>18523983

I don't know what race has to do with any of this. I have an IQ of 141 and a masters degree, thank you very much.
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>>18524025
>We're friends hurrr.
>Why you keep ignoring dat durrrr?

Maybe it has something to do with
>she says I made her uncomfortable and she wants to just finish her last two months of fellowship without any contact that is not necessary for work.
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>>18524025
Don't use your mom. Bring up your concerns to HR, as their job is councilors. You aren't being productive, by your own admission. Do it now. Report back to us when you are done.
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>>18524030
.
Well that explains it. Asperger's.

This is good, actually. If you are fired, you can claim discrimination due to mental disability. Well done OP.

>>18524025

Work friend = friend from work

Also, you surely see the issues in going drinking with a female subordinate employee, right? That doesn't look good.
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>>18524035

I know what happened.

>This girl got this opportunity
>Overbearing supervisor starts involving himself in her life
>Her boyfriend is out of town on work so she doesn't think much about it initially, because she's young and naive
>OP inviting her to the Gala was where he fucked up.
>Boyfriend learned about this, then started inquiring about other things the supervisor had done
>Realizes his GF is being taken advantage of
>She also realizes what is happening, still goes to the event to be nice but BF tells her he will come if there's a problem
>There's a problem because OP is an autist
>BF comes and gets her, and she realizes that everything her supervisor has done with her is unprofessional and unacceptable
>She's still trying to be nice by giving you an out

OP will still manage to fuck this up and get himself fired.
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>>18524042
Probably Indian, too. My wife glanced over this, and came to the same conclusion. She literally said, "Thine Indian doth protest too much." When he said he had no romantic interests.
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>>18524052

>OP is literally Raj from Big Bang Theory
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Thanks guys; was fun.

OC Sources:

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/6mwspj/me_32m_with_my_coworkerfriend_24f_of_one_year_how/dk4yei7/?st=j55yszx2&sh=6c584e9e

http://www.ign.com/boards/threads/im-worried-that-my-friend-at-work-is-in-an-abusive-relationship-halp.454998208/

https://np.reddit.com/user/menumessages

https://np.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/6mwspj/me_32m_with_my_coworkerfriend_24f_of_one_year_how/dk7zwdq/

http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2017/07/14/and-the-creepy-boss-of-the-week-award-goes-to-this-dude-posting-on-reddit/#more-28186
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>>18524056
>I was only pretending to be retarded.
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Oh wow it's like what I've been saying was right all along and you're all retarded.

>>18523875
>>18523896
>>18523925
>>18523956

Are there no mods on this shithole of a board?
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>>18524056

https://np.reddit.com/r/bestof/comments/6nja74/redditor_accuses_his_subordinates_boyfriend_as_an/

Forgot this one.

"To sit on my throne as the prince of Bel Air"
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>>18524056
>thinking it's funny to waste everyone's time when there are other people who actually need help

There's nothing amusing about this
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>>18524059
>>18524064

You're the faggots who kept bumping an obvious low life who was pointed out to be such. You guys must be the true autists if you can't tell a real situation from a fake one. It was obvious as fuck in the first few posts and it only got more obvious from there.

Like I said, no one is this indignant except maybe the ones who fucking bumped this garbage. You're the ones who stopped people getting help; not the faggot who made this thread, because you're the ones who bumped this and sucked other people into this bullshit.

sage you fucking niggers
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>>18524064

Respectfully disagree

See:

>>18524070

That shit is fucking hilarious. Right up there with the fact that my OP was generated by a real human being.
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>>18523813
You are her boss not her friend or lover. Leave her alone before you cause her to lose her relationship. You have no idea what her history is nor what her psychological reaction to a break up would be. Maybe this jerk keeps her sane. Back off before your poor judgement cause her irreparable harm.

You're jealousy is apparent and your denial is pathetic. As Christian your behavior is an a front to me.
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Lol is this /adv/'s version of b8?
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>>18523923
>I have no feelings for her but I won't promote her if she stays with her bf
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