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How come I have no drive to pursue women and prefer porn? Even

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How come I have no drive to pursue women and prefer porn? Even though girls still like me, and not just average ones, but quite attractive ones sometimes, I still prefer watching porn and not chasing them for sex.

Here's some background on me if it helps with giving advice.
>I just turned 18 and graduated high school.
>I've never had a girlfriend, nor had sex. I've kissed one girl.
>I've never asked out a girl on a date.
>I've been watching porn since I was 11 years old and masturbating daily, with or without it.
>In high school, I didn't go to any parties or drink or do drugs. I completely focused on my schoolwork, and fitness after that.
>I got accepted into the best college in my state and will be attending in the Fall.
>I used to be fat until around age 15, which was when I started training seriously.
>I only noticed girls giving me attention this last year, my senior year of high school.
>Usually I'm turned on when I imagine fucking a girl I believe I have no chance with. For example, I'd jerk off to the thought of fucking this big breasted red head in my class. But when I found out she actually really liked me, I couldn't get off to the thought of fucking her anymore. And this has happened multiple times as well.
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>>18522359
Based on how you described yourself, there are a few reasons I think could be the answer.

#1
>Since you have watched and masturbated with porn since you were 11, it is very possible that you have grown more attached with the instant gratification it provides, and have a harder time feeling romantic. Google 'YourBrainOnPorn' for more on that possibility.

#2
>You like results, especially solid ones. Focusing on fitness and studies gets you fit and good grades almost assuredly. Watching porn is sure to get you around. People are not nearly as predictable, nor will they guarantee results you may want.

#3
>You are afraid of rejection. You may not even think you do, but it is possible. You don't have to open yourself up to porn in order to feel good. You do have to do that if you are going to be in a relationship with someone, and the thought of getting hurt because you let someone into a more personal circle of your life scares you away from pursuing a relationship, even if it is subconscious.

I hope I have helped you identify the issue you might have
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>>18522422
Not OP but you got me at #3, however I'm not scared. I'm just worried that if another relationship goes south for me I might crack. And by crack I mean I may get physically violent cause I'm getting sick and tired of the biases towards women and dating and relationships, I really am, and while I'm not a violent person, I dont want to be pushed into that territory so I stay away from relationships. I'm too fragile to let a bitch suck up my time and effort and completely shred me before ditching me. I'm not the type to just accept that. People are on way too much bullshit these days for me to seriously invest in you.
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>>18522456
Same here. I luckily never really got into dating because my life wasn't really stable enough to do so at the time. I have seen my mother try to redeem others she thought she could save, and have almost all of them stab her in the back and use whatever benefits they gained from her to get a quick high before going back to what they were. Best advice I can give you is that if you ever consider getting into a relationship again, do so with someone who is at peace with themselves, at least for the most part. Only problem is that people like that are usually very hard to find, especially if they are single. Good luck my friend, though you probably already knew the advice I had to give.
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>>18522510
I knew it but it helps to be reminded of it, sad enough you're right. Most ppl are looking for inner peace so they have none, and those that do are either smart enough to stay alone or are already taken. I really feel like there's no win in dating anymore. Its literally just a battle of whose losing more.
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>>18522422
>You are afraid
It might not be rejection necessarily but I think this is most likely. Maybe you are afraid of failure in general or it could be something as simple as a fear of change. My self-armchair-psychiatry tells me that's probably why I've never been interested in getting a girlfriend. Being by myself is familiar and having to worry about being romantically involved with another person who will rely on me to give them intimacy is an unknown.
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>>18522359
because porn is a quick fix and real women take work.

with porn you can select any body type and fetish and get off that way. You can only be with one woman at a time unless you are poly. Most men prefer being with multiple women because of their biology, porn simulates this.

Porn is just more attractive to the male mind because it simulates being an alphamale and having his pick of the litter to fuck.

You also don't need to worry about pleasing anyone else when you watch porn, with a woman you do. You cannot be selfish in sex and expect a woman to want to fuck you again, but porn doesn't care.

Why not try cutting back on porn and see how you view women in real life? My boyfriend used to fuck me like an animal when he had no internet connection but now he prefers porn most of the time because of how easy it is and how much variety there is.
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>>18522359
https://yourbrainonporn.com/

Tldr fapping is ok, porn is not.
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>>18523057
>>18522422
>>18523001
>broscience
Nothing wrong with choosing porn over women. Women don't want to lose their societal value so they'll go undercover and tell you porn is a sin, but the reality is that it's far more convenient than a girlfriend who will most likely ruin your life or at the very least become a nuisance or waste of time. The idea of a woman in your life might be tempting but once you reach that point you'll see for yourself how shit it actually is.
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>>18523142
sure there is nothing wrong with it but it sucks when youre in a relationship and its sexless because of porn. If you want to stay single and watch porn thats fine OP but I suggest cutting down on it if you want to be with a woman.
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>>18523147
>>sure there is nothing wrong with it but it sucks when youre in a relationship and its sexless because of porn.
I've been in relationships and non of the sex issues had anything to do with porn. It had to do with various sex drives, one being more into the other, previous sexual relationships gone bad, and physical problems, I'm sure if someone watches it all the time the other isn't going to be happy about it but really, I think you missed the OPs problem.
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>>18522510
This is solid advice as you have learned from your mother you can't change people who don't want to change themselves. The best life lessons are watching other people's mistakes and not doing the same thing.
You can't bring peace to a troubled person, they have to do it. My advice like yours is to set your standards high in a relationship and stick to them even if it means leaving the relationship because the person just isn't right for you. What many do is find someone they are physically attracted to. Then during dating when they discover this person has beliefs or habits they don't like, is to try to change the person into someone they want them to be. This seldom works. The more they try, the more frustrating it becomes and the more dramatic it becomes. By taking a more rational approach, you are more likely to end up with someone who is very compatible but you'll be much happier in the end. So I would not date but I would be choosy about who I date. You'll eventually find someone.
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>>18523142
You have it a little wrong anon. Gf can do more than make you cum. Like give you baby, cuddle you, improve your social status (virgin loser vs chad), force / motivate you to be better version of yourself, talk with you and so on.

But yeah, having gf sometimes feels like second job. If all you care about is bustibg nut, then dont even bothet.
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>>18523195
OPs problem does have to do with porn because he says he prefers it to real women. So I suggested he should try cutting back to see if it could make a difference because it might.
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