Don't know if this belongs here but anyways
Should I join the military?I feel like I'm wasting my life at home. I graduated high school a year ago and the only thing I've accomplished since then is holding a job as a landscaper for 4 months. It pays decent but with no benefits. All of my friends are in college and the only people I try to socialize with are my coworkers, it never works out because all they do is get drunk and I don't want to end up an alcoholic(pretty much all my family members are. I have an addictive personality,ie video games, tv shows.) I live at home with my mom, my older sister, her boyfriend and their daughter. I try to save money but I'm always guilted out of most of it by my mom and sister.My mom and dad separated when I was a freshman but I still see him at least once a week to talk, but it always ends in him getting drunk and passing out. I can tell he is disappointed in me because I still live at home. I've been depressed since junior year of high school because I've never had any real work ethic or motivation to do anything more than the minimum, I give up on things that require a lot of focus and time or things that have strict deadlines. Stayed back my junior year. My therapist told me I probably have add but I don't want to get diagnosed because it might make me ineligible for the military. I feel useless and I have no idea what to do in the future.I've had suicidal thoughts whenever I think about my future, but haven't told anyone. I figured if I join the military I would be forced to stick with it and I could actually be proud of something. I also get to be away from home and away from old friends who visit and like to shove it in my face that they're more successful than me.
I am a bit overweight, 215 5'10 but I have good stamina and decently strong calves and legs, also somewhat strong upper body. I think I can pass the physicals and other tests.
The cons are might end up like pic related.
Also if i die I'll be remembered as a hero
>>18443321
You are mentally weak and will hate it.
>>18443321
No shame in making an honest living, the world still needs landscapers and ditch diggers. If you really feel like you need structure, and want to bail out of family and need help to get on a path of independence, then go enlist.
BEFORE YOU GO AND ENLIST:
Research up on what branch of the military is most suitable for you. Don't just pick one willy nilly. Navy is different than Airforce, Airforce is different than Army, etc.
>>18443321
hey no matter where you are in life rejoice in the fact that you aren't in the same situation as your sister, with a child out of marriage and also living at her parents home with her sexual partner and child.
>>18443321
To be honest it sounds like home life is sucking you dry before you can even get anywhere with your money. Either put your foot down, save up, look for better paying jobs and leave, or enlist.
If they accept you into recruitment, then buckle up it's no cake walk either, but they'll slap your ass into shape, and give you more opportunities for improvement. Just don't become an addict there either; ain't like you can't become something you once resented in the military either. It all takes discipline and self dedication.