Does anyone here regret having been really promiscuous in the

I don't know how many of my guy friends I messed around with in high school. I was kinda addicted to taking virginities...I'm okay with it.

>>18366262
Yeah I regret it. I met a lot of shitty people that I would have rather not met. All they wanted was a one time going. Some of them probably cheated with me on their partners. The way I seduced women was definitely twisted and borderline unethical

If you're practicing safe sex, both single, everything is consensual and nobody is being taken advantage of - then I see no problem at all with promiscuity

>>18366262
Don't really regret it bc I learnt from it and got away unscathed.
Feel pissed off at past me for not calling out guys on being selfish in bed though.

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>>18366276
demon
succubus
I would slay you with my sword

>>18366394
One of the best guys I was with was a dnd guy. It was so clear he just wanted to lose it. He was 16 and I was 17 and I thought fuck it. He was really sweet, he got a hold of weed even though he didn't smoke (neither did I). He actually looked up videos online, as much as you could in the 90s. He was really enthusiastic. I had an orgasm from his tongue before I let him inside me. We did it twice more, but that was really all he wanted, just to lose it.

>>18366262
I was never sexually promiscuous though the opportunities were there and the thought crossed my mind.

I've slept with one person, it was a terrible mistake because she was a terrible person.

>>18366569
she did not deserve those orgasms and I feel it's cheapened my sexual prowess or worth in some way.

>>18366262
im kissless and i regret sending nude pics to anons when i was 18-19 y/o.

>>18366317
>The way I seduced women was definitely twisted and borderline unethical

Teach me

>>18366262
I'm happy with it.
>Lost my virginity with a LTR
>Later slept with an old highschool crush a couple times
>Now enjoy a frequent sex life with current boyfriend

I feel like I'm well rounded. I have no regrets and I feel like I learned from every aspect of it. I spent a lot of time thinking I was broken when I had shitty heartless sex with my ex and great but unemotional sex with the crush. I blamed myself, thinking "sex is sex", but it seems obvious now that how I feel about the guy at the other end of the dick matters a lot on how much I enjoy everything.
I can compare that to the fantastic loving sex with my current boyfriend and realize how great I've got it.

>>18366676
>great but unemotional sex
the fucking worst.

>>18366548
did you feel used? im getting a half chub.

>>18366679
Yeah, it was really weird. The cognitive dissonance made me uncomfortable. I was thinking, "what's wrong with me? Why can't I enjoy this?"

Is 20 promiscuous or fairly standard in mid 20s? Amongst my friends it seems pretty standard but we're hardly lady killers.

Don't regret it at all so far.
Do regret sending nudes. A lot. Still do it all the time... help

>>18366685
No, it's just a thing, when a guy is a virgin, the first time he takes his clothes off in front of a girl.

>Making out
>Third date
>In my underwear and bra, him in a t-shirt and underwear on his couch
>You can tell he's totally in a place he's never been before, in his mind
>D-do you ... Are you on birth control?
>Yes, I have an IUD.
I'm smiling because I think I know what's coming. This guy was fat, but really sweet. He wanted to make me happy, but he also wanted me.
>C-can we have sex?
>Of course
>Now?
>Haha silly, come on.
I led him to his bedroom and he took off his shirt and underwear, and I took off my bra and underwear. He tried to kiss me some more, but I felt him, rock hard. I moved some of the precum around the head of his dick.
>tfw my first time with a virgin guy. I was wet, there was no way I needed anything else
>Will you...put me in you?
>We cussed, and I rubbed him at my entrance, and when he was ready I just slid him into me
>The look on his face
Seriously, if you haven't taken a virgin, girls...you have to. I know for a fact I could come up to him right now, take him home and fuck him, and he's been married for years and we haven't even talked in longer than that, but you just know with a guy. I let him come in me. I sort of have continuous orgasms so when he was finished, I just sort of lay down next to him.
>I'm glad it was you.
And that was the story of the first virgin I took. We had sex a few times after, during that summer.

>>18366262
My only regret is not being more promiscuous.

>>18366792
>Seriously, if you haven't taken a virgin, girls...you have to.

This. My current boyfriend was a virgin when we met--he'd only fingered a girl once and hardly done any kissing. He's usually very calm and collected, but when he was about to put himself in me, he was trembling from nervousness. It was so adorable, and fucking hot. Even before taking his virginity, he would get a bit self-conscious about getting boner from kissing me, like he was worried I would be turned off by it or not want it pressing into me or something. So cute.

>>18366819
I was on a copper IUD at the time and these guys...well, they were virgins so... Did you let him come in you?

>>18366769
that is approaching gross
definitely don't tell people you're that big of a manslut
there's no double standard, sluts are sluts

>>18366792

Girls who take virginity are great - until you realize that's all they actually care about and leave you to wonder why they wanted you for only that one moment and never again.

It's a hot experience that never leads to anything other than "hey I got laid" and often creates a lot of frustration since she was the "one who got away" more or less. Someone who could have anyone and they picked you only because you've never done anything before. Robbing you of innocence because it gets them hot.

It's that kind of thinking that makes pedophiles, unfortunately. Meh, there's upsides and downsides, like with everything else.

>>18366838
Not one of them complained.

>>18366262
24 year Virgin here, kek

>>18366828
I had an immense amount of anxiety about getting pregnant, even though I was on birth control and he was wearing a condom, so I didn't. I've gotten a little better about the anxiety now so that I don't cry every time my period's a tiny bit late, but we've been together 6+ years and he's cum inside me less than ten times. I feel bad but I'm not willing to suffer the anxiety at this point

>>18366262

I gave up my virginity to the guy I'm currently with. Never had sex with anyone else. I wonder about what it'd be like with other people sometimes but honestly everyone else just grosses me tf out.

>>18366840

To you. Publicly.

>>18366847
Get him a vasectomy, children are a meme anyway.

>>18366891
And if they regret it, that doesn't make their regret my fault or responsibility.

>>18366838

This sounds pretty sad, tbqh :(

>>18366901

so cold-hearted, ruthless. I like it.

>>18366901

It kind of does if you let them fuck you and then dispose of them like garbage, stop treating them like they exist. Like most girls who do this kind of stuff do.

>>18366907

I'm one of those guys who has had this stuff happen to him. Get with someone who is attractive, who specifically wants to take my virginity because I'm some loser who's never been with a girl before. She plays everything up well, knows I'm nervous about everything, knows exactly how to respond and make me feel like she cares.

And then she just... stops. Cold shoulder, there's no warmth in her actions or her behavior, nothing that leads me to believe I'm worth anything anymore after my virginity was gone. I'm just "some dude."

It's exciting and terrible all at the same time. It's why so many guys develop oneitis and get wrapped up in bullshit pining for that one girl who they never got to do anything else with.

>>18366917
>It kind of does if you let them fuck you and then dispose of them like garbage, stop treating them like they exist.
You're projecting. I have never done this.

>>18366988

I never said you did any of those things. I said it does if you do, like the girl who did it to me - and you claim not to. Well good for you, I hope that everyone's getting along great.

>>18366893
We both know we don't want kids ever so it's definitely a tempting option. Does getting a vasectomy interfere with hormones?

>>18367035
Nah, the testicles produce hormones, but the bad doesn't deliver them. The bad only delivers sperm and then semen/sperm later. He feels like he got kicked in the balls for a day, so do it on a Friday after work and take the weekend off. Then wait a month and get your spermogram and when you're clean, get rid of the birth control and rubbers. Forever. Never worry about rubbers or taking a pill ever, ever again.

>>18367050
Fuck that's a nice thought. I'd still probably take birth control, my periods were fucking awful before I started it. How much do they typically cost?

>>18367086
A few hundred bucks. I'm not sure in the US, insurance sometimes covers everything but the procedure. It's not more than a grand if you pay cash. Babies are $500,000.

>>18367086
The vas.

Not the bad, what the hell...

>>18366276
>tfw no virginity taker schoolmate

>>18366917

>It's why so many guys develop oneitis and get wrapped up in bullshit pining for that one girl who they never got to do anything else with.
That sucks dude. Maneaters are real.

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>>18366262

>Does anyone here regret having been really promiscuous in the past? What's your story?

Not particularly. I was a bit lost as a teenager and I acted out sexually. Like most men my age, my self-worth was derived from how much female attention I could get.

I moved on and grew up but shame or regret isn't an idea I subscribe to. When I was a child I did childish things. I grew up, learned better, so now I do better. All of my choices lead me to where I am now so, regret? No. Am I proud of who I was? Not particularly, but I don't think never making a mistake makes you better than someone who made mistakes but learned from them.

>How many people did you sleep with and how did this affect you?

Around 40. I've been with with my current partner for about 5 years. The only way I think it affected me was it helped me differentiate good patterns from bad ones. I had a lot of really fun times hooking up with girls and having a good time but at the end of the day I reached a certain age where I decided that it was time to invest in something more significant, so I did.

Again, I think this kind of thing only affects you as much as you let it. I refused to be ashamed because other people told me I should. I don't brag about it, because it took me all this time to realize that sleeping with girls wasn't where my value as a person came from no more than not sleeping with anyone is where a girl's value comes from.

It was a long road to get to where I am but I made it just fine so, again, "regret" is not a word I'd use to describe my development from emotional, sexually dubious child to well adjusted adult. If anyone tries to give me grief about shit I did 15 years ago I just laugh it off. I have no interest in feeling regret about growing up.

I actually regret not being more promiscuous. There were times when I was younger when I could have fucked a few girls on different occasions but was completely clueless on what to do. If only I had access to porn because I was too embarrassed to ask the girls how and what to do.

>>18367326
>actually using porn as a guideline
Oh fuck dude you're better of the way you are now.

Porn would give you such unrealistic expectations, even vanilla porn is ridiculously exaggerated. It would be like watching Bad Boys 2 to learn how to be a police officer.

>>18367341
Nah, I feel like as a guy i needed to learn the basics from porn. Like, watching a girl masturbate was enough to figure out how to finger a girl. Something I had absolutely no idea how to do. The rest is pretty much straight forward and I picked up enough from watching movies and whatnot

>>18367356
You could have also just asked the girls. It's absolutely fine to be clueless and learn at a young age.

well, feeling like you did too much is significantly better than the other alternative. 'cause you can't get the same opportunities as you age.

>>18366262
NO REGERTS!

>>18366385

Selfish in what way, anon

>>18366548
>90s
And now you're just another washed up post-wall bitch. Like pottery

>>18366262
Females who've been promiscuous are ruined for life. They won't be able to form attachments, they won't be capable of pair-bonding in a genuine way, they're very, very likely to end up with lonely lives and eventually die alone.

And that's the way it should be, and the way it has to be.

>>18366262
I've never even kissed a guy!

I'm a 27 year old virgin and I wish I would have taken the few opportunities I had back in high school and college with girls I wasn't that interested in instead of being a principled gentleman who didn't feel right taking advantage of them. Now I'm completely fucked and will die alone without ever experiencing sex or have a relationship. The realization is breaking me.

>>18368644
You're 27 years old mate, calm down with the forever lonely bullcrap. Next month you could meet the girl of your dreams. Wait by not waiting and just allow yourself to be confident when the time comes. It only takes one moment of confidence to break the ice. Force yourself when you feel like it's worth it. Also stand by your principles. Your not much of a man if you have to sell your principles to get laid considering you don't have to sell them and can still get laid.

>>18368386
>>/r9k/
Why are you even here if you're just going to insult people who ask questions?

>>18368631
*blow you a kiss*

>>18368644
Then go out and fix it. If you're think you're not good looking, then start working out, get a decent wardrobe, work with what God gave you, and get laid.

To me, looking at porn is far easier and cheaper, but it also sets up unreasonable expectations as far as sex goes. Just don't sweat it, go be outgoing, and eventually it'll happen.

My 2 cents in all this? It was okay. I slept around a lot in my early 20s and figured out that most people who sleep around a lot don't or possibly can't develop emotional attractions to people, so it was strictly sex. The problem is that I actually wanted a romantic relationship and was left extremely heartbroken from an 8-yr crush who rejected me, the emotional trauma of which still affects me and my relationships to this day.

I'm married now, but even though I'm married I don't emotionally connect with my wife (or anyone else) the way I want because of my oneitis. Tis a shitty thing I'll probably have to live with for the rest of my life.

>>18366276
would you be ok with taking a few virgins at the same time?

>>18368697
I'm somewhat similar in terms of I have an amazing relationship with an amazing woman who I've been with for years and love to pieces. I feel like I emotionally connect, at least to the best of my capabilities (I'm not a particular emotional person, never striven to be either though) But I still get my "Oneitis" on my mind every so often.

The thing is if my oneitis showed up and threw herself at me tomorrow there's not a thing in the world which would make me betray the wonderful woman I love and am with. Not quite sure what causes or the purpose of the oneitis. Just kind of is.

My story I think is far weirder than most people here. The first time I had PIV sex was in 2008. It was also the last time. I was crazy in love with her, and she loved me, we lost our virginity to one another and then I was forced to fly back home. Months went by, she got colder, either lost interest or took her moms advice or something, and very slowly worked on severing ties. It crushed me. Basically, everything I did after was out of desperation to forget her or out of desperation to live like a normal person? At least my interpretation of normal. 2 years went by after she dumped me, and I got head from a friend. I had a nervous breakdown both times we tried, months apart, I couldn't enjoy it. I tried to move on, forget my ex, force myself to enjoy touching and simply living, but I had this crushing depression too. I remember I was hanging out with the second girl and my body felt hollow, sapped of energy, just laying there like an empty bag. She eventually found somebody else. Years go by, I'm working some shit job, living alone, taking the occasional criticism from coworkers about why I'm single etc. I begin to get desperate, I go to the beach, meet a girl, we talk and hang out at the beach. Most I did was grab her boobs through her shirt, she wasn't feeling it, I was feeling desperate .. meh. Tried apps, sites, to meet ppl. Met two girls from apps in person, no sex.

Later on, earlier this year, I develop a crush on a girl and realise.. omg, I'm still capable of feeling love.. it woke me up inside. But it was unrequited so meh. Meet another girl at work, really respect her, she has a bf. And now I just rarely develop feelings for anyone and my patience is being seriously tested at 31. But life goes on. With or without you.

>>18366262
I'm unconcerned the number since I long since lost count but do wonder what the hell I was thinking because some of the guys were nasty and the situations nastier.

>>18368960
>thot problem

>>18366831
Hahaha excellent. A number I can be proud of then xxxx

All I want is to go back to the years I and people my age had no sexual experiencie. The first time I cuddled with someone, the feeling of embarassment, etc. I don't even care about sex now, and knowing that finding that feeling again is imposible is killing me inside.

The guy I had sex with for the first time, don't even know why I dated him, wanted me to drop out of school at 16, get married and move to Arizona with him. But he thought I had lied about my virginity because I didn't bleed. I dated a lot of people I wouldn't consider if I had met them now.

I wouldn't say I regret being promiscuous, I just regret the type of people I went after as a teen, and I definitely regret not pursuing more women. My first "adult" relationship really fucked me up because I got caught up in trying to please him and he wanted to beat the shit out of me and for me to like it. I let a lot of douchebags project their fantasies onto me, or I'd fall for a rebound. So if anything, I just learned the hard way not to put up with that shit. I let it turn me into a shitty person and romantic partner, but I've grown up since then even if I don't forgive myself.

>>18368383
Just doing things that would make themselves cum and not caring if I did.

>>18366385
>>18369142
Same tho.

>>18368698
Imagine the logistics of that. A guy taking his clothes off in front of a girl for the first time!e, But only in front of 4 other guys...it would be like the sewer scene from It.

I don't want to answer for them, but I assume all the guys I've been with would have declined that offer.

>>18368723
I like this answer. Cheating means you have bad character. It's got nothing to do with who you cheated with or on.

>>18369211
ok how about them taking turn. And you wait for them in the room.
I'm sure it's possible to arrange.

>>18366262
>Does anyone here regret having been really promiscuous in the past?
Kind of, I got pretty freaky. By the time I was 21, I'd had sex with over 20 girls, and 2 guys. That's about the time I settled down with the longest term GF I ever had, we dated for the next 3 years, but she was cheating on me unfortunately.
> What's your story?
It started when I was 17, had just started working, and had built my confidence up from being a loser in highschool. I started flirting with a fatty customer at my work, and within a month, I was on my way to her place to have her knowingly take my v-card. Since then, I was hooked. Always meeting strangers online for sex.
>How many people did you sleep with and how did this affect you?
I slept with about ~20 girls in 4 years, then met a girl who I stayed with for many years, and since we broke up, I've been celibate for the past 6 months.

Overall, I kind of regret it. I wish I had taken things a bit slower, and not been willing to fuck anything that moved.. But really, I got away with it pretty clean.

A couple pregnancy scares (mostly with LTR), one child I don't claim, and an STD scare that turned out to be nothing.

I'm a 30 year old virgin. It seems like all non-religious women these days just ride the cock carousel, and my objective would be to get a faithful wife who won't leave with my kid because she's addicted to novelty cock, so I don't want those. And I'm not religious either, and strongly dislike lying and pretending. Is this situation hopeless?

>>18369280
Essentially ye

>>18369246
I'd have been up for it, letting a bunch of dnd kids run a train on me. But I can't speak for them.

>>18369302
they probably think of it as a RPG. Roll the dice to see who goes first.

>>18366262
I've slept with dozens...(upper range of 60+) guys. And I still am on a regular basis. Only regret is my ass being sore.

>>18369429
anal?
how much ?

Theres this gal i befriend that works at a gas station nesr my house, im 18 and shes a couple years older than me. Shes super open about her sexuality, talks about watching porn, fingering, etc. She has a bf tho i dont suspect it would last long. Shes also a super stoner, im still a virgin and never smoked before. She hugs me almost every time i come in and gets a bit touchy. I dont kno what to do. What moves should i put on here before and eventually after she breaks up with her retarded bf.

>>18369484
Shes also fucked like 5 guys in hs but shed calmed down now, use to be one of the degenerates that skips to smoke pot etc. But i want to just lose it and i see my chance but dont know how to play the game

>>18369484
none that'll matter, just invite her to hang out after work some time, and you're in there.

She's not going to ditch the zero until she gets pregnant and lets her life fall apart completely.

>>18369494
Shes on birth control and he bf lrgot has rotted teeth, is 5.2, and just ugly. Its obvious shed not looking for lools seeing from her past relationships. Hes also a dead beat and she complains about him near me, she also mentioned how her boss thought we were dating since i hang out with her alot there. Also living with parents that never leave house is hard.

>>18369507
Gotta wonder why she'd let herself be in such a shit situation, and then wonder why you yourself are willing to be involved in any of that for some nasty ass pussy.

She's probably regularly abusing opiates and has blacked out sex orgies she can't remember.

Sounds like drama, take your easy W and smash in the back of your car out in the middle of nowhere after smoking some

>>18369426
Biggest problem is logistics though, I liked when they came inside me. Imagine being the fourth guy in a row.

>>18369490
Look for signs she's broken up with her boyfriend. Take her to a music festival or beer garden and pay attention to her. Take her home and come in her.

>>18366262
Ive had 10 partners.

Thats not insanely promiscuous but no i dont regret a damn thing. I was going crazy with my first love with curiosity over whats out there.

I experienced it, it was great.

Now i have a gf that meets all my needs because i knew what i did and didnt want.