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Is being emotionally numb a bad sign?

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I'm rapidly adapting to the hookup/dating app culture that's going on now. I'm lucky enough to be fit and sex girls here and there, but I deal with a LOT of bullshit to get my nut- flakes, ghosting, LMR's, throwing a fit when i split the bill, girls trying to use sex as a bargaining chip, the whole 9-yards. I'm sure women put up with equal amounts of shit from men, but this is from my POV

With every girl, I just become more and more numb until they've now become a commodity in my eyes. It's the only way I can keep my sanity when dealing with the flakiness and volatility.

swipe. Ten will match. 5 respond. 3 give you their number. two show up to the date. One fucks you.

To accept the outcomes I just shut down ALL emotional interaction with them- i genuinely get in the frame of mind that if this girl were to get hit by a bus the next day I wouldn't give a single shit. I don't even know if you think I'm attractive." "Do you even like me?" "You're hard to read"

When I do sex them, i just stone cold poker face afterwards, get a glass of water, they pack their things and uber out. One girl ranted post-coitus about her problems with her dad and previous guys and I just had a blank stare at the ceiling, nodded, and mumbled "I'm sorry to hear that. It'll be ok". This happens frequently. Patterns start to emerge and ive gotten way better at telling myself "I've been here before, never again" and walking away from a situation with a girl if things get icky

I'm not trying to go on some anti-woman tirade or anything, no one is entitled to sex, but I'm wondering what the end game is for me. If girls have the "1000 cock Stare", I've got the "1000 vagina stare" - that look of continuous disappointment, acceptance, apathy and cynicism- and I think people around me are starting to pick up on that.

What is this and what do?
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Why would you feel emotions for women you haven't had kids with and haven't even been with for at least 10 years ?

Men don't give a shit about women.
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If you ever want a serious relationship, you have to be emotionally vulnerable. I would take a break from hookup culture and go other shit with my life, shit I'm passionate about, and only fuck people who genuinely interest me.
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>>18358560
>If you ever want a serious relationship, you have to be emotionally vulnerable.

Srs-Why would anyone do this?
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Sounds like depression.
Try St. Johns Wort but be aware that it can mess with pharmaceutical drugs so if you're on medication already make sure to look it up online and make certain it wont interfere.

Kava Kava is also a good one, find a tea of it at whole foods or whatever
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>>18358566
Because love and true companionship is awesome? Yeah you're probably going to get hurt a few times, but the right partner will help you heal and be the best you can be.
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>>18358509
Why does it matter if you're dating someone or not? It doesn't sound like it's enjoyable for you at the moment, so why bother? If you continue as you are now there's not going to be a woman who's looking for commitment who wants you.
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>>18358566

I'm sure you understand something about risk vs reward. It's like when you feel the rush from snowboarding downhill: it sucks when you wipe out or when you break your shit and you also fuck up a lot when you first start, but then you start getting better at it and you achieve greater and greater feats while cheating death and major injury.

A deep relationship where you make yourself vulnerable is like that. You're going to get hurt, but eventually (and it happens sooner for some than others) you find someone that's on your wavelength. You open up to them and they respond with care and tenderness that makes you feel incredibly at ease and happy.

People act like it's a game of chance, but it isn't. There are plenty of things you can do to mitigate and reduce the chances to major heartbreak or total emotional/financial destruction. It's whole lifetime of skills you have to keep mastering and working at. Sure, there will be some dudes who find that rare sociopath that wrecks everything no matter what they do... but I have known guys who bounce back from that and find new, absolutely amazing partners.
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>>18358509
It sounds like you aren't looking for a relationship, just a hook up. Be honest about that with yourself and with these girls. Of course you will become annoyed by their behaviors; they are thinking this might be the beginning of something special and you have already had your itch scratched and are done with them. Honesty might address some of the numbness you are inflicting on yourself.

I would also perhaps reflect on why you don't want a relationship; are you protecting yourself, is there a hidden self esteem problem going on, or are you just not ready to settle down?
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>>18358509
"When I split the bill"

You're a fucking idiot and I don't care about your problem.
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>>18359906
I wish I could believe you. Im not OP, but I'm so burnt out from dating and the very low risk/high reward mindset that women have that this doesn't seem feasible to me. Nobody gives as much effort as you do, that alone turns me away from trying to meet a mate to be happy. Im just sick of busting my ass for 10 girls. Finding out 9 were dead ends and the 1 who wants to play games and bullshit until SHE wants to give effort back. Fuck that man, my time, energy, and inner peace are at crit levels in my life and refuse to cast my heart out on the line so I can reel in a boot. The excitement of finding a fish isn't worth all I had to do to catch it. I don't expect a woman to fall head over heels on day 1, but actually giving back towards his flirting and shit if you really like him creates more waves than sitting on your ass doing nothing while he busts his.
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>>18359987
What was the point of responding then?
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>>18359999
To let you know you're a douchebag.
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>>18360008
I'm not OP idiot
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>>18360012
Still probably a douchebag though.
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>>18359987
If a woman has a masters degree, is single and makes upwards of 60k like the majority of women do in my area, then pay for your own fucking food.
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>>18360866
This.
>>18359987
I've never had an issue with a girl not splitting the check. Maybe I just date more affluent people than you do.
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