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How many sex-partners are too many?

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Just curious of what everyone thinks.
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Double digits.
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>>18107779

Me+1
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>>18107779
I don't care about the number but I do care about what he did, who he did it with, why he did it.

I'd rather be with someone who had 2 serious relationships and 5 friends with benefits over someone who had drunk hookups or someone who cheated even if they have a smaller number.
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>>18107779
If you have more than 5 it's disgusting but Chad won't care
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For man, more than 5 is too much, for women, 2 is too much.

More than that numbers is a telltale sign of something unstable happening.
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>>18107802

The fuck? 2 for women? What are you smoking? Most women are in the double digits.
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>>18107807
Most women aren't. Average for women is like 4.
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>>18107809
That's because they are liars.
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>>18107811
I'm sure thousands of women lied in order to look better in anonymous surveys.
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>>18107815
They don't lie TO the survey, they don't want to admit even to themselves about their number.
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>>18107809
>Average for women is like 4.
In a month, maybe.
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>>18107819
Or maybe they just didn't fuck a thousand different guys by the time they turn 25.
I am turning 25 in June (sigh) and I had one partner. A couple of my friends are still virgins, and the majority of my friends didn't have more than 3 partners. Then, yes, there are girls I know that had more than 10 partners but most of the girls I know had less than 3.
And we're not some religious fanatics. Well, other than the virgins.

Most people don't fuck around that much. They had a boyfriend in high school, a boyfriend or two in college, and never do ONS/FWB.
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>>18107836
>Median number of opposite-sex partners in lifetime among U.S. men and women aged 25-44 years of age is 6.6 for men and 4.3 for women.
>Percentage of men and women aged 15-44 years of age who have had 15 or more opposite-sex sexual partners in their lifetime is 21.8% for men, and 10.6% for women.
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>>18107840
Unfortunately your friends are an exception.
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>>18107841
Obvious lie.
Women are approached a lot, by many decent guys, at least double digits in a year for sure. And the statistics want to tell us they dont use any of those opportunities and just celibate? Yeah of course I believe them.
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>>18107855
Statistics shows otherwise.

>>18107858
That's simply not true. Maybe a small percentage of girls get approached multiple times a day, but most average looking girls aren't approached all the time. A lot of girls aren't approached at all.
And if a guy approaches me and I'm in a relationship, I say no. I've been approached many times over the years but I rejected everyone because I have a boyfriend.
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>>18107841
I don't want to sound too sexist, but sex is a slippery slope for woman. Once they tasted it they'll back for more.
Men are better at being celibate thing despite the genetics to fuck.

Woman even the religious nut when approached by decent man for some time, will not shy in offering her body for sex.
They are decent woman with good upbriging and they'll reject one night stand of course, but if there's potential for relationship women will happily fuck and rationalize it.

That's why people back then do arranged marriage so their daughters will be tied in a relationship and stop their slippery slope.
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>>18107779
Has to be a virgin, preferably waits for marriage.
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>>18107863
That's simply inaccurate.
Women tend to have a lower sex drive than men, and tend to give sex more emotional meaning than men do.

Also masturbating is more pleasant than sex for most girls.
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>>18107870
Oh, I don't mean women have higher sex drive and will fuck often.

I mean to say that once a woman tasted sex, they'll be more susceptible to it, even to the point of being more permissive to intimate touch/advances which will lead to sex.

How should I say it...they'll be easier to lure to sex and illusion of relationship which trigger their emotional response.

I have witnessed that behavior from 4 women I knew in my life.
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>>18107870
I don't think your empiric evidence applies to my reality.
I have seen girls cheat on their boyfriend with me on our first encounter, I have seen my gf cheat, hell, I have seen one girl making out with 5 or more guys in one night in a club (me included, after I went to bathroom, she was kissing with another guy, and this happened not only once), I have fucked girls on the same day we met.
And all those girls were considered "normal" and even qt, not turbosluts (this is a different topic)
>Women tend to have a lower sex drive than men, and tend to give sex more emotional meaning than men do.
This looks more like an anime world.
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>>18107874
To add, those women are decent woman, not the kind who will go waste theirselves in nightclub and surrounded by chads.
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>>18107861
Brave of you to post in these threads, but most of the men you're talking to here are bitter virgins or guys who had sex once and resent it doesn't happen for them more, and who blame women because they don't understand that just because sex could be easier for a woman to get, it's not the kind of sex most women want.

To the OP'S topic: any number is fine. More experienced girls generally are better lays.

Dude here, btw. My first girl had been with 9 guys at 24 (I was 19), but she was clean and we used protection. Also she was crazy and had low self esteem and model good looks, so she used sex to compensate. Far and away the best sex I've had.

My 2nd had been with one other guy. Nice to fuck someone and be the best they've ever had.(we were both 22).

Didn't get into it with my 3rd, the relationship didn't last long enough. Gave good head, but it wasn't worth listening to her after sex. Knew it was a mistake before we went out, but did it anyway. (she was 24 I was 25).

4th had sex with a woman once, but I was her first man and second time having sex. (She was 25 I was 27).

Last is currently my girlfriend. She's 26 and I'm 32. This time I decided not to ask. With each girl (except the one I turned bi), even knowing it was irrational the fact that they'd had sex with someone else bugged me slightly. She was super inexperienced when we started but has gotten much better in the year we've been dating (when we started it was condoms for every act, now I've had all three spots with no barrier). It's possible she was a virgin when we met. Also possible she wasn't. I don't know and I don't want to. One less anxiety on my mind.
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>>18107876
Your personal experience isn't more relevant than numerous scientific studies about difference in sexual behaviour between genders.
Women tend to have a weaker sex drive and sex triggers a much more emotional response in women than it does in men.

If I had to base my opinion on average dick size on what I personally experienced, I'd say that the average cock is 7 inches long but it is not really the case.

>>18107874
>they'll be easier to lure to sex and illusion of relationship which trigger their emotional response.
This might be true. But, still - after it happens to you a few times you understand how to filter those who just want to fuck you and those who want to be with you.
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>>18107898
>sex triggers a much more emotional response in women than it does in men.
Sexist...
t. emotional boy
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>>18107779
It's too much if she doesn't develop feelings for me knowing damn well how compatible we are. Because she's probably dumped guys just as compatible if not more compatible before me and thought very little of it. Or little enough to move on.

It's too much if I have to worry about people approaching her constantly and her socializing with every guy who makes an advance. It's too much if everything I do, still makes me feel insignificant around her.
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The correct answer to this question is that it doesn't matter. Only insecure people care about who and how many partners you've had. And that's fine, but it limits you. You're probably going to live a life of regret and denial if you reserve yourself.

I personally have fucked 18 women, have recently had a foursome with two girls, and will probably continue doing that, because it's hot.

If you're at all jealous it's clearly because you haven't experienced it v yet and think you'll never get to.
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>>18107961
I'm not so much concerned with a number, as I am concerned with her state of mind. I don't want a relationship with someone who treats me like another number on her list. I want a girl who will make me feel special, who will stick by my side through tough times, someone I know appreciates my company.

Not everybody wants that, but being a loose woman is a good indicator that I wont attract that.

I wouldn't care how many people she's been with. I'd be thinking more about what those people meant to her. And if they meant anything at all. And if they DIDN'T mean anything, will she go off and fuck somebody behind my back who ALSO doesn't mean anything? Meanwhile, here I am with strong feelings for her.
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>>18107998
I am a girl and I feel very similarly.
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>>18107858
Christ, the delusion. I'm about average in terms of looks and I've been approached three times in my entire 22 year life. Same for most girls I've met. The girls who get approached a lot are the ones who initiate eye contact and flirt with men at every opportunity. No one hits on you just because you have a vagina or even because you're pretty, men (and women) approach when they think they've got a chance with someone.

Many of my female peers at this age are virgin, too. Not because they're religious, weird or ugly, but simply because they don't feel the need for a romantic partner and most people (especially inexperienced girls) don't seek out to fuck friends or strangers no matter how horny.

>>18107874
>virgins are harder to bed than experienced girls
What a fucking surprise m8. Leave out the pseudoscience about emotional response though.
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>>18108012
May I ask where do you live?
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>>18108009
Hmm.. I dunno, nobody is perfect y'know.. so I'd have to brush certain things aside.

>oh and i met 2-3 guys off of OKC and Tinder

very common now a days.. temptation plus desperation, plus good looks, gets you fucked. I'd just have to suck it up and accept it if I truly like her. I've tried meeting ppl off apps, 2 I met in person, never had sex with them though, was tempted.

>anon, I dated a few guys in college

well that's what happens in college I'd reply.. myfacemysoul.jpg

but I know if I was in her shoes and careless state of mind, I would probably have taken advantage of the same experiences.. though in reality, I didn't.. I had a long distance relationship that bombed in college and I dropped out because it kinda destroyed me.

>anon, I met a random guy at a party once and one thing led to another

welp.. I met a random girl on the beach once and eventually we made out and i grabbed her boobs through her shirt.. in retrospect, I hate what I did, and I did it out of desperation, living alone, working a shit roofing job.. thankfully we didn't have sex.. but boy if it had gotten to that point, we may have.. so how am I somehow better than anyone?

The first time I had sex, was literally the last, got head from two gf's and a friend, all years apart.

And STILL, I wouldn't care how many people she's been with.. Dude, flat the fuck out, I wouldn't care if I contracted a terminal illness from my partner, as long as I was 100% certain she was spiritually strong and good to me, I could die happy knowing I had an amazing woman for a partner.
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>>18107779
Double your age
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>>18107779
I don't have a definitive number, because often context to the number says a whole lot more.

If a girls number was 8, but she dated all of the guys for ~6 months, that's preferable than a girl who's been with 4 guys, all of which were one night stands.
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>>18107779
Non binary.
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My ideal would be <five partners. <Ten partners is not a huge deal to me (assuming I was fine with the context otherwise).

In practice, it is not a huge priority for me. As long as it's not more than forty or so, I would begrudgingly overlook this for someone who met my other standards (particularly the rarer ones). A big requirement being that I did feel we were otherwise on the same wavelength in terms of interest in non-monogamy (= no interest in that at all), life goals and so on.
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>>18107893
>Unmarried 32 year old male bragging about being with 5 chicks

Lmao
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>>18107855
No, I have to agree with >>18107840

This whole hyper-promiscuous culture you guys are obsessed with isn't as mainstream as you seem to think. Most people don't live like sitcom characters. Most of my friends/family seem to get into happy, stable, committed relationships

I know a few people who are more free-spirited, I wouldn't say it's abnormal, but they're definitely not the majority

Real people don't just fuck everything that moves. Unless you live in a MASSIVE city, I'm not sure where this endless supply of faceless one-night-stands is supposed to come from
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If it ain't zero, I'm not her hero.
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>>18107807
>>18107811
>>18107836
You guys are retarded. Most women don't bang every guy they see but the ones that do make a point to be seen. It's just a perception bias.
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Depends on the woman, and it depends on the man.
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>>18108499
>perception bias

In my opinion, this is one of those area where the male perspective is going to be more valuable than the female perspective. It's just the nature of being a man actually out in the world interacting regularly with women in a sexual/romantic context. That's totally different than being a woman living largely in the bubble of your own sexual/romantic life and whatever biased tidbits you're made privy to by the few other women you associate with that care to share their version of what goes on in their bubble.

Like, I'm a man, but I definitely think male sexuality is something I'd trust most of my female friends to have a far more informed opinion of than me. I know my sexual thoughts/behaviors, but I simply don't have the breadth of intimate firsthand experience that I would say is necessary to make any plausible claims about "men" at large in the sexual/romantic context that you get from years of dating, sleeping with, and being in relationships with them.

And, of course, not all women are like that, but good women (like good men) are in fact few and far between. I'm in agreement with the anon that says "your friends are an exception." I don't know anyone who's been out in the world with any significant breadth of adult dating experience who would say otherwise.
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doesnt matter as long as you can avoid STDs, careful for fucking Herpes, I drunkenly bummed a cig for the first time from a stranger and I think I got it. fucking bullshit
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>>18108529
I think bpth perceptions are fine here because it doesn't take a genius to understand numbers.

Do people have more partners than they did in the past? Yes. Are these partners mostly one night stands? Not for most people.

The average person doesn't sleep with new people every couple of weeks. Most people are serially monogamous at worst.
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>>18108546
Maybe I just don't know enough people. All I can say is that I know very few people, male and female alike, who didn't actively have some sort of "having fun" stage in college or their early mid-20s, who while certainly not actively seeking to hook up every weekend did not have one or two instances of going home with some attractive stranger who hit all the right notes, who didn't respond to a tough breakup by rushing into bed with the first person that came along, who did something they regret on a night they drank too much, who hasn't had a FWB or fuck buddy or two, who opened things up and (consensually) introduced a third party into the mix while in a relationship, etc etc etc.

There are so many kinds of scenarios/setups for sexual encounters these days that most people are bound to have racked up a few of them, and many quite a few. I just don't know who all these people are you're talking about that the only time they sleep with someone is when they're facebook official or whatever.
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>>18107861
>Statistics shows otherwise
Statistic told us Hillary was going to win the election in a landslide. When it comes to issues people have a reason to be dishonest, statistics become as useful as scrap paper.
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>>18108566

Just cause you don't know about them doesn't mean they don't exist. People were complaining about promiscuity in ancient Greece. You can find a woman who is chaste (if that's what you want) in fact I just went out on a date with one a few weeks back and she was a very attractive girl who if I saw on the street would have made up all kinds of assumptions.
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>>18108581
>Statistic told us Hillary was going to win the election in a landslide.
They actually didn't, she, the DNC and 98% of the mainstream media just buried their head in the sand and perpetuate that lie instead of face reality.
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>>18108566
They're just normal, healthy people that deal with life by having supportive friends and hobbies to decompress. Having sex at a moment's notice due to stress should be a huge red flag. To each their own, but that just seems way to unstable for my tastes (and those around me).

If you're in your lste 20s or older then get some friends together for a couple drinks and ask them. You might be surprised how small the numbers are.

>>18108581
You know as much as I do those "statistics" were biased polls that weren't peer reviewed.
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>>18108590
>They actually didn't
They did.
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>>18108590
>>18108592
polls from all across the political spectrum suggested the same thing. People were simply being dishonest about how likely it was that they'd vote for Trump, because voting for the "bigoted sexist racist moron" candidate would be social suicide.
No amount of peer reviewing can squash that dishonesty, statistics aren't infallible and we know women have a reason to downplay their partner count, just as men have a reason to play it up.
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>>18108598
No, statistics showed it would be a close race. Both her and Trump were highly unlikable.
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>>18108589
>You can find a woman who is chaste (if that's what you want) in fact I just went out on a date with one a few

Been there a couple of times, anon. Was disappointed each time once I got to know her better. In one case this girl was super religious and claimed to be saving herself for marriage, but what I eventually found out was that her definition of saving herself meant simply not having sex without a condom and that it didn't really count if it wasn't raw. She also had been hooking up with some fwb while I was taking her out on dates and when I asked her the nature of said relationship she swore up and down they were "just friends" and didn't see the problem when I told her she wasn't being forthcoming about the true nature of that relationship.

But maybe you actually found a good one.
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8 in a year are too many for me
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>>18108605
>statistics showed it would be a close race

Uh huh. Go ahead and post these statistics. Cause I'm pretty sure only 2 polls had Trump winning but they were completely wrong about the popular vote.
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I would say only the number of casual sexual partners you have had is an issue.

If you are 30 and have been in 8 seperate relationships lasting a year but have never had sex outside of those relationships then its not bad at all.

If you just had sex with 8 random people then its pretty bad.
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>>18108740
30yo here. 10 partners. All but two were outside of the context of relationships.

Only reason I've been with that many people is because I wanted to be in serious relationships but had long periods of time (years at a time) where I was reluctantly single despite my best efforts. I slept with people out of sheer loneliness despite wanting more substantive connections.

Thoughts?
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>>18108673
If you looked a bit deeper than "who are you voting for" polls which meant next to nothing because there were so many undecided or unpledged votes, and looked at the popularity of each candidate, it was a pretty clear picture that there was not going to be any "landslide" anywhere. Hilary lost Florida (I think) by less than the number of invalid votes for people like "Mickey Mouse" and "Iron Man"

And like I said the polls you were looking at were probably from mainstream media sources which were in the bag for Hilary and just peddled made her look good.
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0 lol
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>>18107809
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I don't really care if any potential partners (male or female) were into casual hookups in the past as long as they didn't catch anything and have put that past behind them.

When it gets to be a large number of serious relationships I would worry for them, but I wouldn't judge them.
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Girl here. I'd like my man to be a virgin and preferable wait till marriage. I know it's a difficult thing to ask for but I'm already in a relationship with someone who wants the same thing, so I know other people are out there.
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>>18107840
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Let's see. I suppose when he starts nearing the double digits. What bothers me more is when guys are proud of having sex with people they barely know. It's repulsive to me and shows he has no value in love or human relationships.
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>>18108012
What time do you get off work? We could grab coffee.
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>>18108754
Probably a fruit
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>>18107863
>>18107779
Femanon here who has been with 1000's of men.

AMA
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For a woman: 3

I'm not a woman tho, so idk what is too much for a guy
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>>18107868
Same for me.
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>>18107779
double digits for either gender, although it also depends on what the relationships were. a person who's had 3 partners but all were non-serious/fwbs i'd be less inclined to date than a person with 5 partners who were all serious relationships.
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>news about a 12 year old prostitute in manitoba
>says shes already been with over 300 men

Lol id still marry her. partner count means nothing
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>>18107779
A lot of factors in play so there is no one true answer, but depending on age, the the number and length of previous relationships i'd say 6-12 is fine

You could argue that someone who has been single their whole adult life could have a lot more and it still would not be to slutty, but someone who never had a steady relationship and basically just fucked strangers for 10 years is a huge red flag.
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