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Is it wrong for me to become jealous when my boyfriend looks

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Is it wrong for me to become jealous when my boyfriend looks at porn/instagram models?

I can't help but feel kind of insecure or like I'm not enough for him. I know this is a normal thing for guys and I should just learn to deal with it, but he'll even be looking at pictures of other women while we're just laying in bed together. I think the thing that bothers me the most is Instagram, I hate knowing he's going onto girls' pages (some of them we know) and thinking about them in that way. Its especially hard as I absolutely can not imagine being with anyone else besides him in any sort of context, even pictures of "handsome" guys or celebrities don't really do anything for me, whereas he'll specifically search these girls by name.

As for context, we have sex about twice a day, sometimes more, and literally every single day he comes home I suck him off. Am I being too available? If I dial back our sex life will that make things worse or better? How do I deal with feeling like shit about this if its just a normal thing for guys to do? I love him more than anything and want to stop being moody or distant when I feel like this.

Pic related is me.
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If pic related is you and he's looking at other girls he's fapping to other girls in front of you then he's a retard.


As a guy, I think it's somewhat normal to look at other girls and maybe even sexualize them a bit. There's a difference between thinking about doing something and actually doing it

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>>18094425
>sex twice a day
>bj everyday
>fucking hot gf

This guy is not valuing you enough, is he some chad or something
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>>18094425
Pic related really isn't you.
An you probably are a dude.
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>>18094455
No, he's just your average straight male. Takes everything for granted and acts like a selfish prick.

OP: As long as he's just looking at pictures, there's no harm done. Men tend to be more visually stimulated when it comes to sex than women - that may be why looking at hot guys on ig doesn't do much for you. Although he is turned on by another woman's looks, that doesn't necessarily detract from how he feels about you. Any guy who says he is ONLY turned on by his gf/wife and nobody else is flat out lying.

If he treats you well, makes you happy, and isn't cheating on you (emotionally or physically) - then you're in a good relationship.

If he's secretly DMing these girls or actively trying to fuck them, that's a different story.
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>>18094425
A little but not really. It's fine that he does it and it's fine that your jealous as long as he isn't doing it constantly and that you aren't on his as about it constantly. Still a little inappropriate that he does it nonchalantly in front of you often enough for you to post.

>Balance

Dialing the sex back would probably make it worse though.
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>>18094425
I think it's normal to watch porn and to look at other people. However, to look at girls in his phone when he is with you, and even girls you both know is extremely disrespectful. Anyone would feel insecure about that, it's a dick move.

Not having sex to play mind games with him is a stupid thing to do. But by what you said it seems that maybe you have sex with him just to please him, is that so?
What I would sugest is that you talk with him and let him know that this makes you unconfortable, maybe he is just a retard that doesn't realise what he is doing. But if he keeps going after that, you should break up.
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>>18094437
He's not fapping to them in front of me (although there have been times where I've jacked him off because I was too tired for actual sex, and he's asked to look at porn during) but I'll see a glimpse of his screen and see tits or ass and he'll angle the phone away really quickly.

>>18094459
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>>18094461
This sounds reasonable. I guess I just have to keep trying to separate irrational feelings with logic. Yikes

>>18094468
I try not to be on his ass because I know its normal for a dude, but I just can't help but feel gross about it sometimes and get a distant, which in turn makes him uncomfortable. He's not doing it right in my face, he's just really bad at hiding it.

>>18094470
I'm not having sex just to please him- I enjoy it a lot and we both have a naturally high sex drive. And breaking up isn't an option. I'm determined to make this work. I know for a fact that this is the person I'm meant to spend the rest of my life with, I just want to learn how to deal with my own feelings of insecurity/jealousy.
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My wife is like you, she doesn't like if I do that so I don't do it out of respect
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>>18094509
So it's not ok for him to look at pics of other girls, but you can share anonymous pics of yourself? Are you drunk?
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This is so gross. Your bf doesn't even respect you enough to look at it while you're not around. It isn't normal, it isn't okay, and your response is a sign of that. You don't have to accept this, and anyone in this thread or board who says differently is wrong.

I would say to talk to him but it seems like he has such little regard for your feelings already that it would likely just annoy him.
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>>18094509
>I'm not having sex just to please him- I enjoy it a lot and we both have a naturally high sex drive. And breaking up isn't an option. I'm determined to make this work. I know for a fact that this is the person I'm meant to spend the rest of my life with, I just want to learn how to deal with my own feelings of insecurity/jealousy.
How long has this relationship been going on, if I might ask?

I mean, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but you look quite young and most likely someone's feelings are gonna fade and you're going to drift apart (it will most likely be your feelings that fade given the context, despite what you believe right now). Every successful young couple thinks they both have a naturally high sex drive, but just wait until you've been at multiple times a day for a while and your dude expects that all the time.

I understand how you feel, (kindof, I've only been there from the male's perspective) but don't sell your soul just yet, because most likely, shit is far from over.
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>>18094529
I'm not getting off on sharing pics. Just want a frame of reference. I put a lot of effort into my body so I don't want the assumed solution to be lose weight/be more attractive etc.
>>18094593
We've been dating for a little under three years now.
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>>18094616
>We've been dating for a little under three years now.
Damn, well that's half a year farther than I got with my oneitis before she realized how shitty I am overall. I guess just go with your gut on this one, tell him to look at porn/other girls in private if it really bothers you because if he can't do that for you this guy is even worse than me.

You seem like a genuine girl, so good luck, faggot.
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You can't stop him from wanting to look at hot women, he'd have this urge even if you were objectively the most beautiful woman around. What you CAN and should stop him from, is being so classless to do this in front of you.

Don't hide that you're displeased. If you're having a moment together in bed and he whips out his porn, get out and go do your own thing. Or tell him that you are well aware you're not the only person able to get his dick hard, but it's tacky to flaunt his interest in other ladies when you are right there with him. You have to show him both through words and actions that you won't put up with this.
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