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Should I see a therapist to get over my sadness? Are they worth

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Should I see a therapist to get over my sadness? Are they worth it? Has anyone been to one before? From what i've seen it really depends on the therapist.

Would CBT be better?
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>>18092018

it depends less on the therapist and more on the person. again LESS on the therapist, not ENTIRELY on the therapist.

if you're sad, talking to someone about why you're sad and then working on a plan to get past it helps.

i have a friend who does this and it keeps him in check, however some of the reasons why hes sad he can't necessarily fix. for instance hes thirty, a virgin, and probably not losing that any time soon, not in any way that would be meaningful for him.

im not sure if shes helping him come to terms with the fact that hes long term asexual, but time will tell.

but for a lot of people problems ARE fixable and can be come to terms with. it depends on their willingness to focus on the good.
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I went through CBT and took anti depressants to cure my depression. It was not an easy road, and required a huge amount of effort on my part to change my emotional state of being. Your therapist helps you to fix yourself, unless you're willing to put forth the effort it's just a waste. I highly recommend it though, I couldn't have done it without him.
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>>18092040
Okay, thank you for your advice. I think my problems are mostly in my head but one may be isolation based. Have you been to one? How did it go?
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>>18092057

i was when i was in middle school. i hated it. didnt really get anything out of it. at one point she said 'i think you're better now we dont need to see each other anymore' and i was like 'sweet fuck yeah' and that was it. was just glad it was over.

she made me talk about stuff and basically said 'but what if you were just complacent and let this bad shit happen to you'.

and it helped in the sense that it reaffirmed what i was coming to learn: not to just sit there and let people pick on you.

after that i was sent to anger management because i started lashing out at anyone who was being a prick, but i stood by what i did and still do to this day.

pretty happy individual now.
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>>18092049
How long did it take? What kind of things did he tell you?
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>>18092065
Is there anything in particular that helped you get to where you are today?
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>>18092112
6-8 months, we talked a lot about how my own negativity caused a lot of my problems and how to change that, how to actively control my emotions and put myself in a better state of mind, also how to find the motivation to stop being a NEET and get a job which really helped.
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>>18092115

i think its just the mindset. it started like most teens with wanting to be sad. were given a lot of validation for being sad these days and ewre all competing to be the biggest victim.

then it transitioned into me wanting to be 'strong' so instead of just being hte victim, id be someone over coming a lot.

then after awhile it transitioned to me wanting to be happy, and i realized i needed to take strides to do that. it takes some open mindedness and thinking about what really matters. for me it was just having fun, treating myself well, and working towards goals without making them the ONLY thing that matters.

i think the most important was treating myself well. consider treating yourself the way you would someone you were in love with.

the results are pretty interesting.
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>>18092120
>>18092118
Okay, thank you. I think I will seek one out to help me feel better. My problem is mostly situational with part of it being mentality so that should be fixable.
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>>18092018
Yes. I sought therapy late in life. My only regret is not doing it sooner. It doesn't matter what approach you take. The patient-therapist is crucial. If you don't think your therapist can help you, then find another therapist.
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