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How to not want sex

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Seriously. I swear, my sex drive ruins all my relationships.

I'm in a good relationship now but I end up wanting it too much and it's starting to break down the relationship.

Masturbation doesn't work for me. I don't get into porn. Being sexy doesn't come naturally to me and slips my mind.

I need to just stop wanting it.
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>>18089943
How often do you want to have sex?
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>>18089943
why dont you find someone whose sex drive is compatible with yours?
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I'm same as OP. If I could I would have sex 6 times a day but my gf rarely wants sex, not even once every 6 weeks. The advice I've been given is to get it "out of my system". Not an easy feat when you're a short skinny neet though. My gf of 4 years ended our relationship a few days ago so we'll see what'll happen. Maybe do the same OP? She won't change.

I have a friend who has a gf that wants sex all the time, 4 to up to 8 times a day isn't unusual. Jelly as fuck. But they have other problems (I guess you need to find someone who's mental to achieve this kind of sexdrive).

If you want to stop or tone down your drive I would try self-help videos about self control. Actualized.org on YT is damn good.
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You kind of put your partner on the spot by making her responsible for your entire sexuality. I can also imagine she starts feeling like a cumbucket (unless you're a patient, sensitive, giving lover every time).

Don't put the responsibility of your orgasm on your partner. Instead start focussing on your own sexuality, by masturbating, fantasizing, touching yourself, etc. This is advice I would give to any girl in a remotely similar situation as yours; being familiar with your own (solo) sexuality makes you a better partner, and to my opinion also a more well rounded person.

Your partner - together with you yourself - is only responsible for a good mutual sex life. This also means looking for a good median between your libido's, but judging by your story, I feel there's a lot to fix on your end, first.
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>>18089943
Sorry, you are human. You can talk to a doctor about medications, but I don't think any sane doctor would prescribe something without a clear medical reason. Maybe try meditation? There is a technique called "mindfulness" that people use to monitor their thoughts without reacting. Google it for more info.
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>>18090041
As an aside, hypersexuality can be a symptom of bipolar disorder. But you definitely don't want a bipolar partner. Trust me on that.
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>>18090110
I looked it up and it seems like you're correct, great tip! I'm sure I'm not bipolar but I'm needy and I think my hypersexuality is related to that.

My friends gf is very likely bipolar though now that you mention it.
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>>18089948
Ideally once a day, but realistically every other day seems to be manageable.

>>18089964
I'm trying. Works fantastically for a couple years then flops. After about 4-5 times though you start to see a trend.

>>18090100
You're definitely right that there's stuff to fix on my end. I suppose I'll just have to keep trying toys. I'd prefer to just not even think about it anymore.

>>18090110
Really? I guess it'd make sense since my family seems somewhat mental.

This need for sex is killing my relationships and is just fucking with me.
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>>18090100
>Median
>Of two constant values
>implying there's anything to "find" here that'll be different than average
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