How to be in a relationship if you have BPD?

if you care about her you'll spare her from having to deal with your crazy

>>18085749
this
Get DBT. Untreated borderlines are fucking demons.

>>18085752
what is DBT?

>>18085759
http://behavioraltech.org/resources/whatisDBT.cfm

find a therapist who does it here, after you input your zip code you can narrow it down in the sidebar
https://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/

>>18085831
That doesn't really help me cause I'm not from the US.

>>18085963
Google for your country then.

Spare someone the trouble OP, as disheartening as it is to hear you'll just ruin someone's life if you jump into something untreated and especially if they don't understand the nature of it

I'm in the same boat. I'm also an alcoholic aswell as my bf. I don't know if its my drinking or my mood swings but I feel like I've almost pushed him away the more I get atached. I was prescribed medication but I stopped taking it because I felt like I was okay. I really hated the fact I gained a lot of weight. Although I was stable I felt just boring or blah and I'm normally an outgoing person. Are you on any meds? Or have you ever?

DBT IS BULLSHIT
fuck that

What did you do in your earlier relationships to mess it up then? Maybe you should consider professional help

>>18086180
I'm on xanax and antidepressants.

>>18086231
Basically I was way too possessive, jealous and distrusting, to an extreme extent. Stupid shit bothers me and I overreact way too much. It was me who ended it because I didn't really like her and I really didn't like what our relationship has become.

Does she know ?

>>18086355
Yes, she does.

It sounds like you need to figure yourself our before you can truly love someone again. Save yourself (and her) the heartache and work on yourself first.