i think i want to break up with my boyfriend...
he is very good to me, and we have a lot of good times together. but the long distance (he lives 1.5 hrs away, visits every other weekend), his declining health (due to his own habits), and constant negativity is really wearing me down.
as far as he knows, there is absolutely nothing wrong with our relationship and he thinks we're still very strong together. if i dump him now, it'll be completely out of the blue.
i haven't really addressed any of the issues i've listed, and to be fair, he's been trying to improve his situation for the 1.5 years we've been together because he is aware of them already. i feel like if i bring up those issues, he'll feel that i'm trying to rush him into improving faster when he's already doing what he can.
i don't know what to do, but i'm not really happy... i often stress about our relationship a lot. i've already given up on marriage and kids and growing old together.
>>18079795
this is awkward, cause I'm your boyfriend...
10/10
>>18079795
>i haven't really addressed any of the issues i've listed
So long as you acknowledge that you haven't tried: let me tell you that you are leaps and bounds ahead of literally millions of women.
Originally I was going to say "stick with it" but
> constant negativity is really wearing me down.
Nah just forget it. If a person,male or female, can't make you enjoy yourself it's just not worth it. Granted I don't know WHAT he is being negative about but even if I did know it's his job as your Boyfriend to not be a boy but be a Man.
Either sit him down and explain how you are feeling and work together to try and fix it or dump him.
Do you want to work things out?
Tell him how you feel.
You see no future with him?
End it.
It's that simple, everything has an answer. Just listen to your gut feeling.
He visits you, but you probably never visit him, so he will already have an idea that you care less
People don't change.