I've been dating a guy for over a month now. He's a virgin, so when it comes to trying to put it in, he loses his erection. We keep trying, and I think he's gotten to the point where he doesn't even want to try anymore, or at least that's how I feel. I give him blow jobs but that's the only sexual thing we do.
A lot of stress has been brought up in my life, so sex would be nice around this time. Most of the time I try to give him head he doesn't want me to because he's either "too tired", or "feeling sick". I haven't had sex since October of last year, and so when I have my boyfriend next to me and I try to do stuff with him and he says no, I get a little frusterated.
Should I say anything to him? He's been worried that I'll leave him because he can't get hard enough to put it in. I don't want to scare him and think that I want to leave him because I don't. I'm just really sexually frusterated. What do?
If he's a virgin he might be clueless about how sex actually works, and might be a bit embarrassed about some things. I was embarrassed my first couple times.
Talk to him about it and have a plan. You can probably start by blowing him and then put it in when he's hard. If he knows you want it and you explain what he has to do he might be more into it.
>>18059748
As a man who has been in that situation before, I can tell you it's him being nervous as fuck. He doesn't know what he's doing, gets scared, and loses the mojo.
So if you wanna help him out with it, let him know it's fine to be nervous, and that sex isn't that big a deal. Make sure he feels safe and comfortable, and it'll go off without a hitch
>>18059748
Does he still fap to porn? That might be a reason.
But I don't understand, he doesn't do anything? Like did he finger you, play with your nipples, maybe even eat you out?
>>18059748
It's like most things in life. the hardest part is doing it
but you just gotta fucking do it
Get him while he's hard, no warnings, just hop on that shit. you already know you both want it so it's fine.
>>18059748
talk to him about it.
Let it know that you are supportive about his problem and you are willing to help him through him.
Have been there. It was solved by just brute forcing it, honestly. How long have you been trying? It took me like three or four times until I got it down (er, up).
rape him lol once hes not a virgin he might not be so anxious lel
I have general anxiety disorder and with latest GF whenever my heart rate went high up I'd panic and lose erection fearing a heart attack.
It can also be caused by being nervous. You basically have to be patient and reassure him, it'll be worth it!
you could try pills
get him to stop masturbating for a while too, death grip is a common problem among men.
If he is still jerking off then make him stop and stop blowing him and after a few days he won't be able to help but getting hard.
Also this sounds like he might be a closet gay to me.
>>18059803
why would the death grip pose a problem when having sex.
if you can manage to get it hard with your fucking hand multiple times a day how fucking hard can it be to get it to stay hard while you're trying to ram it into your gf's orifice
makes no sense
>>18060397
Because beside death grip, you don't feel a thing.
>>18060407
I guess I must not understand this since I've never had this sort of problem.
I've never had sex myself, so it would be logical that my sexual frustration is at max level, but I don't have any inclination to wank so much that the nerves on my dick stop to work.
>>18060411
*stops working
>>18060424
oh, wait, it wasn't even wrong
>>18059748
Are you a gay man or a girl?
I find it hard to imagine that girls actually initiate sex.
Anyway, he might have ruined his dick from too much fapping. If he was a virgin in his 20s, it makes sense that he was spending alot of time online and propably fapping a ton.