How do I not get sensitive over crude offensive jokes. During middle and high school if my friends cracks a mean joke about me, I get mad and I called out on it; they say I'm being a bitch. It's worse when my friends are doing as a means to test, to see how I react. I hate it because I feel so used and disgusted. So I guess as I'm writing this, the right possibly be how do I not be such a sensitive person and how do I handle myself around people?
Depends on the joke. But really if they're people who make you uncomfortable, you can always make new friends.
>>18059086
Realize how little meaning those jokes have
Why do they make you upset?
>>18059086
Analyze what exactly it is about these jokes that hurts your feelings so much. Take stock of all of your interactions and be honest with yourself about your insecurity and you'll come to the conclusion that either you're being overly sensitive and interpreting malice when none is being intended or perhaps you're just friends with a lot of shitty people who think making you feel bad is funny.
The ironic thing, if you live in the U.S. culture, is that this process you're describing has become the entire fabric of society these days; people insulting other people, those people getting upset, and then the insulting party using the opposing party's anger as ammunition against them and nowhere in this equation is anyone being honest about where a reasonable line can be drawn between purposeful malice and ideological differences.
In short, its possible that you could be too sensitive but it is also a fact that a lot of people these days are really shitty to other people and then call them a little sensitive bitch when they react. A lot of instances of those two things happen these days and most people are unwilling to acknowledging when they cross those boundaries.
Do some honest introspection and you'll be able to separate your own personal insecurities from other people's shitty, combative personalities.
>>18059240
A+ post, thats some good advice
>>18059240
Exactly what I wanted to say.
Either you're overreacting or they're not very good people to begin with.
What I'd try in your situation, OP, is to joke back with them and see if they genuinely want to include you in their fun or if they are just being dicks.