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Women's Preferences Online vs IRL

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I've recently tried the online dating thing for the first time (OKCupid in particular since I hate my phone) and I've noticed something rather odd that doesn't match up with the girlfriends I had before, which I had met in real life.

I'm wondering if anyone here can shed clarification on it.

First off, I'm 28(almost 29), a part time college student and borderline /pol/ack. My confusion is largely based on how many girls I'm seeing online that say 'No' when the question "would you ever date someone who vocalized disliking another race blah blah' or something along those lines.

I live in the South, so maybe it's different in other states, but I have yet to have a girlfriend who wasn't either as "racist" as I was or even more so.

I'm curious as to whether it's a case of them answering it to widen the potential dating pool, if they're lying because they don't want to "look racist" themselves, or if they actually feel this way, or even if OKCupid just attracts these types of girls.

I've also noticed that some of them will have that particular answer as No, but then have the 'do you strong prefer to date someone of your own race' as Yes. It's confusing.

What it comes down to is: should I bother messaging these girls because they're either lying or don't actually care, or am I likely wasting my time?

I've already considered looking for other platforms though because holy shit it seems like 99% of the girls on this site are fat as fuck.
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>>18056484
They probably aren't lying, but the thing with online dating is that progressives and liberals are heavier users of online social sites in general. Liberals cling to technology and innovation a lot more than conservatives do so most social media/dating site demographics tend to have a large left-leaning side.

Obviously there are exceptions but if you are just on a generalized "meet people near you" dating site then you're usually going to end up with more non-racists than racists.
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>>18056484

Let me get this straight, you are racist and only date racists and you're confused when you meet other girls who aren't racist?
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>>18056515
How do you explain the conflicting answers then?

I also don't know if I buy the second part though, considering either way I've always dated younger women than me, and I doubt there's a very large difference between left wing and right wing white women when it comes to internet usage when they're 19-26.
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>>18056484

>I live in the South, so maybe it's different in other states

Yes, my man, there are less racists in different states...
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>>18056533

>I doubt there's a very large difference between left wing and right wing white women

And there is where you would be wrong.

>How do you explain the conflicting answers then?

Not wanting to date a racist and preferring to date in your own race is not a conflicting answer. Most people draw a hard distinction between being an active racist and just being uncomfortable with people of different races/cultures and/or not being willing to accept the pressure and social stigma of being in an interracial relationship.
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>>18056525
>Let me get this straight, you are racist and only date racists and you're confused when you meet other girls who aren't racist?
I'll assume for second that you're retarded and not just pretending to be to.

I am confused at conflicting answers and curious about the difference between my dating experience irl and my venture into it online.
>only date racists
I only date white girls. I was filtering them with that question to try and avoid leftist whores.
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>>18056543
To add on to this, some people may not have a racist worldview but just find that they aren't physically attracted to certain traits, this includes skin color or facial features.
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>>18056543
>And there is where you would be wrong.
I have never seen anything that would lead me to believe that young white women vary internet usage based on ideology. What are you basing this on?
>Not wanting to date a racist and preferring to date in your own race is not a conflicting answer.
I disagree but meh. At that point you're really just playing semantics.
>Most people draw a hard distinction between being an active racist
What is an "active" racist?
>not being willing to accept the pressure and social stigma of being in an interracial relationship.
This is largely why I made my original post. My working theory based on irl experiences was that these girls are probably racist just like most people are, but aren't about to say it out loud because it's not hip or trendy at the moment. The conflicting answers just made it confusing.
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>>18056545

>I am confused at conflicting answers and curious about the difference between my dating experience irl and my venture into it online.

They aren't conflicting answers.

>I only date white girls.

You literally just described yourself and every girl you've ever dated as racist. You used that word, not me. You then went all "country style" on me and used the term "leftist whore" so, I'm going to go ahead and use the evidence you've provided me to make the educated assumption that you are indeed a giant, racist.

Its ok if you are, man, lets just not pussyfoot around, ok? Just fucking own up to it.
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>>18056554

>I have never seen anything that would lead me to believe that young white women vary internet usage based on ideology

And I've never seen a dolphin in real life and yet, despite my lack of first hand knowledge, they still exist.

>I disagree but meh. At that point you're really just playing semantics.

If by semantics you mean "the words that are coming out of my mouth" then yes, I am playing semantics. What you're describing is apples and oranges yet you just keep assuming they're the same thing. I'm telling you they aren't.

There is a HUGE difference between not wanting to be in an interracial relationship and being okay with dating someone who is an active racist.

>What is an "active" racist?

I dunno, is there a mirror close by?

>My working theory based on irl experiences was that these girls are probably racist just like most people are,

Your working theory sucks. Your underlying assumption that most people are just secretly racist and don't know it just doesn't make any sense. You seem to lack the insight to understand the difference between not wanting to be in an interracial relationship and actually believing, propagating and internalizing racist ideology.

Those aren't the same thing at all.
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>>18056567
>They aren't conflicting answers.
Yes, they are.
>You literally just described yourself and every girl you've ever dated as racist. You used that word, not me. You then went all "country style" on me and used the term "leftist whore" so, I'm going to go ahead and use the evidence you've provided me to make the educated assumption that you are indeed a giant, racist.
Yes, and? I know you're slow, so I'll explain it one more time for you.

I am racist. I do not -just- date racists. I date white girls. I like to avoid leftists, so while views on race are a good filtering point it isn't that big of an issue that I can't work around it. My original question was on the discrepancy I was seeing online compared to irl.

Go virtue signal someone else you stupid mother fucker, this isn't reddit and I don't give a damn if you love niggers or are offended by anything I have said or will say.
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Have you ever tried a more specific dating site, like one for right-leaning singles? There are a couple out there that seem pretty legit and it's an easy way to guarantee you won't get leftist matches.
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>>18056586
>And I've never seen a dolphin in real life and yet, despite my lack of first hand knowledge, they still exist.
Which doesn't answer what you're basing that on. That young girls would use the internet less or more based on version of right/left wing white american politics they follow seems patently absurd and again, baseless.
>What you're describing is apples and oranges yet you just keep assuming they're the same thing. I'm telling you they aren't.
And I'm telling you that they both or neither fall under the racist category depending entirely on who you talk to.
>There is a HUGE difference between not wanting to be in an interracial relationship and being okay with dating someone who is an active racist.
I can't reply to that because you're either deflecting or ignorant, and not actually defining what you mean by that.

>Your working theory sucks. Your underlying assumption that most people are just secretly racist and don't know it just doesn't make any sense
Not secretly racist, just not raving about it in public. Do you tell offensive jokes to strangers? The same principle applies.
>You seem to lack the insight to understand the difference between not wanting to be in an interracial relationship and actually believing, propagating and internalizing racist ideology.
You seem to lack the insight (and education) to understand that there is no centralized racist ideology to begin with, and that there is a massive correlation between not wanting to date someone of another race, and being racist. Which is what I was looking for.
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>>18056616
I wasn't actually aware there were any, and I'd be wary of using them if they existed to begin with.

Ideologically based dating tends to attract weirdos no matter how you organize it.

At this point I think I might just be better off trying one of those fetish sites and going from there. At least I'll get the type of weird I want that way, and if they can't drop stupid politics I can just drop them.

I've heard good things about fetlife, but also bad things. I'm not aware of any equivalent sites though.
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not only are you racist, you sound autistic as fuck. nobody in their right mind would want to date you. not now, not even if you fake being more open minded. I recommend playing in traffic.
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>>18056751
Life is racist.
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>>18056543
Also this. Moreover, some people, even people who *do* have strong negative views on particular races, simply don't like talking about it. The people who tend to talk about it all the time are often people who have nothing going for them in life, and it's tiresome to keep hearing the same things over and over. I dislike black people. However, I don't want to date someone who frequently talks about disliking black people, because it's boring; there are more pleasant and interesting subjects of conversation.
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>>18056751
Im fit and have no trouble getting girls, but its always fun seeing people project their own problems so blatantly.
>>18056762
No one likes anyone who blathers on about the same subject all the time, its autistic. Reminds me of that klansman comic tho. That has nothing to do with my original questions sadly . I did expect a few dozen das raciss shitposts first, though.
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>>18056813
Ok, tl;dr they're just virtue-signalling when they answer the question "no". It's a reflex based on years of indoctrination. Once you start fucking them they'll conform progressively more to your political views. I've seen it half a dozen times in my own relationships. I don't think most women have anything resembling core political or philosophical beliefs; they tend to be very vague and malleable.
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>>18056813
>>18057530
In other words
>What it comes down to is: should I bother messaging these girls because they're either lying or don't actually care
Yes. Just not the ones that look like radfems or hard leftists from their profile answers or photos.
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I live in the south too and I've noticed this trend. I think it's a culture thing. There's a lot of black people in South Carolina and most of the right wing/country type girls are racist. You don't usually find these girls on OkCupid. OKCupid has a lot of left leaning women since the profiles leave a lot to the user building profile. I have no idea why they flock to OKCupid but maybe it's because leftist women seem to be more vain and they can use the massive wall of text to look like they stand out.

I'd consider PlentyOfFish or POF instead of OKC in the south. Yeah, you'll get way more trashy women on there but there's a good amount of country girls too. Way more than on OkCupid. Also you'll have a good bunch of those OKC girls making duplicate accounts on POF to increase exposure. Easy enough to filter out by how long their profiles are.

I'd just put in my profile I only date Trump supporters and that will usually weed out all the girls who dated black guys, and it's not blatantly racist.
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