Will slowly revealing the fact that I'm a virgin with no

Honesty, my friend, honesty.

No, don't tell them you're a virgin. Maybe if they are a virgin, too, crazy about you as well, and place importance on purity.

Other girls, if they find out you're a virgin, they'll think you're lacking in options and play hard to get. This happens even if you do have other options. You're lack of options could be in your pickyness with women, they'll sense that, and make you work to see just how much you like them. They also could be afraid of you getting clingy, which is a valid concern.

I say don't do it.

>>18053115
Depends on if your incel or a virgin by choice. My friend was just holding out for the right girl, so it never hindered him. But if you come off as desperate, girls will probably be turned off by it.

I always think it pays off to be honest though. If you do fuck a girl, she will eventually find out you were incel, and resent you for tricking her into sleeping with a loser.

>>18053405
How does being a virgin equal being a loser wtf

>>18053428
I just explained that that is not always what it means. If you're a virgin by choice you're not a loser, but if you can't get laid despite trying you're evolutionarily unfit.

>>18053451
I'm a virgin not by choice and I'm not fucking evolutionarily unfit, what the fuck
Being a virgin doesn't fucking define you or make you a loser.

>>18053462
Holy shit don't come here asking for people's fucking opinions if you're gonna sperg out when they tell you what they're thinking. If you're a virgin by choice then you're obviously not evolutionarily unfit in that respect. God damn bro, chill the fuck out. If you spaz out like that she's gonna think it's the reason you're a virgin. Good luck m80

>>18053476
I said I'm an involuntary virgin. I wouldn't sperged out like that because I don't think a girl would hold such an opinion, and if I thought she did I simply wouldn't be stupid enough to tell her, it's ridiculous to think it would somehow mean 'tricking her'.

>>18053486
It is tricking her. Imagine the other way around. You think a girl you're talking to is this nice wholesome wife material, only to find out after you get with her she is a nasty slut who has had sex with dozens of men. You'd feel cheated. And yes, if you are unable to have sex you are evolutionarily unfit. That is the very definition of the term.

>>18053476

Sorry M8 that's not me, I'm OP, first reply to the thread

so basically be honest as long as you're confident

it's gonna be hard but it's good

Just don't bring it up unless she asks, and don't lie to her if she does ask. If she's just looking for a hook up she probably won't ask and if you come out and say it she could lose interest, but if she's looking for more than that then she won't care if you're a virgin.

>>18053521
From the strictly reproductive point of view, maybe. Still doesn't make you a 'loser' by any means.

>>18053576
It's kinda pathetic, hence why he is so defensive about it.

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>>18053486

if this is real and you really are an "involuntary" virgin living in the developed western world then sorry but you're a retard

if you just want sex, there are girls are literally everywhere who are throwing their bodies to any guy who chats them up correctly. Also, escorts are always an option, so you really have no excuses

it really isn't hard to figure out how to get sex

I'm so sick of autists complaining about being virgins and then completely blaming women for this shit, when in reality they're literally too stupid to figure out how to get laid.

>>18053608
Nah, even the loosest sluts have standards. Sluts are sluts for usually the top 20% of guys. If they're really slutty, top 50%.

Do you want to tell them? Does something in you say "Hey, maybe i should warn them ahead of time I'm inexperienced?" or do you just not care?

Don't worry about what you "should" be doing. Worry about what feels right.

I lied about it and it never came back to bite my ass and I'm still currently with the girl.

>>18053608
I don't blame women. I don't blame anyone. I'm quite attractive, I've had opportunities, lots of them, perhaps I just wasn't ready to seize them. I have standards. I have fears (of rejection). I have insecurities. I'm not exactly fine-tuned socially and I don't go out that often to begin with. It's a complex mixture of factors and none of them stem from a lack of comprehension.

>>18053608
Also as for escorts, it doesn't really count.
I for one don't care much for sex as I have really low libido, so it's mostly about the validation and being normal and experiencing another person.

If during your first time you're miraculously actually good at it, would telling her you were a virgin afterwards be okay? Is it even possible to be good at sex the first time you do it?

>>18053764
Who gives a shit? Tell her when you want to.

Just tell em after.

>>18053363
^ this shit right here. Girls will open up when you show them your soft, marshmallow core. Aim for sympathy and close friendship to start; you'll gain confidence with experience and you can go from there.

>>18054029
the last time I showed a girl my soft marshmallow core I was put on a special list