How do I just ask someone out on a date?
More specifically, how do I just jump into it? Today I was going to ask my coworker out to...something (I don't really know what I would have asked her to). She walked past me and I turned around, and I was about to open my mouth and ask her out when I realized I didn't have any idea what to say/how to start it. So what am I actually supposed to say?
There was no conversation leading up to it, she walked past and I just thought "it's now or never". I realized that even if we had been having a conversation, I'd have no idea how to get to the topic of going out. Would it be too jarring if I just sperged out and bluntly asked her out?
I know this sounds autistic as fuck but bear with me, I've never had to explicitly ask a romantic interest out, even less in person.
>>18031049
It's telling that you chose to attach the image that you did. You don't really want a date, do you?
Your story reminded me of something I just read:
"In the Freudian logic of dreams, an inability to do something-- being lost, stuck in traffic, something is missing-- represents contradiction. And when that inability is accompanied by a feeling of inability-- you're stuck to the floor, it's too heavy, you can't run-- it represents conflict of the will."
>>18031070
lmao that's the first picture I saw that I thought would get people's attention so they would maybe read my question
If you're asking if I eventually want to have sex with a person I find attractive, the answer is yes, probably. but I came specifically for advice on how to ask someone on a date. if you're not here to help, please leave friendo
also
>2017
>freud
zozzle
what can you surmise about my psychology from this attached pic I randomly chose, o great psychoanalyst?
>>18031086
Ok, so you're looking to connect with people (lady folk included) more easily. You can't blame me for reading into that suggestive of an image.
>Would it be too jarring if I just sperged out and bluntly asked her out?
Yes. What, in your opinion, does she think of you?
>>18031104
Well, allow me to qualify my last response. You can go ahead and roll the dice. I've studied pick up artists extensively (never tried the methods). Their objective is to increase the odds of a girl being into them, and leveraging that to get her pursuing him. You can see why this would maximize their odds with a given girl, it makes her think she's the one winning him over.
Anyway, the first thing they do is to build value in the eyes of the girl. They do this in various ways, but basically: own the space. High value, ie status, is really just a matter of claiming/using space, if you read into it)
http://www.meltingasphalt.com/status-as-space/
>>18031070
Could you tip your fedora any harder
you shouldn't ask her out , out of the blue.
try to have a fun conversation first . get her smiling and laughing. can't do this? then you probably shouldn't be trying to ask her out.
>>18031309
Listen to this anon. They're onto something.
>>18031309
I did have a conversation with her where she was smiling and laughing, but it was earlier. A good half hour passed before I thought to ask her out and an opportunity presented itself.
>>18031049
He, no way in hell I would ask her out. I don't consider myself to be ugly but I'm nowhere near that level of good. I guess it depends how you feel being with the person you're courting. It's up to you anon just take things weasy and slow.
>>18032675
well, do it again then.
>>18032716
easy*