How do you move on? I've already enacted no-contact so

>>18030044
>How can I prevent other parts of my life from taking such a hit?

Keep busy. Don't stop. Fill your day with work, study, etc. Just do shit. You'll stop thinking about her. After that all you can do is wait until you are over it.

go out and date

>>18030044
Because you have no sense of direction or commitment to some ideal, you're letting your breakup affect other areas of your life.

All breakups suck, and the only way to stop the pain is to wait it out. You can distract yourself in the meantime by filling up your schedule but if you start doing poorly in school, youre just going to be reminded of what happened.

Many people pity themselves and the situation they're in because it feels good. It feels good to feel bad about ourselves, as if our suffering makes us self righteous in our neglectful and shitty actions. But self pity is only a temporary satisfaction, and like a drug you build up a tolerance and need more to feel good again.

To break the cycle, you must internalize that breakups are shitty and happen to everyone, but they are exclusive to the rest of your life. Yes, you may have just lost a very important person in your life. But why the fuck do you think that is an excuse for failing your classes?

People don't achieve things by letting bad circumstances affect their work. They may be sad, angry, or sobbing, but they finish the work just as they meant to in the first place. You're letting yourself go on purpose. It's a choice.

OP I hear you, I had a breakup with my gf of 4 years last May.

It's tough. If it's any help, I banged 12 girls since May and it had no effect on my feelings. I felt good for an hour, then my ex was back in my head.

We stayed in contact for a few months after the breakup, but I flipped out on her when I found out she had a rebound boyfriend.

She dumped him a few months ago and we hadn't talked in three months so I messaged her the other night and it had a positive effect on her and my emotions. Things are looking bright now.

My advice is to deal with the pain, but be hopeful. chasing your gf will only cause more pain, but there's nothing wrong with being truthful. Tell her what you want, then wish her the best and walk away. If it's meant to be she'll contact you, if not you'll meet someone better when the universe thinks you're ready.

Become optimum boyfriend material. Get some nice clothes, exercise often, don't jack off to much, quit looking at porn (HUGE), and when you meet a girl you like don't be afraid to date her.

Just keep improving yourself. You're gonna have good days and bad days. Just get through the bad days through listening to music, exercising, and meditating. 99% of the time, after a bad day the next day will be much better. Accept the rollercoaster ride of emotions you're going to experience.

Try to think positive. If people ask what happened with your gf just say "we dated for a while, had a good time, but things didn't work out. So how about that new song?" and change the subject.

I feel for you, OP. Don't worry. If you become the strongest version of yourself, you'll attract the perfect girl at the perfect moment or your ex will come back. Either way you win. Don't become a loser, don't let this breakup diminish your value. Stay fit, stay fash, stay positive.

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>>18030192
Thanks, I needed to hear these.