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Hi, /adv/. Please help. Last year, I had a girlfriend who cheated

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Hi, /adv/. Please help.

Last year, I had a girlfriend who cheated on me. I also had a wonderful female friend. I was furious at the girlfriend, but ultimately we stayed together, with her saying "it meant nothing to me. go fuck someone else if you want".

I ended up fucking my female friend. Gf didn't know, but she's the jealous type and wanted me to "pick" one of us. I cut off the friend.

Me and girlfriend are still together but it's a worse relationship now. She insults the way I look constantly, doesn't want to have sex, while trying to convince me she's the best thing that ever happened to me. The sad part is, I can't bring myself to leave her because I have no one else at this point.

I spent today looking over my ex- female friend's social media profiles and wishing so bad I could talk to her again. But, I also know I partly only crave affection like that again. What do I do?
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drop your current gf.

she already sees you as a beta provider, that's why she cheated on you.

also, work on yourself, learn social skills, get life goals, get a job, read a lot, then women will want to come to you.

become a high status male, don't chase women, make them chase you.
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>>18026461
this
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>>18026440
>Insults you
>Tells you shes the best thing ever to happen to you.

Classic red flags of a narcissist.
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>>18026523
this, his gf already see his as a loser, and she is jelly.

drop her op, talk to the other girl, you will be less misserable.
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>>18026461
We're both in college but she's on track to make six figures, so I'm not her provider. I understand what you mean by the rest though

>>18026531
Is it fair to the other girl to talk to her again? It's been months and I clearly chose gf over her. She was very hurt at the time and I think I'm being selfish
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>>18026542
get newer female friends anon.

you need to man up and work on yourself.

it doesn't matter if she's going to make six figures, if she's going to make you her bitch.

she already see you as a loser, is possible she's been cheating on you and you haven't realized.

simply get a newer girl.
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>>18026440
I think you dun goofed

Current gf seems iredeemable. Grow a spine and tell her that youre out of her life. Cut all contact

Try to contact the other friend but honestly you just used her and then chose a cheating bitch over her. I'd have blocked you out of everything by now if I were her.

Work on yourself. Hit the gym and read a fucking book. If you ever want to come back with cheater ex just fap those feels away.
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>>18026550
daily reminder that girls don't cheat alfa guys, they only cheat the beta boys they get as emotional tampons or providers.

same deal, a male will never cheat a hot gf.
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>>18026558
Thats fake ass shit bullshit /r9k/ likes to spew.

Even if the guy's hot if the girl's in need of attention and has no moral barriers she'll fuck the first penis that pays attention to her. I've seen studs cucked by vidya dweebs and it's all because they were in the right place at the right time.
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>>18026563
girls cheat for these reasons:
- the boy is hot (usually a Chad)
- his bf is boring
- his bf has not sexual skills (boring in bed)

a girl wont cheat is she's both sexually and emotionally filled by a real male (not OP).
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OP download this.
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>>18026581
is this any good ? did you listen to the whole thing ?
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>>18026705
yup, currently finishing it.
pretty good.
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>>18026710
I'll give it a try, thanks anon.
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>>18026714
qbittorrent inner search function.
search "RSD audio" 2.5 GB
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>>18026717
found this on the pirate bay.
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>>18026440

Leave her. That shit isn't cool, end of story. Both of you would have been better off if you broke it off after she cheated. But this bitch needs to have her ego flattened and you need to setup being a codependent. Man up and bin her.
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>>18026840

Stop being*
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>>18026568
Sometimes they cheat and have no real reason to. Point being that list should be more than just three entries.
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>>18026542
>she's on track to make six figures, so I'm not her provider.
Bro, that means that not only didn't she respect you enough to not cheat BEFORE she was your better, now she'll DEFINITELY not have a reason to stay faithful. Most women lose respect for their man if he makes less money than her, so she'll already be looking to trade up. Dump her now, reconnect with your friend, and reconnect with your own life. Staying in this relationship will only end badly for you.
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>>18027342

That totally depends on the kind of woman she is. The bitchy materialistic types that are constantly looking for validation through others? Yeah, not good.

Other's literally don't give two fucks as long as you're not a lazy leech and have some kind of drive/goals even if they're not monetary.
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>>18026440
Pic, very, very related OP.

I'm going to be frank with you, your girlfriend sounds like an incredibly shitty person. I'm going to give you my thoughts on a few points that stick out to me

>Last year, I had a girlfriend who cheated on me
I'm a big believer in infidelity being immediate grounds to end a relationship, *especially* if you're not married. She isn't honest with you, so she doesn't respect you, she doesn't respect you, so how could she ever love you?

>with her saying "it meant nothing to me. go fuck someone else if you want"
IMHO this is the red flag to end all red flags, pay attention to her words here, and the thought processes behind them: "it meant nothing to me." I imagine zero fucks were given to what it meant to *you.*

>but she's the jealous type and wanted me to "pick" one of us
She's not "jealous," she's controlling. This was also a massive shit test, which you failed, miserably.

>She insults the way I look constantly, doesn't want to have sex, while trying to convince me she's the best thing that ever happened to me
Again, she has zero respect for you. To be fair, you're not really giving her any reason to, as you clearly have none for yourself.

>I can't bring myself to leave her because I have no one else at this point
You have yourself, anon, man the fuck up. "Fuck bitches, get money."

>What do I do?
First, you end the relationship immediately, definitively, and without the potential for review. I strongly recommend you block her on your phone and social media, cut her out of your life entirely and never look back.

Do it in person, keep it short and sweet, and remember it's not a negotiation, it's a notification. Sit her down, say "I've thought about things and I've decided that being with you is not good for me. This is the end. It's over. Please respect my decision and do not contact or harass me. I wish you all the best, goodbye." and walk out the door, and never look back.

<continued>
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>>18027446
<continuing>
Next, take a moment to reflect upon and take joy of a few things you have going for you, you're young, you're single, there are literally *billions* more women where she came from, and it's the first day of the rest of your life.

Then you're going to contact your friend, apologize to her for letting your ex convince you into dogging her, and try to rebuild that bridge. She'll probably have immense respect for you sacking up and expunging the cancer for you life.

Do *not* stay with your girl, OP. You're only with her at this point because of the familiarity, which is one of the worst reasons to be with someone.

She sounds like a sociopathic narcissist who is incapable of seeing other human beings as anything other than a resource or obstacle.

Get out and meet new people, fuck new girls. No excuses, if something is holding you back deal with it; "it's hard" is a shit reason to not do something, self improvement takes effort. Sack up and do it. You're not allowed to be weak, you're not allowed to fail.

I have been where you are. I know what I do because I've learned from, and risen above it. Save yourself a few years of depression, anger, and frustration, and just trust me on this.

>>18027359
>The bitchy materialistic types that are constantly looking for validation through others? Yeah, not good.
Just keep in mind this describes about 95% of women; social media thrives as an industry because of this.

Most women are not relationship material. That's why it's important to play the field, so you know a diamond in the rough when you find one.

>>18026568
>a girl won't cheat if she's not a piece of shit
Cheating is never, under any circumstances, excusable. If you're not "sexually or emotionally fulfilled" end things, period. Cheating is what you do if you're a coward, a user, or both. Also

>real male
Please stop with the misandry; a man is not defined by his ability and willingness to appease women.
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>>18027477
*standing ovation*

Holy fuck, you will not get better advice than this.
Follow it to the letter.
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>>18026568
>a girl wont cheat is she's both sexually and emotionally filled by a real male
Please, please, please, PLEASE stop enabling women to indulge in shitty behavior by implying they're unaccountable for it. "Men" like you are the reason the overwhelming majority of women are insufferable cunts these days.

I hope I'm not alone when I say I am so over giving women the pussy pass; I don't "respect women" I respect people who act in a way that earns respect; women haven't been "ladies" for decades, so it's kind of ridiculous to keep putting them on a pedestal.

I can't so much as log in to facebook without having some woman's outrage about "equality" thrown in my face, well equality isn't just equal rights, agency, and opportunity, it's also equal responsibility and accountability.

As another anon said, if you're not happy, end the relationship. End of story.
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>>18027493
I second this, thanks other anon for it.
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