How do I control my temper?

>>18021033
Bumping so we don't 404 while I reply

>>18021033
>>18021206
Anyhow, I'm naturally inclined to blowing up and I usually keep my temper under control but as soon as I'm with my gf I find I get angry much easier because I think that its just gf she won't do anything I can treat her how I want. Before you try to keep it under control you gotta find out why you blow up in the first place, as exploring it can often help resolve it, which in my case ended up being that I get angry at her because she makes dumb decisions and doesn't think sometimes and therefore I had to think about things from her perspective and realize that she can't help it because thats how her natural path of thought flows and therefore she doesn't deserve to get yelled at for being her. As far as the attentive thing goes, some people show attention in different ways anon, and if shes normally more attentive then just talk about it to her. Think about their point of view and wonder why they would be like that at that given moment of time. Also another thing that helps with anger outbursts in general is I imagine what someone else would look like if they did what I did when I'm angry and often the sheer embarrassing thought of realizing what I look like is enough to make me stop. Hope this helps

>>18021222
Thanks anon, I should try to proactively start doing that!

>>18021255
Its hard starting but eventually it'll flow naturally. Good luck future zen master!

The best advice I can give you is to learn breathing techniques that help you calm yourself. When I know that my anger might get me in trouble I take BIG breaths and hold it for a while and blow it out completely and slowly and just walk away.

Also, literally half my family take up martial arts to help take out out frustrations. Anger issues are prolific among my family. So you should think about taking up some sort of a physical activity.