i've been thinking about this for a while but i don't want my sexuality to be my identity, however, i guess it wouldn't unless i made it
on principle i think that for something to be normalized then pointing it out is counter intuitive so i'm kind of on the fence
will this take a weight off my shoulders?
and just for reference i have actually had a relationship with a guy so i'm not just bicurious
What I did was just drop a few mentions of exboyfriends/exgirlfriends in normal conversations where appropriate. It was obvious enough that I swing both ways, but never a big deal. Might depend on your best friend's attitude, though, so you know best how to handle it.
>>18014849
yeah i think he'll understand that i don't want it to be my identity because i've voiced my opinions about coming out culture, it's just hard to drop things casually in conversation because there's the assumption that i'm straight
"coming out" as bi is literally just telling all your friends and family that you're a turboslut.
>>18014840
dont tell them til they need to know. im gay and i dont date much so my favorite thing to do is wait for the funniest scenario to spring it on them. usually showing up to a group event with a date and being like 'check out my boyfriend lol'.
>>18014875
This.
People don't need to know unless they literally go up to you and ask you and they actually need to know