I was raped 5 years ago

>>18011245
>I want to call them. What should I do?
Was this your therapist's idea? Or have you talked with him/her about it?

I have no idea what it's like being a rape victim, obviously. But as a guy I can tell you that nothing makes a man more uncomfortable than a woman crying. I say do it. Make them feel like complete shit. Ruin their lives if they have a family.

>>18011245
It's a little late for action. It's very unfortunate this happened to you, but in current culture their wives/significant others would likely disbelieve you if you told them. You should still try.

No, not my therapist's idea for sure. Just my own desire for some kind of closure...I don't know, I'm not even looking for revenge (though I'd be lying if I said I hadn't thought about it...) just acknowledgement that a fucked up thing happened. I'm sure they would deny but I just want to know they heard me say "you did something really fucked up"

>>18011290
My aunt prosecuted her rapist years (15-20) after and won in court.
He was an idiot though and admitted it...
But be sure to make their lives as miserable as possible, tell wives what happened and that you're afraid to confront them but your therapist urged you to.

>>18011369
Did you bring this idea up to your therapist? This is something that is extremely important to talk about. I would never say to let it go, you deserve closure as much if not more than anyone else, but I think it's incredibly important to consider what my happen if you re-open these wounds when you're just starting to feel like they're healing. If you feel strong enough to pursue it then perhaps it's a fight worth having, but I think it should be considered strongly.

The saddest part of this world is that it's not fair. Justice is hard to find and closure is elusive. Trying to find that closure in someone else is far too often doomed to fail which is why it's so important to value any peace you might find within yourself and hold on to it as best you can.

I wish I could offer you a way to deal with these people who did this, but sadly I don't have those answers, but I do hope they will come in time.

>>18011245
Don't do anything on your own.

Talk to the cops. Most laypersons have very vague and incorrect ideas of what the "statute if limitations" means, and you may still be able to prosecute them or sue them in civil court.

(Remember that 20 years ago O J Simpson was judged Not Guilty of murder in criminal court but was successfully sued by the families in civil court.)