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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.

>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
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Grills, would you give an ugly guy a chance if he invites you to chat and have a coffee?

Ugly, a bit chubby but with no other intention than to get to know the other person
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>hey do you want to come over to my place and discuss the assignments then fuck?

Is this text ok?

This is a girl I met at my class few weeks ago, she seemed kinda thirsty when she kept looking at me so I offered her my drink and greeted her. She was all smiley and we are friends now. I know she likes me, my elbow totally touched her boob for a long period when we're looking at the textbook together, but then you cant really tell with girls, liking someone romantically and dtf are a bit different, her mom probably taught her not to put out after n th date and we aren't even dating.
Honestly I'd rather do the assignments by myself, a lot quicker.
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>>18000193
NO are you autistic mate. Unless she's obviously a massive slut she won't go with "Hey wanna fuck." You gotta have some "reason" to hang out. I suggest asking her out on a date to eat somewhere. If she says he's but doesn't bang you after, she probably wants to actually have a relationship. If she says yes and does bang you after, she's a slut who may or may not want an actual relationship. If she says no, she doesn't want a relationship.

Or if you just want to bang her, don't want a gf, and don't care if she gets upset/awkward because of it, just send your original text...but you'll be more successful if you're not so blunt. Say like inviting her to study at your apartment alone in your room, or literally just watch Netflix. Then she doesn't have to deal with the self-hate of acknowledging how slutty she is in order to bang you, she can just be like "oh one thing led to another"
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>>18000083
Thats weird. "Having coffee with no intentions just to get to know each other" is something autists say to mean "I'd understand if you don't like me I don't even like myself and I wouldn't date me either." When you go on a date with a girl, you're seeing if she is "good enough" for you and if it's a good match. When you're hanging out with a friend, you're getting coffee because you feel like it. Don't be a pussy, whenever you're dating someone take the approach of you have a good offer, and want to know it it'll work out. Not "oh pls I am worthless and fat and ugly if you'll just talk to me ill be happy I won't even ask for a second date because I know I'm so worthless" that's pathetic and will never work.
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>>18000208
>Then she doesn't have to deal with the self-hate of acknowledging how slutty she is in order to bang you, she can just be like "oh one thing led to another
very nice. Thanks for the insight!

Any other tips on how to not make her feel like a slut? I don't quite understand the self hate, if we are both attracted to each other, and one person asked through a confidential text "wanna fuck?" and the other answered "ok, let me prepare myself :)" I would consider that very endearing because it's clearly an intimate experience between us, and it makes me feel special. But you're right, I'd probably need to date her or sth, but things are very complicated in our class right now as I'm kinda having a crush on another girl, who has a bf
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>>18000000
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How much change is too much change in someone who is interested in you or a significant other? Also, what do?

tl;dr, Girl I've known for about 10 months has essentially flipped her political and personal views and changed her gym routine to try and look like something she thinks I would like. I have not given her any kind of signal that I am interested, and have even (I thought) been expressing my disinterest, even though she has made quite a few passes at me.
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Unofficial survey for men:

Put these in order for level of importance on women: face, legs, breasts, butt, other (please specify)
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>>18000377
legs, face, breasts, butt
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>>18000377
face, hips, butt, breasts, legs
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>>18000388
>>18000390
You're going most to least important right?
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>>18000393
well duh
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>>18000377
face > legs > breasts = butt
however there's a threshold for face and legs that if you went below it's very hard for other parts to save you
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>>18000377
Breasts, face, feet, butt, legs
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>>18000346
Girls don't actually hold any strong beliefs unlike men, so they are more likely to change their mind. The way she has changed for you right now, may also change once she falls for another guy.
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Okay and as a follow-up, what constitutes good legs on a woman?

>>18000407
First guy I agree with if you take off feet
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>>18000409
So the answer is be patient and wait for her to find another target?

>>18000414
I'll describe because I can't be bothered to find a picture.
>Muscle is there, no spooky skeletons
>Proportions are not weird or disgusting, as in if the ass is substantially wider than the the thigh.
>Legs should look like they can do something. They best way I can say they don't need to be hyper muscular, but also shouldn't be sticks.
Track & Field female probably have the best example.
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My hands and arms are covered in scars from my past work (i worked with dangerous animals at the zoo) and they aren't subtle either, is that a problem?
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>>18000441
So long as they aren't self harm, it's good.
Just be prepared to explain, because if they are near the wrist/usual places it might be an initial red flag.
I'm assuming yours will be all over though, so it won't look like you were deliberately cutting or anything.
Regardless, just be ready to explain. Personally, I'd probably think you're a badass lol.
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Should guys be the ones who initiate conversations with women over text? I've been told that guys should only text women first to set up dates. Whenever I have a crush on someone, I have to resist a nearly insurmountable urge to start a conversation with them over text. However, I'm not really a conversationally-fluent guy so a lot of times if I can't think of a response I'll just abruptly ask another question so a lot of conversations will devolve into me sending question after question to people. With this in mind, I feel like I should really stop trying to text women so often since I could probably come off as weird.
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>>18000083
I've dated guys I thought were on the ugly side before. I was in a relationship with one for about two years. Despite them being physically less attractive, I was still very deeply attracted to them. That being said, they were funny, outgoing, we had many common interests, etc.

>>18000193
If she likes you personally and not just sexually (very likely the case), she may think that with that message, all you want to do is have sex. Could be off putting to some girls. If you both heavily flirt, and you ask her to go over to your place, a hook up may be pretty implied. Don't add the "then fuck" play it safe because that could blow it.
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>>18000377
face tits ass legs
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>>18000455
yeah they're far too wide to be knife cuts anyway, most people think i got into some sort of horrid accident or jumped through a glass window. I'm not really ashamed of them or anything but girls stare at them whenever they notice it first but don't dare to ask me about them
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>>18000377
eyes, face, torso, tits, hips, butt, legs

yes, i'm obsessed with eyes
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Women -
Would you date a guy two or three inches shorter than you with very feminine, narrow shoulders (also smaller less broad than yours) and no body hair?
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>>18000524
A link to a registration page for some shammy online payment solution
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I could use some advice regarding sex and relationships.

My girlfriend and I get intimate with eachother to a degree, but we haven't had sex with eachother yet.

Whenever the topic of it comes up, things just become a little bit awkward. In the heat of tension one time while we were making out I kinda hinted to her if she wanted to, but she said it wasn't the right moment yet, and that made things awkward for a few days. That was actually a while ago though and things are fine now.

I just worry when will that 'right' moment be? I just fear that we're gonna end up with some intimacy problems. We do hand stuff, but we've just never gone all the way.

The thing is, I love this girl a lot, and I can really see a future with her. I have never felt so sure about a girl in my life. I just want the relationship to have that full level of intimacy–is that not normal? But I don't want to end up killing more moments and making things awkward.

From the small talks we've had about sex, we both agree that we just want it to happen naturally. But I don't know how that works.

Other than that the relationship is great. I could just use some advice on how to take things to the next level.
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Women, assuming it's possible or your current circumstances were to change to make it possible, what could a friend you spend a lot of time with do to cause you to fall for them and leave your boyfriend?
I know most of the answers are probably going to be "nothing could ever cause that", but just assume something, whatever that may be, happened that could. What would that thing be?
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>>18000526
No. I like guys taller, bigger and hairier than me. I prefer a more masculine body type.
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>>18000377
face, butt, hips, breasts, legs, neck (neck isn't unimportant and definitely should be on the list, it's just the least of these)
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>>18000534
That's kind of shitty and disingenuous of you to be friends with someone with hidden intentions of wanting their relationship to fail so that they end up with you.
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>>18000526
I wouldn't personally
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>>18000533
I'm guessing you're both virgins?

Virgin girls have 0 sex drive, 'naturally' for them is probably the first time they ever get turned on to a point they actually start to feel horny so try touching her in sensitive places like her neck, stroke her genlty and eventually get some foreplay going
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>>18000547
>Virgin girls have 0 sex drive
Um. No.
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>>18000542
I was friends with her well before I had feelings for her, and it's not as if that's my reason for spending time with her.
Also, if I were to make my interest in her known it would probably be a painful experience for both of us. Neither of us have very many friends and we're each other's support in school, so losing that because I can't control who I'm interested in and suddenly decide to tell her and put her in an awkward position wouldn't help anyone.
Based on that, what do you think the nonshitty approach is? Because from what I can tell it's pretty much what I'm already doing.
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>>18000526
The height is the only thing that bothers me, but then again to be 3 inches shorter than me you'd literally be 5 foot even. I doubt you're that short.
Depending on how feminine we're talking, it could be an issue, but if you compensate for it in your personality to a certain degree it'll be ok. I'm not saying go full randy savage or anything, but just act a little more dominant/manly.
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>>18000549
Considering i've both experienced this and heard this from multiple girls, you have to bring some proof to convince me
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>>18000533
She's probably worried about something, especially if shes a virgin. All you can do is sit down and have a talk about it outside the bedroom seriously, not like the small talks you have. Like when you're not even going at anything at all, just sitting down together watching tv or something, just discuss it. Ask if she's uncomfortable with the idea of sex, or why she's holding back. Work from there. Be sure to express your feelings you just shared with us. You see a future with her, you love her, but you are concerned about this affecting the relationship.
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>>18000547
No she's not. And I'm not either, but I don't have much experience. Her drive is actually higher than mine I think.

We do a lot of foreplay, heavy making out, etc, but it usually ends with hand stuff.
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>>18000553
Virgin girl here, I crave sexual release all the damn time. I'm just afraid of penetration.
Every chance I get for heavy petting, oral, hand work, I fucking eat up immediately.
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>>18000557
In that case she wants to be romanced like never before. Make a grand gesture and you're bound to get laid
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>>18000553
I am a virgin and I have a sex drive. Every girl was a virgin at some point and most had a sex drive before losing it. A good chunk probably even masturbate.
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>>18000535
>>18000544
>>18000551
>I doubt you're that short.
It's not about me, it's about the girl I like's boyfriend. I met him recently and he's how I described, but also with a pretty high voice.
He's also super quiet and submissive. For example when we were all three walking together he let me walk side by side with his girlfriend while he walked a couple feet behind us. He's also anorexic skinny to boot.
I just don't get it and I'm not normally a very vain guy but it's really bugging me. I really liked this girl, and then I see that she's with this guy while I'm a very masculine guy. I guess it just hit my pride pretty hard.
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>>18000560
>>18000564
Maybe i should've been more specific. Virgin girls as in girls with 0 sexual experience and never tried anything themselves either.

Any virgin guy that wanks has a sex drive same goes for virgin girls that rub their pussy red every day.
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>>18000556
Thanks, I appreciate the advice.

>>18000562
I feel like this could be the case. What do you mean by a grand gesture? Wouldn't that kind of conflict with the whole happening naturally thing?
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>>18000573
Well that was clearly not the situation lol. He said they do other things.

and frankly, its quite rare to have a chick who has never even masturbated. Most start in childhood.
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>>18000577
Let me be 100% real here, there is no 'natural' way for anything to happen. The world is all about Action-Reaction.

What she means is that she doesn't want to be talked into it, or just get horny from something else. She wants you to show your love for her before giving herself to you, probably because she really likes you and doesn't want to rush it
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>>18000571
Well, who cares if I wouldn't date the dude? She does. Maybe she has some sort of kink for that kind of shit and likes skinny submissive guys. Does it matter?
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>>18000588
This makes a lot of sense. Thank you.
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>>18000589
It does matter because I'm trying to figure out why she'd be with him and beside asking her, the best thing would be to get opinions from other women
Pretty clear what the purpose of the question is
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>>18000589
>Does it matter
OP is hot for his gf and is now on 4chan asking for a way to cope
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>>18000550
Do you care about her?

If she's in a happy relationship and you care about her, then my best advice would be to try and let go of those feelings no matter how hard it is to do so.

Another thing you could do is be honest with her and tell her how you feel. The most likely thing that would happen though since she is already in a relationship is that things will get awkward and your friendship might die. Though there is a small chance that she could feel the same way, it's just not likely since she is in a relationship.

You need to weigh in the pros and cons.

Is having her in your life important to you? If so, I would try to let go of those feelings and find someone else who is single.

You can also take the risk, but depending on your circumstances it probably won't end well
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girls, do you cum during vaginal sex? my girl says she can only cum when stimulated oral or with fingers, but not from sex alone
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I have to file a 760py because I worked part of the 2016 year in Virginia, apparently. That form isn't ready to file yet though.

Do I HAVE to file that form? Do I get it mailed to me? Thanks and Dog bless
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>>18000483
>If she likes you personally and not just sexually (very likely the case
how does that even work...we've known each other for less than a month. Any way I asked her out on a proper date, will try to be a gentleman, the original plan of bringing her to my place to study together is too much trouble, I already finished my hw. But what would be a good reason for a break up one two months later? what do I say if I want to move on to another girl? these things happen right?
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I grew up with the Jesuits in Ireland. I had no sex education.

When is protection expected? Just in casual sex and one night stands? With someone you're in a long term relationship with?

Why do some people pull out and some people use protection, and when should you do which?
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>>18000651
Make baby, no protection
No make baby, protection
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>>18000631
That's not how Vaginas work.
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>>18000651
>casual sex and one night stands
Condom

>long term relationship (and you both disease-free)
Condom is not a must

>pull out
no protection at all, just for the lust of cumming at you partner

>conclusion: always use condoms unless you and your partner decided not to use them (if she is on the pill for example)
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>>18000665
so it is normal that i have to stimulate the clitoris extra?

you know, with all the p0rn I was thinking maybe some girls can cum just from sex..
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>>18000668
How do you know if they're disease free? That's such an awkward question to ask
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>>18000672
Stop watching porn

These can't be serious questions.
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How do you finger a girl properly?

I know the clitoris is in the top area, but I can never really tell when I'm there.
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>>18000651
Whenever you have sex you risk getting a sexually transmissible disease or a pregnancy.
Risks of getting a sexually transmissible disease are low if you have a monogamous relationship and you and your partner don't cheat.

When you have casual sex, you should protect yourself from both STDs and unwanted pregnancy. The best way to do so is to use a condom and a hormonal birth control method (implanon, IUD, the pill)
When you have sex with a trusted partner, you can stop worrying all that much about STDs (but maybe get tested first!) but, unless you want kids, you should use a birth control method .

Some people are very careless about sex, but definitely do not take example from them.
Don't trust people who talk about pulling out or tracking your period as if it is super safe.
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>>18000631
Alright listen up.

Both vaginal orgasms and clitoral orgasms are ultimately "clitoral". They are experienced differently, but what we refer to as the clit is really only the top of the iceberg. In reality the clitoris is about as big as a penis, and likewise fills up with blood and gets engorged when the woman is aroused.
Disregarding extra stimulance and/or the groin of the man bumping into the external clitoris during intercourse, the good feelings from penetration come from the clitoris being stimulated internally. This is also pretty much why sex can feel amazing to a woman, yet she still won't get turned on inserting a tampon.

However, the distance between this sensitive organ and the actual vagina differs from woman to woman. Aka penetration isn't equally effective for every woman to really get her off, let alone to get her to climax. That is a physical reality on top of other factors (can she relax properly? does she get enough foreplay? is the penis a good physical fit for her vagina shape?).

Aka, you have a whole landscape of nuances for how easy it is for women to cum from fucking itself. That spans "he might as well put his finger into my mouth" to bliss. For many women orgasms are something that can be achieved during intercourse, but only in relatively rare occasions, in their favorite position, with additional fingering and so on.

Stop ever thinking that porn represents sex. Porn represents male fantasies of sex. For men it would be ideal if foreplay is the woman sucking him off, and putting his dick in makes her faint with pleasure. That's nowhere close to reality. There's a reason porn actresses need to fake it.
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>>18000682
The clit is at the top portion of her lips. You can spread them and see where it is if it makes it easier or feel for it with your hand because it's just like a bump that moves around slightly with your fingers.
Technique differs from girl to girl depending on sensitivity and how she gets herself off. Typically rubbing the clit with two or three fingertips in a circular motion gets the job done. Ask her to show you how she touches herself to help you figure out what she likes.
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>>18000651
https://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/unintendedpregnancy/pdf/contraceptive_methods_508.pdf

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/stds-hiv-safer-sex

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexual_health/the_buddy_system_effectiveness_rates_for_backing_up_your_birth_control_with_a_

https://www.cdc.gov/condomeffectiveness/brief.html
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>>18000672
Some can, but it's a rarity. There's plenty of women who cannot cum from sex [fucking] period, fingers involved or not.
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>>18000673
well if she is your girlfriend and not some casual girl or a ONS, you should be ok to ask her that.
you could ask her if you both go to a doctor to get checked, so both of you don't have to worry about it.
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>>18000692
Just because you are hopeless at sex does not mean that they can't cum.
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>>18000631
I do, but not always.
I however don't ever feel remotely close to orgasm when receiving oral/manual stimulation.
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Women

You're on a first date. The guy tells you he's never had a gf (and he's in his late twenties). What is your reaction?

I am now in a catch 22 where I am almost afraid to go on dates because I'm worried my lack of experience will be offputting.
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>>18000695
Save your talk of how your magical dick can make any woman climax regardless of anatomy. I'm not a man.

And for the record, with rarity I meant regularly coming from intercourse, no fingering or anything involved. If you don't make a distinction between added fingering or not it's obviously going to be a lot higher.
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>>18000083
If I think he may think of it as a date, no. I'm with someone already.
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>>18000701
I'm talking about clitoral stimulation tho, not just penetration. I am also a female.
I think all girls must be able to cum besides the ones who say they can't just because they're frustrated with their clueless bf.
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Are guys expected to shave down there?
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>>18000715
No.
Shaved pubes on guys look so gross.
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>>18000700
Dating culture differs from place to place.
It seems to me like in America people date to meet/get to know the other person, to me that's strange, I would only date someone I already know and like. If I like you, knowing about your lack of experience wouldn't be offputting.
And there's no reason you need to mention that unless the other person asks.
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>>18000715
I'm a bloke, but I've always gone on the basis that it should be trimmed to a minimal length. If it looks like you might find Bear Grylls hacking his way through it it's too long. If there's a sharp cutoff between your stomach hair and your pubis then it's too short. I trim mine down to blend it in.
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>>18000713
But he was talking about just penetration. "is it normal that i have to stimulate the clitoris extra" >>18000672

I think all women have the potential to, but some cannot relax enough (either to climax at all, or with a partner specifically) or have a different mental block. I know from personal experience that I was embarrassingly late realizing how to make myself cum, and before I realized what it was supposed to feel like, sex didn't even feel sexual to me, just good in a confusing way. Probably in theory it would've been possible to force it anyway with some great toy or something, but everything I realistically tried (a lot) couldn't get me there.

Now that I know how it feels, I throb if the seam of my jeans presses into my crotch and can make myself cum in <a minute. Same with a good partner. A lot of sexuality is mental and that can really fuck someone over.
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>>18000713
I'm not the person you replied to. But how do I not be a clueless boyfriend?

I can't seem to get her to cum through fingering. I ask how she likes it but she said she doesn't really know. She told me she likes it when I do it, and she is always wanting me to do it–im just not sure why, since I'm never able to get her to cum that way. Why would she want me to do it if she doesn't cum?
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>>18000723
I'm English. I never understood American dating culture. To me I feel bad when I am talking to two girls at once on a dating site. It feels like I'm cheating. Americans can have a date a day for two weeks and think nothing of it. Mad.

But yes, I would never mention it, but if they asked about a previous relationship for some reason I'd just have to say there hasn't been one.
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>>18000700
I would never talk about dating history on a first date.


Took my bf and I about 6 months to talk about dating history.
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>>18000753
Well, I would hope nobody does, but I was asking just in case.

Thanks.
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guys or gals: when should I approach a girl?
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>>18000035
I kinda just felt this question did not deserve it's own thread and it is directed to guys though.

At my boyfriends job, there is constant sex scandals. 1/3 of my bf's male coworkers fuck other coworkers and are cheating on their significant other with these coworkers. They are my bf's work buddies.

My bf always fills me in on the scoop and loves to talk about the drama. Not only with me, but also other coworkers that are not involved.


For some reason, this makes me insecure. It hasn't given me a reason to suspect him from cheating. But like, we go out with the same scum coworkers, and sometimes they bring their gf and sometimes they bring the coworker they're fucking.

It creeps me out how everyone looks the other way. I get wretched anxiety that what if I am one of those gf's completely oblivious that my bf is fucking a coworker.


I work in an almost all-female field. I don't even work with people my age. Is this typical at a lot of jobs? All the sex and drama and cheating? Is this a red flag against my bf? Or do guys typically talk to their coworkers about the details of their cheating and fucking?
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>>18000799
That is not normal and yes that is a red flag. Birds of a feather.
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>>18000799
Jealousy and insecurity never stopped a cheater from cheating, but they frequently end relationships. The only way you'll know for sure is to talk to him about it. If he's reasonable he'll understand your concerns and do what he can to reassure you. If he isn't he'll get defensive.

That said, although I may be nit-picking, you said 1/3 of his coworkers fuck other coworkers. That means that it's more likely that he isn't. If he was doing it too I doubt he'd talk about it as often.

You can't have a red flag against your boyfriend because of his job. Guys talk about sex with their colleagues when it comes to one night stands, or FWB, but not if they're in a serious relationship. If they do, it shows a lack of respect. Not something I'd be happy with.

Ultimately the situation boils down to: How long are you willing to speculate and feel insecure about it? It sounds like you're concerned, and like anything in a relationship, you should talk about it.

I don't understand why he thinks you'd be interested in hearing it though. What makes him think that you want to hear that a bunch of other women are being cheated on? That's a ridiculous thought process.

How old are you both?
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>>18000812
Those aren't the only guys he hangs out with at work though. There are several other loyal men that are his much closer friends to my bf and I have become their girlfriends friend as well. Sometimes the gfs of the loyal guys and I talk about the scandal and how fucked up they are. So I mean it's not all his friends, but some are truly scum. Bf hasn't given me a reason to suspect anything. I just think the whole thing is bizarre
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>>18000825
I'm 24 and he's 28. We have talked about it and he is reassuring. I just wanted to know if this is a normal thing from outside perspectives.

I am not sure if it's an insecurity or a fear. I just put myself in the girlfriends shoes and think, fuck, if that were me I'd die of embarrassment
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>>18000841
It's hard to say how "normal" it is. It depends on the jobs and the relationships the people have there.

I currently work alone most of the time in a place where lots of people get left alone. No talk of sex or anything like that.

Previous job was quite high stakes. Lots of tension. Ended up fucking a girl on a pile of pallets in the warehouse to relieve the tension. We were both single, I should say.

The fact you're asking the internet after your boyfriend has reassured you says that it might be an insecurity. You have heard is side of things and yet you still aren't completely confident. If you would die of embarrassment because you got cheated on, that a strange reaction. If you found that out, you leave knowing you're a better person.
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Has anyone experienced their boyfriend/girlfriend changing a lot since they met them? And when confronted about it they say it's because they're just not like the way you thought they were.
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>>18000858
The embarrassing factor is that we all hang out on a rather friendly level, and it's like, being oblivious to something everyone knows. That's why it'd be embarrassing. Sometimes it makes me feel like telling the gfs of the cheaters that they are cheating. But that feels like opening pandoras box
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>>18000861
Sometimes they change. Sometimes it's just that they revert to who they were before they met you. Two friends of mine were in a relationship for twenty years. They eventually broke up because they realised they weren't being themselves, they were being what they though the other person wanted them to be.
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>>18000863
Oh I see, well that's a difficult one because if it were me, I'd want to know about it for obvious reasons, but not everybody would. Or at least they wouldn't want to find out from another person.
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>>18000864
For twently years? Sounds exhausting
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>>18000877
Well, I'm a few years younger, but they met at school when they were 13. Broke up at 33. I met them when they were 30.

I always thought they got on really well, but they were so different individually to how they were together that something always seemed off.
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Would/have you ever dated someone with oily skin?
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>>18000890
Yeah. Pretty great actually, I'd just rub the frying pan on their face before I did any cooking.
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>>18000864
We have been together for a year. I feel strange around him now that I brought this up. Ugh
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>>18000890
My bf and I have oily (but more on the combination side) faces. Our t-zones get oily.

I do those 10 step korean skin care routines and it helps me out.

I bought my bf some beard/face wash from Lush for Christmas. Because he thinks face wash alone is girly for some reason.

It's not a deal breaker. People can't help it if their skin is naturally oily. The only time it would be a deal breaker is if he looks like he doesn't take care of himself. If you have oily skin and hair, get products for oily skin/haired people! They exist. If you're still oily, try a different one.
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>>18000863
I think you should do it. Wouldn't you want to know if your partner was being unfaithful? It seems like these guys talk so much about it and there are so many elements that it couldn't be traced back to you if you didn't want it to.
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I want to ask a girl out but I don't feel I have anything to offer her and that even if she said yes she'll find out and reject me sooner or later.

What can I do about this?
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More opinions please: >>18000890


>>18000905
How often do you guys wash your face? In hot weather, mine gets oily after about 4 hours. I have to use a mattifying sunscreen. But I want to try an accutane treatment for this.

>>18000893
Shitlord pls.
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>>18000910
They could very easily say, "So... anon told me her bf told her you're cheating on me with so and so..." even if I asked them to not mention me. They could say it as proof in the heat of the moment. If I were to do it, I'd probably make a fake facebook or something to tell them.

One girl at his work did tell one of the girlfriends, and its all drama. All the cheaters are mad at her. Even some of the spectators suggested she mind her own business.

It's really fucking crazy.
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>>18000377
face, hair, butt, legs, breasts

I love breasts and legs but this is my order.
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>>18000920
>How often do you guys wash your face?
I wash mine twice a day, once in the morning and once at night. With a facial wash for oily skin. I wash again after working out or if I'm sweaty. The wash I have is gentle, so it mostly just removes the oil and sweat. It has also helped on my more oily days to keep all my hair out of my face.

My bf just washes his once a day at night in the shower. But he rinses his face with water several times during the day, which does help a little.
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>>18000923
>I'd probably make a fake facebook or something

This is exactly what I mean. The environment can only handle so much drama. With enough exposure, the whole thing will crumble for all of them.
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Both.
I asked out a woman on a date this Tuesday.
She said:
>I have classes on Tuesdays
Then right after, she posted this on her fb wall:
>>People just be dating everybody they meet like do you have a type or nahhhh

What does this mean? Should I prod for another day or quit and move on?
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>>18000957
>People just be
Move on.
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What do I do after I get a cute girls number in my class?
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>>18000377
Face, legs, hips, belly, ass = tits

Explains why I love Victoria Justice and Christine Taylor. Goddamn Victoria has legs for daysssss
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>>18000651
>When is protection expected?
whenever you want to avoid having a baby/catching an STD/STI
>casual sex/ONS
always
>relationships
it's good practice to start, but as your relationships develops you can discuss if you two want to pursue alternatives to condoms (i.e.: pill, hormone shots, pullout, IUD)
>pullout over condoms
sex feels better without a condom, but for some that risk of getting pregnant/infected is too much to outweigh the increase in pleasure. when practiced effectively, pullout is about as effective as proper condom usage, so do your homework before deciding.
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females:

would it be _that_ lame to text this girl tomorrow morning and be like "it's a beautiful day outside, perfect for going out in the city, and have a coffee! so what time should we meet up?" or something along those lines
to keep it casual and such
(weather should actually be nice, for a change)
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>>18000989
>hurr durr spoonfeed me
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>>18001042
There's no need to sound so fruity, just ask her if she wants to get a coffee. Emphasis on 'ask'
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>>18001037
>when practiced effectively, pullout is about as effective as proper condom usage

WRONG
STOP DOING THAT SHIT

Of every 100 women whose partners use withdrawal (pull-out), 4 will become pregnant each year if they always do it correctly. Of every 100 women whose partners use withdrawal, 27 will become pregnant each year if they don't always do it correctly.

Of every 100 women whose partners use condoms, 2 will become pregnant each year if they always do it correctly. Of every 100 women whose partners use withdrawal, 18 will become pregnant each year if they don't always do it correctly.

And "always doing it correctly" is way easier to do with condoms - failing with them means they rip. While failing with pull-out can happen when you get overwhelmed and accidentally nut inside.
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>>18001054
Not that anon,and you're totally right there, but honestly both are really shitty birth control methods.

1 out of every 50 women who use condoms perfectly still get pregnant after a year.

Meanwhile only 1 out of every 2000 women get pregnant after a year using an arm implant. And there's no user interaction so no way to fuck it up. Like night and day.
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>>18000989

Why did she give you her number? For a project, maybe?

Sorry, but creeps make that mistake a lot, so just making sure she actually got you were flirting.
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>>18000957

Do you think that applies to you? Did you meet and suddenly ask her out? Are you the kinda guy that dates a lot of people?
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>>18001094
1. Yes
2. No
3. Nope. In fact, this is my first time asking someone out just bluntly.
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>>18001094
Let me clarify 2:
We didn't meet, but I just suddenly asked her out.
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>>18001098

Then why do you think it applies to you?
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>>18001103
>We didn't meet, but I just suddenly asked her out.

What does this mean?

Did you know her before asking her out? For how long?
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>>18001104
I was the one who asked her out, and I assume she's exaggerating because me just bluntly sending her the request must've meant that post.

>>18001107
Also, yes. Ever since first grade. She was with me through all the schools, up to Junior High.
We only stopped contact at college and work. I work, she's in college.
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>>18001111

Ok, let me see if I have this right: You knew her, didn't see her for a long time, then asked her out over social media?
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>>18000918
Improve yourself
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I went on 2 dates with a nice girl, but I'm not sure they went well. We have a decent amount in common and she is at least physically attracted to me. What should I do?

Also, she is 6-7 years older and maybe as much as 3 inches taller than me?
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>>18001167
go on another date and see how it goes. it doesn't sound like there is any problem.
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My girlfriend (22) says that I'm (18) too dominant and pushy. My plan is to become the greatest cuck ever. Do anything she wants, CONSTANTLY ask what she wishes for, avoid sexuality, always say "Yes", say that she doesn't have to style herself, because internal beauty is more important, etc....

Will she get it? Is this a good plan?
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>>18001182

This sounds like a joke. This is not a sane plan. Don't do this.
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Females, I'm afraid the girl I like may be avoiding me. What are some signals this may be the case?

Rght now, I feel she's avoiding me because:
>The way she's talking to me seems different than usual
>She seems to not want me around
>Left a funny picture I sent her in ">seen" when normally she would have replied yo it in some way.
May not be a lot, but still.
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>>18001187
I mean... it's not that I want to see her with other guys... but wouldn't I be much more "human" by being less dominant and pushy by doing the things I've described? She should be happy with that...
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>>18001178
I don't think I spoke enough and she definitely picked up on my character flaws in way that makes me doubt she wants to continue. I did get a hug after lunch today and our first date involved her coming over to my house, drinking wine, and making out
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>>18001204

Hey if she said you a pushy, you can ease off a bit. I'm 100% behind that plan. But your plan is a complete change in personality, to become the opposite. That's insane.

Also, don't drag a fetish into your love life. Don't live as a "cuck". Learn to interact without thinking about your penis. You two are young, and she is older than you, so I can understand feeling like the power dynamic is stacked against you.

But your plan is insane. It can never work. People don't change like that AND living for a fetish won't make you happy.
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>>18001211
Don't get me wrong, I didn't mean the fetish, I was just using 4chan jargon meaning a weaker, or rather submissive personality.

What I understand from being too dominant, is that she wants me to not be dominant.
So my plan is to show her that she would lose interest in such a guy...
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>>18001216

Oh, so your plan is to annoyingly made a point to win a fight with your girlfriend. Wait a second.

HAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAAHHA

Ok, I take it this is your first girlfriend?
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anyone (male here):
>girl seems to like me
>talk to her, flirt a bit, get her name somehow
>find her in fb
>she has had a bf for months/years
is this normal? why the fuck would girls do this? should I care if they have bf? am I just too moral(?) or something?
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>>18001221
You either have studied psychology or are a witch, hahaha!

And yes, she's my first girlfriend and I am her first boyfriend.
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>>18001227

NEVER make a point in such an elaborate way. That's the best plan to have an even bigger fight. A relationship is not about being "right".

If you think her idea has merit then you could ease off a bit to be less pushy. If you think she is dead wrong, then just take it and keep doing what you do. Either she will drop the subject or decide she doesn't really like how you are. Good luck.
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>>18001223
>s this normal? why the fuck would girls do this?

You sure she lead you on? Maybe you were just reading too much into it.
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>>18001223
>is this normal?
Pretty normal.

>why the fuck would girls do this?
Maybe they are just naturally flirty.
I'm flirty with everyone, it's just how I am. I am just an awkward fuck and I become too friendly because I'm embarrassed.
Maybe you misread the flirting.
Maybe they're just bored with the relationship and wanted some attentions.
Maybe they wanted to cheat.
We don't know.

>should I care if they have bf? am I just too moral(?) or something?
Probably they don't actually want to do you.
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>>18001209
you're over-thinking it. go on another date, try to relax and enjoy her company. just take it easy and see how things progress
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>>18001223
You probably misread her intentions
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>>18001223
She was probably just being nice and you read too far into it.
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>>18001237
Then I guess I'll be doing what I'm already doing - or just follow my plan, depending on how she'll be.

Oh, oh
We won’t be run down, no we won’t stand down
We’re freedom hearts
Let you know, oh
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>>18001182
Is this serious? Of course she won't get it. What on earth are you even trying to achieve?
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>>18001252
>or just follow my plan, depending on how she'll be.

You do you, man. I do really advice against a scheme that ends with "I told you so!" But I still wish you luck.
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>>18001047
thanks, good idea with the "ask"
>just realizing this has such a low chance of success lol
>who in the world asks girls in the morning to go out on a Sunday
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>>18001248
>>18001249
>>18001238
I'm pretty sure one of them does... she's a coworker, and she will sometimes (at lunch time or when leaving) come close to me, smile, and wait for me to leave the office with her or something. we actually left the office and walked a while together a couple times.

>>18001240
could be, they seem really nice and flirty
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>>18001259
Show her what she actually wants. And that she doesn't know what she wants yet.
>>18001263
In my romantic movie head it will rather be something like: "Oh, I told you so, honey! Come, let me give you a hug!"
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>>18001267
>she's a coworker, and she will sometimes (at lunch time or when leaving) come close to me, smile, and wait for me to leave the office with her or something. we actually left the office and walked a while together a couple times.

So? That's nothing. If she has a BF, she might think it's obvious nothing is gonna happen. So she just walks with you. If that's all you need to be seduced then it's very clear you are reading too much into this.
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>>18001274
>In my romantic movie head it will rather be something like: "Oh, I told you so, honey! Come, let me give you a hug!"

Good joke. I really hope OP has been replaced by a troll at this point.
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>>18001279
Sorry, but no. I just like to include exaggerations to my life.
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>>18001288

You'll have to pick between including exaggeration or a girlfriend.
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>>18001276
well, I'm an aspie, and I have no idea why anyone would want to be my friend in the first place

but, OK, I guess I should stop thinking about her in those terms...
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>>18001292
So you are telling me that I have to choose between my (allegedly narcissistic) personality and a girlfriend?
Isn't a relationship something where you can express yourself as you are?
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>>18001297
Not for you, you're a dick.
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>>18001295
>>18001223
btw, I'm not even ugly, I know I'm attractive, just socially retarded
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>>18001297
>Isn't a relationship something where you can express yourself as you are?

You can express yourself. She can choose to leave you if she finds you annoying. "Being free to express oneself" is not the same as "Being free of consequences from one's actions". Just remember that.
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>>18001304
You're right at this point. However, I wish you good luck!
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>>18001295
>>18001301

Don't sweat it. We all have our problems to interact, else we wouldn't really be here. But what made me answer you was how you thought she was playing you or something. How you were ready to say it was her fault.

Relax and try to self reflect without insulting yourself. Yeah, you didn't read her right. No biggie. Learn and move on. Don't linger, and don't keep labeling yourself as an "aspie" or a "social retard". Just learn for the next time. Good luck.
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>>18001311
nah, I really have social problems, I really am an aspie and socially retarded
I'm trying to fix myself now that I can, but I've been reclusive for a long time... and have never had a gf in the first place, so it's difficult for me to understand girls
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>>18001333

Well then, you life will be hard if reading people is too hard for you. You can still still function in society, though, so good luck. Improve as much as you can.
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>>18001338
you wouldn't believe it... I've missed so many things in my life, and have been so stupid, it makes me feel like shit
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I have a huge crush on a girl who i've never seen, only heard her voice, and have almost nothing in common with.
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>>18001403

You are obsessing over a silly thing. Get out more and meet more people. You seem to lack social interaction in your life.
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>>18001408
This is probably better advice than i'd like to admit. But will be comparing voices.
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Mostly a question for women, but males welcome too.

I have a friend, told her my feelings, rejected. Sucks but ok. Still friends but slowly stop talking. See her months later, reconnect and have a ton of fun, friends again. Great because shes my go to for emotional support/dating advice I dont get from male friends and vice versa.

Anyway, she texts a lot, honestly kind of exhausting sometimes since I have no vested interested in dating her anymore, but want to stay friends so try to stay engaged. There are some times that I can't text cause im with a fuck buddy and she gets super nosy/annoying when people are texting me (i put up with it cause sex duh) so I tell my friend i cant text much on those nights. She knows about this girl cause Ive asked for advice. The thing is, the day after or day of even she gets really curt with our texts. One word replies, not really engaging all that much. It doesnt last too long tho..

Recently I asked her if she wanted to see a movie this upcoming weekend. She was down but would confirm for sure next day..A day passes and she hadnt gotten back to me about the movie. Today she asks me if movie is still happening tomorrow, I tell her idk cause fuck buddy wants to have a party but cant decide the day yet. She says "oh ok lmk" I ask her if the day after would be fine if I cant do tomorrow. She just texts "ok". I say sweet and that I'll try to bully my friend into making the party tonight so we have tomorrow, just making a bit of a joke cause I could tell she was doing the terse text thing again. She sends me "ok :(" I didnt respond, I thought about asking her whats up but I said fuck it let her deal with whatever

What is going on? Why is she mad at me? I always feel she gets like this when we talk about stuff like hookups even though we both tell each other about our own. She rejected me, she told me she doesnt see me romantically, why does she pull this jealous act?
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If a girl singles you out to add you on facebook, does that mean anything?

Me and some friends meet for drinks on the weekend and sometimes there are trivia nights. Recently a girl has joined our group invited by a mutual friend. She's pretty cool, laid back and not bad at trivia either. Shes joined us twice for trivia so far. Anyway, at one point during the most recent trivia night, she says to me since we're trivia partners now we should be friends on facebook. I give it to her, and I expect her to ask other members of our group but she only asked me. I wasn't the only one who she had just met either.

I didnt realize it till a few days later. Should I be trying to pursue something here or is this fairly innocuous? Not really feeling her that way but I do like when women take interest cause its kinda rare.
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>>18001408
Lol is this a normie central?

Ignore the social roastie. Most people are not worth your time.
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>>18001415

Maybe she likes you now. Maybe she is lonely and you seem like a good option. Maybe she is just jealous that you don't really "need" her as much now. Etc.

Plenty of reasons for what she could be acting this way. But ask yourself: If she worth upsetting your social life right now? Is she worth risking what you already have for a "maybe"?

I'm not trying to make her look like the bad choice. Just saying. How happy are you with your current situation?
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>>18001114
Yes. Actually, we chatted long before me asking her out, starting about a month ago.
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>>18001447

Wow, wasn't expecting an answer after all this time.

You should move on. Asking someone out on chat is awful. If you can't see her enough to ask in person, you probably won't be able to date much.

Also, if you two dropped contact, you might not have had much in common before, right? What makes you think a month of chatting can change that?

So yeah, she was talking about you. This comes off as desperate, as you really didn't have time to build anything between you two before asking her out.
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>>18001428
I dont see how she would upset my social life. What do you mean? If you mean not going to the party then of course not. im not gonna drop everything just to see a movie with this chick for, like you said, just a "maybe". Im just confused why she gets this way sometimes. im really just trying to be a friend cause I like having her as one, so I listen to her hookup stories and talk about guys she likes, but i dont get why she always tries to steer the convo away when i start talking about my own or gets all weird.
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>>18001526
>but i dont get why she always tries to steer the convo away when i start talking about my own or gets all weird.

Maybe you care more about her as a friend than what she cares about you. She could just be selfish like that.

Maybe the way you talk about those things seems like a "pick up" attempt. Like you are trying to make her jealous or something.

We are not in her head, so we don't know how it looks from her perspective.
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Is it weird to ask a girl to hang out two times in one day?

We met about a week ago at a party and ended up making out that day, I got her number and set up plans to hang out earlier today with a couple of friends of hers and mine and that went decently, we're both kind of awkward I think but we get each other to smile and she would move her face in close if she wanted to say something to me every now and again, but it kind of ended with an awkward goodbye. My roommate and I randomly decided to have a small party tonight and I want to ask her if she wants to come by but don't wanna seem too needy or clingy.
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>Talk to a pretty girl in some local store, tell her we should hang out some time, get her name
>Search for her name in fb (small city, relatively easy to find people)
>Turns out she's 18 y.o., and has a kid
>I'm 30... And have no love experience
What have I done with my life...

Please give me a list of reasons not to do this. I know I shouldn't... But I like her :(
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>>18001620
You should do it if you think she's pretty anon. You're not committing to marrying her and adopting her child or anything and you could get some good experience out of it at the very least.
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trouble living life after my ex.

I'm afraid to make a move. I feel wrong in the break up, because I dragged it out for so long, instead of just letting go.

Basically, she cheated on me, and I took her back and tried to make it work, and she fell really in love with me, but I couldn't return the favor, so I called it off after 2 years of trying really hard.

Now I'm intimidated to upload a new facebook picture for some reason. Like, there's some part of me that wants her back, but then there's a big part of me that wants me to move forward, and smile, and live my life again.

But, I feel so bad for wasting her time after she cheated on me. She's not a bad girl, she just made a dumb mistake, and I can't be with her because of that.

I think if we could both go back in time, and stop that from happening, we would.
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If a girl asks you something, then spends fucking ages (like ~30 mins) before checking your response, does that probably mean they don't like you? Like I didn't start a conversation or anything, but this girl sends me a snap or fbook message out of nowhere then waits like half an hour before opening my response and it's not just on one day (so it's not like she's super busy at the time) and I can see she's active on facebook so what are some ideas on what's going on? It's super annoying cause I lose any interest in a conversation if it's stretched out over such a long period. I got shit to do, I don't got 6 hours for a conversation.
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>>18000377
face ass/nipples everything else
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Girls, do you ever start rejecting someone you've been romantically attached to for seemingly no reason? Or is there always a reason? Does the following backstory mean anything, or should I take it as a phase and try my hardest to deal with it for now?

My gf of 4+ years has started acting like a total cunt to me and has lied about or dodged all the questions I ask her, regardless of what they are. She stated there is no reason to care for me (despite saying I'm the most amazing guy she's ever met) and that she has not loved me for nearly a month now. We've both already made plans for our lives together and our future, and although we have our disagreements here and there, for the most part everything is calm and we debate and work out a compromise.

It may be nothing, but I'm partially convinced she's bipolar.
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Is it better to feel like you've settled for less, or to be forever alone?
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>>18001541
>Maybe you care more about her as a friend than what she cares about you. She could just be selfish like that.

That makes me sad :(

When we stopped talking that first time I felt so bad because I was focused on my own feelings. I told her this, and she agreed it was the right decision, but maybe she still feels a bit bitter toward me cause of it.
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>>18001091
No, it was just a general question. Maybe I asked for it cause were in the same class or some shot?

Im just shot at texting and was wondering.
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>>18001850
I swear I typed shit both times
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>>18001839
another man.
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>>18001839
>She stated there is no reason to care for me and that she has not loved me for nearly a month now.
That is not a thing that sane people say. There is always reason to care for someone, and even if you didn't, those aren't things that you say to someone unless your goal is to hurt them.
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>>18001800
We can't really know. The best way to tell these things is how it differs from her habits with everyone else she talks to. Even then, there are a lot of factors at hand.
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>>18001274
>>18001216
>So my plan is to show her that she would lose interest in such a guy...
Look at this, you dunce: Your plan is to make her lose interest in you. You want her to be annoyed with you and turned off at your behavior. It would be hard for her to regain interest after she knows what you're capable of. Interest is best kept alive if it's KEPT alive. If you let her extinguish the flame, you making ANOTHER 180 will not make her more turned on. It will be weaker than ever before.

But maybe we should just let you fuck up, because you're an idiot and a manipulative shit tester and don't deserve nice things.
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>>18000571
Sounds like she like feminine and submissive men. She is the exception to the rule. You shouldn't take a hit to your pride over the preferences of one girl.
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>>18001842
Well one is only hurting you. The other is honestly hurting you and someone else. I'd go with the lesser of two evils.
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Alright ladys,
Im currently sitting in my car waiting for coworker i like to take lunch so we can go get food. Im going to tell her i like her. Ive already put in most of the work i just have to tell her directly. Any recommendations before i spill my spaghetti
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>>18002044
>Im going to tell her i like her
That's more spaghetti than there is in all of Italy. Just ask her out, don't tell her you like her.
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>>18000035
Whats it like to have genitals?
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>>18002052
This is the second time were going out to get food. I have her number. I dont wana be a beta orbiter
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>>18002054
you're going to be a beta restraining order signer in a bit man
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Girls and guys

I have this strong desire to have sex with a cute girl. But I won't let myself do it. I don't believe in casual sex. But, I also don't want a girlfriend. It's difficult ignoring feelings sometimes. But, it's what has to be done.

Any advice to help me keep my mind off sex? Music, Movies, TV, and going to the gym doesn't help
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>>18000035
>>Where do I meet girls/guys?
>Anywhere outside
dont lie to me faq
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>>18002054
You're already on track to be an orbiter. Take her to dinner and shit, not just some lunch break. This is probably your last chance.
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>>18002106
Yeah, i went out on my porch today. There were no girls there, so i went back inside.
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>>18002098
Lots of masturbation.
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>>18002098
Either have casual sex or go treat your bipolarity
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>>18002118

I used to do that, but I determined it wasn't good for me. I feel healthy if I don't fall.

>>18002120

I just really don't feel comfortable with casual sex. I don't believe in in. Also, I'm not bipolar.
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>>18000571
>t. /fit/
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>>18001054
wrong
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What is the best website for meeting people? Does anyone have any success stories they could share? Friends or partners, either.
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What does it mean if a girl says that you don't want to date someone like them when you ask them out?

Easy let down?
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>>18002193
It means she cheats or can't commit or be serious.
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>>18002205

>she cheats

I don't understand why people cheat. I don't get it. One of my female co-workers is so open about it. She has cheated twice on her boyfriend in the past 2 weeks and acts like it's nothing. I asked her to explain but I didn't understand
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My girlfriend of two months randomly started disconnecting from me about a week ago, and yesterday we said we'd work on our relationship because we care about each other. We haven't had sex. Abandon ship?
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>>18002215
If shits already falling apart only two months in, it's pretty doomed.
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femanons do you prefer men with beards or without beards?
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>>18002157
That's where I spend most of my time on 4chan
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>>18002260
Without
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Girls and guys

I literally can not imagine a girl being intimate with me. I'm not bad looking, be even still I honestly can't picture it in my head. It doesn't seem real. I have had sex once, quite a few years ago, it was a bad experience and seems as if it never even happened. But any thoughts I have about girls not, doesn't seem possible for a girl to be intimate with me like in the movies. I can't picture it.

Just curious if anyone else feels this way.
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>>18002333
I felt that way until I met my current gf. Though I also find it hard to imagine anyone besides her liking me.
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>>18002333
Yes. I can't picture any girl being intimate with you either.
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>>18002336

This shit almost seems like fiction to me Tbh. Literally can not picture a girl being intimate with me. I'm 28 btw.


>>18002344

I know right?
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>>18002260
It depends on the guy but generally with.
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Why do artsy girls like guro so much
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girls

The longest relationship I've ever had was for 6 months, and I'm 25.

Is this a red flag?
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>>18002260
Without
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Guys, I fucked up. I accidentally turned a guy down because I didn't understand what he was asking at the time, because I am apparently retarded.
This interaction happened a week and a half ago and I only JUST understood it now when talking about it to a friend. I didn't run into him at last week, so that was the last interaction we had (sometimes we run into each other on campus between classes - we're undergrads).
My friend has his email from when she worked on a group project with him. Would it be weird if I emailed him my number and asked him to get coffee with me? Weird because he didn't actually give me his email directly? I don't want to come off as creepy.
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Was looking for the "write a letter to somebody who will never read it" thread, but didn't see one so I'll post this here.

Guys- should I say any of this to him? What's your opinion?:

I'm sorry I've been distant. It's just that I had a lot going on and didn't know what to do and kind of had an existential crisis after leaving our group for a job I hate. I really like you and want to spend more time with you but there are some things I really need to work on. You've been wonderful and amazing and I'm sorry to ask to put you second again. It's hopefully just going to be a few weeks. Being with you has been a game changer and made me realize that there is a lot I need to work on. I want to go into this as the best me I can be. For you. And E. For all of us.

You're such a strong personality and as a mom I have had no choice but to be a strong personality. I forgot how to date, how to have a relationship and be cute while I'm really living a lie pretending everything is fine while I'm just barely holding it together. I accepted when you asked to enter my world. Now I need to do my part because you also invited me into yours. I love you and want the people I love to have the best of everything. Starting today
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>>18000377
Face>Tits>Ass>Thighs>Legs
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>>18002524
It might be a little. You'd be better off trying to see him again in person.
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>>18002534
If you've been acting like an idiot lately, explaining yourself and apologizing can't really hurt. I'd avoid giving too many details though, because then it just sounds like you're making excuses. But I think it's better off to just tell them face to face, or at least on a phonecall instead of a text or whatever.

>as a mom
wew laddy

>>18002106
I never understood why cold approaching is so strongly advocated here. I've never seen it work out in the real world, you're better off meeting women through common interests.

>>18002044
Why not just ask her out on an actual date? Expressing your ~ETERNAL LOVE~ just makes things weird, a date with a clear motive still cuts through all the bullshit but still keeps it relatively low pressure.
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>>18000377
1. Body type (if you are obese I want nothing to do with you. You can be chubby but not a literal manatee)
2. Skin Color (I'm not white, but my skin is fairly pale, I'd like someone with either a similar skin tone or paler, I still find women of darker skin tones attractive, but considering a serious, long term relationship with them would be hard for me because if I'm looking for someone to mother my wife's children, I'd like them not to be darker than me)
3. Face (smile, nice cared for teeth > eyes/gaze > nice hair (not dyed or at least not in unnatural colors AND feminine) > lack of facial piercings are a plus, at least for me)
4. legs + ass (equally important, as I see it you can't have one without the other)
5. tits (don't really care about the size as long they are perky, flat chests are fine for me.)

Other things that influence whether or not I will be interested in someone.
- The way that they dress, I mostly like "feminine" women, as pure girly type, not really interested in women that dress slutty or dress like men.
- No tattoos, I don't like them I think they are trashy, sue me. I could overlook small ones, but there is very low bar for acceptance for me on this.

This is what I would consider I'm "physically" looking in a woman.

Hope it helps.
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Women,
what does it mean when you tell to your significant other that you love them, but then you dump them a week later?
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>>18000890
Yes, I don't mind it at all. Male btw.
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I'm a virgin. I just had my first kiss last night with a girl i've begun seeing. I think she is gonna fuck me tomorrow, or at least do some sexy times. How do i prepare? I told her when we kissed that it was my first kiss, so she could probably guess that I'm also a virgin. She said she needs to corrupt me, and she needs to show me life, so that probably means we are gonna fug. either way, how do i prepare? what are some maneuvers or tips to share? guy or girl point of view welcomed
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>>18002173
>meeting people
if by meeting you mean potential partners I'd go with Okcupid or Tinder.
if you just want to meet people with common interest, I would suggest meetup.com
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>>18002524
If he already made his intentions clear, I guess it would be fine with going like this, but I also feel that the first you should do is to apologize to him.
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>>18002603

It means she lied.
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>>18002534
>as a mom
kek
this guy is already a cuck anyway so doesn't matter what you write to him, he'd probably just eat it up.
As a side note, as I see it relationships are for the enjoyment and mutual support of the people involved, if you go around getting your interpersonal relationships affected by your school/work problems, that's no really appealing to guys. It's ok to wind out your feelings once in a while, but if you are like this all the time, it could be only decremental for you. Maybe that's while your child doesn't have a daddy. :^)
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>>18002609
The most important thing is to make sure is gonna be safe..
Get some condoms and learn how to properly use them. Making sure she is clean would also be appropriate...
I don't think she is expecting an outstanding performance from you, and as you said, she probably already know that you are a virgin so no pressure on that either.
Just go with whatever you want and enjoy yourself, you are just learning.
As everything, learning how to do it right, takes some tries and failures, just like when you learned how to ride a bike, you didn't got it right the first time, maybe you fell a couple of times after that, but after practicing you manage to do it instinctively and even it without using your hands (?).
Don't be scare, remember this is a girl that is willing taking off her clothes before you and letting you touch her, don't be afraid of touching her or changing positions if you want to. I'm pretty sure that if she ever feels uncomfortable with anything you are doing, she will let you know and would tell you how can you do it right.

Godspeed, lucky bastard.
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>>18002621
well that's a really shitty realization.
More over, how do I know if she wasn't lying a month before that toot.. or two months prior?
How can I be even sure she felt something for me in the first place?
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>blow it with the one girl who wanted more than just my dick on a second date
>friends treat me like shit
Where can I go from here?
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>>18000377
Face, Butt/hips, breast, legs, having a heart that pump.
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>>18000377
Face
Hair
Butt
Tits
Legs
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>>18000377
Face
Waist
Legs
Breasts
Butt
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>>18002215
Two months in and already "work on the relationship".... bail
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>>18002524
Do it. The alternative is giving up because of a goof.

How you got his address can be a ropic/icebreaker for your coffee.
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>>18002648
You don't
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Girls:

How the fuck do I get my female friend to stop hitting on me? She is really autistic and won't stop making advances on me. I try to gracefully shut it down every time, but she just takes that to mean that she should try something else.

Last time she asked me if I wanted to see her panties, I told her that she shouldn't do those things to someone she's not in a relationship with and she just proceeds to lift up her skirt anyways and ask if I could look

I don't want to deal with this anymore, but I don't want to cut her off because when she's not being a horny autist she's genuinely interesting and fun to be around.
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>>18002847
Flat out say you're not interested. Autists need to be told directly, just being soft all the time won't get the message across.
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Guy with a rather high sex drive here.

My girlfriend doesn't seem to want to have sex. We do have sex, she enjoys it, gets off multiple times, feels better after having it, but never ever initiates it and when we make plans to, will try and get out of it.

I don't really know what to do, she's a little inexperienced, I'm her second guy, but the first one she only had sex twice and never got off. Not sure if this has anything to do with it. No abuse that shes told me about in her past and we're pretty open with each other about stuff, so I don't think shes hiding anything from me.

Really don't know, nothing like this ever happened with my other girlfriends and I'm not unattractive. We definitely are in love, or at least, I think so. It kind of makes me doubt myself a little.

She'll never outright reject me, but at the same time, it's not really easy and I feel like I have to convince her a little too much a lot of the time.

Any advice, or help is appreciated. Thanks anons.
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>>18002877
All you can do is talk to her and find out. It could be any number of things causing it.

What was she like when you first started going out? Were you getting it a lot or was it this way from the beginning?
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>>18002879
We've been together for six months, been having sex for about 4 and a half of those. I would say its been like this from the beginning, maybe after the first few weeks she felt more comfortable with trying to get out of it.

It's really super depressing, because idk wtf to do. If sex is a problem, then this relationship is not for me, but I really do love her a lot. I'm also not sure if I'm doing something wrong, or what, there seems to be NO downside. She doesn't work right now, isn't studying, basically just taking a small break from life, so its not like shes tired or whatever most of the time.
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>>18002853
I have friend zoned her but she always finds a way around it
"I don't like you like that" turns into "it's okay, we can still practice as friends.."
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>>18002882
I guess talk to her and see whats up. If things don't change though, you'll probably have to leave her. Sex isn't a big part of a relationship really but when something goes wrong, it becomes a very big problem. I've been there and the only way is to either talk it through or leave.
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>>18002882
Dude maybe she just has a low sex drive or your sex drive is way too high
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>>18000193
>>hey do you want to come over to my place and discuss the assignments then fuck?
kek
right on, Casanova
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>>18002908
Maybe. It's my birthday today and she was telling me she'd make it special and whatever for awhile.

She ended up sleeping the time I was able to spend time with her in the morning, then I had a family thing in the evening. Now after being home for a little while she was all "so am I off the hook for tonight?" to which I don't even really know what to say, it's really off putting.

>>18002903
Thank you.
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I made a thread of this but, it never got any replies so any gender can answer.

29 here.
>Failed normie.
>Got fired from 3 jobs back to back to back.
>Was homeless.
>Was sucidal.
>Pussied out, moved back in with parents.
>Got shitty temp job (under employed, don't work 40 hours a week.
>Apply to better job.
>Intense dread breaks me.
>Oh I'll finish this later.
>"Oh I'll do this later"
>Can't bring myself to better myself because I know I'll fuck up.
>Thoughts of suicide.
>Dream of it.
>Want it.
>Can't bring myself to do it. I was close last time.
>I'm so ashamed.

Everything I do is failure.
I'm even ashamed for trying. All this effort is a huge waste. How do even begin to turn my life around?
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>>18002910
>she was all "so am I off the hook for tonight?"
if i heard that i'd of told her its over right then
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>>18002909
No
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>>18002915
see a therapist
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>>18002910
Oh shit man
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>>18000377
Not really importance but preference: likeable personality (other), face, legs, breasts/butt.
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>>18002877
Girl with a rather high sex drive

I've been with men with what I call low sex drives. At first I could take it on the chin, I mean, in the beginning of the relationships we used to have sex at least once a week if things were dire. Fast forward to being several years in and it's dropped to once every couple of months, and one time a six month dry spell.

The result of this was that I felt like I was starving and walking through a supermarket at the same time. Whenever he touched me my body would get into "ready, set, go" mode and it was horrible. He didn't like it because he said that whenever he approached me for cuddles I would try to have sex, and I couldn't deal with the lack of sex after a while. It led to stuff that could be qualified as sexual assault after a while where I had him pinned under me and got aggressive because he still said no. I never understood how men could rape someone they loved but then I got it.
Needless to say we broke up. The funny thing was, we broke up because he cheated.

Second boyfriend went through a phase where he was heavily stressed due to work and stopped having sex. The sex there wasn't great already so when it stopped altogether, that was the death rattle for the relationship. I stopped loving him, lost respect and left.

Sorry if I sound extremely negative but I just wanted it to be a cautionary tale. Mismatched sex drives are horrible. They can eat you up and leave you a depressed mess, feeling unattractive and repulsive while you get wet/hard with the slightest brush of wind just because it hasn't been in action for so long.
Funnily enough when I am single I don't even have one night stands, because I know I'm not "supposed" to have it. But when I am living with a significant other and he is there all the time and I can't even get laid once a week I just go crazy.
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>>18003032
This is what I'm really afraid of. I don't think I would ever 'rape' her, but when it happens I feel like shit and I feel totally unattracted to her because of it, because it hurts and I don't understand at all. I would like to say I really don't think it's her sex drive either, but maybe I'm wrong. She does love the sex, legitimately, but just doesn't want to have it. I don't know.

Thank you, I really appreciate your input.
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>>18000193
>Is this text ok?
Yes, totally.
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>>18002882
>I'm also not sure if I'm doing something wrong
You shouldn't blame yourself. This isn't your fault.

I agree with this anon >>18003032
I was the other side of the coin. I relate a lot with this
>He didn't like it because he said that whenever he approached me for cuddles I would try to have sex
Whereas anon here would tense up with sexual tension every time she was touched, I would tense up with anxiety every time I was touched. I was fine at the beginning, but after a few months and years of this cycle, I was panicked.
"Oh god, he's going to try to have sex with me again. I don't want to do this. I'm a bad girlfriend if I don't do this. Please don't. I just want to cuddle and be comforted. Please please please"

>>18003047
>She does love the sex, legitimately, but just doesn't want to have it
This isn't really the right way to think of sex drives. I would kind of relate it to exercise. Because, y'know, it is exercise.
When you're supposed to go out on a run, you might be resistant. But then when you do it, halfway through it might feel pretty good because of the endorphins.
For some people, that memory is enough to get them out the door. For others, they're still going to be resistant.

Sex is a lot more complicated than anything else. It is a very base lizard-brain thing. There are a lot of instincts and hormones that go into this process. Choosing sexual partners is a lot more significant for the female than for the male, since the female has much more consequences for who they choose. This "choosing" is much deeper than just the surface level logic. Like that study of women who smelled men's tshirts and then ranked them on who they liked best. The men with the most different immune system than she did ranked highest- because their children would have better immune systems.
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>tfw I'm the only footfag on /adv/
;_;
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>>18000377

While we do partition women into segments of body parts - due to our vision being more focused than females' - I'd say the determining factor for attractiveness in females comes from the quick calculation of combining these segments into one image. That is, the collection of all segments working in tandem completing a holistic image - it's why, from a distance, we may see a chick and think she's hot as she's far away and has an attractive lithe silhouette, but as we get closer we see she's actually an older lady. Our jump to conclusion to believe they are attractive comes from the initial silhouette.

This determining shape follows Fibonacci's rule - hips to waist, slenderness of legs, proportional upper body, and in most cases long hair. I never understood why whalehumpers go after fatties, or how this thicc meme began, those kind of girls are just not attractive and I think men that go after them are hyperbeta nerdlords, desperate and delusional losers, or are just being ironic.
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Guys

What do you do if the Type of girl you're really attracted to is very difficult to get? Would you settle for less, why?
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>>18003056
I'll add on to my experience:

I experienced a weird thing with my last relationship to my current one. I have a feeling it correlates, but who knows, I might be wrong.
I loved my ex. He was a great guy and attractive. I've never wanted kids and he agreed. I really don't think I'd be a great mom, and I don't really think he'd be a great dad either.

Now my current boyfriend, this freaky thought comes into my head. "He really would make a great dad. He'd pair great with my idiosyncrasies and we'd be a good team of parents."
I still don't logically want kids. But I think my lizard brain sees him and is rev'd up. Back to the smell thing - his smell drives me crazy horny. I keep his shirts when he's away. We have sex every night. I can't keep my hands off of him.

I don't really get it. When I first got with him, I actually said to him - "I have a really low sex drive and it's caused me a lot of grief in the past. I wanted to say this upfront."
Cut a week later, and we're panting and ripping at each others' clothes.
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>>18003056
That's really interesting, I didn't know about that. I understand what you're saying, but it sounds an awful lot like 'you're not really compatible', which sucks, because she is a really amazing person and our relationship outside of this problem, is really great.

I never ever want her to feel like that, to have anxiety about me wanting sex when I cuddle her, but at the same time, I don't know if I could ever prevent that.

Did you leave that person, was it related to feeling that way?

This whole fucking things sucks so much, because I really can't deal with this shit feeling, it may seem selfish but I have needs too, needs that need to be fulfilled by her and it just isn't working right now. I'll talk to her I guess.

Thank you so much.
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>>18003062
Such a basic fetish. Get some taste.
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>>18003075
I think most guys would eventually (Lates 20's and 30's). I have to much dignity so I wouldn't.
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>>18003075
I'd give up and stay single. I'd improve myself until I can get someone like her.
#NeverSettle

>>18003079
>being snobby about fetishes
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How do aspie/autistic girls compare to normal girls?
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I said something dumb to a friend of mine, she was trying to cheer me up after so many terrible things happened to me the past month, she told me she will be there for me and if there is anything she could do to make me feel better (lol) You know where this is going... I sort of told her I have never had anal sex with a girl and that she could help, what followed was the most awkward five minutes of silence in my (and probably her) life. She asked me if I'm being serious, I totally laughed it off and said of course it's a joke and apologized. She went into the bathroom for a few minutes to wash her face and then told me she had to go.

Should I just act like nothing happened next time we meet? One more thing came to mind: A LOT of my friends have tried to fuck her but all got shot down, and they have been putting sexual images of her into my mind whenever we have drinks ("imagine K's lips around your dick, wouldn't you like to cum on her face etc" lol)
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>>18003077
I did leave him. There was a host of other problems, but it certainly contributed. It caused a lot of conflict. He felt rejected and unloved, and I felt unappreciated and objectified. At one point he said, "If we don't have sex, we're just glorified roommates". Which, looking back, was a cry for help. At the time, it cut me to the core. I thought, Of all the consideration and effort I put in for you, I would never do all that for just some roommate.

You're right, it really does sound like you two aren't compatible. And that sucks. I'm sorry.
There's kind of this idea that two people should only separate because one person did something unforgivably bad to the other. But sometimes you just aren't a good match. Neither of you are bad people. It's just not the right fit. And it'd be best for the two of you to go your own ways and find someone who is a good fit.

Certainly talk about it. Maybe try going to a couples therapist if you really want to fight this. Something I tried, and helped a bit, of getting through my last relationship is to bite through my instincts telling me "no" and to let it start, so that the physical pleasure would keep me going until the end. But it kind of really sucked to do that.
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>>18002910
It seems like she's struggling to keep up with your sex drive. I hate when people force themselves to have sex, it's really cringeworthy. Her only option to keep you pleased would be to fuck your brains out and drain your balls to emptiness, but since she doesn't seem up for it, break up. I'm not able to keep a relationship in which I'm not sexually satisfied
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>>18003087
>literally having the most common fetish
This is why I called you basic, yet you thought you were somehow special with the ''only one on /adv/ with a foot fetish'' bullshit.
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Why does edging feel better than orgasm?
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>>18003095
Damn, man. That is very forward. Even if I did want to have sex with a guy, him jumping to requesting anal before we even kissed is pretty off putting.
Sounds like she's a little tired of all her male friends trying to fuck her and her having to say 'no no no' all the time.

I really don't know how you'll recover from this. I considered telling her about your friends, but then she'd have the added horror of knowing that everyone was constantly sexualizing her, and it would also look like you're trying to blame someone else.

I suggest apologizing to her again when you see her next. Tell her that it was misguided sexuality. You were lonely and she was caught in the crossfire, and you're so so sorry. You appreciate her being there for you, and that that makes her a really good friend.
From here on out, completely avoid anything that would look like you're flirting with her. Give her time to rebuild trust with you. She'll need to see that you really don't intend to do anything. And then maybe she'll become comfortable with you again and forgive you.
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>>18003104
Because your high is constant. Orgasms are too fast for men. The orgasm after edging is awesome, but after it's over it's over.
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>>18003109

I'm a guy, and I actually don't like orgasms. My are really weak, but not only that. But the post-O feeling is not a good feeling. I feel dizzy, my heart feels odd, and I feel extremely unmotivated and down. It's pretty uncomfortable
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Girls

Why is it that you mostly cut ties with male friends the second you get a boyfriend?

This girl and I became really good friends over the past year. We bonded pretty close. We talked about everything, had a lot of fun, and even helped each other through our problem. We were both very honest about our lives with each other. We developed a lot of trust. I really enjoyed our friendship. Well, it seems as soon as she got a boyfriend, everything ended. I only hear from her maybe once a month now, and it's very brief. It really makes me feel like shit Tbh. It kills my self esteem because it just goes to show that even with people I trust, I'm replaceable..

Why do you do this to good friends?
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>>18003062
>I have a common fetish but want to feel like a special snowflake so I pretend i'm LOL SO WEIRD for having it ;_;
kys

>>18003075
all girls except for fatties are difficult to get. If you mean more difficult than even most girls, then think about whether you're being too picky and think about expanding your stadards
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>>18001425
you're reading too much in it. chill m8, not everyone single is thirsting for your cock.

>>18001571
>a week ago
Unless you made a big impact on her to make her care, she probably forgot about you.

>>18001620
Its going to be difficult. 18 means she's not fully mature yet in decision making, hence child.

>>18001799
whats your question? just get over her already and find someone else.

>>18001800
she's probably too busy flirting with chad. but seriously, she's doing something else and left her FB open.

>>18001839
dump this bitch.

>>18001842
never settle with someone just because "eh, I want someone and she just happens to be there". You'll regret it when someone better comes along.

>>18002044
you're already losing the battle before it happens. Ask her out first.

>>18002053
depends, which ones?

>>18002106
get a job and meet people from there.

>>18002215
>2 months and the leaks on the ship
abandon ship

>>18002260
without if you expect kisses

>>18002333
whats the question?

>>18002524
Then meet up with him and ask. Sure you'll look indecisive but better that than regret.

>>18002662
context?

>>18002847
be direct and tell her youre not interested. Dont beat around the bush.

>>18003062
get on my level.

>>18003075
some guys would settle but that'll only cause problems later on. Some girls are difficult yes but would you rather have them too easy to the point that every guy has had their way with her one way or another?

>>18003093
poorly

>>18003095
Too bad m8, she now thinks youre after her ass. Next time dont talk about your fetishes so abruptly

>>18003130
We usually set down some rules asap and one rule guys would set is not to be too close with other guys. It makes the jealous and I'd probably feel the same way.
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>>18003134
> busy girl has arrived
kek
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>>18003131

Not the person you replied to, but I'm an American guy, and I just have a thing for European girls. I think it's a combination of their accents, style, and just they seem genuinely interesting to me. There is nothing special or interesting about American girls to me. I really have no interest in them. But, since I live in the US, and the odds of me being able to move to Europe are extremely slim. I'm fucked.. I still don't want to settle for less
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>>18003134

>We usually set down some rules asap and one rule guys would set is not to be too close with other guys. It makes the jealous and I'd probably feel the same way

I guess that makes sense... I haven't actually talked with her in 5 months. I asked her if she wanted to Skype or call a few weeks ago and she never responded to that question. It just really kills my self esteem. it makes me feel as if I did something wrong. It makes me feel like I'm not worth being friends with. She acts like it's so casual too. One of the times we talked she said "well it's the weekend! You should go out with a bunch of your closest friends and go find some cute girls to have fun in ;) " like what the hell. None of that is going to happen. I don't even know why she's suggest that.. which makes me feel worse
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Is it easy to get laid with sluts?

Do they fuck anything that moves or do they just want Chad or Tyrone's dick?

I'm strictly talking about sex, I don't want anything else

t. Virgin
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>>18003098
We don't have sex that often, I want to, but I don't try to initiate it because I feel like shit every time that I do. We have sex maybe once a week.
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>>18003147

They want Chad and Tyonne's cock.. also Tyrese
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>>18003130
Option one: she was keeping you around as an orbiter for the occasional ego and bodily stroke. Now she's together it's over.

Option two: the boyfriend is actually quite jealous

Option three: it's the honeymoon phase and she's busty shagging until her cunt hurts, give her some time ans see if you get back in touch
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>>18003138
I'm pretty bored atm so yeah.

>>18003146
Dont revolve your life around her, there are plenty of other fish in the sea.
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>>18003130
>>18003146
She might be an obsessive type who spends every free second with her new beau. She probably said that because she can tell that you're sad that she's not talking to you, and she wants you to make other friends.
Sometimes we just fall out of touch with friends. It's not because they're bad people or did anything wrong. People just move on and are doing other things. You shouldn't take it personally.
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>>18003160
Fug

>>18003161

The thing is, I'm a loyal friend, and friendships are the most important thing to me. I don't have a family, so the few friends I have are really important to me. I get that people get busy, and sometimes a long time passes between when we talk or hang out. I understand that. But in the case with this girl, it just seems she doesn't care about me as a friend or something anymore which hurts. I don't know what it's like to be connected to family, but maybe it's similiar to if you were really close to a brother or sister, and then the just fell of the grid and stopped contact with you
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>>18003120
Even after edging? That's odd

I'm a guy too, and I usually edge for a few minutes to an hour in masturbation or sex. In one occasion I edged for three hours in a threesome and felt realized, but on the next day I had sex and that was the strongest orgasm I ever had. I was literally howling and shaking for a full minute.

>>18003148
That's why I say that your only option is to make those few times count. Maybe edge for the week, tease her lightly, and cum two or three times. If she can't keep up with you to do it, I guess there isn't much you can do.
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>>18003108
Right, she just texted she will come to my place again tonight.
Maybe I can just apologize with a text?

>You appreciate her being there for you, and that that makes her a really good friend

I think (I hope) she already knew this. But I will tell her again.

>completely avoid anything that would look like you're flirting with her. Give her time to rebuild trust with you. She'll need to see that you really don't intend to do anything. And then maybe she'll become comfortable with you again and forgive you.

Shit, is it that serious ????

>Tell her that it was misguided sexuality. You were lonely and she was caught in the crossfire, and you're so so sorry
Should I add that she won't have to worry about this, unless she's ok with it then I'm totally open to the idea (I'm not gay you see, it just recently occurred to me that she's a total hottie, I used to see her as that snotty little girl who played with me until 8th grade, I mean our parents let us bath together and all, yeah that sounds kinda fucked up)
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>>18003147
If you use tinder, yes
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>>18003174

Well, I've never had enjoyable sex before. But when I've edged and fapped. My orgasm is a negative feeling. You know that Rush/wave feeling you get in your brain? It's a downer instead of a upper
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>>18003168
But while I do care about my brother, I also respect his private time with his girlfriend. If he's happy, so am I. Anon, you gotta occupy your time with other stuff. Youve gotten this far without her so keep going. Of course dont forget about her, just find someone or something else to bring your life meaning.
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To girls

What do you mean when you say "You don't look like the type" when i tell you i'm not looking for sex
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>>18003175
>unless she's ok with it then I'm totally open to the idea
Please don't say this. Most girls understand that concept. If you say it aloud, that'll sound like you're actually hoping for it, and then she WILL worry.

>Shit, is it that serious ????
It depends on how she took it and how disappointed she is in you.

>Maybe I can just apologize with a text?
I'd really suggest you do it in person, dude.

>I think (I hope) she already knew this. But I will tell her again.
Never assume these things. The idea is that you're showing her that you know that she was being a good friend. Girls have to deal with the issue of, when we're there for a guy emotionally, they fall for us romantically. They misinterpret being a good friend as getting close romantically. You should show her that you didn't make this mistake. Not in so many words, but yeah.
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>>18003174
Nah, it doesn't work like that for me. Our sex when we have it is great and it feels awesome, for us both.

It wouldn't matter if I came 6 times, it's not going to stop me from wanting sex 2 days later and it's not going to make me feel any less shit knowing that my gf just isn't interested.
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>>18003178

I am working on a career path that I passionately enjoy. The thing is, this girl is the person who helped push me to go down this path. So I really want to share my success with her.

I don't really have anyone else to talk to about it.
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>>18003134
>context
My poor social skills ruined a date with a decent girl who really liked me and my friends just don't treat me as an equal
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>>18003179
you give out a lot of the signals of a guy who's into something for the night
maybe you spend a lot of time complimenting their looks, maybe you are constantly looking at one girl then another, maybe you have had a reputation for having a "loose lifestyle".
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Girls

Why don't you want to have sex with nice guys?

I've met 3 pretty attracted girls, flirted (I made it clear) with them and asked them out. Each one of them said "I really like talking to you, but, I'm just looking for friends" then maybe a week or so after being friends with them. They start asking me for advice about a guy they like (so clearly they lied about "just looking for friends"). One girl asked me one time why I'm not hooking up with girls. And I said well, I was trying to. She said "well, you're a really nice guy! Girls should be lining up for you" I said "well, what about when we met?" she said "ya, but You seem like a better person to be friends with than have sex :)"

What the fuck does that mean
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>>18003215
I moved to different city for college and i haven't really messed around that much yet so i don't think its because i have a reputation, i don't really overdo on the compliments but do tend to look around the place a lot, but that's because i don't want to stare too much
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>>18003180
Yeah, I understand it's really hard being her, desired by so many guys, and now me, too.

>when we're there for a guy emotionally, they fall for us romantically. They misinterpret being a good friend as getting close romantically

I really doubt she could possibly think I have any romantic feeling towards her after that little mishap I described in the OP.
Good lord, we'd make a terrible couple, she thought pure math is, I quote, "anachronistic", and that I should stop living in the Ivory Tower. I am truly grateful that I have her as a friend, who took care of me when I was sick, helped me when I was broke or kept me company after I was dumped by my ex, but she would never understand why I do what I do and I have come to terms with that.
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Rate this woman. This girl is telling me she is fat and I'm saying she's very pretty. Mention your gender
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>>18003222
around any woman you would possibly want to fuck, you ought to seem a little... dangerous. be a decent and friendly guy, but every once in a while, do little things to keep her wondering what might transpire between the two of you
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>>18003243

Whatever happened to "be yourself".
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>>18003222
You're being too nice to them.

In my experience, guys are more into relationship for regular sex, and girls for emotional support. Obviously there are a lot of other reasons high in the priority list and everyone is different and blablabla

Anyway, part of getting sex is having those things traded. If you already gave up all your niceness, there's no reason for them to retribute with sex.

Not to mention that girls like conquering you too. So no matter what anyones opinion is about what I said above, you have to play hard a little so that they feel that accomplishment feeling when you gradually open up.
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>>18003257

This goes for you too>>18003254
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>>18000035
>>18000035
Do girls like sexual intercourse?

They act like they don't.
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>>18003282

They like it more than guys do
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>>18003241
I'd rate her $75 per hour.

>>18003285
>more than guys
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>>18003309

The girls I know are years younger than me, but have WAY more sexual experience then me. all they talk about is sex.
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>>18003324
How did you become friends with Stacey? Why don't you fuck them too?
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>>18003282
I do, if my partner is good.
I don't talk about it because I'm not THAT trashy.
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>>18003333

Because I'm friendzoned. Not that it matters, because I don't believe in casual sex anyways
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>>18003134
I'm >>18001571 and you're pretty far off, I ended up not inviting her since I felt that would be weird but she came with a friend of a mutual friend and we ended up having a great time. Didn't get laid but that was due to things that were out of my control and she really couldn't keep her eyes/lips off me. I definitely didn't make any type of "big impact" that first time though.
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>>18000083
This gotta be a troll
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