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How do I try hit on a woman at a bar/club?

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How do I try hit on a woman at a bar/club?
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Just don't use your fist
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>>17996879
Approach girls that look at you and aren't busy with their friends and start talking
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>>17996890
What if none look at you
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>>17996896
Well then you're shit out of luck
Or just be confident and talk to one that looks bored, don't be a social autist and you should be good to go
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>>17996896
If you know people at the club just walk around and talk with them, that way any girls that might know them see you know the mutual friend and check you out, if she's interested you'll notice because you can feel her eyes poking your back

Girls dont like complete strangers because its kinda creepy, but if they see you with someone they know they get a bit more comfortable
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>>17996906
I'm not going to know anyone there unfortunately. I'm gonna be going with women (that I'm not interested in) who usually split off on the quest for cock, so I don't think that'll help.
I'm usually awkward as hell around their male friends so I don't think that would help either.

>>17996905
Welp. ;_;
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>>17996916
Make sure that you're not hiding in a corner tucked away. Walk around, visit the bar regularly and try to open conversations with girls that look bored. Something that always works for me is saying "hey, wanna meet someone new?" if they say anything else than no just start talking
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>>17996929
Yeah unfortunately I usually retreat to a corner and just browse 4chan while drinking after dancing for a bit with my friends.
I kind of want to try tonight.
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>>17996879

>at a bar/club
bruh this is like the easiest place to hit on women, remember they come here to be hit on, you'd have to try really hard to fuck it up

>>17996896
see any attractive chick ordering drink? go stand next to her, order your drink, she will look at you (anyone would once you enter their space long enough), meet her gaze, say heey, start a conversation

Also, think of yourself as a pornstar talking to fellow performers if you need confidence boost that much
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>>17996932
Yeah no shit you're not meeting girls, you on your PHONE in the club. Nobody wants to talk to someone absorbed in their phone, not in the club or anywhere else.

Get out there and get turned down as many times as you need to find a girl that wants to talk, and definitely don't take it personal that they don't want to talk to you. Most girls that do not want to talk to you (and probably most others) are trying to get a guys attention, they're taken or they're shallow cunts that aren't worth your time anyway.
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>>17996939
Oh I figured as much about the phone thing.
I'm a fucking faggot and at that point I'd be in the mindset of "bleh I'm ugly as fuck no one would want to talk to me why am I here", so away to my safe haven of 4chan I go.

>>17996934
>>17996939
Thanks for the advice guys.
>You'd have to try really hard to fuck it up.
Pls elaborate, I am a social retard.
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>>17996896
Then you are out of luck.
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>>17997232
>>17997232
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>>17996887
This, if you want to be successful at hitting on girls you need a melee weapon
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>>17996987
>Pls elaborate, I am a social retard

You see hitting on women is not theoretical. You have to learn by doing (unless you want to look into PUA, it's ok, too. I kinda admire the dedication they put into theorizing this subject). Something works for me might not work for you. Just proceed by trials and errors. Club/bar is a good environment for that, since the severity of the error you made is lessened.
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>>17997284
Noted, thanks.

>>17997277
Can I just use my dakimakura
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Find one that looks to be by herself or just with a friend or two, then tap her on the shoulder from behind. If she looks you up and down when she turns around and says hiiii then take her hand and lead her to the bathroom and start jerking off into the toilet while she watches. That usually breaks the ice.
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>>17997501
Gonna try this out, thanks man
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I'm probably gonna get a lot of flack for asking this,
but on this note, what's the best way to turn a guy down? I don't want to be a cunt, I want to express that I'm flattered they wanted to talk to me at all and I don't want to discourage them from talking to other women, but I'm not interested in talking to them.
Is there any way to do this without me feeling like a complete bitch and him walking away feeling like he's a loser?

Not even that this happens often, I rarely even get approached honestly, but when I do it's not typically by guys I particularly want to get too involved with.
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>>17998157
Saying something like "I'm after someone else" gets the message across
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>>17998189
The last time it happened I just said "Oh I'm waiting for someone"
Which at the time was true.

I just don't wanna hurt any feelings or crush any self esteems or anything. People seem to be kind of fragile these days, I'd like to be encouraging, but I also feel like it'd be rude of me to lead them on or something and pretend to be interested when I'm not.
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>>17998194
Coming from a guy, if they take it THAT personal that you're not interested that's their problem. Sometimes people have to be confronted with the non-sugarcoated truth.

If they spiral into depression because they get turned down that's not your fault and it never will be, you're not obliged to safeguard one's feelings. I've been turned down hundreds of times, if not more, and it doesn't affect me because its nothing personal
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>>17998214
I know, I'm just kind of a bleeding heart I guess. I see some of these guys on 4chan and how beaten and dejected they are, I feel bad. I would hate to be the girl that one of these guys comes back on here to talk about.
I suppose at a certain point though there's nothing I can do about that. Some people will never be happy.
Idk, I just always try to be as kind to and conscientious of other people as I can be. I go out of my way not to hurt or bother people. Just kind of in my nature I guess.
I always feel really guilty whenever I turn someone away, but I can't really help how I feel either. Kind of glad I'm average to below in the looks department myself, this is such a rare occurrence for me I don't have to worry about it much.
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>>17998232
You don't have to feel guilty. There's something you need to understand about people in general that you probably already know deep inside.

People manipulate. People seek to blame others. People are prone to put themselves on a pedestal.

Do not EVER feel guilty about what you do to people when you're being fully honest. Truth hurts, it always has. The key is to differentiate between being honest and purposefully hurting someone. If a guy can't appreciate honesty, then he's too immature anyway.
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>>17998232
aww you are too kindhearted, how about giving them a consolatory handjob? 5-10 minutes tops.
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>>17998243
Yeah, I do know that deep down lol. I suppose I just know where they're coming from. I had a shit self esteem in the past too, and well it still isn't the best.
I know every time someone paid attention to me, it really did pick me up and helped me get to where I am today. But when I was rejected, well yeah that did drag me down a little.
Like I said, I've been there so I know how much impact it can make to not be rejected. But hey, can't win them all.
>>17998250
idk sometimes the guilt eats at me that I almost think I should lol. jk
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>>17998256
I personally think pity is insulting, but that's my opinion. Self-esteem issues are really something people have to learn to get over themselves. Everyone can come up with a million things wrong, but don't have the guts to admit what they do like about themselves.

I've been told i'm overconfident in the past by my mates and female friends alike and i think they're just being prude. I got plenty of things i don't like about myself but that's no reason for me to pretend i'm some sort of lesser human being. Might sound cheesy, but the best advice i can give to people with self-esteem issues is love yourself, take care of yourself and most importantly show yourself. Hiding in plain sight and sitting in your room all day isn't going to improve your life in any way
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>>17998284
I agree, that's why I do turn them down. As I said, I'd feel even worse "leading them on" so to speak.

Thanks though, like I said I just want to do it the nicest way possible. I'll just say "sorry I'm after something else" or something.
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>>17998394
>or something
or give them a handjob in the bathroom. It's a polite gesture. The guys wouldn't feel bad about it!
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>>17998403
I do really enjoy jerking guys off I guess.
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>>17998407
me, too :) Let's do our best!
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W-welp what a thread
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>>17996879
Be confident, and remember that dating is trial and error, so don't be afraid to fail and learn from it.
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>>17996879
Don't hit women with a bar. Use a baseball bat.
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