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What's the right balance to strike in being happy with yourself

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What's the right balance to strike in being happy with yourself single, and looking for a relationship?

I've been single for two years, and in that time, only met one girl I was interested in - who was engaged. No big deal, but I only met her at work. People always say "keep waiting, and the right one will come along," but it doesn't happen.

Otherwise, I haven't really been pursuing girls at bars or while out. When I see someone cute, I ignore it, saying "things shouldn't be about girls, just have fun with your pals."

I'm mostly cool with this, but it'd be cool to be in a relationship, and with the guy supposedly doing most of the pursuing in general, what's the right balance here?
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>>17995868

the right balance is to not go out of your way to meet them. if you're out with your pals and see a pretty girl, go talk to her. thats the right time.
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>>17995878
This. Also dating sites are useful too. You can set up an account if you get matched go out of not at least you tried.
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>>17995885
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>>17995885
Sorry but I can't agree here. Dating sites attract people desperate enough to allow some semi random algorithm to find their mate. It's great if you want to hook up, but that's not what OP was talking about.
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>>17995936
Eh. It's how my mom met my stepdad, and they've been married ten years now.
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>>17995936
Yeah, sites like match.com and eharmony are successful for a reason. It's not a 100% guaranteed method to find the right one but there is a greater chance to find one than not trying them at all. He wants a relationship and there is no harm in at least trying there too.
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>>17995885
>>17995936
>>17995942
>>17996029

OP here... I'm on a couple of dating sites - it's where I met my last girlfriend. But that being said,I don't reach out to anyone, for the same reasons as in the OP, people say to keep waiting and wait for the right person to drop into your lap.

I dumped my last girlfriend from the dating site. I was happy to do so. She wasn't what I wanted from a relationship, just what I thought I wanted.

Don't get me wrong, I'm pretty happy in general. But as I get older and older, I question if what I'm doing is right.
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