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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.

>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
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>>17993790
Do guys like it when a girl then had sex with seems attached to them after that ?
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>>17993807
If the girl is hot I'd like it more, it's a nice ego stroke, if she is crazy and cockblocks me with other girls it'd be a real headache. Sometimes (most of the time) it's a combination of those two factors.
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In short there is that cutie in nother class. We have mutual friends and sometimes look at each other without anything bigger, I don't even greet her or anything. What the fuck should I do I'd love to meet her yet I'm a shitter afraid of rejection. Help
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>>17993819
I am hot, I mean I guess because he had a boner most part of the night. So I don't know.
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>>17993807
Very yes.
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>>17993820

Try to talk to her when your mutual friends are around ? Bring her a coffee or a hot chocolate, anything to start a conversation.
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>>17993847
Really ? Every guys I had sex with was incomfortable with the fact that I loved cuddles after and they fought I would be to attached to them.
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>>17993852
I can only speak for me, not them.
*I* like cuddling after sex. *I* like attachment. Hell, the whole reason I like sex is for the connection/attachment.
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>>17993852
Do you fuck random dudes?
Because it's a bit weird to act all affectionate and loving with a guy you don't know.
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>>17993852
Were these one night stands or actual relationships. If the former I can understand why that would happen.
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>>17993845
Just be direct with him about how you feel if you want to be exclusive. If he likes the sex it's unlikely he'd turn you down.
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>>17993807
>>17993852
Hell yeah, cuddling after is great.
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>>17993868
>26
lol you're a woman, not a girl
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Anyone else utterly incompetent with flirting and all that? I try to just be a decent friend, and apparently I send off vibes I'm trying to score with someone. Vice versa for when I actually want to date them. I just try to be an open book but apparently that just appears as if I'm just trying to play games.
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Any femanons need schoolwork done, no strings attached?
I'm into that sort of thing, and I've got two bachelor's degrees, one in business and one in IT, so I'm qualified for lots of stuff.
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>>17993880
what do you even mean by this?
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>>17993886
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IlV7RhT6zHs
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Girls,

I know the answer will vary depending on you personally but I just want some samples. If you meet a guy and think he's attractive and fun to be around but don't know him well at all, how quickly will you have sex with him?
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>>17993894
After a few dates.
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>>17993894
>how quickly
>quickly
The opposite of that. 8 months to a year.
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>>17993894
I don't have sex with people I'm not in a serious, committed relationship with, so around 4-8 months.
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>>17993881
You're probably oversharing irrelevant things. If you talk about things that aren't obviously related to the topic at hand (or just the topic at hand itself), it's gonna look like you have some kind of ulterior motive, and are trying to steer things towards that.
Try to stay on task and let other people steer the conversation most of the time. Change topics if things get silent.
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>>17993897
>>17993899
>>17993901

Not the same anon, but how about at the end of the first date? you entered his car in a skimpy dress, you said you had a crush on him since elementary school and he had never noticed you?

I just want to check If I did something wrong.
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>>17993894
>but don't know him well at all
in that case not very quickly at all.
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>>17993903
>but how about at the end of the first date?
fuck no
>skimpy dress
dressing nice doesnt mean im dtf

you did wrong by assuming a lot.

enough with the hypothetical, just tell the damn story already.
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>>17993903
... I wouldn't do it, obviously.
I don't even kiss at the end of first date, I can't see myself fucking a dude I barely know.
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>>17993903
Even with that kinda crush, I'd wait.
Skimpiness doesn't mean a whole lot. I've dressed like a whore just because of bets I lost - it literally has no importance.
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>>17993906
>enough with the hypothetical, just tell the damn story already.
This.
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>>17993903
Likely: she wants more dates
Unlikely: she was going to fuck you THAT NIGHT and something changed those plans
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>Girl I text late at night suddenly tries to act like I have the wrong number

>Sees that fails and switches over to pretending to be her non-existent boyfriend

I suspect it's because I didn't take her out on Wednesday, but, what the actual hell?
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>>17993897
>>17993899
>>17993901
>>17993904
Maybe I'm just meeting the wrong girls then? It seems like every girl I've met that I've been interested in and has been interested in me just wants casual no strings attached sex as fast as possible. I met a really cool girl a little while ago who seemed like she liked me and we ended up making out the day I met her but she didn't invite me up to her place or anything and I didn't push it, but I just tried to text her today and she seemed kinda bored giving me really short responses and stuff. It sucks because I would definitely want someone to spend time with and be something more than a hook-up to but it seems like girls don't really want that.
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>>17993917
You'll notice the women who want meaningful romantic connections are on 4chan.
That should tell you everything you need to know about how popular that idea is.
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>>17993894
>>17993903
Really depends on how well I get along with him and how attracted to him I am. Probably not on the first date, but could be relatively quickly
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>>17993918
Most girls I know want a meaningful relationship. And I'm reasonably sure none of them comes here.

Sure, there are a lot of girls who fuck around, but in my experience most girls want a meaningful relationship, at least in my social circles.
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>>17993918
Good point.
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>>17993918
I have plenty of friends who don't even know what 4chan looks like who want meaningful relationships. That's such an incorrect generalisation. I'm not going to get into an argument about this, but I know you're just plain wrong.
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>>17993924
I've only got three female friends (huge sample I know), and 2 just wanna sleep around, and only 1 wants anything more.
Anecdotal evidence just ain't worth much.
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>>17993906
>>17993911
This is from my perspective
At high school reunion, this total hottie said she had a huge crush on me since second grade, I didn't even know we went to the same class in second grade. The thing is I didn't recognize her at all, I think we were in different classes. I have been really horny lately, so when we walked to my place, I tried to make a move, she let me kiss her, and when I tried to reach down her pussy she said no I have to take her on a date first in a flirty yet challenging tone...she was so slender in that revealing dress I had to resist the urge to just overpower her, bend her over and fuck her brains out, but saner head prevailed...
We went on a date the next day, dinner movie standard stuffs (I think I watched her more than I watched the movie lol thinking I'm gonna hit that), in the end we were kissing in my car, I reach down her panties again, she kept pushing my hand away and focused on touching my back and shoulder, WTF? my dick was so hard it almost tore my pants open, so I just held her down and lifted her dress and took her panties off, when her bare vagina was visible I tried to finger her, she resisted, but weakly, then I noticed she's sobbing and said "noo.. kiss me", I felt really bad so we went back to kissing and cuddling, for a whole fucking hour. Then, she kissed me one last time, we parted, she said "see you".
Is this a joke? is this girl not horny? Why does she give me blue balls? what does she want? I'm only in my hometown for a week, obviously I cant date her. Haven't had sex once since I entered gradschool at the other side of the continent, I'm very horny and I have to go back soon.
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>>17993931
>I'm going to make a claim and refuse to prove it.
Why speak up at all if you're not trying to convince anyone?
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>>17993938
ah I have to go now, second date, hopefully she won't give me blueballs againn. will check this thread in 5 hours
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>>17993917
Humans as a whole just want to get off. Women are not somehow exempt.
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>>17993938
Is this real? If so poor girl! She pushed your hand away, why the fuck did you try anyway?! And you're complaining about blue balls, oh my god
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>>17993856
Me too ! I love to feel close to the person I'm with, and for me it comes from cuddles and cte things and laughing, and sleep against him.

>>17993858
No we knew each other since a few weeks.

>>17993863
It one none of that, I thouht it was the beginin of a relationship, he told me he didn't want one night stand and that he deleted Tinder.
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>>17993938
This sounds like it was written by the sort of woman who reads romance novels exclusively
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>>17993873
What do you mean exactly ( I don't speak very good english, sorry)
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>>17993939
The original claim is near impossible to prove or disprove, and the same shit with any arguments for or against it.

I mean fuck I'll give my own experience and contribute to this comment chain. Yes, lots of women sleep around. In my experience most of them are just desperate for positive attention, and give away sex because it gives them a few moments of it. It's not a long term solution and generally hurts them in the long run, but hey people in their early 20's arent exactly known for their sharp wits. Some enjoy it for its own sake, but they're the minority of women who sleep around.

I can't provide any sort of proof this is true for the majority, nor can anyone really disprove it. I fully believe what I said, but this is not the kind of thing you can reasonably provide evidence for. If we get too obsessed with that it's just going to be a circle jerk of "I believe ____".

>>17993952
>I thouht it was the beginin of a relationship, he told me he didn't want one night stand and that he deleted Tinder.
At a bare minimum this indicates he was not invested in you. It's not surprising someone just going with the motions avoids intimacy, and for some its apparently easier to disconnect sex from true intimacy than other acts such as cuddling I believe.
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>>17993959
You mean he lied and just wanted o have sex with me, and now he is not talking to me anymore because we didn't really had sex like with penis in vagina ?
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>>17993961
He may have lied. Maybe he was trying to give you a chance to "see if there's a spark". It's not as if women don't do that all the time as well. I legitimately don't know, it's not as if you've given much information about this individual either. What I am saying is cuddling is generally about emotional intimacy, and that there's a reason why FWB make it a policy not to kiss or cuddle.
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>>17993964
>>17993961
meant to say often they make it a policy not to do that. Obviously each situation is unique.
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>>17993964
Ok I understand.
What informations about him do you need to precise your opinion about that situation?
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>>17993965
He told me he loved cuddling and kissing. I'm lost haha.
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>>17993966
Admittedly I think I misinterpreted it, and assumed he had ghosted you.

I'd just focus on his actions. Is he listening? Does he ask questions about what you said? Does he provide information about himself, rather than trying to keep as many details as possible private? Actually being engaged in someone is probably the most telltale sign they're not just out to get a quick lay.
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>>17993972
I just send him a message, I will tell you if he answers.
About your questions :
He is listening yes, he asked things, conforted be, provided informations about himself but not too much.
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>>17993972
Well, he just answered that he can't come today and that >>17993972
he wouldn't be able to see me before next thursday.
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>>17993980
Sounds fine at a glance. At the same time don't stress too much about it, because tension is a great way to make dates awkward. Just go with the flow, have fun, and don't do anything you're not comfortable with. That's the long and short of what I'd advise anyways.

¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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>>17993986
But he said we can't see each other before next week. It makes me feel like he doesn't want to see me at all haha..
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>>17993976
_ _
\(''/)_/
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>>17993991
I mean, I assume he has a job, family, maybe college in the mix. It's not unprecedented for something like that to happen to me. If he's taking the initiative to schedule things I don't see the issue.

>>17993994
I'm not even sure what that's supposed to be

(・A・)
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>>17993996
Yes he has a job but finished college and all. He is 26. So, you think their is nothing wrong, and he still wants to see me ?
The smiley was supposed to be the same as yours, but as you can see I suck either at relationship and at doing smileys.
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>>17993790
Is it creepy if I (22) ask my classmate (17) out?

Romeo and Juliet laws make it legal for 16 and 17 year olds to consent to people 23 and younger in my state and she's turning 18 in March regardless but I'm anxious about being seen as a creep or something.
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>>17994002
>So, you think their is nothing wrong
There may be something wrong, but I do not believe this is necessarily a red flag. If he doesn't try to schedule anything that's another story. I've just been in similar positions, where I don't have the time or energy (trying to have a date after a day of hard labor has just never been a good idea for me) for quite a few days in a row.
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>>17993894
in an ideal scenario after a couple of dates
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>>17993916
she seems crazy, should probably abort that situation
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I dont feel attracted to girls. However I can fap no problem to them.
Is it ok for me to pursue the hetero lifestyle? I really dont want to be a fag
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I want to be friends with my ex. I have moved on romantically, and have had another girlfriend for about half a year now, but I am saddened that I can't still be friends with my ex. Before we started dating we were close friends for about a year. After we broke up she deleted me on facebook (I don't think out of any ill will), so I would have to contact her by card.

How would you femanons react to receiving a letter from your ex? I don't want to give her the impression that I want to get back together or anything like that - I'd just like to be able to remain friends with her.
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>>17994108
Do you feel attracted to men? Why don't you want to pursue male partners?

Why would you want to pursue women if you aren't attracted to them? Couldn't you just be friends?
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Girls, if you aren't princesses, what are you?
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>>17994129
Yeah I am attracted to male.
Idk man, I dont want the social stigma + I always imagined having wife + kids, spreading my genes, yadda yadda
Is there some way to get attraction to girls?
Also even though I live in a western country, my parents are Muslim...
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>>17994131
Human beans
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>>17993820
greet her, basically. ask her what's up at some point, see how she responds. also talk to her when the friends are there.
>>17993881
i would say keep being an open book and you'll find someone similar at some point mate
>>17993894
i only have sex in relationships
>>17993916
doesn't even matter what the hell she's trying, just forget about her clearly kek
>>17994041
if she seems to have more than a pair of neurons then yes, go for it, why not
>>17994108
there is no reason to pursue the hetero life, you'll never be actually happy or satisfied properly so, you're gay
>>17994120
it would be okay if phrased bluntly and correctly. 'hey i just wanted to catch up, no particular reason, just dislike that we're not talking anymore'. should be fine
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>>17993942
>>17993938
I'm back. No sex. We met another couple.
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>>17993938
is it so fucking hard to grasp she doesn't want to fuck you? jesus christ
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>>17993949
>>17994172
yeah, at that time it looked like some sort of kink, especially from her voice. Plus she seemed totally fine and smiley after the hour long cuddling session (it was fucking weird for me, 5-10 mins I get it, but an hour? that's why I thought it's a prank). I'm not good at socializing or communicating, but I thought I gave her the romance she wants, it's only fair I get what I want too (say, an hour long of fucking in various positions). And she knows I am super horny, especially in her presence, but if she doesn't want sex she should've just NOT get into a close space with me, and be less receptive of physical contacts.
I actually start to like this girl so I can't hold it against her. Still very horny though. It'd be a shame if I have to fuck some other chick.
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>>17994205
lmao if she doesn't want sex she would not get into a close space with you? kek if YOU can't control yourself or can't understand why the way you're seeing it is slightly not alright, you need to stop getting in close spaces with women
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>>17994205
>romance
>ignores her saying no
>you are a rapist.
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Guys

Name an activity or just anything that is MORE important than sex?
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>>17993881
It hurts to have encounted someone like this.
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>>17994254

Sitting at home on Netflix by myself Tbh
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>>17993894
Kek I'm waiting for my life partner, so until I'm as sure as possible he's it
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Should I get a GF? Do I even want a GF?

22, in college. Enjoying my studies, so much that it's eating up all my time, but I don't mind. Spare time is spent on vidya and friends.

Cant help but feel like I would like to have a gf but I'm going to end up seeing them as a distraction, I just want a girl friend to spend a bit of time with every now and then. Also because I'm not terribly interested in any girls I know too, I guess.

I dunno, would anyone want to put up with this?
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>>17994254
My work, my experiments, studies and video games I like enough
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>>17994249
>>ignores her saying no

I stopped when she said no explicitly.
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>>17994259

Sounds sort of desperate Tbh

>>17994263

I feel the same way. 25, never had a girlfriend. Never had girlfriend during my teen years due to family problems, or early 20s due to depression. I just turned my life around and I'm on a career path that I genuinely enjoy. I just don't think I'm ready for a girlfriend tho, I'd sort of like one. But I'm worried about distractions. Honestly, I don't think I'll get my first girlfriend until I'm in my early 30s..
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>>17994205
I really hope this is a troll
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>>17994140
Don't become another Omar Mateen
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>>17994271
How so?
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>>17994140
Fuck your parents, you're who you are m8.

Which country are you?
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>>17994263
It's stupid to get in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship.
You're happy on your own, and it is great.
If you meet someone amazing and want to be with them, go for it, but don't rush it.
Just don't stop meeting people, put yourself out there, eventually you'll find someone who is amazing and you truly want to be with.
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>>17994273
Then you don't need to reply to me.
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>>17994279

He asked how quickly you'd have sex with someone. Your response was "Kek, he's it" implying that you'd jump his dick because you're waiting for your life partner, when there is no guarentee you'll find one. So you'll take what you can get.
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>>17994287
Wat. I said I wouldn't UNTIL I'm as as sure as possible he's my life partner. Aka years and/or marriage.
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>>17994284

I guess that makes sense. But, if I stay Single through all of my 20s because I'm so into my career, would that hurt my chances of getting a first girlfriend in my early-mid 30s?
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>>17994284
I just want to hang out with a girl and have a qt to cuddle at times, but I'm not interested in anyone and even if I was I would have to be very interested to spend valuable time on them.

I'm not even sure where I'd meet people my type anyway, but eh
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>>17994218
You would wear a really revealing dress, get in the car with a horny guy, kiss him and not let him at least finger you????
Sorry no girl ever treated me that way.
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>>17994254

Define important
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Help how do I redeem myself after accusing a hot girl of being crazy and wanting my dick, turns out she's normie as fuck and no everyone thinks I'm wierd because she's hot and my taiwanese gf is ugly as fuck.
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Is it weird to get fast food breakfast from the same place 2-3 times a week?

Like, burger king, they got that 2 for $4 croissants, and I get that with a large coffee some mornings before work.


I just don't want to look weird or anything. I'm not obese.
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>>17994305

no it's not weird. I go to McDonalds and get 2 McDoubles for $2.50 every 2 days or so. I'm not fat either, I'm pretty skinny.

When I was in high school I worked at Chick-fil-A and repeat customers is common. Sometimes we'd see the same people every single day, and they'd order the same thing everyday.
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>>17994309
That's good. I thought I was being weird.. But, I just don't have time to cook in the morning and would much rather hit the drive thru or something.

plus I feel like if I was going to have fast food, it might as well be breakfast, 'cause that seems like it's the healthiest of all the options, while getting bang for the buck.
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>>17994329

But dude... BK blows. Probably the lowest tier of Fast Food, especially for breakfast. What are your alternative options based on where you live/work?
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>>17994330
I mix it up, I was just using it as an example.

I'm a sonic guy desu.

those new lil' BEC grillers are my jam
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>>17994291
Yes, it will.
You shouldn't avoid relationships. Go out, meet people, meet girls, eventually you'll find one who makes you want her romantically and you'll date her.
But don't date a girl *just* because you want a girlfriend. It's unhealthy and stupid.

>>17994292
The point is to meet someone you're very interested in, and you need to meet new people for that. Just go out, do things you like doing, and meet people while doing them.
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>>17994333

I've been to Sonic a few times, they are alright.

I'm loyal to McDonalds tho. Egg McMuffin and 2 Hashbrowns are fucking delicious. Sometimes I go to Chick-fil-A and get the Chicken Biscuit which is Fucking good too.. soo soft and buttery
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>>17994336

>go out, meet girls

Well, The thing is I don't really feel like doing this. I'm still training for my career which occupies my thoughts 90% of my time. My training will last about another 2.5-3 years. And I'll be so busy once I actually get into my career I won't really be settled in with my career until I'm about 30-31 years old. I figured I'd start trying to date then..
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>>17994159
Beans aren't delicate, pretty, princess-like.
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>>17994344
So you never socialise? No hobbies, no going out with friends, no multi-player videogames, never talked to anyone online, no socialising at your school or job? No anything?
It's not a great plan to wait till you're 30 to start dating. Most people are already settled at that age, most people will have a lot of baggage and it will be hard for you to understand.
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>>17994352

>never socialize?

At my fulltime job I socialize with co-workers all shift.

>no hobbies

Well, my training/career track actually is my main hobby. However, I guess you could count I travel internationally twice a year just for fun.

>no going out with friends?

Going out with friends means going to one of their houses with a pack of beer and just chilling and watching TV. But I only see friends once a month.

>never talk to anyone online

I talk to anons on 4chan all the time. I also have a few international friends I keep up with on WhatsApp
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I hang out with online friends more often than I do RL friends.

Should I continue this behavior? I mean, it seems like the world is designed to be this way now.

I don't have any split screen games to play with friends anymore, so naturally of course I'd prefer to just put on my headset and play with my friends on those same games I'd usually play with my friends on.
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>>17993894
Sex meaning penetration, not until well after we've been formally dating.
3rd base? As quickly as he pushes for it. I tend to go with the flow on that shit, since I can't seem to find a winning wait period anyway. Blow him immediately? Never get a second date. Hold off? Never get a second date. Screwed if I do, screwed if I don't. Might as well have fun with it, since it's assumed I will never hear from this dude again after the first night. Still though, I find myself too shy to ever instigate it myself, therefore I just feed off his desires.
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>>17994393
so that's how I always get laid on the first date without trying... I always thought it was too easy. I just push a little, outline my cock in my pants, or spoon on the couch during a movie, and the next thing you know...
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>>17993917
I literally have had the same experience from this guy.
Its the generation. Dating and romance is dead, the young folk have deemed it obsolete. Casual sex is all there is anymore, sans the random 1 in every 100,000 people still holding out hope for the old ways.
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>>17994397
Eh like I said, every experience I've ever had in the past 5 years has been the same. Meet the dude once, and never see him again.
It's probably me, I'm probably just super ugly and/or boring, so whatever I know my place. I'm not ever going to get the second date I want, so might as well get down and pretend he likes me than just go home alone knowing I wasted my time going out to meet this dude who is never going to contact me again and get nothing out of it.

If by some miracle I lose the ole virginity, I'll probably end up fucking them on the first date eventually too. Just too scared to lose it to a complete stranger who doesn't give a fuck if he's hurting me or if I get off at all, so long as he cums.
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>>17994305
Not really, but it's probably unhealthy. You ain't obese (benefit of the doubt) yet, but you will be if you aren't careful.
But I'm sure most working people understand the struggle of wanting to sleep as much as possible and just grab something quick to eat on the way in.
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>>17994399

I hate this shit. I made an online dating account because I don't give a fuck about casual sex, I think it's werid. But anyways, this really really cute girl just started messaging me. We have some pretty significant things in common and I felt excited at first, but when we started talking about meeting up, her first suggestion was "you should come over to my dorm, we can cuddle together in my comfy bed and watch Netflix all day ;) "

it's disappointing.. I hate American girls for this reason. It seems "hanging out" to them is sex. But when I traveled to Europe and met European girls. We had a great time, and all we did was walk around the city and get coffee.
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Ive been talking to a girl from another country for 4 months now, we are very old friend and just recently reconnected and we hit it off very well.
We call each other everyday, wake each other up, talk on the phone for hours, video chat on the weekends for hours, text each other. We are going on vacation together next month, so we'll finally get to meet
Here is the thing though
Her phone internet been acting up lately to a point where she doesn't even have it anymore, so she decided to change carriers, and this week we have been talking less than usually and its been driving me crazy, its like I'm addicted to talking to her and I miss it, we still talk on the phone whenever she has a chance to get on wifi or someone puts up a hotspot, but still its less than usual.
Another thing is I told her that I started to develop some feelings for her, like I started worrying about her more. She said that she also has feelings, but I guess not as great as mine, because we wouldn't be talking on the phone if she didn't like it, but still, needs to meet me in person before she can say anything
So Ive been in a shit mood all week because of those two things, she said that everything is fine and nothing changed, we still talk and everything but it's been driving me crazy, did I fuck up, am I too needy?
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>>17994408
Like I said, it's the same with guys. I tried tinder a couple times, put it specifically in my profile "I'm not interested in casual sex" and still all I would ever get is dirty talk, invites to their apartments, etc.

Like I said, it's the generation. Can't speak for Europe since I've never tried to date/hook up there, but yeah, American youth, men and women, are just about the sex.
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>>17994401

I'm a guy and honestly, guys are stupid. I've been having loads of fun with a few fwb here and there. Problem is loads of guys are afraid of commitment, so they just jump out instead of repeating good times with a lady

Me? If sexy time was good the first time, there's probably be a second date, as long as it's clear for both that it's just for fun
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>>17994401
Mid west? You honestly sound up my alley, especially if you're on 4chan and midly nerdy
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>>17994413
Yeah I was recently really interested in this one dude. Like fuck, everything clicked perfectly. He was just the right kind of dominant, the sexual compatibility was good on my end at least. He seemed like he had a good time too, or at least he told me he did. Yet, poof. He disappears. I can only assume I was just the worst he's ever had or something.
>>17994414
Idk, I've never had a good time meeting people online. I sperg out, too weird being set up like that. It's why I quit online dating, I'm just not cut out for it.
But I am midwest, though I guarantee you're not anywhere near me because nobody on 4chins ever has been lol.
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>>17994412

>Tinder

Well.. to be fair, Tinder is designed for hook ups. So even tho you specified you didn't want hook ups, people probably didn't believe you.

But, yeah maybe it is this shitty generation. What pisses me off even more is I get criticized because I don't do hook ups. I've had people look at me and serious ask "are you gay?". What the fuck.
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>>17994423
I'm kind of that same way. I get super anxiety and shakes when talking to someone online that I'm about to/planning on meeting, but I try and play it cool.

If it happens in real time, I'll say I'm cold or something, and prompt snuggling, which usually helps sooth my social awkwardness.

I'm decently well adjusted for a borderline autist. 913 or 785 any bit close?
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>>17994427
Yeah I know. Its just the only thing people my age use. I tried okc but only got men older than my father contacting me for some barely legal ass.
Huh, maybe it's not just the younger generation lol.

Yeah, sorry its harder when you're a dude. I'm probably commended just as often as I'm chastised for saving my precious virginity and not going full ham in the casual sex game. Though I don't really hold any emotional/moral value to the concept of virginity. Only reason I'm holding onto it is purely because I don't want it to be painful as fuck and I just simply don't trust a complete stranger to care enough about me to take it slow.
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>>17994436

>I'm chastised for not going into the sexual game

Wait, girls give you shit for this too?
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I've been dating my BF for a year now and we haven't had sex. I'm a virgin and told him I want to wait until I'm sure we will be life partners(which in this case, is us taking steps to move in together). He seems to be getting increasingly frustrated with me about this though. Is it worth giving him what he wants to keep this relationship going or is that a red flag?

I know a year is a long time to wait for guys....
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>>17994442
Talk to him, not us. All you're going to get are a bunch of opinions from people who aren't him.

Communication and compromise. Two pillars of a relationship.
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>>17994442

I have very little sexual and 0 relationship experience. But just speaking from common sense, if he's stuck with you a full year without any sexual contact, he must really like and care about you a lot. He's probably frustrated because he's with a girl he really cares about, but can't fully express himself with her because she (You) wants to wait. It would be extremely painful..
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>>17994435
Yeah, idk what it is. Something about the inorganic meeting creeps me out. It's a similar feeling, though less intense, as when a friend has tried to set me up with one of their friends or something.
I don't like meeting people specifically with the purpose of trying to date/fuck. Feels weird.
Probably because every successful relationship I ever had (so like 2 in high school kek) has always grown from a friendship. Met them naturally, became friends, grew into more. It was never the intention from the start to date, it just happened that way. Thats how I prefer it really, but nobody's got the attention span for it anymore it seems.

Well I'll be damned, you're closer than any other person I've met. Unfortunately, I'm on the IL/MO border rather than the Kansas/MO border.
>>17994437
Well yeah. The thing about women is that they're very competitive creatures. There's still a good bulk of guys out there who find the idea of "deflowering", so to speak, a girl appealing, therefore that gives the virgin girl access to a market of men the other girls don't have. It gives the virgin a leg up, and girls don't like being the loser.
This is just my observation though. There really is this dark underside to the girl dating world that I don't think guys see very much. We will literally sabotage one another for the smallest of reasons when it comes to bagging and keeping a man.
Hell, my own best friend changes her personality 180 when it's me, her, and her bf hanging out. If there's another woman present, even your closest friend, you have to be all over your dude to establish territory or whatever. Even though I have zero interest in her bf.
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>>17994442
YOU are a red flag.
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>>17994446
>>17994449

Thanks. I mean, he gives me different answers- usually he likes to say that he respects my decisions and my boundaries but randomly when he is upset or drunk, he will explode on me and call our relationship "asexual" or loveless. I feel like it is hurting him immensely but I was brought up with these values and it feels wrong to betray them.

>>17994452
How so?
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What's the point in these threads? 99.9% of these questions are being answered in a way both genders would explain. What in the world is the significance of asking girls specifically again? What is your delusional reasoning that makes you think only girls should be answering these questions?

What's the point in asking girls how they would react to first date impressions or etc? You're just going to get an answer based on that persons opinion. An opinion that has nothing to do with their gender in a way that matters in most cases.

>>17993894
Like this post here. It gave 0 perspective on how he should expect a girl to think in that situation. Because those are just opinionated responses that do not dictate how the girl he's seeing will act and think. It has nothing to do with her gender Lol. So it's not helpful to him at all and is just basically casual unproductive conversation with some women in this thread for no productive reason at all which isn't /adv/ related because it's not actually helping anyone

So yeah I just thought this was kind of retarded and I had to call you guys out on this. I'm sorry. I hoped I snapped you out of this lol. Please don't make any more threads like this anymore. Thanks.
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>>17994463
finally someone who thinks like this. but not all the people here do, and that's something people who think like you and i have to keep in mind.
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>>17994451

>We will literally sabotage one another for the smallest of reasons when it comes to bagging and keeping a man

Wow that's awful. I had no idea. For guys from what I've seen, are not like that. All of my friends are in relationships, and if I hang out with a friend and his girlfriend, he doesn't really act any different. He is affectionate toward his gf, but I guess that is to be expected. But they don't really treat me any different.
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>>17994459

Well, you shouldn't have sex unless you actually want to do it. But be aware he is probably in a lot of pain. If for some reason he were to leave you in the future over it. It wouldn't be because he didn't get his dick wet, it'd be because he felt hurt. It's really really painful to really like someone, and not be able to express it to them.
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>>17994459
This is the kind of thing that requires a real, sit down conversation. No drama, no beating around the bush.

Ask him about how long he would be willing to wait. No answer is wrong.

Then honestly tell him about how early you'd be willing to get intimate. No answer is wrong here either.

Both of you talk about why, what sex means to you, what you want sexually out of a relationship and in life. You should never compromise your values, but I believe you two could find a compromise that wouldn't infringe upon them. Find that middle ground. Both of you will have to make sacrifices. You'll probably have to go out of your comfort zone, he will probably have to be very patient. Perhaps you can explore sexual options like outercourse and other means.
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I'm sexually attracted to women but can't relate to them. I also feel like they could probably replace me with a better guy at any time.

Wat do? Should I continue being a celibate?
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>>17994480

I feel the exact same way. I've had opprotunities to get laid this past few months, but I turn them down because "I'm replaceable". Why even step in the door if I'll get booted out soon enough.
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Girl I was talking to canceled our second date, said she was busy with school. She asked if she could contact me after her school stuff calmed down. Does this sound legitimate? I figure it's not.
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>>17994468
Yeah, its weird. The dynamics between men and women are very different, or so I've observed. Like in general, if you fight with one of your dude friends over something minor, 9 times out of 10 one or both of you is gonna get over it and go back to having a beer at the pub within a week.
Women, oh fuck no. Even the slightest squabble and be full out war for most of them. Regaining a girls friendship is damn near impossible.

Combined with the competitive nature when it comes to men, this is why the number one friendship killer between women is over dudes.
Personal example, I had 2 friends, M and L. L was trying to score with this dude at a party, they had been talking for a while. Dude had no interest in L though, he spent the night trying to hit on M. M knew about L, and was basically constantly trying to get away from the guy because she wasn't trying to step on L's toes or anything. Dude wasn't getting the hint though.
This was 3 years ago. L still won't look M in the eye, she is still just foaming at the mouth angry at her because she refuses to believe M wasn't doing it on purpose. Because women do that shit on purpose more often than not.

Theres a handful of chicks who don't do the catty girl shit, I'm not trying to imply it's all women. And some are worse than others. Even though I like to think I'm not like that, I know I am to a certain degree. I do look at all other women as competition, but I suppose the difference for me is that I just can't be assed to put up a fight. I concede where most women don't. I'm ok with losing, whereas a lot of women aren't.
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>>17994480
>>17994490
Work on yourself, boost your confidence. Its easier said than done, I know. I'm saying this from your female equivalent though, I too always feel replaceable. But I do know deep down nobody likes someone with shit self esteem. Men or women. So I become my own self fulfilling prophecy in a way thinking like this. When I do eventually get replaced, it's not that I wasn't good enough for the reasons I though I was. I wasn't good enough because I thought I wasn't good enough.
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>>17994496

That's terrible
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>>17994500
>le improve yourself meme

come on. next you'll suggest meditation and never masturbating.


I'm pretty hot shit, just not good enough to compete with the literal 50,000 extra men in my state. If you've got a way to 'improve myself' out of that hole I'll buy you a drink.
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>>17994500

I mean. I'm getting in shape, and I have a good paying job, and I'm currently working on a new career path that I'm very passionate about. So, I feel successful.

But. When it comes to anything to do with girls, I'm not good enough.
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>>17994503
Yeah... Yeah it is lol. Like I always love when people tell me how dangerous I'm being for going to bars alone. I'm like, how else am I gonna pick up dudes? If I go with my girl friends, they will be the worst cock blocks known to man. If I go with a male friend, everyone will assume we're a couple and not approach. There really is no other way than to go alone.
Plus, people exaggerate the whole "woman goes to bar alone she WILL get raped" shit. I've been doing it forever and I've never felt unsafe. So long as you have 2 braincells to rub together and enough willpower not to get completely trashed, you're not gonna have a bad time.
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>>17994509
Your body is not what needs improving, its your mind yo. Why are those exaggerated 50k men better than you? Why do you not think of yourself as the hot shit you claim to be? Why do you not think you're the best of the best?

Thats what you need to fix. You lack confidence in yourself if you think you're the worst dude in the room.
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>>17994513

How do you end up socializing with people at the bar by yourself? Wait..
Never mind. You're a girl, so I guess you can just buy a drink and guys approach you right?
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>>17994518
>Why are those exaggerated 50k men better than you?
>exaggerated

I undercounted actually. It's closer to 55 thousand. And they aren't better than me, but they are competing against me for 18-30 year old women.

>Why do you not think of yourself as the hot shit you claim to be?
I do. Why would I lie online?

>Why do you not think you're the best of the best?
Because I am not. Self delusion gets you nowhere.
I'm pretty great, but not in any way that women find attractive.

>inb4 how do you know
I wouldn't be looked at with disgust and avoided by most women.
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>>17994522
not to the person you replied to, but also a woman who socializes at bar by myself. i normally approach guys.
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kek where exactly does this 'you have a skill set, im entitled to it' mentality come from? what do these fuckbrians do when their advances get shot the fuck down?
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>>17994528
Wow what did Brian ever do to you?
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whos brian
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>>17994522
Actually, it is much harder than it seems. Hardly anyone goes to bars by themselves. Most of the time, they're in groups which is hard to inject yourself into.
Plus, the competition factor is definitely in play. If you're not the hottest chick in the room, you're not getting approached. As an average looking, 6 at best, girl, I've been approached only once in my life. It was a slow night.

The hotter chicks, yeah, they walk in and have a crowd immediately. The bottom feeders such as myself are picking off their scraps. We typically have to make the effort though, since most dudes can't be assed to go for something unless it's something they /really/ wanted.
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>>17994524
Well I tried. It's your mentality bro, believe me or not. If you reek with confidence you'll have a better time. But if you continue to think of yourself as disgusting then, well, you will be. That's probably what those looks mean, if they aren't exaggerated in your brain at all. You think you're disgusting, therefore so do other people.
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>>17994550
Nah, you're just flat out wrong.

>>17994548
What does anyone even do at a bar anyway?
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>>17994552
>pretty great but not in the ways women find attractive
such as?
>do at bar
chill, be out the house if you're into just being out the house, some people are, meet people, meet with friends and have a drink
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>>17994558
Lmao if I knew I would improve those things, right?


Or not, actually. I like being me.
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>>17994552
In my town? Not much lol. I unfortunately live in podunk missouri where theres literally a cattle ranch across from the local walmart.
So the bar scene is literally all there is to do in that town period. There's a couple of cool themed bars though. My favorite is this arcade/bar. They have a couple consoles from varying generations, from N64 to PS4 with random games loaded up for patrons to play. Along with classic arcade machines. Lots of pinball.
Most of the time, since I'm white as fuck and can't dance, I just sit around for a bit and then go home lol. At attempt was made at least.
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>>17994564
i wasn't asking you what ways you think women find attractive, rather what ways you think you're great in.
also, you're not a unique snowflake. people similar to you exist, and some are of the female sex, no doubt. you will encounter them at some point, therefore i agree with not changing yourself for the purpose of being more appealing, but i want to hear how you think you're great regardless.
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>>17994567
Sounds pretty comfy desu. Where I live everyone is insular and rude. Makes me miss the ghetto I was living in in North Carolina.
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>>17994573
Yeah, there's a couple "frat bars" around town, being near a college and all. I stay clear of those because it's like that. you got fratbros and sorority whores, not much diversity. There's one place that's a little inbetween I like too. Not super frat-y but also not super nerdy. It's got a volley ball court and human sized beer pong, which is kinda neat lol.
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>>17994572
>Intelligent, Nihilistic and with a Wicked Sense of Humor


But really, I'm funny, tall and handsome. Well read and educated. I've covered the spectrum of positions in my field from analyst to administrator to teacher (though that's probably not relevant), I am universally competent. I can cook, I can hunt, I can shoot. My hobbies are objectively the best, I am great to be around, and I am great in bed. So great I almost got arrested.
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>>17994597
You sound like my ex boyfriend.
Absolutely amazing to be around for the first month or two, made me want to kill myself after a while. Self absorbed, immature, incompetent when it came to communicate his feelings.
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Yeah, well, it took my ex wife 5 years, so there
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Girls

Assume you met a average-decent looking guy, he's nice, and easy to talk with. Depending on what his Career path is, could it benefit how you see him?

Are there any career paths that would add attractiveness into the equation?
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>>17994655
i am attracted to people similar to me, so i would be attracted to people who worked with computers or in a biology-related field since those are two of my passions and future career options.
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>>17994655
So long as his career path is something that is liveable, IE his aspirations in life is not to manage a mcfats forever, I could date him.

If I'm dating with the idea in mind that we could possibly get married, live together, merge finances, etc, I'm not going to date a dude who doesn't care to ever make more than 15 bucks an hour because then that means I will basically be the only one supporting us financially. I'd prefer it be more equal than that.
Especially since I'm going into teaching, I'm going to basically be making enough to support myself. I can't really afford to be supporting my husband/boyfriend for a long period of time. Now, if he loses his job and falls into a period of hardship, of course I'll be more than happy to help him out while he gets back up (so long as he's making clear efforts to get back up), and as I'd hope he'd do the same for me.
But in my eyes, especially for a young childless couple, it's important for both parties to be able to support themselves.

TL;DR, as long as he can support himself and is not going to be mooching off me and my job, there's no change in my attraction to them. Being a fellow teacher or a billionaire business man doesnt really mean anything to me.
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Girls

Would you date proffesional soldier? Im talking someone in command not normal private
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>>17994655
Yeah. Here's some pointers;

Attractive because it adds to how you are personally perceived:
>a job that shows creativity, intelligence, kindness and/or ambition
>a job that pays a lot
>a job that puts you in a position of authority
>a job that gives her the idea that you have interests in common

Attractive because of pragmatic reasons:
>jobs that give you a lot of free time/ability to arrange your work days so you can be an active father who's around a lot, or a boyfriend who can invest a lot of time in doing stuff together
>a job that finds it easy to find work in many different places so you're not tied down by your employer
>a job that pays well

It depends on the person how much they are going to care about these factors, or at all. An ambitious, career driven woman will likely love a man who has shown dedication and drive in his choices and has a high status, demanding position. A woman who wants lots of kids and has high ideals might be put off by a partner having a 60hrs/week corporate job that he gets a shitload of money for despite it not really contributing to society.
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>>17994695

Im a guy, but You need to realize that majority of girls don't see a difference between rank and even branches. It also depends a lot on where you live. Some areas girls love military, in others they hate them. I live in a very liberal city, so I do not tell girls that I used to be in the military
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So. What about being a pilot?
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>>17994702
This, so much.

Also I love my boyfriend's job because it gives him a lot of cool/fun stories to talk about.
I want him to come home and tell me about his day.
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>>17994713
Completely depends on the person. It will attract women who like a glamorous lifestyle and a lot of independence. It has the glamor and the status but at the end of the day, pilots are away from home a lot and if there is a single work field notorious for its rampant infidelity then it's pilots/stewardesses. So it's probably going to be quite polarizing.

On a more practical level, it's a very expensive education and I know at least a few years back it was incredibly hard to land a job as a pilot so it seems risky.
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>asking women what they want when they don't even know what they want and don't even follow the answers they give you

come on lads
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>>17994459

Hun after one year making him wait you either surrender that pussy to him, or dump him.

Sex doesn't work for women like it does for guys. It'd be ok if both of you had the same values and he was also ok with the wait, but he clearly isn't. He waited for you but probably expected that he could seduce you to give up. Since this isn't happening, he's hurting for loving you but being unable to keep up with your choice.

So, either have sex with him already, since he clearly loves you, or dump him and let him go have pussy and stop wasting his time

>b-but I love him

This ain't a disney movie darling. You have different needs, and his urges are past due. So stop using your pussy as means of blackmailing/bribing him into a commitment he might not be in the mood for or even won't be able to keep up (moving in toghether isn't simple or free)
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>>17994662
like computational biology?
yeah in my uni the biology department seems to have qts

>>17994670
How long would be a reasonable period that you can support your partner?

I'm a mediocre grad student in pure math facing the prospect of having to sell out and work in finance. But I'd rather not to, did once, did not like the idea of making the rich richer and destabilize the system through statistical models (not to mention it was ultimately the work of mercenary-type mathematicians who resulted in the 2008 crisis, this was showed to me in class, ironically, with theorems and proofs).
So I'm still thinking what I should do with my skills. I can learn programming and work in data science (always thought the field is a meme, large scale or not)

I was considering looking for sugar mommies at this point because my look is probably more profitable than my math
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>>17994757
oh you're the guy from the other thread, i get it now.
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>>17994769
yes.
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Do guys ever start ignoring girls they like after awhile?

When I like a guy and I feel like he doesn't like me back, I start sort of ignoring him and freezing him out if he's been flirting with me. I know it sometimes comes across like I'm angry at him, but I'm not, I'm just not going to waste any more time flirting with someone if it's not going anywhere because it feels like a big tease after awhile and I feel like I'm being toyed with for someone else's ego.

A guy I like started doing the same thing to me - he just started ignoring me and acting irritated when he usually flirts and acts friendly. It doesn't seem like something guys usually do. I think it may have been because I shared my food with another guy and not him (he - the guy I like - had food already).
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Girls

Would you judge a guy based off his car? I drive a 2006 Honda Civic EX. It's clean, and in good condition based off its age.
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>>17994707
Well I live in europe and I think that even someone who doesn't care about military see diffrence between officer and guy with a gun. That's why I wanted to precise
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>>17994817
>Would you judge a guy based off his car? I drive a 2006 Honda Civic EX. It's clean, and in good condition based off its age.
No. But I'm 23, so most of my friends drive shitty cars.

Plus - car is mostly a tool to move from A to B, I don't care about anything else.
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>>17994817
What's wrong with that? Seems like a perfectly non-offensive, standard car to me.

Also can't really give that much input because I'm a Eurofag and literally know one person (who's also a couple years older) who owns his own car so just having one would be quite impressive.
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For girls: Is it important for you to be able to picture yourself and a guy together?

While I look at a lot of different girls on dating sites I swipe left for some girls I find attractive because I can't see me with them in an actual photo together. But not in the sense that I think I'm out of their league.
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>>17994827
In some ways, yeah. If a guy's a lot hotter than me that's a turn off in itself (for a relationship). Would need lots of other qualities for me to pursue him anyway.
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I really need to stop coming here. I realize that most women on /adv/ are from the US, but the complete shallowness just pisses me off.
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A cute girl has invited me to go get drunk with her. As someone who has pretty much zero experience with girls, any advice?
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>>17994847
What bothers you, anon?
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>>17994817
My only issue with cars would be if it it's constantly breaking down and they refuse to fix it because of money issues. I don't really care if I date a rich or poor guy, but I don't want to date someone I have to take care of, especially early on in the relationship. Be able to pay your bills and take care of your basic modern day needs before you go looking for a girlfriend.

I guess also if you're a slob. I once dated a guy whose car was littered with old cigarette butts, empty soda cans, and empty fast food bags. Like the floor was so covered I'd have to put my feet up on the seat. That didn't last long, even though I really liked him, his slob tendencies were too much (they went beyond just the car).
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>>17994827
Yeah, I can't date a guy that's super better looking than me. It'd give me too much of an inferiority complex.

I also don't think I could date someone who has a really niche look, like a metalhead or a punk guy with a mohawk, even if I find them attractive.
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>>17994847
>spends his time on a board where guys rate women 1-10, give humiliating nicknames to their flaws and talk about their immaculate dream girlfriends
>goals in life are having lots of sex, vidya and not having real responsibilities
>people instantly categorized as normies, libtards, polfags, betas, fags, roasties etc to avoid dealing with what they are arguing
>hurr women are so fucking shallow

Look up perception bias.
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>>17994856
My exGF had this issue with me, too. I was skinnier than her, so she thought I could never love her or something.

But, truth be told, I loved her chubby body, it was perfect for me, and I had full blown intentions of marrying this girl. And, she was aware of all that.

So, she ether didn't believe me, and wanted to protect herself. Or, she did believe me, but didn't like me. Either way, I lost a great girl

But, because she felt inferior, she had to cheat on me to prevent me from cheating on her first, as she explained in her logic.
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>>17994870
Well that's fucked up.

I have never and would never cheat on anyone. But I really don't want to be the person that causes other people to think "her?"
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>>17994813

Guys might not admit, but we do. I do at least. The same logic applies: why keep giving attention to you if you're not corresponding?
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>>17994852

Not him, but American girls do see really shallow from my experience
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>>17994877
This. Also honestly, it usually pisses me off when people imply that women are always bitchy or passive aggressive to each other, but I do feel that women are much more sore losers than men are in this specific regard. I feel that men are more inclined to have newfound respect for a guy landing a hotter girl than expected - he must fuck her really well, right?
Whereas women much more often become salty when they feel the guy they like is dating a subpar girl.
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>>17994896
Not him, but to put it into perspective, the only reason Tony Romo got any respect back in the day, is because he was boning Jessica Simpson.

Since that came and went, so has Romo.
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>>17993790
girls,
would you date a guy who lost his testicles to prostate cancer?
I had both removed a few weeks ago and i'm ready to go back into dating (my cock is 5'7 inches)
Is that a deal breaker?
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>>17994902
I wouldn't mention it until it's too late.

Maybe get some duds implanted so they still got something to suck on and imagine is there.

I'd pass any and all uncertainty on to the woman not being fertile, and make sure she kills herself before there's a realization that you aren't able to impregnant her.
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>>17994902
For girls who want kids, probably, but otherwise probably not. I'm sorry to hear that happened anon.
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Girls

Have you ever cheated on a boyfriend? Or do you have any friends who have?

TV now adays shows cheating as any normal thing. I know TV highly influences people today
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>>17994902
5.7*
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>>17994910
No and no. Cheating is awful.
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>>17994910
I didn't. One of my female friends did (and I'm pretty sure her boyfriend was cheating on her at the time).

The other girls I hang out with never cheated, one is still virgin, two others are still dating the guy they lost their virginity to.
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>>17994902
nope, most women care about that way less than you might think. except if she wants kids. sorry for your testicles by the way
>>17994910
i have no friends who have nor have i ever
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>>17994813
Of course. I indicate interest in you and you either a.) return my interest and we escalate or b.) you are not interested, so why should I treat you special?

In a more general sense, I reflect the attention you give to me. If you're happy and talkative to me, I'll be happy and talkative to you. If you ignore and avoid me, clearly you don't like me as a person so I'll ignore and avoid you too.
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What do most girls and women think about MMF threesomes? I'm going to an erotic lifestyle convention with my steady girlfriend and I thought we could try something new like giving a blowjob together.
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>>17994887
American city girls are utter trash, never let anyone tell you otherwise.
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>>17994929
Gross. Can't wait till Pence tosses you and your ilk in a camp.
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>>17994929
I'm not into that at all
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>>17994931

I know they are. It's depressing. I want an European girlfriend. But how the fuck is that possible since I'm American
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>>17994957
You don't want a Western European gf either.

Honestly your best bet is a surrogate.
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>>17994957
Move to Europe, anon.
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>>17994926
>>17994886

Thanks, I think we're stuck in a weird feedback loop. As soon as I start getting encouraged and confident enough to escalate things, he freezes me out or acts weird.

Once I start getting discouraged enough to give up entirely, he starts acting flirty and friendly again.

He's probably just responding to how I'm acting.

I should probably just grow a pair already.
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>>17994957
>>17994931
>>17994887
>>17994847
>tfw from LA
>the girl
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>>17994973
>tfw filthy phoneposting turns tfw into the
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>>17994968
At a certain point one of you has to stop playing "the game" and make it a topic of discussion if you really want this to work out with him. When to do that is another game in itself.
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>>17994968
>>17994968
Hey, at least he talks to you. There's a chick I'm interested in and she acts weird af. But I'm honestly glad she's not interested, I'm not ready for a relationship

>>17994973
¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Sucks that our views on the opposite gender are molded by our exposure to them.
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>>17994979
yeah, i am so not good at this. i am used to being pursued, but this guy is shy and doesn't seem to have a lot of confidence, but he could just as easily just not be interested.

i think my biggest fear is that this is all in my head and he wasn't playing "the game" at all.
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>>17994962

I've traveled to Western Europe several times, and I liked the girls there. They were very interesting to talk to, and very kind to me.

>>17994965

I don't even know how. Isn't it extremely difficult?
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>>17993790
Girls

A girl who's my friend all the suddenly started ignoring me, she was talking to another friend and even when that friend started talking to me she kind of pretended i wasn't there. I saw her looking at me and even tho we were both make eye contact several times she still ignored me. When i called her name to say bye to her she told me "WHAT" really angrily and i don't know wtf her deal is. Can anyone explain why she's suddenly acting this way?
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>>17994995
How about you ask her instead of mewling about it online?
>hey, why are you acting like a cunt to me all of a sudden? that's wack, yo


Just talk to each other, people.
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>>17994995
You either did something wrong that you're not aware that you did (in which case you should just ask her if something's wrong) or she likes you and she's frustrated you're not escalating things.

See >>17994813

But since the friend freezed you out too, it's more likely the former. Your friend probably told her friend whatever heinous thing you did.
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>>17994757
You do what you gotta do to survive. If he had a job prospect he didn't like, I'd still expect him to take it for the time being. You're not always gonna like your job, but you gotta put a roof over your head and food on the table. I mean, idealy I'd like to be teaching history, but if I'm offered a job teaching geography, I'm not gonna turn it down. When that history gig does open up, I'll be the first to ask for it. For now though, I have to take what's available to me in order to survive. I'd expect the same of my partner.
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>>17994929

First, you're a faggot
Second, it's the bad version of a threesome, maybe not for you who's a faggot, but for actual males.
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>>17994929
Honestly, for me there is nothing more of a turn off than a 'bi' guy. The only one in my relationships who gets to like boys is me.
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(@ the girls)
Uh, so I've made a mistake...

So there's this girl that I've been talking to recently. I don't know her very well since I've just started talking to her and have a few classes with her.

I made a mistake, though. I forgot I have her in the same work-group in Calc II, granted I just recently joined her group (I was in another group before our class switched up a bit). We were talking about our schedules and I asked her what classes she has today. She told me a few and mentioned Calculus, and I asked which Calculus... because I was trying to remember. She seemed annoyed with me...

I just don't really pay attention all the time. I didn't really think about it.

What should I do? I apologized because I felt really stupid. I have class with her this evening and I don't want things to be really awkward.
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>>17994817
Not really. I'd only judge him if he didn't have a car/drivers license period, because I've played chauffeur for a bf before and it wasn't very fun.
If the car was reliable, I could care less what kind or what it's worth.
I've got myself a 2000 accord, Honda's are good cars imo. Shits got like 200k miles on it and has been rebuilt twice from accidents before I owned it and still not showing any signs of kicking the bucket.
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>>17994849
go get drinks with her. I wouldn't get drunk if this is the first time meeting her, I'd stop at buzzed personally. Probably won't make a good first impression if you get too trashed.
Keep conversation flowing, don't stare at the boobies.
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>>17995013
Next time you see her just bee urslef

>wow i feel dumb
>so what's up
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>>17994902
Soo that means you're infertile?
Fucking huge plus for me. Would not care one bit. Being able to fuck without fear would be the greatest thing of my life really.
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>>17995005
First i really appropriate your help. Fuck i just want to know wtf is wrong, btw this is at work and its a really laxed job but still.

>Your friend probably told her friend whatever heinous thing you did.
Impossible, she knows more about me then most people there, our mutual friends don't communicate much with her either. Even then people there don't have any dirt on me in anyway.

>She likes you
She has a boyfriend who she has been seeing for 2 years, iv known her for 4ish months. Actually fuck, looking back. It kinda just hit me but i when we first met i thought she had a crush on me but i brush it off as me being a faggot and overlooking shit once i found out she had a bf for 2 years. Like idk...

Wait a second fuck. Thee only thing i can think of is that i asked a friend if a girl was still asking about me and she was sitting in front of us. But the thing is she has a boyfriend. Wtf? Otherwise i cant think of anything she can be mad at me about, fuck man.
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>>17995001
i will but i don't work tomorrow so i'm kinda annoyed and i just want to figure this shit out.
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>>17994994
>I don't even know how. Isn't it extremely difficult?
As an american?! Not at all.
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>>17995029
If she has a boyfriend of 2 years, I'd say it's not your fucking problem.

It could be that she's looking for another branch to swing to, but girls like that annoy me and I don't think they're worth wasting time on. My last relationship was partly ruined over a girl like that, so I may be heavily biased here, but I really don't like how some girls have to have another boyfriend lined up before they end their current relationship.

She may also have no intention of leaving her boyfriend and just enjoyed the ego boost your crush gave her.

In any case, I would move on.
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What makes European girls so deep and American girls so shallow?

I'm American, I like to think I'm pretty complicated and deep, but I don't know.
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>>17995078

p-pls respond
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>>17995068

Wait really?

Tell me please
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girls

there is this girl on Redditt who is a camwhore and shit. Well she post pictures of her panties, and sometimes there is this crusty white substance on the inside of her panties. It looks like dried. semen, but its not..

what the fuck is that shit? Do your panties collect some werid fucking discharge? it looks disgusting.
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>>17995119
You actually didn't know this?
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>>17995080
In theory, physical and mental stress can affect her cycle, but given the situation I doubt this is the case. She'd probably have to be hospitalized for this to have affected her cycle, most women who claim to have had a late period after an accident are talking broken bones, serious injury.

Seriously dude, just wear a fucking condom, its literally your only form of protection. Get her a test to be safe, and prepare yourself for 18 years of child support or finding yourself a good abortion clinic.
>>17995119
If she's camwhoring, shes probably turning herself on. She's aroused, and therefore secreting natural lube for the dick that may or may not ever enter her. Think of it as the female equivalent to precum.

Now, vaginas are basically constantly cleaning themselves out, so it's not unnatural to be "secreting" throughout the day. It's only problematic if it has a strong odor or if it's particularly heavy, or if the color is wrong.
Women also have heavier discharge before their periods, as their bodies are preparing for the mess.
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>>17995119
Vaginas are constantly secreting all sorts of ooze.
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>>17995074
Brit here.

They're not.
Euro girls (with the exception of Spanish and Portuguese) are just like american girls.

The french are essentially your american period painting feminist art degree girls.
The German and British women are pretty much the same DESU, so bad and hateful ("all men are pigs, every man is a creep, why won't guys hit on me after I called them creepy...") towards their own men, that they have learned to NEVER EVER make any sort of effort to please the women. It is considered a lost cause. This is why German women have resorted to flooding the country with rapists.
Polish girls will fuck any guy that moves, then migrate back to Poland when it seems like their husband is catching on because he has no problems with beating the shit out of her. He'll straight up to it in the street with everyone watching. AND THEY STILL CHEAT THOUGH.
Skyrim tier countries are all BLACKED now, their women are just like the "wants to get back at daddy" american girls.

Honestly, the only women in Europe who actually like men, are the Spanish, and Portuguese women. They are so friendly it actually alarms me greatly.
Might be plenty of fish in the see, but all I ever swam with was piranhas - comprehending a woman that isn't just there to gnaw away at every little thing that actually brings some light into this dark fucking abyss is beyond my capabilities.
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>>17995142
>Skyrim tier countries
Sorry, I lol'd.
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Girls, if you were on tinder and found a guy with absolutely no information on his facebook profile, but the tinder profile was otherwise fine, would the fb be a deal breaker?
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How do I tell if a girl is laughing at my jokes because i'm funny, or because she likes me?
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If a girl is super insistent you go with her somewhere on a specific night what are some of the things could it mean? (obviously none of us are in her head so we can't know for sure) She asked me to go to a party with her this Saturday and I said "yeah nah I don't wanna, the host is a cunt, I'll go next time" but she's been asking every day and I finally agreed to go today so she'd stop asking. I tried asking why she wanted me to come so much but her response was something like "it'll be fun just come".
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>>17995072
I don't want to annoy you but i'd like some more of your insight.

>She may also have no intention of leaving her boyfriend and just enjoyed the ego boost your crush gave her.
Idk, i never made it apparent that i had a crush on her. I never pursued her like that and without sounding like a faggot i'm very confident and likable at work and women find me attractive. Again sorry if i sound like a faggot but my point is that i really don't think i'm the kind of guy she'd get an ego boost from because i have other options, iv even tried giving her my old wireless headphones and buying her lunch (shit i'd do with a friend) and she determinedly refused.

Now i cant date anyone atm because i have shit going on but my question is if she was branching wouldn't she make her intentions more known or is she expecting me to just ask her out knowing that i know she has a boyfriend? Her boyfriend is a bum and hasn't had a job in a year and is 7 years older then her, not that it bugs me since i didn't look at her like that but on the other hand she made a facebook post (she doesn't know i know her facebook, just happen to see it) saying that she cant wait to spend the rest of her life with him.

Again, did she expect me to just ask her out knowing i knew she had a bf or what? We only talk about 2-3 times a week, could she really be considering me a a bf? Are there any signs? Is she really jealous that there's a girl asking about me when SHE has a fucking boyfriend? I'm asking because she's a good friend and she's the only person who potentially could get hard dirt on me and i want to know her mindset so i can brace myself.
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>>17995128
>>17995130
>>17995133


i knew that girls get wet when they are aroused, but i figured it was similar to saliva in color. So it'd dry clear... Some of her panties have yellow stains, others have a white stain that look just like Semen..

fucking disgusting.. I honestly thought that vaginal discharge was just, clear. Other than the period of course.
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>>17995158
Have you ever had a girlfriend? Or heck, taken health classes on puberty?
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>>17995152
If its just the two of you going there together she definitely is planning something, try flirting a little and see how she responds
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>>17995158
No, it can be clear, white like semen, yellowish etc. Cum can absolutely be yellowish as well especially if the guy's backed up.

Be happy with discharge, it's the reason why girls are fine with not washing their vaginas with soap (which will cause infections) and still be clean and nice smelling. Bodies are wild. That's part of the fun.
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>>17995161
>>17995167

No I've not had a girlfriend. And yeah, I've taken health. I know about periods. But, I didn't think that's shit a girl would WANT to show to other guys. People find this shit attractive?

It looks Fucking disgusting
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>>17995173
That's what GUYS want to see. She wouldn't be doing it if it didn't get her money and attention from GUYS.
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>>17995130
i was wearing a condom.
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>>17995148
I wasnt even aware you can actually find the fb from tinder.
I made a secondary fb myself too for tinder, because I didnt trust tinder when they said they don't post to facebook. So I wouldn't think anything of it.
If your tinder bio was empty though I'd probably pass. I want more than just your face to decide if I want to talk to you.
>>17995149
Tell an obviously lame one. If its anything more than one of those awkward pity laughs, she might dig ya. Nothing is 100% though. One of you will have to take the plunge to find out for real if you're interested.
>>17995158
Nah, it comes in a lot of colors. Can be yellowish, clear, or white. It can depend on where she is in her cycle, her diet, if she's had sex recently, or worse case if she has any sort of infection.
It's not pretty, but neither is a lot of shit in life. Deal or go gay I guess lol.
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>>17995175

thats really gross. that is not something i'd want to see..
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>>17995180
Ah lol, well then prepare to be on Maury. Seriously though, just go get a test. They're not that expensive.
If a test comes up negative and she still doesn't get her period in the next week or so, she needs to make an appointment with her gyno to figure it out.
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>>17995192
Good for you? Clearly other guys want to see it
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>>17995173
The white stuff that's all over the place is her dried fluid from getting wet. Though honestly it seems kind of fake to me - at least I've never had it that milky looking, discharge yes but not vaginal juice. Maybe she drinks less?

However it can't be discharge, your pussy isn't moving all over the place in your underwear. The little darker spot is where her vagina was when she was wearing her jeans.

So yeah (some) men find it hot not because it's aesthetic but because it shows that she was very worked up. Hell I gave a guy the panties I'd just masturbated in (on request) and he was deliriously texting me about licking the juices off. So fucking hot.
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>>17995173
If it looks like that, then she's probably doing it as a kink thing. That to me looks like she's been wearing the same panties for 4 days straight and/or did just have sex and let it all leak out.

If you don't like it, why are you still watching? Lol I find cum disgusting myself so I skip the cum shots when I'm watching porn.
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Girls: what are some ways I can tell when a girl is secretly turned on by lolicon?
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>>17995197
>>17995202

The only reason I'm looking at it is because I'm shocked. I knew periods were messy. But that's something I don't see because girls are discrete. But this? I'm shocked that dudes get off to this shit. It's really gross..
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>>17995208
Different folks different strokes. I find anal fucking disgusting but I appear to be in a minority on that one.

Vaginas are messy, in general. Its just biology. Can't really help it. I'd say most girls keep their non period secretions to themselves as well, I know I'm not bragging about my juices in public, but hey, there's a reason the panty selling market exists. If it exists, there's a kink for it.

As I said, if it disgusts you and turns you off, find a new camwhore. There's plenty of them lol.
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>>17995208
It's all a matter of perception. There's women who find cum disgusting and women who find it superhot. Some people don't want to have sex before showering and others want to lick off their fresh sweat. Some think face to genitals is icky and others would love nothing but oral sex. Nothing new. I don't see why you should be "shocked" at men being turned on by what comes out of a woman's vagina, and is a sign of her arousal and not just acting sexy for the show, when there's people getting turned on by literal shit or being choked almost to death or alien abduction.
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>>17995215
>>17995214

im just saying, i didn't realize this shit is multi-colored to the point it looks like piss, shit, and cum stains. I've always thought the "natural lube" was clear
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>>17995155
Maybe the reason she's being a cunt is because she's been on her rag?
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>girls, how do you shave your pubes??? Literally EVERY girl I know can hang around in underwear without any pubic hair sticking out, and their pubes look so smooth. When i try to shave mine, it just feel so sooo painful and it doesn't look nice at all. Please help. (yes i'm not the opposite gender)
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Girls

At which point does girth start to hurt?
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>>17995226
>shit stains
What kind of camgirls do you watch? Brown is absolutely a warning color for discharge.

>cum stains
Well biologically speaking genitals come from the same tissues. Just like the clitoris is like a penis that expands with increased blood flow, although mostly unseen. So that could be the case.

Natural lube IS clear, at least always in my experience and I've never heard/read anything to contradict that, but discharge is what cleans the vagina and that can or can't be.

What those men want to see is her "lube", not her discharge, it just doesn't throw them off as much as it does you.
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>>17994902
I wouldn't mind at all. Actually the whole infertile thing is a plus
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>>17995235

well today was a fucking learning experience. i'm 26 years old and never knew this shit
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>>17995231
Not that experienced but what I usually do to clean it up is shave the bikini area to make sure that doesn't show (exfoliate beforehand, shave with the grain instead of against it, you get less ingrown hairs and use ample foam, or use a cream instead of shaving for more smoothness, also rub it with a mild oil afterwards to make the skin softer). Then for the pubes, if you want a neat looking bush pull the strand and cut off a part of the endings so the design looks the same but smaller and closer to the skin. If you want to trim, I personally like the look of using a beard trimmer and leaving it a bit longer more. Don't like really short "stubble" pubes, and those ends also hurt.

You can also shampoo/condition your pubes to make them softer and nice smelling!
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>>17994902

dude im genuinely curious

1. You still have a sex drive? Or do you want to date out of loneliness? I thought the testicals controlled our sex drive

2. Did they remove all the extra skin from your sack? or did they just snip the testies, pull them out, and sew the scrotum back up?

3. does it feel weird having nothing there?
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>>17994847
If anything, this place gives men a bad name, not women
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>>17995239
Eh, if it helps, I think this is something that relatively many men don't realize for some time. I personally don't give a fuck but there's plenty of girls who will kick their underwear under the bed before sex or even (especially on a first date) keep a clean pair of panties in their purse to put on before sex when they tidy themselves up in the bathroom. Exactly because they don't personally find it appealing and are afraid to gross the guy out.
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>>17995226
Welcome to the real world friend. It ain't pretty. But hey, now you know right?
>>17995231
I think some just take to it better than others. I've given up on it personally, I've tried everything I can and it all ends in a mess I'd rather not deal with. Yes, it kills my dating pool, because most guys I've ever met are turned off by hair, but its just not happening.
I can share with you the attempts I've made.
>Shaving
I find shaving in the tub to have had better results. It's a little gross to be swimmin in pube soup, but you can just shower off after. They say you wanna soak the hair in warm water to soften up the hair.
And use a brand new razor every time. The goal is to completely remove the hair in one swipe. The more you swipe, the more likely you'll have razor burn/ingrown hairs. Also keep in mind that razors are only intended to cut short short hairs, like on your armpits and legs. So you wanna take a pair of good scissors to the area before hand, and get it as short and stubbly as possible.
>Removal cream
Follow the instructions, most aren't meant for more than the bikini line, but you can try in on the top bit. ALWAYS do a test patch on your skin before hand to test for bad reactions. I got chemical burn pretty bad, I'm glad I tested it on my leg first.
>Waxing
I'd just skip the home treatment and go professional. It's a little awkward I won't lie. They will be all up in your business after all. Shop around, make sure you have someone who knows what they're doing. If you have a bad reaction, you can ask to try one more time with a different kind of wax to see if it's any better.

Only thing I havent done is lazer. Idk if I will though. I'm fine with my fine trim with scissors.
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>>17995234
Depends on the girl. If you're me, it's 1 fingers width.

I'm going to die alone.
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>>17995263
Do you know what's going on? Have you tried to have sex?
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>>17995253
>>17995256


well, i guess its good to know most girls at least try to stay clean. not that it matters right now anyways, it'll be a few more years before i have sex again. But, today was just surprising
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>>17995155
>Idk, i never made it apparent that i had a crush on her. I never pursued her like that and without sounding like a faggot i'm very confident and likable at work and women find me attractive.

Ok, point to her liking you then.

>Again sorry if i sound like a faggot but my point is that i really don't think i'm the kind of guy she'd get an ego boost from because i have other options, iv even tried giving her my old wireless headphones and buying her lunch (shit i'd do with a friend) and she determinedly refused.

Sorry, even if I refused, I would consider it a possibility that someone liked me if they were trying to give me things of theirs or buy me lunch.


>Now i cant date anyone atm because i have shit going on but my question is if she was branching wouldn't she make her intentions more known or is she expecting me to just ask her out knowing that i know she has a boyfriend?

She may expect you to escalate things, even if it's not directly asking her out....telling her you like her, etc. I know the girl my boyfriend left me for didn't break up with her fiance until my boyfriend told her he had feelings for her.


>Her boyfriend is a bum and hasn't had a job in a year and is 7 years older then her, not that it bugs me since i didn't look at her like that

It's sounding like you look at her like that.


>but on the other hand she made a facebook post (she doesn't know i know her facebook, just happen to see it) saying that she cant wait to spend the rest of her life with him.

That may be a bad sign or it may just be her trying to show off to her friends.

Again, anon. I suggest you just move on. She's either playing you or she's playing him. Either way, it's not cool and she'll do the same thing to you eventually.
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>>17995280
>at least try to stay clean
Oh come on, I don't know how experienced you are with sex but it's pretty fucking messy in general. And guys (especially young ones) often enough have pee stains from hurriedly throwing their dick back after pissing. Not to mention smegma, or smelling that he didn't wipe his ass too carefully when going down on him. And even if he's the cleanest guy on Earth and his dick smells like nothing but freshly washed skin, he's going to leak precum into your mouth and shoot a snotty ball of bodily fluids right in your mouth.

So.
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>>17995278
Idk, it's probably not normal but penetration no matter how slight has ever been anything but uncomfortable. I tried a tampon once when I was 12 and cried the entire time putting it in because it hurt so bad and took it out immediately.

Never had a dick in me, but I've been fingered a couple times. Every time it's been discomfort at best, pain at worst. One guy managed to get 2 fingers, but by then I was literally gritting my teeth praying for it to be over.
Which is why I'm thinking I'll never be able to handle even the most pencil like dicks.
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>>17995299
>Not to mention smegma

im cut, so that doesn't exist.

but yeah, i hear what youre saying.
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>>17995173
That looks like a week's worth. Gross. Imagine if you came into the same gym sock everyday for a week.
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>>17995263
What the? That sounds bad.
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>>17995306
Ever been eaten out?

Did they use lube when they fingered you?
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>>17995292
tyvm. I don't have feelings for her but it just annoys me that a good friend may have a crush on me.
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>>17995231
I used to go to a salon to get it waxed, and tried shaving once or twice and it itched terribly. Then a few months back I gave laser a go, because waxing has a few cons (it's pricy, you have to wait for hair to be long enough and this is just my case but I can't do it myself, so I NEED to plan ahead, make an appointment...).

I tried laser first on my armpits because it's a smaller area so it's cheaper. Did three sessions, stopped for a year and a half, I could still see the results so I resumed it and started laser on my pubes. It's cool because even though it takes time you can get results since the beginning, hair grows slower, thinner, in less quantity...

So far I've had 6 sessions on my armpits and 3 on my bikini area.
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>>17995306
You realize that sounds like vaginismus and you can train it away with high success rates?

>>17995307
Ah, you puur US fuckers. I feel for you. But yeah that's an upside I guess.
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>>17995325
Weird question but how do you feel about becoming a hairless old woman at some point? I'd love laser removal (not on my pubes but never having to shave my legs again would be grand) but even with minor areas for some irrational thing I can't put into words that vision of being hairless and wrinkly creeps me out.
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>>17995329

>i feel for you

why?
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>>17995320
Eaten out, once. I've had sexual encounters with 4 guys, though only 3 of them even touched me. The one dude just took his blowjob and bailed without doing anything for me.
Only one of those guys was willing to go down, the rest of them found it disgusting. Granted, he was drunk when he did it, so it was kinda sloppy. Still though, one of the best times I've had with someone else.

Lube, no. Unless spit counts. Though I've tried to use a toy on myself with lube in the past and it made no difference. Though, I chickened out pretty fast. I'm hoping one day, if it's someone else to just jam it in I can get used to it. I'm too scared to really penetrate myself.
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>>17995324
Sure anon.
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>>17995329
Thats not at all what I've read on vaginismus. Most people say it's basically untreatable as most of the time it's mental, and those dilation kits have a low success rate.

Regardless, I don't think I could do it alone. And its not like I'm gonna meet a dude who will fall in love with me before I fuck him and want to help.
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>>17995336
It just rubs me the wrong way to remove part of your infant. That might sound dramatic to you but ultimately that's the definition of circumcision, that you remove a small part of the body.
As someone who fiercely wants to have children some day I would fucking murder someone who tried to cut off a part of my child.

I also think it's insulting towards nature, like the way a dick is laid out is somehow wrong. You can wash foreskin perfectly fine and it helps keep the head soft and lubricated, and can also increase sexual pleasure (although if it's any consolation, not at all every man who's been circumcised as an adult says it took away from his sexual experience). Why fix something that ain't broken?
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>>17995341
Seriously?? Shit, I've read up on it a bit and was under the impression that it was fairly doable. Have you tried mindfulness, yoga? Hypnotism? Dilation kits in combination with any of the former?

Eh, ideally a guy would be very understanding and helpful about this, but the disappointing and somewhat understandable reality is that many young guys can be somewhat pushy about sex if it's so clearly off the table in a serious relationship. Not all of them will have the empathy and mental maturity to fully grasp that you suffer because of this first and foremost, you can't walk away.
Most of all I think it could give you a lot of confidence to see improvement here, and give you a better shot at finding a truly worthwhile man.
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>>17995346

i'm guessing its just a hygienic thing. It probably does take away from the sex experience, when i fap my orgams are really weak. not that it matters, i don't have sex anyways.
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>>17995334
I had never thought of that, but I don't really care. Many parts of your body are hairless (face, neck, hands...), how do you feel about it? I'm just adding a few more to avoid having to waste time on removing hair regularly.
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>>17995351
Idk, I don't really believe in the mental bs. Like "If I believe in myself enough, it'll work!"
No, I have a physical problem. No mental gymnastics is going to make my pussy wider.

Yeah, so I've found. Most guys just want a one night stand, not even a relationship at all. Like I said, I've accepted that I'm probably just gonna die alone without ever having anything serious.
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>>17995353
No it isn't. If you shower even every other day and it's not especially hot/especially physically straining it isn't immediately all dirty. Sure more "musky" than straight out of the shower but as I said if you keep it up it really doesn't go that fast. Especially if you don't use soap to not dry out the skin and make it produce more fluids.

Well I think that fucking matters. And even if it wouldn't it's just a case of principle for me. The whole idea is barbaric and honestly not something for this day and age in a modern western first world country. Sorry to be so offensive but I don't think you can quite understand what it looks like to me. I'm Dutch, people who live here and are circumcised are real Jews or Muslims. Otherwise it's a medical procedure. Basic health care insurance doesn't cover circumcision on anything other than medical grounds. I was sixteen or something when I realized that most American men were in my eyes undergoing genital mutilation as a cultural tradition presumably based on a story from when Moses was in the desert and the people couldn't waste water on washing their dick.
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>>17995373
It's not bullshit at all, how do you think placebos work? They're actually crazily effective. Your vagina isn't crazily narrow, it cramps up, that's muscles and not how your body is designed. At least, unless you tell me a gynecologist had a look at it and confirmed this all.
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>>17995376
Have you heard about this? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_Reimer
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>>17995383
Yeah but placebos only work if you actually believe you were being given something else.
Since I already am firmly in this mindset of "yoga and other bs psuedo science crap is a load of shit" it won't work with me.

I'll admit, I haven't directly spoken with my gynecologist specifically about this issue, but she's commented while doing the exam that I'm a "tough customer". I just never spoke up and said it was actually hurting me.
Idk why. I'm too scared to tell her, too embarrassed.
But she didn't seem alarmed by anything either.
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>>17995406
I don't know, human psychology isn't all conscious, I think it can still be calming on a deeper level to hear positive reaffirming words spoken to you even if you consciously think it's nonsense.

Maybe she thought you were just cramping up because of the whole awkwardness of the situation and didn't realize it was a normal response for you? Seems most likely to me.
But yeah, I can imagine that sucked.
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>>17995393
Yeah I had actually. Incomprehensible that they'd just go "welp, congratulations with your daughter". What the actual fuck.
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>>17995376

Yeah I'm mutilated. Fuck it. I don't get any use out of my dick, other then pissing anyways
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>>17995415
Idk, I still don't think it's something I could do alone. I'd need someone who actually cared about me to be reassuring me, but I'm never going to have anyone like that.
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Im a college age guy, about to finish. I have above average looks and I'm white/live in America.

What race of girls would be most interested in me?

Lately I've seen a lot of white girls in interracial relationships, so I don't think they find white men too attractive. Apparently for some odd reason I keep attracting white girls, but the interracial shit is off putting so I never pursue them. They usually leave me alone after awhile of trying to get my attention.
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>>17995456
not even a girl but,

its likely the race of girls most interested in you are the ones that actually like how you look and act...

just sayin

also

>I have above average looks and I'm white/live in America.
>Apparently for some odd reason I keep attracting white girls, but the interracial shit is off putting so I never pursue them.

what is the problem? maybe YOU arent attracted to white girls.
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>>17995456
Interracial dating is still incredibly rare. You watch too much porn.
You notice interracial couples more precisely because they're rare. For every interracial couple you see, you're turning a blind eye to a dozen of same race pairings. You don't notice them because they're so common.
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>>17995481
Yeah but I keep attracting white girls and Im not even trying. For example I was at a concert and the girl standing next to me kept trying to make out with me and I was blatantly ignoring her come ons. One word answers, not looking at her.

I want to start dating seriously, but no other races of girls ever show interest in me. Do they not like me because Im white? I know I have above average looks, Im fit, and I dress nice. Im not a mess, is what Im trying to say. Im fairly intelligent, Im finishing a STEM degree so I got a few brain cells.
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How the fuck am I supposed to find girls while being out of school and too young to drink?
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>>17995456
>>17995487
If you want some stats, here's the wikipedia page
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interracial_marriage_in_the_United_States#Census_Bureau_statistics
It cites the us census found here if you want it straight from the source, the wikipedia chart is just a little easier to read.
http://www.census.gov/population/www/socdemo/hh-senpai/cps2010.html

Notice that 97.7% of White men have a White wife. 89.2% of Black men have a Black wife. 91.8% of Asian men have an Asian wife.

There are stats saying interracial dating is on the rise, but it's still by far a minority occurrence.
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>>17995499
those are marriage stats boss, not dating.
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>>17995456
I'm so confused. You hate interracial shit, so women of your own race turn you off? What?
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>>17995498
go to school or get a fake like everyone else lol.
Or wait to be legal.
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>>17995500
Yes, but typically you date before marriage right?
And if you're dating, typically you're at least somewhat considering somewhere in the back of your brain to marry them

But please, try to honestly tell me you genuinely believe that the vast majority of white women aren't dating white guys.
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>>17995501
Yeah it's a defense mechanism. I understand it's hypocritical. It keeps my brain from short circuiting I think.
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>>17995508
I mean they will marry white guys for money and to have a good life after she's had a rainbow of cocks. I want a girl but I'm not trying to be used like that.
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>>17995524
If you honestly believe that is a majority thats more your problem then mine I guess. Seriously, really open your eyes when you go out side. Count every single couple you see. I bet there's going to be more same race couples than not.
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>>17995520
So who in the world do you expect to date? That leaves absolutely no one.
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>>17995541
indian, asian, hispanic girls? That's why I was asking if any other races would find a decent looking white guy attractive. None of those ever show interest in me, so I was wondering if it was bc im white or what.
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>>17995545
But you don't like interracial couples...?
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>>17995545
What the fuck is your logic dude?
I find women who date other races disgusting, but when I do it it's completely ok?
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>>17995548
>>17995549
I have never done that. Im just sitting here like well since my race of women are doing it, I might as well too.
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>>17995555
But. You. Don't. Like. Interracial. Couples.
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>>17995561
Dude I don't think we can even get through to this dude, he's in such a state of delusion...
>>17995555
Sure dude, whatever. Don't knock it till you try it. Do whatever you want. lol
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>>17995561
Simply, no. The thing is my options are get a white girl who has been in one and probably only wants me for money/decent life. Other option is be alone in life. Third option is find another race of girl that finds me appealing for my looks/personality.
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>>17995576
Yup. Those are the only options. There is no such thing as a white girl who's only had white cock. Oh and they're all money grubbing whores.
Jesus dude. This is why you aren't finding anyone.
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>>17995576
Only the second option is the course to take with your fucked up logic.

Also do you really think that girls of other races are somehow different from white girls? Asians are even more materialistic than you think white girls are.
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>>17995576
If anything the black chick is gonna be the one using you for your money. There's a reason there's the stereotype of black baby mama looking for a white man to raise her brood because the white man's gonna get better job opportunities than any minority in the US.
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>>17995594
that's seems rare as fuck and how the hell would i know that?
>>17995602
No, Im just trying to figure out why the hell im attracting what I do and why Im not attracting other races of girls.
>>17995603
Im not attracted to black girls at all, unless heavily mixed race.
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>>17993790
/adv/, I work in accounting/audit so I'm used to working with different people in different clients/offices.

I'm in a special project and this week I just met this one girl. Let's keep in mind that I'm an outgoing autistic robot and that I have very kinda different hobbies and tastes that I don't share with anyone I meet,

Now, this co-worker girl is special as fuck to me, she's introverted like me and she likes comics and manga and the same rock music and same sports and vidya and alcohol shit like me.

Naturally, when we speak I can speak very fluently to her, and I feel very confident when talking to her and she laughs when I say jokes and shit.

Now, the problem is I'm just 22, I just moved out of parents house, I got myself a senior position, "decent" money for my age, I rent my own place with a roomie, I'm about to get a car.

SHE is 30, already divorced, has her own place and car, she might be a manager soon, already has a 9 year old kid, has mentioned she doesn't want kids, I'm under the impression that even though she's introverted she still wants Chad Thundercock and I'm no Chad Thundercock.

Like last weekend I went partying with other co-workers, and she said she was staying "home reading books".

How should I handle the situation? I really wanna give it a chance. Maybe I wont' work with her more after the next week.

Also I literally dress like this without the jacket and the beanie (just a long sleeved shirt instead), do I look like a genuine faggot?
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>>17995831
>Also I literally dress like this without the jacket and the beanie (just a long sleeved shirt instead), do I look like a genuine faggot?
Without the jacket and beanie? So skinny jeans and low cut sneakers with no socks? It's kind of twinky, but I personally don't assume these kind of things anymore. I haven't assumed that a guy was gay who ended up being straight.

>How should I handle the situation? I really wanna give it a chance. Maybe I wont' work with her more after the next week.
This is a really vague question. What do you want? Just ask her out.
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>>17995576
I don't understand. If a girl is in an interracial relationship, you don't like it. But if you're in an interracial relationship, that's okay. What?
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>>17996019
Im not and never have been in an interracial relationship. If I go into an interracial relationship, Im staying that way Im not going back to my race.
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