I like one of my co-workers and I started making it clear by getting close to her whenever I get the chance to. I'll hold her and I'll grab her hand to hold when we're leaving and stuff. She started doing the hand holding thing with me as well and she finds any reason to talk to me.
I've been meaning to ask her out for a while now, but one thing that stops me is that:
She takes forever to text/chat back although this doesn't really bother me since she could be busy. The other thing that really bothers me is that she's constantly following guys, more importantly, single guys on Instagram. Now, obviously we aren't dating, but I just find it weird that she takes the initiative to try to talk to me and grabs my hand to hold and she calls for me whenever I walk past her for me to hold her.
Does she just like the attention? My gut feeling tells me that she's not really into me and that she doesn't want anything serious with me. The guys she follows have the same traits: they have at least a six-pack and are around 6'0" tall, both of which I'm not/don't have.
Should I drop it?
>>17983135
i hate to break it to you, but youre a mid level functioning autist and she is your handler. its not work anon, thats high school. shes just trying to figure herself out and takes care of you in her spare time.
>>17983150
What do you mean by takes care of me?
>>17983157
shes your handler, she takes you around and prevents you from doing crazy retard shit. thats why she gets your attention and holds your hand. so you dont wander off.
>>17983135
How long does she take to text back?
>>17983169
Usually around 10-15 minutes. Many times it's shorter.
>>17983171
dude shes texting you back right away. dont stress it.
>>17983182
Yea maybe I'm just stressing out for no reason. One time I thought I fucked up because she texted me saying I was a confusing person and I replied with "how"? And she just replied with a wall of text saying how I'm cryptic when I speak to her and how I don't say hi to her. This started happening now and so I don't know if she's being legit or just playing around.
I gonna ask her out and take her to a museum of sex or something.
>>17983196
>a museum of sex
take her to a breakfast diner for lunch/brunch
>>17983203
Sure I guess that works too. I said the museum because she likes crazy/weird shit like that.
>>17983135
Gut feeling is that she isn't into you? Probably correct.
By the way, all that touching at work can easily be considered sexual harassment, you need to ask a person before you do that shit to them. I know a chick that wanted to quit her job because some dude kept touching her and talking to her too much.
>>17983208
She does the same things to me. She'll grab me from behind. It isn't anything crazy. We both know what we're doing.
>>17983171
That's pretty fast, anon.
Jesus christ, all of you people need to learn how to formulate your feelings and questions into WORDS and then SAY THEM, and then maybe you won't be so in the dark all the time.
>>17983229
I guess, it's just the thing with her following guys that are single that bugs me. Maybe she's just keeping her options open.
>>17983238
Are they guys that she knows, or is this the female equivalent of guys who follow hot girls and porn chicks?
If it frightens you so much, then back off her.
And if you're too much of a pussy to try to spend time with her outside of work, or if she said no, despite this behavior she might just see you as her work husband.
>>17983166
Made me laugh.
>>17983247
I think it's more of the equivalent thing. I'm not scared to ask her out, I just don't want to look like an idiot.