Everything about my past makes me cringe. Is it normal to cringe at yourself?
And how do you know you're not this delusional- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WQMfQH9yG2o?
Tell me about your experiences with cringing. How do you know if you're self-aware?
I cringe at myself in the past
It gets a bit better the older I get, feel more distance from the incredibly awkward teenage years and generally I feel I make a fool of myself less and less the older I get.
Everyone makes poor decisions though, it's inevitable we are all going to have regrets
Completely normal.
Used to struggle with this a lot but at the end of the day I figured, no one other than I cares. There's still stuff I cringe to recall (cheerily telling my friend how I was looking for a father's day present and only remembering that night, in bed, that it was the first father's day since her father had died) but that's because it was thoughtless, hurt people, or simply came across like I was being a cunt. If I was simply being awkward or uncool, whatever.
Think of it like this: do you have any memories of someone accidentally being fumbly and weird? Or saying dumb stuff while drunk? Likely not. It is both a matter of being able to laugh at yourself in a healthy way, and respecting yourself enough that you feel you don't need to do everything right/smooth all the time in order to be worthwhile human being.
And obviously if you do really fuck up, own up to it and apologize sincerely. Everyone has lapses of judgment, what's more telling is how you choose to deal with that.
>>17978406
bahahahaha my past is the worst ever don't feel bad! i have to go thru life like seriously paranoid thinking people know about me and my past and thinking people sit around talking shit about me always and all this shit it sucks and like i am sure what any one person knows of my past is like nothing in comparison with the sum totality my entire existence is like painfully cringy on a number of levels
>>17978406
Yes.
Friend and I turn 18 and thought we could be porn actresses. We didn't start by dancing or anything just responded to a model ad and went together nervous and scared not knowing what really to expect. I went first, tried to act like it was nothing but it was and I let two guys have sex with me I did not know, one without a condom. I was a humiliated wreck though I tried to cover it. My friend backed out once she saw what I went through. I cried almost constantly for two weeks and have a sick feeling in my stomach now and I write. Can never undo this.
I used to type all sorts of retarded faux-cutesy when I was 12 or so. I have chat logs, old forum posts, and other reminders from back then and I want to die every time I see them. If it's cringing about past behavior that's at odds with what you would do today, completely normal. If it's cringing about embarrassing things that happened in past that were just fuck ups, it's still normal to an extent but you should try to let it go and is moreso a symptom of insecurity. Everyone has fuckups like that that they're embarrassed about and find cringey. I threw up on my crush's desk when I was in first grade, and I'd eaten a blueberry muffin that day so it was bright blue.
I acted like an idiot from about 18-22. Got it out of my system. I'm 25, a lot of more mature, independent and secure with myself, and look back and laugh. So no, I don't cringe at it, I've accepted it as part of my life. It feels really good when you can smile at yourself without any feelings of embarassment for things that many people would consider embarassing.
>>17978406
That's how you learn and grow as a person.
You need to make mistakes so you'll know never to do that again.
Yes OP this is not only very normal, it's a telling sign that you're finally growing up.
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