I'm in my late 20s, and my sister is older than me. Is it possible to still make a good connection with her? I've been trying really hard to show interest in her life, and gave her a really good christmas last year, but she just seems to be complacent. I know from writing this, I would tell myself that there's no hope, but I would like to think that maybe... like a midlife crisis, or just getting old would fuck her up and make her need someone, or something. Thoughts?
I'm 28 and my sister is 33. We just recently in the last year or two became a little closer to each other as family. It's possible, and actually sort of interesting to re-learn someone you grew up with, but haven't lived with in well over a decade.
I don't know your sister but from a personal level just back off a little, I'm cool with my siblings, even if I want one of them dead, but I run my own life and let mine overlap with theirs when I need to and let bonds grow closer together when we are together.
But my family life was moderately abusive and complicated, not as horrible as some but bad enough to move away to two different states to get away from them. It might take time but slow, moderated exposure is what I need and maybe what she needs