So I'm a 20 year old virgin about to turn 21 & I'm pretty tired of fapping to get off. I'd rather not use stuff like Tinder because it seems like most of the girls on there are really shallow. So how are you supposed to meet girls irl? & before someone says "just meet them through friends" none of my friends talk to girls enough to bring singe ones around.
not OP but bumping for any and all interesting imput
>walk up to girl
>say hi
>talk to her
Literally the only way, since you dismissed tinder
>>17972466
If you are 21 and a virgin, maybe you need a couple shallow bimbos to get you wet before you waste a decent opportunity with a good girl due to your inexperience.
>>17972466
Just grab them by the
>>17972472
Don't girls hat that though? Random guys trying to hit on them while they're just minding their own business?
>>17972466
Don't listen to the guys or girls here they are stuck in a pool of shitty dating advice. The guys will tell you stop being beta and the girls will call everything you try creepy.
Here is the real secret
>Find a social group
Since you are 20 I assume you are still in college which is a really good time for this. Just gather some peeps in your class chill and go get coffee or study. Or join a club and become active talking to the members and showing you are a good guy. Girls are more likely not to just notice you but like you in this group if you show how well you can do socially. Now that you have this social group you can freely exchange numbers and text them from time to time under the pretense of being a pleasant person. If the group likes you the girls in it will start to like you too. Using this method you can probably get one freebee girl.
Now that you have the social group isolate the girl you want and hang out alone with her. If the girl you want is not in your social group just ask her to hang out with you guys and later on when she seems comfy and thinks you are a good guy just get her alone. Make sure while you are hanging out to get her number causally and dont seem nervous.
This is honestly the best way to get that gf experience at your age. Without seeming desperate or "creepy" you can weed out shallow women this way as well.
Basically in short join a group.
>>17972476
Yeah but my texting game isn't great and I doubt a Tinder hoe would want to hook up with me. Not saying I'm ugly, it's just I'm more of the shy, quiet type.
>>17972493
You could always hire someone, anon.
>>17972485
You're not supposed to hit on them with pickup lines. Just make small talk for a while and ask for their numbers.
It's not different from tinder at all: you'll probably pick a target by their looks and try to have a functional conversation. The only difference is that in tinder you already know there's a mutual physical attraction from the start
>>17972490
I have to make a whole new friend group just to get laid? I'm not saying this isn't good advice but I'm certainly not the most social person, this seems a bit convoluted and more effort than its worth considering nothing is a guarantee.
>>17972506
I feel like that's cheating, plus I'll go through life knowing that I couldn't get any & had to pay someone to finally loose it.
>>17972509
Idk man I've never seen someone do that and not get rejected irl. It puts girls in an awkward situation so they feel forced to be nice end humor you.
>>17972485
Girl love any form of validation. Even if she rejects you she will low-key brag about it later.
If you get a fwb they always talk about guys who orbit them or hit on them. The girl I'm boning has some dude who buys her shit all the time, it's sad.
>>17972466
That girl would be 10/10 smoking hot without the piercing, rip
>>17972935
I know what you mean, ik this honestly kind of ugly thot with a submissive bf who she slaps around and she has this Saudi orbiter who dropped like 2k on her but she still hasn't slept with him lmao
>>17972476
>waste an opportunity due to your inexperience
This is the stupidest shit I've ever heard in my life.
>>17972972
>>17973186
Nah, everybody should date a couple sluts for practice. That's how men get good at kissing and fucking. I would be shit at kissing if it weren't for my slut ex girlfriend.
>>17973321
I disagree only because I've been with virgins that were better than 'experienced' guys
>>17973975
yeah but they probably weren't antisocial like op
>>17972490
this is the best advice you'll read in this thread. Stop reading and do this. Seriously close this window, the question is answered.
>>17972915
>I have to make a whole new friend group just to get laid? I'm not saying this isn't good advice but I'm certainly not the most social person, this seems a bit convoluted and more effort than its worth considering nothing is a guarantee.
Don't think of it like that. Getting a mixed social group with access to girls will enrich your life in many ways. You'll end up getting laid many times, with different girls, over the course of several years, and with different groups of friends too. It's not automatic, and yes, it's not guaranteed. But you should go for it and actually enjoy the process. The goal will come on its own.
I feel you OP, turning 21 in a few months, my major is a total sausage fest so I don't meet any girls through there, and I'm not charismatic or confident enough to get anywhere by cold approaching girls. At this point I feel like my best plan is to just pay girls compliments which might lead to a conversation if we keep running into each other, I've never seen a girl doing/reading/wearing anything that so genuinely interested me that it compelled me to start a long conversation with her enough to get anywhere. At least I know I'm not the only one, it sounds like a lot of other guys in my major are in the middle of dry spells, they're beginning to complain more and more about the lack of girls in the class. I'm tempted to join Tinder but better men than me have tried and failed at that, women are too spoiled for choice and I'd much prefer dating someone to a string of dates that results in a one night stand once in ten.
>>17972485
they only hate it if you're creepy :^)
>>17972490
dis guy knows whats up
>>17973975
A virgin at kissing?
>>17972490
absolutely the best advice in this thread
>>17974097
I feel for that man. I'm in electrical engineering at a technical school, the ratio is like 20:1. Like the other guy said the best thing to do is find another social group. for me it was our student services org (they put on talent show, drive-in movies, etc.) because of the type of organization the group actually has more girls than guys on it. even just having passable friendships with most of them has opened up a lot of opportunities. My current girlfriend is a friend of one of the girls in the group.
>>17974048
Idk man I don't think I want to put that much effort into it.
Tinder is also highly inconsequential, if you're jacking it you might as well try it, you're on 4chan you little fag, you're a 20 year old virgin, you're not above using a dating app. Find someone you kind of like (as if anyone on tinder is even going to like you) and get your nut off, you're not going to marry the girl. Hopefully.
>>17972466
>tinder girls are shallow
>literally trying to meet a girl b/c you're tired of jacking off
hmmmmm
>>17976200
Idk I know a guy about as attractive as me (6/10) who's been on Tinder for a few months and still hasn't gotten laid. You have a point though I may get the balls to make a profile.
>>17976435
I don't think that's shallow. Tinder gives girls too much power in the dating game, it allows them to feel justified in being overly picky. The girls I know that use it almost never hook up with people on it because they drop guys the second they find something they dislike about them.
>>17976435
>>literally trying to meet a girl b/c you're tired of jacking off
Like is that not how people decide to loose their virginity? Should I just want to meet a girl I really like with and loose it along the way? It's painfully obvious you're a female pissed that some guys really don't want to enter a relationship to get their dicks wet.
>>17972490
Thanks.
>>17976154
Don't be a pussy. Do you honestly want to just jack it? Sex and relationships take effort.