How do you properly reconcile when starting over? >taking

>>17915098
It won't work. Move on and stop being lazy and falling back into a failed relationship because you're not independent enough to not.

I honestly don't think there is anyway you can successfully return to a relationship, in most cases. If things were salvageable, you wouldn't have ended things in the first place.

The difficulty is that both people are so desperate for it to work, that they'll put a tonne of effort in at the beginning. It won't be too long before you fall into old habits and the same behaviours repeat themselves, only it will probably go on for longer because neither one of you will want to admit you fucked up by trying again.

It sounds terrible to hear if you have any hope left that things could work out, but they more than likely won't. The best thing to do is completely cut contact, move on and focus on finding somebody you are more compatible with. Keeping in mind of course that going through a breakdown will inevitably change you and the type of things you look for in a partner.

im interested in this too. been out of a relationship 7 months now and theres other girls interested, but im not emotionally ready to be interested back in them.

how does one find the gumption to do it

>>17915112
This is why this board is shit.

Way to assume a bunch of shit you couldn't possibly know dumbass.

>>17915163

99% chance he's just frustrated that he couldn't win his ex back and doesn't want people to get something he failed to achieve.

OP: Yes, new relationship. If she asks you questions, answer, but always keep things positive. How she feels when she's with you is how she'll feel when she thinks about you.

Start over with a clean slate. The hard part is that if she gets mad, she might bring up the past. Good luck m8

>not bringing up the past

So how many dicks did she suck in the week you were broken up?

>>17915175

Lol I bet you would ask that to your ex. It's really none of your business, you don't own her. If you were alpha you should have had more sex than she had during the breakup.

But sadly a lot of men are lame as fuck and will get back with an ex before dating/fucking other women, and the insecurity of their ex having dated other men destroys their confidence.

Take my advice OP: Fuck at least one girl before getting back with an ex. It makes it much easier to see past her time as a single woman.

>>17915204

>you don't own her

Woman detected.

>>17915172
>99% chance
uh durrrrrrr

Proving my point.