Hi, I'm a new uni student and I am looking for girls to date. At the societies I am at there aren't many girls and my course has even less, although I have met one girl I am friends with.
I want to meet girls to date, and as far as I can tell I have two options. 1) go through the girl, since she's second year and knows a lot of girls 2) find them myself.
1) seems like the most tempting option, but the way she has been with me gives me suspicions. She has been physically affectionate pretty much from the start and invited me to her party within 20 minutes of meeting her. As time has gone on its gotten less and less but I suspect that's because I told her I wanted to work on myself before considering relationships, after she had spent the last hour telling me about her old boyfriends and that she wanted closeness.
What do you thinks the best way to go about it? I don't want to use tinder or go to some of the other societies because they don't interest me, but at the same time I don't want to throw her under the bus if she does have feelings.
>>17914783
>meets a girl
>she's physically affectionate, invites you to things, starts talking about what she wants from a relationship
>you tell her you aren't interested in a relationship right now for personal reasons
>she backs off
Of fucking course she's interested in you. How could you interpret things otherwise? Not only that but she's respectful of your comfort zone.
>>17914793
Yeah. But that's not the question. I'm not into her.
>>17914797
Aaah, I see
Then def don't go through her. Asking someone who has feelings for you to help you find someone else to date is a dick move.
>>17914811
Yeah that was my instinct. The alternative way of finding them (if it isn't tinder, which isn't my thing anyway) may or may not involve her since she is a student of the course that runs the society.
If you want to continue your friendship with her, you're going to eventually have to be honest with her about how you want to date people but not her. Don't ask her to help you, but don't hide it from her either. It's going to hurt her, but there's no way around that.
>>17914830
This
>>17914830
Yeah. You're right, its regrettable, I don't think i should rub salt onto the wound.