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I'm a girl. I've been told I'm a really bad kisser.

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I'm a girl. I've been told I'm a really bad kisser. And bad at sex because I don't respond to what's happening

How do I kiss well and what's the best way to make it look like you're enjoying sex?
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Relax and be clear on your enjoyment. There must be times during sex where you enjoyed one thing more than another well don't be afraid to make sure the other person knows you're enjoying it. You don't have to go wild and scream or anything they just want to know that what they're doing is giving you want you want.
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>>17912753
No I don't really enjoy it, I have to fake it so that I don't turn them off by being a dead fish, which is what happened last time.
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>>17912709
Ask him what it looks like when a woman enjoys sex. Don't copy what he says, but see if you can incorporate some of that into your enjoyment.
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>>17912756
Then I think your problems are different from what you say you have in OP...
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>>17912756
If you don't really enjoy it, why are you having sex?
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>>17912709
Ask him to show you how to kiss. I got a guy to do this with me, and it was the hottest thing ever - was also very helpful.
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>>17912756
>No I don't really enjoy it

well there is your problem. no point in even getting into relationships if you dont enjoy it desu because a lot of chemistry comes from having sex with your partner. a sexless relationships is a shitty relationship.
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>>17912763
i was going to ask this but im pretty sure she will say "because they are persistent about it and i want to make them happy"
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>>17912772
Not a big fan of hypotheticals, but what is she getting out of a sore cunt?
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>>17912763
>>17912767
>>17912772
To make him happy, he wouldn't be with me if I didn't have sex with him.
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>>17912780
About what I figured. What would your life be like if your partner were not in it?
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>>17912790
I would probably die from a broken heart.
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>>17912780
yeah, i knew you would say that. i understand there is more to love than sex but you seriously have something wrong with you if you cant enjoy sex, it is literally backwards. its like not enjoying the taste of any food. so basically you need to get the doctors or something
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>>17912709
Masturbate. Figure out what you like, so you can teach him. As for kissing, I guess just ask him to teach you
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>>17912798
Doctors say there's nothing wrong with me physically.
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>>17912795
Why would you have a broken heart? Are you defined by having a partner?
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>>17912803
No I'm not defined by having a partner, but I love him and want him close to me, or else I'd be very very miserable and heartbroken.
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>>17912801
>physically.

yeah but there probably is mentally. you would enjoy your relationship more and your relationships would be strengthened if you enjoyed sex.
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>>17912800
I've tried masturbating, nothing works and I've got very little left to explore.

Yeah I'll ask him.
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>>17912813
I don't think there's much wrong with me mentally either, I was never sexually repressed or anything.
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>>17912811
You sound like you're not mature enough to be in a relationship.
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>>17912824
Why? Isn't it normal to be heartbroken when you lose a partner?
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>>17912831
Not to the point of death.
Not when you're letting a guy pound you simply so he doesn't leave.
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>>17912822
yeah but you dont get me. you're literally meant to enjoy sex by nature with someone you love. i understand not enjoying it with if its casual sex but you clearly have feelings for this guy. he is going to eventually gonig someone else for that sexual chemistry
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>>17912833
Emotional stress is a killer, google takotsubo syndrome.
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>>17912838
>takotsubo syndrome
You're menopausal?
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How long do you think you'll keep him faking it, and if you manage it, how long will it take before he starts to be abusive because sex for you is just currency in the relationship?

If you don't know how to enjoy sex, you have to learn that first before trying to have two players in it.
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>>17912850
No but I'm easily affected by anxiety and stress.
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>>17912801
Just a thought, but you might be overthinking the whole thing. Sex gets to be more fun the less you think and the more relaxed you are. He, on the other hand, needs to learn your ropes, what arouses you more and do that. Me and the missus started pretty badly, and she managed to come almost three years into our marriage. But she does it regularly now, without faking, and often jumps me out of the blue. It took effort from both of us, but I think more from me. I had to learn what works for her and make sure she gets it.
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>>17912855
And you have a confirmed diagnosis of this?

I hope you're enjoying yourself.
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>>17912858
Yeah but it seems like there are no ropes to learn because I've already tried out almost everything.

>>17912859
Yes
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>>17912822
You're asexual. CAN'T YOU REALIZE THIS?
Do us all a favor and only date other asexuals from now on.
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>>17912864
Mmm, I don't think I'm asexual to be honest, I'm sexually attracted to guys and when I was much much younger I did enjoy being touched sexually, but that was a really long time ago and I'm not a hormonal teenager anymore.
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>>17912871
You still don't enjoy sex and say there's nothing wrong with you physically and mentally, so FUCK OFF to some asexual dating site.
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>>17912851
But how can I learn to enjoy sex when I've already tried most things when masturbating and having sex?
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>>17912871
So how old are you?
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>>17912880
late twenties
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>>17912878
You're probably juat overthinking it. The more you make it a problem, the more it will be, and it feeds itself back and grows stronger. It's "psicossomatic" (sp?) probably

Either that, or some hormonal balance. You need to be actually aroused to feel something down there, because arousing takes blood to your genitals and make it sensitive. So your problem is either not being in the right mindset, or hormonal imbalance.

You say you actually enjoyed it as a teen, have you tried fantasizing or roleplaying that age?
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>>17912880
>late twenties
>uses sex to keep a guy
>claims to have a disease which no more than two percent of the population has
>disease has never been detected in pre-menopausal women
>ignores possibility of asexuality

Sounds like we have a troll here, peeps.
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>>17912890
It was only one occasion, I was only touched by a guy once during my teens, and it was my very early teens.

I went without sexual contact until my mid twenties, I think somewhere in that time I lost the ability.

Yeah I've roleplayed that age, it just depresses me.
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>>17912892
I never said I had that syndrome, I said I was likely to develop it should I ever go through something as traumatic as a breakup.
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>>17912905
Why don't you accept your asexuality, troll?
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>>17912909
You should go to bed soon or you'll be late for school tomorrow.
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>>17912911
lol
I'm not the one trolling 4chan.
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>>17912902

If you tried it and it depressed you, your problem is purely mental. Have you never had pleasure with masturbation, watching porn, nothing at all?

You have to stop worrying about it and letting go. Loads of women have problems with orgasms because it's "common knowledge" that girls have a harder time cumming, while most of the time it's purelly a biological mechanism with simple triggers. Women overthink it and block it.

Took me a few times to make my gf cum for instance. I was the first to ever make her cum with masturbation and oral. And her problem, other than having shitty partners previously, was purely thinking she wasn't capable of it. She literally cried when she came with me with penetration, from overcoming her blockage.
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>>17912917
I don't care about orgasms I just want to enjoy it rather than be numb down there.
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>>17912924
>I don't care about orgasms
>I just want to enjoy it rather than be numb down there

I'm fucking sozzled as shit, and yet I can see the stupid through this post.
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>>17912929
There's pleasure before orgasm right?

I want that, I don't care about reaching orgasm, I just want some pleasure.
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>>17912935
Asexuals can't have pleasure.
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>>17912924
>>17912935

Both things are kinda tied. Plain pleasure is good, but orgasms are the main goal, specially for women who are all potentially multiorgasmic. Once you have pleasure, orgasms are the natural next step. You should aim for them, and find pleasure on the way.

So, have you never ever had an orgasm or pleasure? If you had it this one time you're very likely biologically able to have them. Check your hormones ans if isn't them, it's all in your head.
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>>17912960
Well an orgasm would be great but I would just be satisfied with some pleasure

What can I do to fix my vagina?
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>>17912973
K that's it, you're trolling
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>>17912945
You mean this:
>Abstinent people can't have pleasure
>Celibates can't have pleasure
>burn victims with mutilated genitalia can't have pleasure

Asexuals are...asexual. Meaning they split themselves in two, like cells, or filter-fart babies out of their skin, like sponges.
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Maybe try fucking someone who you have a real connection with.. not someone you just met and things will naturally fall into place. One thing for me that quickly turns me off to making out is too much tongue, some chicks just wanna stick their reptilian snake tongues down your throat and it gets old really fast. Be in the moment and whatever you feel, do.. Don't worry about what the other person thinks because if they're worth keeping around they are content with the situation as is. Although if you're some kind of uncoordinated retard in kissing who cant actually hit where you want to at whatever tempo then maybe practicing on your pillow is the best option. Sounds retarded and is but if you're as bad as you say you are practice is the only way
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