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Friendless and trying to meet women

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Up to this point (20 yrs) I have been a sperglord whose always liked spending time alone doing things I liked (programming, browsing, gaming, etc) and I never made any friends throughout high school, like zero, because I was always very introverted. I think that it wasn't the fact that I have major issues with communication but its that I have a major disconnect with popular culture, so I never had anything to say about what my peers liked. I have no social media and have no intent to create a profile.

At this point I think I am getting tired of my indoor routine and just want some change in my life and would like to start meeting new people (specifically women).. The problem is that as I mentioned, I don't have any friends that could invite me to their social gatherings and don't know of places where I could go and feel comfortable.. I can pass off as a likeable person, pretty women in the past have found me attractive, and I drive a nice car. So I don't think I would have major problems with having someone talk to me, its just that I don't know where I can find her. Any advice is appreciated.

Oh, and here are the things that are off the table.

-Dating apps (I want a one to one conversation)

-Clubs or any type of huge crowded space (as mentioned I am a sperglord and become really irritated with loud music or packed spaces).
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>>17909615

How about taking it slow? You don't take a guy that never runs an put him in a marathon.

If you are so used to being alone, sharing you time and attention with a person can be hard. That is, if you are looking for a GF. If you just want to fuck, you might have better luck.

I would still advice you to first move out of your comfort zone and develop a social network. Not an online social network, but a real network of real people to do stuff with. Meeting women till be easier then.
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>>17909615
Look into local bands. If you can find any you like, you have a reason to go out for a couple hours to see them play. You at least have a chance of meeting people then.
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>>17909623
I forgot to mention in my post, I am not looking to make some special connection with anyone, just whatever happens, happens. Whether its a one night thing or a friend I don't care, all I want is to talk to a girl who is my age.

I get what you're saying though. Problem is where do I start off? I don't go to college and I work from home.
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>>17909638

Join a gym. Take up a class (drawing, acting, etc.). Pick some interest you have develop it.
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>>17909644
I thought the same thing, I took a math class at my local community college and got cucked out of 300 dollars and no women. I did learn about regressions though.

I actually go out to the park and jog for a bit, which I prefer any day over being at the gym. Sadly, I run to fast to catch any women.
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>>17909683
>got cucked out of 300 dollars and no women.

If you go places expecting to find women, two things will happen:

1) If you don't find any or they don't like you, then you'll grow frustrated.

2) Even if there are women, they don't like desperation. So you can't start by going to pick chicks when they are trying to do something else.

Try actually enjoying what you re doing. Friends and girls will come, just be a pleasant person to be around.
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>>17909693
Well I didn't take the class because I wanted to meet people, I took it because I genuinely liked the subject and wanted to learn more. I mentioned there being no women because its related to this discussion.

I like things that have little to no women in them (much less attractive women). For example, I am in the robotics club (bunch of old men but nice people nonetheless), I program so I've been to couple of meetups (again very little women, and its a professional setting) I am rushed to do it but not too desperate.

I just want to be around people my age where there are attractive women so that I can talk with them. I would even consider something like a house party or something but I don't have any friends to invite me to one, and the people I am around are way older than me and don't have that kind of lifestyle.
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>>17909726
>I just want to be around people my age where there are attractive women so that I can talk with them. I would even consider something like a house party or something but I don't have any friends to invite me to one, and the people I am around are way older than me and don't have that kind of lifestyle.

Maybe that is telling. If the people that have fun with you are a certain way, why wish they were different?

And just because there aren't many girls in the class itself, meeting people is good. They might invite you do other stuff and you might meet girls there. They might have friends that you can meet in birthdays or other important events. But you need to be their friends to be invited. Even helping someone move could mean you meet more of their friends.

So just have fun and enjoy being with people. As you meet more people, your chances of meeting girls increase.
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>>17909726
>>17909747

>(much less attractive women)

Forgot to add. Dude, beggars can't be choosers. You don't have to date the first girl that crosses your path. You can make friends even if the girl isn't that pretty.
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