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Am I in the wrong?

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So basically I was really depressed and sick for a few days, so I just stayed in bed either sleeping or crying and feeling like crap so I didn't have contact with anyone. My friend, well I guess ex friend now, tried contacting me those few days when I was feeling like crap but I ignored her because I couldn't find any motivation to talk to anyone. I know its stupid of me to ignore people when I simply could have told her I didn't want to talk but whenever I've done that in the past with her she won't stop talking to me so I figured I'd just not say anything. So I get a lot of bitchy messages from her because of this, example: "I'm done with you, you're a bitch," etc. along with blocking me on every form of social media.

Anyway,I call her up though regardless today because I finally found motivation to talk to someone and I explain and apologize but apparently that's not good enough because she ended our friendship. She basically said: "You're horrible you never can see that I'm in pain, I always see when you're in pain, why don't you notice me? I don't want to be friends with a mentally ill person like you because you abuse me. I had a panic attack because you ignored me, our friendship sucks," etc. the rest of what she said was along those lines. The thing is I asked her why she didn't tell me when she gets upset and she said I should just know because she can tell when I'm upset. I'm just confused now, I feel like what I did didn't warrant that kind of response and I also don't think I'm that shitty of a person, especially when the only example she gave of me being shitty was me not noticing her being upset. Also, should I try to become her friend again or just let her go. Oh, we've been friends for 7 years if that's of significance.
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She doesn't seem like she's in a very healthy state of mind either, or perhaps she's attention seeking. Either way, as your friend of seven years she could recognise when you're struggling to socialise with people and accept this.

Friendships go both ways, it's important to make sure you support others as much as you can. However, she's putting far too much pressure on you to support her, when you obviously have issues yourself.

I would probably leave things to calm down, then attempt to speak to them about how you were feeling. Apologise for going off the radar but explain why you did it. Also ask them how they're feeling and see if you can offer a bit of support.
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>>17908755
>I feel like what I did didn't warrant that kind of response
Obviously it did, she fucking told you, retard. You should be able to tell when your friends are upset.
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>im so depressed and sad
>i use that as justification for ignoring people and doing what i want and get pissy when people get fed up with it

Fuck you and people like you OP. Literally the worst.
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IMO, you are kind of in the wrong, seeing as a simple 30 second text message would have stopped any problems.

You should put some scripted text replies in your phone for when CBF strikes.
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>>17908755
>she said I should just know because she can tell when I'm upset.

To tell the truth, I was sympathetic toward her up to that line - a classic passive-aggressive statement and ultimatley a deal-breaker.

"If you really cared about me you'd know what's wrong without my telling you, and if I have to tell you you must not really love me, and if I do tell you and you try to help it won't count because you're only doing it because I told you and not because you really care."

There is absolutely no way to break into that circular reasoning, and you either accept it as part of her craziness or run away.
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>>17908755
Say "ok" and ignore her, don't get into argument with her, that's what she wants
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