LDR, Protective Parents

>>17908267
>Any advice on how to handle this?
It's not really for you to do anything. There isn't much you can do, especially since it's an LDR. She needs to stand up to her parents, or move out.

>We were thinking that next time it would be best to not tell them at all that I'm there, and just have her say she's going to a friend's place for the night. But at the same time, would that really be the right thing to do?
If something goes wrong or they suspect anything, they're just going to tighten the reigns. Doing shit behind their backs is not going to make them trust the two of you more.

And you need to consider this from their perspective. You're just some guy from Canada that their daughter met online. They have no idea who the fuck you are and whether you really are who you say you are. Yes, we live in a more globalised world, but I don't think it's unreasonable for them to be concerned for her safety.

>>17908281
>And you need to consider this from their perspective. You're just some guy from Canada that their daughter met online. They have no idea who the fuck you are and whether you really are who you say you are. Yes, we live in a more globalised world, but I don't think it's unreasonable for them to be concerned for her safety.

I realize this but it isn't their decision what happens. We are both adults in an adult relationship and regardless of how uncomfortable they are with this they should have to deal with it. Instead they forcefully kept her in their house and wouldn't let her leave (her dad has a good 2 feet on her, and has physically kept her from leaving before). That isn't ok.

>>17908295
If you're going to pull the "we're adults!" card, you have to remember that they're under no obligation to let her live under their roof now that she's no longer under 18. If she doesn't like their restrictions, she can always move out.

>>17908299
>she can always move out
They are physically preventing her from leaving. Not just to see me, but in general. She would like to move out. They won't allow it.

>>17908301
So they don't let her out of the house, period? That if she did leave, they'd forcibly bring her back? Is that what you're telling us?

>>17908305
They will let her leave if they can accompany her. They very rarely let her leave on her own, and if she tries to while her parents aren't willing to let her leave, she is physically stopped. It prevents her from getting a job, and making the money she needs to move out. Talks with her parents about moving out end with them saying its not happening anytime soon.

>>17908312
What are they going to do if she just up and leaves one day? This really sounds like a case where she just needs to grow some balls, to be honest.

>>17908313
She'd like to leave but she has nowhere else to go, and can't afford to stay anywhere that would cost money because her parents don't let her out enough to get and keep a job.

>>17908324
She has no friends or family she could stay with? There's no refuge center she could go to?

>>17908325
Not within walking distance.

>>17908329
Then lend her some money so she can get to where she needs to be