ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

What's the best way to get a mistress? What do mistresses want out of life?

I had plans for NYE with a friend I haven't seen for awhile. I'm trying to figure out what time we will go into the city and he said he will be busy until only 2 hours before midnight. WTF. I put off other plans for this. Should I be annoyed with him for only wanting to do something 2 hours before midnight?

>>17908166
Sex without the commitment. But what's wrong with your wife?

>>17908194
I love her immensely as a person and domestic partner and friend, but she's always been cold and basically asexual.

>>17908197
Don't you think she'll be hurt?

>>17908207
It's kinda something I can't really live with any more, and to avoid hurting her I would want to do it completely covertly. She has mentioned consenting to similar setups before, just as long as it doesn't insult her by being in her face.

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>Going to graduate with a chemE degree from an Ivy League school in the spring.
>I can't find a job
>I was going to apply to graduate school but my major GPA was destroyed last semester so that dream is dead
>don't really have that much relevant work experience.
>I realize that chemE sorta sucks and I should have done something different. I didn't learn enough to be an actual chemical engineer and most employers know that.
>ambitions but no idea where to focus my energy

What do I do? I just want to make a lot of money and work all of the time.

>>17908343
Why do you want those things? That sounds really boring and unfulfilling to me.

>>17908343
Keep applying for jobs and get any job you can get in the meantime

Why is it that a lot of the men on here think women only want money and a chiselled physique in a man?

>>17908352
Porn

>>17908219
>>17908197
>>17908166
Well this is off to a depressing start

girls


why would you tell a guy whom you
>dated for 6 months
>had sex with during those 6 months
>left to be back with your ex
>text him on and off throughout a year how much you miss xy and z with him
>tell him that the only chance is a new relationship
>talked with him about your relationship with "not ex-bf" and came to the conclusion that said other guy is right in that you're unhappy
>text him that the only chance with him is a fresh start
>yet you want to work on your relationship
all of that?

this is seriously beyond me at this point

a new year means a new beginning right? why is she STILL being with this guy if she's already thinking about breaking up

>>17908358
Because she's a shit

>>17908362
well that is obvious

>>17908358
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
>We're not in their head, we don't know.

>>17908345
I am a guy and I want to be able to be able to provide for the people around me. If I don't work all the time I get depressed so I need to always be working.
Highly educated girls/women are really attractive to me, yet they never make any money so I would like to be able to make their lives easier by being able to give them something.

>>17908366
>Highly educated girls/women are really attractive to me
>yet they never make any money
What? Are you saying that the less educated a woman is, the more money she makes

>>17908364
no their is not much room for interpretation here anon

>>17908369
I want to date broke phd candidates

Wait a minute, how do queefs work? I understand how air gets out of the vagina, but how does it get in there to begin with? How are women able to smoke with their vaginas?

Can someone answer this great mystery?

Check'em

>>17908377
Wow

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>>17908377

>>17908374
http://efukt.com/2245_Shes_Gonna_Get_Vagina_Cancer.html

>>17908383
http://efukt.com/21343_GIANT_SOUL_EATING_VAGINA.html

>>17908366
>they never make any money
Yes, they do? That's the point of higher education?
Also, it's not a great position for a girl to be in, or indeed anyone, being financially reliant. It means you have all the power.

Also it sounds like you need a hobby.

Men; why is virginity such a big deal? I get that a girl (or a guy, for that matter) who sleeps around indiscriminately is not one to put your emotional investments into, but why is even one or two prior relationships an issue?

>>17908394
At first they only make enough to live but not much else.
I want to be able to take them out to dinner and make their life more comfortable. I don't think that is exploitative.
I am not that materialistic but I want financial security.

>>17908418
So you're saying that only educated men make money?

>>17908403
There are girls who care about virginity too

>>17908418
What makes you think they'll make any less than higher educated men?

>>17908423
It;s far less than men though, and not generally about their partner's virginity; mainly their own (excluding religious people)

>>17908429
Not really. I'm evidence of that and I know other girls like me too.

>>17908422
I want to date women pursuing an advanced degree. When you are in graduate school you aren't making any money. Once they get out they will end up making a lot.

>>17908430
Well, why do you do it then?

>>17908434
>I won't date anyone who doesn't have at least a masters
Jesus Christ, I've heard of some absurd standards around here, but this is a new one.

>>17908160
How do I be more sexually appealing to men? I exercise and eat well to keep my body in shape but how do I really get them worked up?

>>17908435
I could go into detail, but I guess the easiest way to put it is I just do. I want it, and I know I can get it, and I hold myself to the same standard so it's all good. I assume it's the same for a lot of guys who feel that way too.

>>17908403
Not that many guys in real life care, it seems that all the idiots on the internet and of course here feel it's important though.

>>17908440
I want to date semi-antisocial workaholics who are working hard to achieve something impressive.
It isn't about their education level so much as how they approach life and what they want to get out of it.
I just don't want to date someone who is only working 40 hours a week.

>>17908445
So, what are your opinions of people who don't value it so highly for the point of it.

For example, I lost mine at 16 to someone I was (and am) very much in love with. We're still together 6 years later.

>>17908467
I think people and society at large would be better off aiming for a healthy, stable relationship with one life partner, though I understand that's not possible for everyone and not everyone even wants that.

That being said, I think it's great that you're in a happy relationship like that! It makes me happy to hear and I honestly hope you two spend your lives together.

Am I fucking friendzoned or is this chick just confused and being childish?

>Girl ends things with me
>No contact for 6 weeks
>hit her up, she sounds happy to hear from me
>ask to hang out, she agrees, then dissapears when I suggest a day (doesnt say yes or no just doesnt answer)
>starts being petty posting snaps of a street sign showing shes a block from me captioned "tad bit far from home :'("
>Likes all of my instagram posts (yet doesnt like any other posts from any other people)

Not super on- topic but i don't like making a whole thread for a simple question. I found a girl my age (22) on Match, and added her on FB, sent a message saying I saw her profile. Unfortunately, one little detail I didn't see was that she has a kid, and that's a deal breaker for me. It's 4:24 am as I type this so I doubt she's seen the message. Can I just delete the message and friend request and she won't see it?

>>17908519
She will probably see both notifications on her phone

but assuming she doesnt, she will still get the message.

>>17908517
Ask bluntly at this point.

>>17908523
Ask how? I feel like I already look pathetic after having her not reply to me. I kind of went back to the whole no contact thing.

>>17908517
if you have to ask, the answer is yes.

>>17908527
I agree which is why I went back to not speaking with her...then she starts acting like she's trying to get my attention.

>>17908525
Tell her that you are confused where you two stand but you like her. Constant flirting via social media will not get you anything, especially if you're straddling the line between friend and date potential. She's probably as confused as you are.

Anyone

Does deleting people after a break up make you look like you're petty and immature or just simply like you're trying to move on?

>>17908531
I did make an effort by speaking to her after 6 weeks and wanting to hang out so im sure she knows. "Ball is in her court" type of thing.

But now shes the one doing the social media flirting. why doesnt she just fucking text me? She was the one that left me hanging

>>17908535
No, asking to "hang out" is still leaving room for interpretation. Either say bluntly "i like you" or get her out of your life. This half assed shit is playing too safe. If you want a girl you have to put yourself on the line a bit.

>>17908534
Why give a shit. You're trying to move on who cares if they think you're childish. They probably hate you anyway.

>>17908534
Does it matter?

>>17908352
a series of progressively more painful rejections throughout one's adolescence. as a fat/poorfag that's had reasonable success with women, I know this train of thought is bullshit, but I can understand how one would come to that conclusion based on their own experiences

>>17908403
it's not. virgins are often clingy and awful at sex
>>17908517
do not waste any more time/energy on her if she's going to ghost you

How do I find alternative girls?
Where they hang out?

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>>17908369
>What? Are you saying that the less educated a woman is, the more money she makes
Women overwhelmingly go for soft sciences. So they may have a degree, but their pay is usually garbage. Knowing a lot about clothing and dye methods in 500 AD requires a lot of education, but it sure doesn't mean you're going to have good pay.

>>17908570
Squats
Contact dance jams
Grimes gigs

>>17908403
One of the big factors is that there's no risk of being compared to an ex. It's kind of a rare view though in reality, and it's pretty much nill if you're happy with yourself.

>>17908570
What kind of 'alternative girl'? There are many variations.

Would it be weird to ask a femanon what they think of the description I used for a dating website? I promise it's not maximum sperg. Men who've used dating sites can chime in too.

>I'm an extroverted guy looking for somebody fun to be with. Not necessarily extroverted too, but someone who can tolerate my craziness. I have a pretty twisted sense of humor.
I love having long conversations that shoot off into tangents. Also be prepared to have more engaged, serious talk from time to time. If you have lots of interesting things to say, we will get along great!
I have an equally eccentric bunch of friends that are great to hang with too.
I like going out to have fun and seek adventure, but I value relaxation time too. Travel might be a possibility in the future. I've been to a fair few places inside the US but would like to travel abroad some day.
Currently I'm working at a grocery distribution warehouse, which is an exciting challenge in it's own right, but I am still looking for my true calling in terms of a career.
I enjoy video games, fiction of all kinds, music of a fairly wide variety, computers, and tabletop games as hobbies. I'd love it if you would join me in them, though you don't have to. I know plenty of ways to have fun.
Things I value in people include honesty, self-sufficiency, free thinking. I want to be with a level-headed person that can take care of themselves if need be. My family life is fairly stable, with a huge extended family on one side.
I'm interested in some casual dating, or taking it more serious and make it long term if we feel anything together.

>>17908592
I don't know if it's the bios themselves, or just the fact that I don't use online dating, but these always make me cringe a little and feel secondhand embarrassment. It's not just yours, I feel this way every time I read one of these on here.

That said, I think it's pretty clear the sort of person you are and the sort of person you're looking for, so I guess it does the job it's supposed to? I'm sure plenty of girls on dating sites would read that and think you're an okay sounding dude

>>17908592
If you're looking for something more serious than not, than this is perfect.

If you just want to fuck, then it may be a bit too verbose.

>>17908603
Nah I'd like to find someone to date eventually. I'm not into hookups.

Grills, suppose an ugly guy tells you that he likes you but not to expect something to happen, but to get a weight out of his back.

Would you hate him? Would he ruin the rest of your day with that shit? Would it be creepy?

I really want to tell a girl that I think she's cute and shit but I'm ugly as hell and got severe insecurity and self esteem issues. All I can think about is how shitty would it be for her to be liked by some fat, ugly son of a bitch.

>>17908614
If you tell her you like her and think she's cute she's going to assume you're expecting her to return those feelings, so she will probably say thank you but I'm sorry I don't feel the same.

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>want relationship with girl
>lurk dating website
>notice some people i knew are using it
>see someone might I like
>don''t bother making profile cause i'm just a NEET loser

>>17908636
I can give you two different types of advice: the kind to make you feel better, or the kind that will help your situation. Which do you want?

>>17908640
Just fuck my shit up

>>17908636
The first is get a job. This is harsh but people don't want to date someone who has no self sufficiency. If you're legitimately disabled disregard this paragraph. Disabled people can find love, but it's not something I'm going into. McBurger is a lot more respectable than gubment bucks or mom & dad's check. I know "get a job" isn't always easy, especially in a social anxiety situation, but you need to make it your number one life priority.

The second is get some hobbies. Are you a nerd? That's fine. /tg/ hobbies are actually really good ways to meet people. M:Tg, D&D especially. Just find a game store, take a shower and crawl out of the cave and go do something. Or ANY other hobby that involves leaving the house. No, don't use a hobby as a way to find a girl, use them to force yourself into social situations.

>>17908654
The next thing I have to say to any neet is ask yourself WHY you're a neet, and how you can get out of it. Every person is different, but I've seen a lot of people that see a challenging situation in life and instead of meeting the challenge, they simply crumble and give up. Well stop giving up. You haven't failed until you're dead. Keep attempting and failing at things. Don't put any emotional investment in it. The attempt alone should be counted as a success.

>>17908562

>as a fat/poorfag that's had reasonable success with women

How did you achieve this?

>>17908674
Not the anon you're asking but I assume personality. Most women aren't as vain as media / 4chan make them out to be. Most women would rather date a charasmatic but fat dude than a well toned bore. Money also isn't as huge a deal as people think as long as you can support yourself and aren't in a massive spiral of debt.

>>17908671
Tldr (and this applies to ANYONE who's desperate for love) get your life in order before worrying about romance. That will come eventually. If you just need to empty your balls/ stuff your holes try Tinder or an escort.

Guys,

When I'm on a date how do I bring up my lack of friends? For example, the guy i'm with talks about activities with his friends then asks me what I like to do with my friends.

Girls:

There's this girl I talk to, all nice and funny and sometimes we call eachother things akin to pet names and she even teases me at times and is always laughing at my jokes.
Thing is, I have to be the always start conversations (though sometimes I think I finished and she restarts hours later or the next day) + she says she's not easily invitable to do things (like coffee or whatever).
What do you think?

Guys:

So basically, my self-esteem is shit, but I'm very good at hiding it. Objectively there's no logical reason for this because I'm a high achiever, I act very confident in public and people flock to me naturally, but logic doesn't really work here. Anyway, I guy I like confessed to me and since I couldn't believe that he meant it seriously (see: shit self-esteem), I spilled spaghetti. Badly.
>"Femanon, I like you."
>"Oh, you're funny."
>"No, you're beautiful and smart, I really like you."
>"Of course you don't."
>"I think we'd make a good coup-"
>"NO. YOU. DON'T."

So this ended on a pretty sour note. If something like this happened to you, would you be mad if the girl in question contacted you and tried to explain? Keep in mind that this whole "I was nervous" could sound very dishonest due to the way she normally acts. (On that note, how to make it sound honest when I'm too good at faking my confidence?)

>>17908722
Be honest with him and stop pretending near him. He doesn't know the real you, only the cunt you and he's fairly convinced that's who you are. It's gonna take time to change his perception of you, but you've got your foot in the door.

Now, contact him to out for coffee or whatever and do it in person (the talking and showing who you truly are) instead of messages. Trust me on this, thank me later.

>>17908730
Yeah, I guess I knew all of this already, but I needed to hear it from someone else, too. Thanks.

>>17908722

You've literally just listed several positive things about yourself - this means you're at least self aware of your plus points and therefore, don't have that low self-esteem. You might try and make yourself think you do, as a coping mechanism, but you're blatantly aware that you're at least doing well in a social sense.

I do think you should contact and explain, as it probably came across as extremely arrogant, even though you were probably just protecting yourself.

>>17908735
That's not really how it works. I'm aware of my good points when I analyze them, but I can only really reach this state of emotional detachment when I'm alone and actively thinking about it. In the meantime, I only see bad things about myself. I'm self aware about this, as you've said, but it doesn't really change anything.
Thinking of it now, I'd probably benefit from a therapy, too bad I'm from a shithole where this would turn me into a social pariah.

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>Girl I've known for maybe a week complains to me about staying home for new years and not being fucked

Dose she want my D?

>>17908824
Why are you not in her house fucking her mouth right now?

Girls/Guys

Broke up with girl about 6 months ago because I really needed to get my life in order. The time in between of just focusing on myself and hitting goals has done great for my mental and physical well being.

Sure, I could've done it with her, I just took it all on as my problem only, as she's already successful. I was literally going nowhere with a warehouse job and I knew I couldn't do that any longer

We texted over Christmas, I could tell she misses me. We're both pretty hard headed, so I know she won't reach out first.

How do I go about asking her if she'd be up for giving the relationship another go? Just come right out and say it?

>>17908854
>Just come right out and say it?
Yes.

So I messaged a girl I found interesting on an online dating site. Her reply was along the lines of "Hey, I'm not sure you're the kind of guy I'd find interesting. Do you have more pics? (pics are important for girls and they tell a lot about a person)". I have 3 more or less full body photos on my profile showing me in different situations, two of which also clearly show my face.

Is there any other reason for this kind of reply than she doesn't think I'm "hot" enough for her (aka she's pretty shallow)?

>>17908160
Hello, I come here to ask for advise. How do I proceed from talking to kissing?


All the time:

>Meet a girl
>Umm, nice ass let's talk to her
>Have a good conversation
>Get her hooked
>Feeling like a fucking beast
>Continue talking
>She's getting bored after time
>Start feeling the pressure
>Start sweating
>Lose my cool
>Gotta make a move before the mood is kill
>Gotta do it anon
>Fuck can't do it
>She feels that I'm too afraid to make a move
>Mood is kill
>Fml

>>17908824
TL;DR: I caught my son fucking his boyfriend. I'm afraid he's gay, how do I find out?

>>17908854
Yeah just say it. If she doesn't want to then dont try to convince her. And if she comes back in the future ignore all contact. I mean no reply or answer. None. Don't reply. She is out of your life at that point. Don't reply.

Otherwise carry on and don't risk being turned down.

>>17908722
I've never flat out told a girl that confession.m cause it's not my style. But I've been in similar situations where the girl I know acts like that with my short conversing. I stop talking to them or treat them like any other regular person with the most I give is just a greet and goodbye.

The chicks end up later on focused on me and I catch them eyeing me yet complaining about me within earshot. Their fault. They want to feel important and inclusive. Too late.

>>17908720
Tell them the truth but not a one sentence reply.

Good for you for treating yourself as an equal to us guys by not expecting the guy to lead literally everything.

>>17908403

This:
>>17908457
>Not that many guys in real life care, it seems that all the idiots on the internet and of course here feel it's important though.

I wouldn't touch a virgin girl with a 10 pole stick, they are usually awful at sex, full of stupid insecurities and clingy.

>>17908403
Lol this virgin.

>>17908358
The average girl.

They do not have parents or authority figures guiding them or around them in the texts. They are free to act how they want. Most girls like this fly under the radar cause te guys don't care, why? cause they have a vagina.

These are our future mothers.

>>17908160

What should I do when a girl suddenly texts me after approx. one month? We've texted few times before, mainly from my incentive. Over the time I relized I don't want to have anything with her anymore so I just stopped texting her - this has gone for month, I finally thought that I got rid of her .... but then suddenly yesterday 1AM I receive message: "Hey anon I think you forgot to text me "

What should I do?

>>17908920
>Over the time I relized I don't want to have anything with her anymore so I just stopped texting her

well, unless the reason you made that decision was "I don't want to have anything with her because she is a bitch that never starts a conversation", then why are you even asking? You already decided that you don't want her...

>>17908403
THIS QUESTION HAS BEEN ASKED SO MANY TIMES KEK whoever posting it is not reading the answers

Girls and guys

Is it weird/bad that will absolutely not do anything sexual with someone unless they are someone I care about? I was at a bar with friends last night, and this pretty good looking girl was being really very flirty with me. she was even touching the inside of my legs with her hands. I told her to stop and leave me alone. My friends I was with got mad at me because they said I threw away a 8/10 for nothing. I told them I don't know this bitch so I don't want for fuck her. And they've been giving me shit since.

Was I wrong?

How hard is online dating if Im a male that is 5'6?
I have an attractive face and fit body. I've never tried online because I heard girls were really picky about height. I always felt more comfortable in person since you can clearly see my height and a lot of the time I wear flat shoes.

Girls, can you compete with these? http://www.clubmodel.com.br

Girls, how do I encourage you to approach me instead of me chasing after you?

I have no motivation to approach girls, but perhaps my reserved nature also discourages you from approaching me?

Help me help you lol.

>>17908933
So should I just not reply and ignore her or tell her like it is?

>>17908955
>So should I just not reply and ignore her or tell her like it is?

well, if you don't want anything to do with her, just ignore it.

>>17908951
>I've never tried online because I heard girls were really picky about height.

well, just mention it in your profile or put a pic that shows clearly that you are not specially tall and you will avoid all contact from bitches that don't like short men.... Pretty simple. If the rest is good, the ones that don't mind will come

ps. I am also a manlet, the advice above is from experience.

>>17908961
Thanks anon, have a (you)

Would you date a guy who had a S/O on another continent?

Guys

A newish guy at my work has started talking to me, and I think he is going out of his way to stop by my area. He keeps trying to make small talk at lunch when I just want to browse Pinterest.

What's his deal?

>>17908974
isn't it painfully obvious???

Do chicks' buttholes smell as bad as mens? I don't think I could handle that, if I got a whiff of ass stink from a woman i would have to break up with her

so there's this girl that i'm dating from uni, and when she talks about hanging out with other guy friends i impulsively feel pangs of jealousy and possessiveness.

i recognize that im being a faggot and am always able to get over it, but does it sound like it will become an issue down the road, assuming that this relationship progresses?

>>17908986
No?

>>17909010

yes it will, on both sides

You are building a relation on the basis of hiding your jealousy. If she appreciates that you are "cool" and have no problem with her hanging out, then there is a potential huge problem in development.

Will you show it later? That is basically lying

Will you keep hiding it forever? That is long-term torture....

>>17909019
very likely if you are least average-looking or better and/or sound "available" he has some interest on you and is trying to build up some rapport

less likely, unless you are specially bad-looking, he is just being friendly because he is new.

>>17909028
Oh. How do I make him stop?

>>17908899
I always feel like bringing that up will make them lose interest in me. Especially if they have tons of friends themselves.

>>17909034
>Oh. How do I make him stop?

monossilable answers
ignore him
be blunt if he insists

However, consider that if he is autistic enough, there might be nothing you can do short of a scandal.

>>17909037
I guess I'm going to have to be blunt. Thanks anon :)

>>17909042
>I guess I'm going to have to be blunt. Thanks anon :)

You are welcome

Obviously avoid any mention of "I am not interested in you" or anything, this can very easily be turned around and make you be the bitch/jerk of the situation

>>17909052
He really should know better. No one finds fat men attractive

>>17908949

Anyone?

>>17908949
Answer is pretty obvious:

If you didn't want to fuck her, then don't fuck her. You own nobody an explanation except to yourself

Bump: >>17908953

>>17908949
>Was I wrong?

Guy here.

Nah, I would've done the same thing. Casual hookups aren't for everyone.

And some people in general find it difficult to trust new people.

For myself, I spent years being a "creep". School was rough and it affected me well into adulthood. I would not trust any 8/10 girl who was interested in me. Straight up, I'd be freaking out and trying to get away politely.
Not unless I actually knew the girl first.

>>17909085
I had the same thing happen to me growing up, I was ugly and verbally abused by my peers.

Now im good looking and only hot confident girls approach me, but Im afraid of them. Shy ok looking girls get really nervous around me, but those are the ones i want.

being in my 20's and dateless...

>>17908953
Why do Brazilian girls like this 'gym rat' look so much? I hate it.

>>17908949
>>17909065
This.

>>17909095
What do you like, then? I love it. But they aren't even that fit.

>>17909105
I prefer girls being more feminine and delicate, without such big asses and tan.

>>17909095
>Why do Brazilian girls like this 'gym rat' look so much? I hate it.

They don't, you have a seriously biased sample.

>>17909119
Big asses aren't feminine???

>>17909120
LOL
They DO.

>>17909122
I'm Brazilian dude, I see those muscular asses all the time and together with the big legs they look too aggressive.

>>17909125
I mean, it doesn't always look bad, but regularly they go too far with the squats and looks almost cartoonish.

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Married women:
What is the motive is befriending single men, as in strangers (men you don't work with, don't have to see or socialize with)?

>>17908954
If youre that depressive they don't want to approach you bro.

>>17909125
No, they don't. They look hot.

>>17909130
Only Valeska Popozuda (spelling?) overdid it (but I think she put implants).

>>17909132
>married people can't make friends

>>17908721
Anyone?

>>17909146
It's my preference.

>>17908403
I rejected a girl that was way out of my league because she was still a virgin at 24. I didn't want to hurt her and make her bleed. I wish I had married her now though. Feels really bad, she was so beautiful.

>>17908954
Girls value attitude more than look. I found out that the less I go after girls, the more they're curious about me and get attracted. I'm not looking for a girlfriend so this kind of bothers me, being so "magnetic".

Focus on yourself and your life, put yourself in the right place and you'll get what you're looking for

>>17908160
Judging by the FAQ you're just going to be super vague anyway.

>Where do i meet girls?
>earth xD

>>17908951
It def matters but that doesn't mean you can't pull bitches, just probably not bitches over 5'6

Im a non-binary catkin. Whats the opposite gender?

>>17909279
a binary dog kin

>>17908570
Local music venues.

How do I approach a girl on a dating website?
I've never done this before, do I just say your cute or what?

>>17909279

People. People are the opposite of what you are.
People without made-up tumblr identities to fit into the special snowflake affirmative action machine that is the leftist system.

>>17909309
t. white straight male

>>17908674
bad diet and loose spending habits, obviously. i honestly don't ask out a lot of random women and I've had a few women approach me. the women I do ask out are usually girls I have known for a couple months and have been able to gauge whether or not we'd have compatibility issues

>>17908722
I'd be very put off by someone insisting that I was wrong about my own feelings.

>>17909311

Yeah, and I used to be tolerant of you degenerate electroshock therapy candidates, but then I saw how hateful you are to me just because of the way I was born, then demand tolerance and respect from me.

Can't wait till "electric fence" Pence gets his hands on people like you.

Any moms here?
My wife is about 5 weeks pregnant, and I need a lot of advice as to what to do to keep her happy and healthy throughout. She quit drinking and smoking the day we found out. I just need any and all advice to what I can do to help her with this, in case it isn't obvious this is our first child so I'm at a loss.

>>17908864
pics are important for online dating just so the other person knows they're not being catfish'd. of course there's some vanity involved with it, but physical attraction is important

Girls: Ever had a boyfriend that was into anal?
Did you try it or is it something you'd never do?

[spoiler] I cheated on my boyfriend. Could he ever forgive me?

>>17909366
If he's a man worth his balls, never

Leave him and start over with someone else.

>>17909366
SLOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOT!

At what age do women stop being impressed by older men?

I know a few women in their late 20's and they scoff at any man who isn't at least 2 years older than them. Pretty annoying yet simultaneously pathetic.

>>17909400
From my observations on dating sites, pretty much never.
>tfw no MILF I'd like to fuck

>>17909366

Ask him.

>>17908614
This >>17908625 and then I'd probably avoid him as much as possible to avoid him accusing me of leading him on

>>17908721
What do you want us to tell you? I have no opinions.

>>17908864
She wants to know if you're as attractive as your profile pic, or if you're one of those guys who has one nice pic and the rest are terrible

>>17908954
I'm not going to approach a guy who has a resting bitch face and looks like he doesn't want to be out

>>17909010
Yes it'll be an issue, and it's 100% on your part. People have friends, get over it

>>17909400
It's less of an age thing and more of a stage thing. For both guys and girls

>>17909409
it's quite annoying
>>17909413
>more of a stage thing
yeah I seem to be aware of that. Like I'm 23 and just getting into regular working life, and this girl who I'm really close to won't go out with me because she's 4.5 years my superior and just want's a man who's more impressive than she is rather than date "down" so to speak

her loss though, she's super picky and the only BF she ever had dumped her

I figure I'll get a stable job and 6 months in if she still looks at me like a college kid I'm just going to completely forget about her and move on

>>17909413
Answer this: >>17908953

>>17908864
>(pics are important for girls and they tell a lot about a person)"
God, I'm so fucking sick of women thinking that basic physical attraction for them is "deeper"

like oh wow, he has such a great personality and I can tell so much about him from his pics or the way he "carries himself"

bull fucking shit you just want his dick because he's hot. It's so self righteous it makes me sick

>>17909420
>this girl who I'm really close to won't go out with me because she's 4.5 years my superior and just want's a man who's more impressive than she is rather than date "down" so to speak
That's not a 'girl who is only impressed by older men' situation.

I don't blame her for not wanting to date a guy who's almost 5 years younger than her anyway, it's a significant age gap when you're in your 20s.

>>17909429
If I wanted to answer it, I would have answered it.

>>17909366
Only if he has no spine, no self-respecting man would stay with you. Sorry, everyone makes mistakes, but no relationship can survive this.

>>17909435
>I can't compete

>>17909443
K

>>17909435
>it's a significant age gap when you're in your 20s
it was 5 years ago but it's really not now

when I'm 24 she'll still only be 28 for another 6 months. I don't really see that as significant

but I was with her and another of our friends, who's the same age as her, and she made a comment about how around age 32 is "perfect"

just quite frustrating that I have to wait close to a decade before women who aren't stupid early-20 somethings to be attracted to me

DESU like I said she's super picky anyhow. When her and I were talking after I finally told her I want to date her I asked her if she was attracted to any men that she had known in the last 5 years and she flat out said no. Like even for a single date. I worded it like that because I know she's expressed interest in men she's seen from afar or doesn't actually know them personally at all.

Is she as bizarre of a person as I think she is? I know I'm extremely picky but I meet about 1-3 women a year that I'd like to go out with, and I know that I'm too picky.

>>17909450
>when I'm 24 she'll still only be 28 for another 6 months. I don't really see that as significant
She's at an age where people are starting to marry and settle down and have kids. You're at an age where people are still clubbing and are only beginning to meet people who they're going to date seriously. That is a significant gap.

>she made a comment about how around age 32 is "perfect"
So she knows what she wants. She's allowed to make choices as to the sort of guy she wants to date

>just quite frustrating that I have to wait close to a decade before women who aren't stupid early-20 somethings to be attracted to me
Guess what? People generally want to date someone around a similar age, usually with the guy older. That's just reality, get over it and stop complaining. This girl doesn't want to date you, and she doesn't owe you anything.

When she asked if i want to seat with her what does it mean?

>>17909477

Haha, funny. Now ask it again, but give actual information.

>>17909468
>She's at an age where people are starting to marry and settle down and have kids. You're at an age where people are still clubbing and are only beginning to meet people who they're going to date seriously. That is a significant gap.
lel, a lot of projecting there. She knows I want a serious relationship and don't go clubbing or act in any significant way differently than her and the rest of our peers, and I say "our" because we've been a part of the same circle of friends for quite a while now.

>So she knows what she wants
then how does that line up with the fact that she's attracted to literally nobody?

>That's just reality, get over it and stop complaining
you try being a man in his mid twenties who's expected to date nothing but retarded college chicks. It's extremely frustrating.

>This girl doesn't want to date you, and she doesn't owe you anything.
I do know that, which is why I'm trying to move on as fast as possible. I'm just trying to get inside of her head, not judge her.

>>17909484
>I'm just trying to get inside of her head, not judge her.
Then ask her, not us. We're not in her head.

It's not like her motivations matter anyway. The result is the same for you either way

>>17909489
>It's not like her motivations matter anyway
they do, because I need to know what about myself to improve so the next woman I'm attracted to will also be attracted to me

you seem to really have no sympathy for men at all, which is quite off-putting. I don't think you understand what it's like to have to completely game attraction with money, job, car, fashion, etc. These are all things I have to artificially dress myself up with in order to get women to notice me at all, even though I'm a fairly attractive person physically.

you probably won't believe me or discredit a few things I say, but it's not exactly easy being a person in my situation. It's frustrating, it's not easy, and you as a woman need to understand that if you want to be a good person and a better woman to your bf/spouse.

>>17909498
>you have no idea how hard it is to be a man!
Lol okay. It's not a competition sweetie.

>>17909501
who said it was a competition?

I never said it was harder than being a woman. I just said you have no sympathy for people in my situation, which is pretty bitchy if you ask anyone.

being a man that women don't notice when they enter the room in a hard thing to conquer, and statistically I'm a part of 80% of all men. Do you seriously not have sympathy for that population at all?

how to cope with loneliness? I am 26, living alone, no friends, and am not on good terms with my relatives. I don't deserve anything at all and I don't want to bother anyone anymore, but having nobody to talk to outside of 4chan is really starting to hurt.

If it matters, I have never been involved with anyone. I am ugly. I have an awful voice. I make enough money to pay the bills, but not a lot of excess.

>>17908160
Would you look down on me if I find a job that is exciting but untimely pointless and arguably bad for the world if it pays well and that allows me to support you?

>>17909527
>I don't deserve anything at all and I don't want to bother anyone anymore

Until you work on that, then your relationships will fall apart. How do you work on that? I don't know man, it's your personal journey.

>>17909534

That seems to be directed at a very specific female. This board can't read her mind.

>>17909537
So I am beyond hope then?

>>17909553

How does "work on that" translate to "no hope"?

>>17909534
What is the job?

Girls:

If you liked rough sex, namely hard fucking, having your arms pinned down, spanking and slapping, spitting in you mouth, what else do you think you would enjoy in bed?

Is anyone here in 2017 already?

>>17909714
Well, I do like that, but I'm also dominant and like teasing men and being teased. Scratching is good. So is hair pulling. If your girl is into BDSM, buy some props and have fun.

>>17908403
That meme should die well out of highschool by the latest. Im 25 and dont know a single guy who cares about virginity. Anyone who makes a huge fuss over wanting virgins only is throwing off big red flags.

>>17909658
option trading, or trading student loan derivatives

I am asking women

>>17909714
>>17909739
I forgot hair pulling, I do that too. I'm not sure about props, it's seems a bit impersonal, I could be wrong though. Anything in particular you enjoy, or would suggest? How about name calling, or anything else verbal? I haven't really gone there yet

Guys, i'm a fat woman. What is the best dating app or website to find a guy. Or should I be looking other places. I'm losing weight but in the mean time I want to start dating.

>>17909344

I'm a guy, but have seen all sorts of moms through their pregnancies in family and friends.

So, outside of the obvious things, it'll be pretty much up to how she feels. My cousing became a psycho mom, reas through lots of books, changed diet, etc; while another friend only quit smoking and kept drinking 0 alcoohol beer whithout giving much extra tought to it.

All of them had healthy kids born in the right timing, so I guess any changes are more to personal flavor and confort then really effective. A few of the "obvious" things I mentioned are not eating raw meats and fish (sushi is rulled out), avoiding stress, avoiding heavy exercises and so on. Other than that, pregnancy is not sickness, so she can do mostly whatever she feels. There are even a few moms that work out in the gym until the last day of carriage (adjusting exercises ofc).

>>17909762
PoF and OKCupid. Full of fat women.

>>17909756
I am a woman. I was asking to clear it up. Personally, while it's not super high on the 'unethical' job scale (it's not Unilever or Nestle), I wouldn't be comfortable with someone doing something that's bad for society in general.

I don't want to be 'supported'. I can support myself. But then again, there are plenty of women who do care about material stuff more than emotional connection and experience, or ethics, so find one of them.

>>17909761
Being called a slut or a whore etc. I like whips and stuff (or riding crops), but things like handcuffs might be a bit tamer to start off with. Blindfolds too.

Maybe guys dont want only virgins but no one wants a woman who has been with all his friends. Dont be so accessible. No one wants to be number 10 unless they are used or you are rich. No one treats a person with high sex numbers seriously. They will cheat on you because you "know the score".

>>17909714
>spitting in you mouth
Eww what?! I liked where you were going, but this is just a NO. Anyway, toys would be good. And light choking (light cause you gotta be careful with that shit).

>>17909765
Thank you.

>>17909777
I went with it because it started with very deep kissing, I understand it's not for everyone.

So a girl tells me we should go have dinner last year. I say sure, but I focused on school rather than anything else. Recently, I told her let's do something. I asked her about twice, but she never responds.

I stopped asking, but this is a lost battle correct?

>>17909847
Yes, you missed the moment.

>>17909857
Okay, I regret taking the chance.

Next question,

Me and this girl are hanging out, I'm driving, and I occasionally glance over and see her playing with her hair, smiling whenever we talk, being talkative, being a bit open about how her mom sees younger people dating older people, signs of interest.

She's quite younger than me, enough to be noticeable. She's pizza, while I'm 18. Should I stop? Her mom is completely fine with it, but her dad is out of the picture. Good idea or bad?

>>17908949
Not at all. You did the right thing.

Girls, you'll never be dumb blonde with big tits. How do you feel about this?

>>17909766
would you rather send your children (if you are planning on having any) to private or public school? Public schools continue to get worse especially with regards to math education.
The economy is going to to get worse (especially under Trump) and I just want to be able to protect people from that.

I am not that materialistic and I really don't want to date someone who is materialistic.

Girls.

Under what circumstances would you send ~100+ word texts to guys, while still be constantly flaking on meeting up?

Any girls from the UK wanna text?

I... I drove away my last texting buddy because I'm horribly broken

It's important you know that I'm just trying to heal, but things are getting to me now.
Started drinking too.

But maybe if anyone just wants to text. Maybe I can...

>>17909924
Meh, I'm indifferent. I bleached my hair for a short while, damn, it makes guys go crazy. Dumb... I'm street smart, a little bit educated, not dumb enough unfortunately. As for tits, I'm happy with C, guys also seem to enjoy it, girls also rate it good, everyone's happy.

A girl gave me her email on the last day of class after we spent about 3 hours talking. I sent a pretty bad email(a joke but apparently not a good one) and a better one. She responded to the good email 4 days after (the day before Christmas Eve) and I responded the day after Christmas. That was 5 days ago.

Should I send her an email wishing her Happy New Years and maybe ask if she wants to switch to google hangouts or schedule a meetup for the 9th(when classes begin)?

Her not responding is making me anxious.

>>17909999
You seem even better than a dumb blonde with big tits. Are you up for some marriage?

>>17910021
I think you should wait a few days, because all normies are busy at this time of the year.

>>17910027
I think I will, though like I said, she hasn't responded at all to my email. If she doesn't respond by say, Monday should I bother contacting her?

or just wait until college starts again and bump into each other?

>>17910027
I'm not a huge fan of the concept of marriage, but I'm loyal beyond reason, so it's not entirely out of question.
Are you kind of responsible and nice?

>>17908160
Women, do you want to get married and spend the rest of your life with one person and never divorce.

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>>17908160
>like this chick for a long time
>find out from female friends she fucked 50+ dudes
>they joke about her locking down number 100 and making sure he never finds out about her past
I had no idea, outwardly she's a totally normal person. It's incredibly frustrating that you can never tell if a woman is incredibly promiscuous or not. They just lie about that shit and think it's totally okay to do so.

>>17910027
>>17910112
Are you the same?

I'm >>17910073 and I definitely want to spend my life with one person, but I prefer not to get the paper.

>>17910123
I know people like to throw the word slut around but she is the definition of one.

>>17910123
And so you want to ask what?

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Kind of a quick both-gender question regarding social skills...

How do I ask meaningful questions in a conversation? How do I also stop reverting to questions in a conversation as well? I know it seems stupid, but I can't shake from going down the rabbit hole of asking question after question.
For example
>Hey how's it going
>Great, just got back from yoga
>Nice, how long have you been doing yoga?
>Oh, for about 4 years now, it's been really good for me.
>Good how? Obviously staying in shape, but does it improve motivation/energy/focus?
>I guess I've found it helps with all of that!
>and so on...
horrible example, but the best I can think of. I just end up asking question after question and it feels like I'm interrogating someone rather than having a nice conversation.

It doesn't happen all the time, but often enough to make me ask for advice about it.

femanons would a 5 1/2 length 5 1/2 girth that goes slightly upwards satisfy you? Is it a good dick?

>>17910232
Quit worrying about you dick. As long as it's not microscopic you should be fine. You don't even need a dick to get most women off.

>>17910073
>kind of responsible and nice
I'm not kind of responsible, I'm very responsible and nice.

>>17910124
I'm the first guy. I also prefer not to officially marry. I'm not sure about spending life with one person. If it is the right person and we're happy, then I'd do it.

Guys!

How to tell a retarded malaysian chink with a pin dick he's got a dud because the majority of women are stupid whores encouraging dumb trash into believing small dicks are huge.

Because it keeps whipping out it's non impressive junk at the workplace we have accessed it to be less than 2 or 3 centimetres if anyone is interested in how tiny it is.

>>17910331
>Because it keeps whipping out it's non impressive junk at the workplace
what the fuck, how can he be doing it at the workplace?

>>17909762
any site, but only take upper forehead-angle shots as your profile pics so it just looks like you have big tits

>>17910201
you can only blame yourself for so much of it. if your conversational partner isn't rebounding questions back or trying to put some effort into it, you need to move on

>>17910273
If you're very nice, then I wish you a happy 2017. If you have a throwaway mail address, please share.

>>17910383
Happy 2017 to you too! What if we are too far apart?

>>17910402
What if we're not too far apart? What if we don't have a huge age gap? What if you really do have a good sense of humor?

Worst case is to have some conversation with a random stranger from the other side of planet I guess.

>>17910413
I'm not convinced (lol), but have this:
japaneseanon at live.com

>>17910112
I would love to spend my life with one person, but I don't want marriage. I find it archaic and pointless (and stupidly expensive). I also don't want kids.

>>17910499
>50 dollars is expensive
wew lad

>>17910557
No, I mean the ceremony etc. all the traditions. White dress (looks terrible anyway), cake, party, family feuds. The whole shebang.

I'd much rather put that money into a house or something.

>>17910358
It's a high volume workplace where it's easy to overlook a pin dick, you'd think it's a small finger.

>>17910588
I think the point that anon was making was that you don't have to have a huge ceremony. There are people who have gotten married for next to nothing.

>>17910588
I got married for under $1000. The car rental was the biggest expense, followed by my tux.
Money from the wedding went to the honeymoon.

>>17909762
If you're young, losing weight is a good start. If you're middle aged, guys are going to be more suspect of a thin woman than one who has mom tits.

When I was separated, I really didn't care that much about how much she weighed. I eliminated the women who spent four hours a day in the gym and ate only kale as well as the 600lb hambeasts. Every other woman probably has some respect for themselves, has the right parts in the right places and has a chance to prove she can talk as well as suck.

>>17910622
>>17910601
I live in a place where if you're together for a certain number of years you get the same benefits of a married couple.

So without the ceremony, it's just a complete waste of time, that I'm not bothered with.

>>17910644
>I live in a place where if you're together for a certain number of years you get the same benefits of a married couple.
That's fair enough, but that does often add an extra step when it comes to these benefits and other legal processes, since the onus is on you to prove that you're in a de facto relationship. Getting married on paper, even if you don't have a ceremony or anything, is a pretty simple way to get around that extra step.

>>17910644
I'm not knocking you, just understand that there are women out there (don't know your gender, don't care) who might say that, but really want deep in their psyche the ceremony. It might come up later.

>>17910593
This still doesn't make sense. Be more specific. What workplace is that? Why are you looking at another guy's crotch?

>>17910601
No point in marriage if you aren't making a huge ceremony.

>>17910656
Why would anyone want to prove they're in a relationship? Most often, people would want to prove they are not.

>>17910663
I am a girl, and I highly doubt it. Weddings are just another reason to get my extended family together. Plus as I said before, wedding dresses look shit.

>>17910677
>Why would anyone want to prove they're in a relationship?
For the benefits that anon was talking about. For example, say her partner dies and doesn't leave a will or there's some sort of opposition to the will. If she were married to him, then she wouldn't have to show that she's in a relationship with him in order to get first priority over the estate, because the fact that they're married creates that presumption. If they're not married, that's another hoop she has to jump through, which just adds to an already stressful situation.

>>17910678
If you don't want to, you don't have to. But if you would like to avoid the situation that >>17910686
advocates, you can always do solely a municipal / county licence. Gives you the legal status without the bullshit of the ceremony; just double check the laws in your jurisdiction.

>>17909339
Amen

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>Girl I went on a date with wants her first car
>Comes to me to help her chip in
>Of course it's a somewhat sizable amount so I press her to go out with me in return
>She refuses because she's not ready yet so eventually I just cave and say i'll do it on the basis that I go with her to look at it
>She wanted to go that very day or the next but I couldn't go then because work so she reschedules so we can go together

>Day comes and a few hours before it's time for us to meet she sends pissy texts at me because the car has been sold and says it's my fault and that she hates me now
>I explain that no other day would've worked for me

>Instantly tells me to delete her number

Girls am I insane to expect the first apology from her on this? How do you even raise a person like this.

>>17910955
Why the fuck are you putting money into her car after one date?

>>17910955
>I press her to go out with me in return
Oh my god, how desperate for a date are you?

>>17910958
Even though we've only had one date i've known her for a few months now and she was pretty much begging and seemed like she had no one else to go to. I thought "what the hell" and just went for it

>>17910960
Not a date per se just to consider us an item and be a little nicer to me.

>>17910955
You're a moron and so is she.

>>17910985
>You're a moron
m8 if only you knew how much I agree.

>>17910250
is 5 inches microscopic ;_;

some people have told me its girthy but idk..

>>17908460
So anyone with autism that works hard?

wtb qt gf pst

>>17908654
I'm always trying to get a job. My only hobby is drawing and I have other interests but those require money.
>>17908671
Same answer. No job = no money = no social circle. I'm always working towards my goals.

>>17910955
either stop trolling or lie better

How often do guys *actually* just want to be friends with a girl? Assuming she's of average or above attractiveness i.e. normal

>>17910677
Casino. The loser was showing it off and paraded around the place with it because he thought it would impress some slooooots.

>>17911248
Only if she is a friend of a friend or she actively pursues me to be her friend.

>>17910112
that would be ideal... if i found someone who is faithful and loving.

i'm not much of a social person but i get on fine with people i'm comfortable around, so it'd be nice to have a forever friend.

i get kind of bored and sick of constantly having to re-introduce myself and my likes/dislikes to a new s/o, no matter how attractive they are.

but i realize it's sort of unrealistic and incredibly rare, and i am not religious. so i'm also satisfied dying alone with a dozen cats and my hobbies to keep me busy.

>>17911248
I'm just friends with lots of average/normal girls. around 3 or 4 close female friends and about 10+ sort of distant but not really friends.

>>17911248
Quite often.
Although we do fuck sometimes, but that's just like friend doing friend a favor, scratching an itch and the likes.

Then again I haven't comeback to this site since 2014, idk what's the norm here now
Happy new Year :::

>>17911248
Depends on the guy. Right now that's all I want really, because I'm not in a good place for a relationship. I know other men who'd only be friendly with some gal who wasn't interested on the chance she introduces him to her friends.

Most women are pretty boring friends though.

The girl I like(d) and seemed to like me back kissed another guy. I'm not even that sad, just a little annoyed and frustrated: I thought I finally met a girl that cared about me, but I was wrong. Again. Sometimes I feel I'm gonna spend the rest of my life completely alone, other times I just try to forget her and focus my attention towards other girls, but I still think about her.
I'd really like to forget her and move on, got any tips?

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>Girls
Do you like being manhandled during sex?
Not in a violent way, more like being pinned against the wall or to the bed and things like that.

Question for girls, especially non-Asian girls.

Would you date an Asian guy?

If yes:
>Why?

If no:
>Is it because of the small penis stereotype, or is it because of something else?

I'm mainly interested in hearing from the "no" answers. I totally understand that everyone has their preferences, but I've always wanted to hear specific reasons from a sample group.

>>17908562
>fat/poorfag that's had reasonable success with women
Be honest here, how was the overall quality of women you've dated?

Just because you've dated a lot doesn't mean I'll readily believe that you've dated hot chicks with stable employment. Given your caliber, I can only assume that the women you've dated were also fat and poor.

Girls - I've known this girl for a while and thought of her just as a friend. However I caught feelings a couple of months ago and admitted it to her and it was awkward between the two of us for a while BC she wasn't interested. I didn't ask her out and said I wanted to stay friends. Now I've moved on but the banter isn't there like it was before and she's not messaging me as much, assumedly because she feels awkward about what happened. How do I resurrect this so it's no longer awkward and she knows for certain I have no further romantic feelings about her?

>>17911539
Being held down is something I love to death. I like to struggle against it but I'm small without any real strength so my guy is still "gentle" when he indulges me.

>>17911567
Too late, you can't fix it. It just doesn't happen.

You can never fix awkwardness between crushes.

Hell, it's easier to be friends with an ex than it is to be friends with an awkward crush.

Girls

Do you like getting lifted up by your bf? I love to lift my gf up when I wanna kiss her and make her feel petite and feminine and me manly.

>>17911574
Well, shit. If it changes anything she was crushing on me at one stage but I missed the cues and now she's trying to get back with her ex. She still wants to hang and shit and gets annoyed when I don't message her but takes ages to reply and gives short responses. I'm just confused at this point tb.h.

>>17911590
I think I can provide a general answer.

Below 5'3": They either really really hate it, or they really really like it. No middle ground, for some reason.

Between 5'4" and 5'6": Mostly no preference.

Over 5'7": They like it, but it's hard for them to find a guy who can do it.

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Lightweight: Like if tall or average, dislike if short.

Midweight: No strong preference.

Heavyweight: Would probably like it, but it's next to impossible.

Can ugly people get a chance to impress a girl? Like seriously, I've had it with girls ignoring me, I'm going to start lifting weights this year (I fucking swear it and if it doesn't I'll kill myself) and make myself look more hygienic.
And do girls ever get interested with socially retarded and introvert guys? I want a gf before I reach 27 this November.

>>17911637
Getting /fit/ probably won't help a whole lot. Women are more impressed by personality and behaviour than they are by physique. You just have to not be morbidly obese or a skelly. Still exercise tho, its good for you.

Spend time practising and actively developing your social skills and resolving your emotional issues. Read Models by Mark Manson, it helped me, it might help you.

i've been ignoring my crush but it isn't getting any better
she's still so damn cute
give me more advice on how to get over a crush

>>17911655
Get dubs.

Also talk to other girls.

>>17911658
i keep very much to myself so there are no other girls. this crush was something that just hit me out of the blue because she is so close to my 'type'

>>17911646
I've been trying to talk a lot and I have yet to impress a single girl in my life. Probably it's because I have speech disorder and most of the time I had to take a long pause to process what I had to say in a normal conversation, and I could hardly pick up jokes too since I am a serious person.

It's like I had to be born ugly and a social retard. This post alone took me 3 mins. of my fucking time to make to backtrack on my posts and check its grammar and spelling.

>>17911667
>caring about grammar and spelling on a mongolian fish smoking message stick

>>17909959
Anyone?

>>17911671
Well, you should care to some degree.

There's a difference between making a few typos here & there, and making so many of them that you get mistaken for an Indian.

Girls, are you ever attracted to average height guys as long as they're fit and have a good face, or is being tall always better?

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>>17911676
Just be taller than her senpai. Quit being an insecure manlet holy shit.

>>17909959
>Hey anon you got anymore of that attention

>>17911671
>mongolian

What's with 4chan's obsession with associating itself to the Mongols these days? If I was a fucking Mongol, I'd be typing Cyrillic.

>>17911675
I'm not a native speaker of English, but I do think good grammar matters a lot so I could at least look more intelligible to other people. Appearance means a lot and I resent myself for being an ugly piece of shit.

>>17911682
I'm not short, but people seem to act like attractiveness is exclusive to tall guys.

>>17911603
>Over 5'7": They like it, but it's hard for them to find a guy who can do it.
gf is 175cm, slender built, but not light, I'm 190 cm but I never attempted to lift her up, how do I even approach the situation without it looking weird. Should I ask "can I lift u up?", otherwise I fear bad things might happen to both of us...

>>17911682
>Hey anon you got anymore of that attention

Eh, it's my friend who's in that situation.

She would send long messages 100+ words. But she would flake on meeting him, and kinda ghost him for a week or so at a time. Then it will be back to normal soon after.

Her texts almost seem like she's trying to impress him though

>>17911637
>Can ugly people get a chance to impress a girl
you beat the shit out of her.

>>17911691
Textbook "Other guys aren't giving me attention, you're my backup" behavior

Honestly, unless they are fucking he shouldn't send her more than one text a day

>>17911685
4chan was originally a board for discussing anime, or Japanese cartoons.

People started calling them "Chinese cartoons" ironically, because all Asians rook arike to white people.

Then it started deviating more and more. What was originally "Chinese cartoons" further devolved into other parodies, usually in the form of some Asian country, and a certain form of artistic medium. I saw examples such as "Laotian Poetry," "Vietnamese Latte Art," "Malaysian Tapestry," and so on.

I've even started to see countries from other continents, as well as things beyond artistic mediums. I think the weirdest I saw was "Israeli Math Tutoring" and "Senegalese Salt Mining".

girls

what would you say about this girl and her relationship:
actually pretty ok as long as it isn't love-related. my life is awesome atm, uni, work, training, health. couldn't be better.
but then I go on this board and everything turns to shit.
thinking a lot about us lately, about you especially, whether you would actually be able to keep certain promises or whether it was all just "Fassade" to convince me. yea, been doing a lot of them thinkingsss.
but he's still present and in many aspects, compared to him, you just "abschmierst". i would like to be able to stop comparing you two, him to you, you to him, but it's impossible. as much as I can't stop thinking about you when he's around, I strongly believe that I wouldn't be able to stop thinking about certain nice things with him if I was to be with you right now.
the big problem is that both of you came so closely one after the other in my life. it's impossible to see you without considering the other. sometimes i think a break from both of you would do me good.
i hate hurting you with these texts and mood/opinion-swings but you wanted the truth: that's what my brain looks like. maybe it cheers you up to know that i feel comfortable telling you the truth. he can't handle the truth, rages, i feel sorry because the only reason he rages is because he loves me unconditionally and i hurt his feelings, i feel guilty, i apologize, and it all starts again until the next time I bring up the truth, he rages...
now i feel even worse cause i told you. but you wanted the truth

i really wonder how this situation will look like 50 years from now, maybe i can laugh about this when i'm grey and old

>>17911693
No I don't, you silly vermin.


But I want to make girls regret that they skipped on a guy as great as me and get my revenge by being a "handsome" macho guy. It's 2017, I will stop being a shut-in social loser and engage in social activities.

Fuck you girls, I'm gonna get a gf this year or else I'll be in Hogwarts in 3 years

>>17911699
Really it is only one a day from him.

And this seems like abit more than just "You are my backup" This was one message that she sent

>A man who confesses that he's bad at directions - I should save this text for proof (lol). I'm bad with names: of streets; really good with remembering landmarks though. I borrowed "The righteous mind" from Professor; it's about the origin of morality. Really interesting book! Though at the end it gets heavy with evolution . . . Idk, things like that annoy me: they talk like evolution is a proven fact. Science of today interest me more than silly theory of origin. The book is good though! Also reading/re-reading "flowers for algernon." One of my top five favorite books. It's been a while since reading it. There is a 1968 movie on the book, perhaps A good movie night movie (never saw it). What's "Stranger" about: in a nut shell. Harmony? I've changed my major. English, with a minor in social studies. Don't laugh (lol), I know my spelling is the worst . . . but I can change anything about me that I dislike. I love reading and fascinated with human nature. . . so yep. I don't want to be stuck in the books with science, though that's my strong point. I want to live life and do something challenging. English/social studies teacher (high-school). I'm also going to sign up for TEFL and teach overseas. Perhaps Japan, since I've been there once. I feel like I'm talking about myself too much in this text (lol). That's the goal though. Scared and excited. So what you up to?

>>17911699
That's the worst fucking feel.

You could be an amazing grill but if I'm your 2nd or 3rd option to get some easy attention then you are out of my life.

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>>17911702
>You will never mine salt in Senegal
Why even live to be quite honest famiglia

>>17911711
Literally "the guy I'm fucking won't listen to my stupid shit, so you get to now"

>>17910112
Yes absolutely. Though I don't like the current legal/government aspect of marriage so I might leave that part out.

>>17910112
Until I get bored lol.

>>17910112
Judging by divorce statistics, no. Most women hate being married and only do it for money.

But don't worry anon, when I am president I am going to cut all welfare for unwed mothers and eliminate alimony.

>>17911248
The only time i tried we both understood that it was just friendship. She even did all the friendzone shenanigans that girls do to the guys they're not interested in and I didn't even care, it was more than understood for me that this was about being friends and nothing else.

One day she got lonely, tried to get it on with me, got embarassed and angry because I just saw her as a friend and not as a woman, and ghosted me out of her life.

So even if the man doesn't initiates, the friendship still has a high chance to crumble since you are both friends and that means that you both like something of the other part.

>>17911717
>Literally "the guy I'm fucking won't listen to my stupid shit, so you get to now"

Its all mutual interests for them, and she does not actually have a BF or anyone shes fucking, so....

>>17911732
How do you know? Last girl I was fucking did this same shit, even when we were resting in bed.

>>17911734
I'm friends with her completely independently of this guy, and she goes on about how she wishes that she had a bf.

>>17911688
I once heard a bunch of girls saying about me that 'anon is tall, but nothing else'.

>>17911736
>bf.
Weird because that's not all we're talking about.

>>17911734
You were fucking a girl with bf?

>>17911741
Well, she tells me that. And she tells are female friends how shes angry that she's still a virgin at her age

>>17911743
no, she had orbiters though

she got a bf p quick after i told her I was moving out of state

>>17911744
if she wants a bf so bad why doesn't she get one.

girls

is this normal?

maybe i'm assuming veeeeeeeery hard here but well:
you don't know or can't seem to understand why i'm "doing this to myself", this staying with him even though it's hard, being loyal and everything. maybe this is a result of our different family backgrounds. no judging here, just saying that maybe for you, it's easier to understand or to accept a break up, but for me, coming from a traditional-marriage-'happy'-life-together home that's been like this for generations now, with my grandparents falling in love very young and staying together, to my parents also marrying very young and still being together... maybe this somehow influences me in thinking that breaking up equals giving up. i don't know.
and maybe it's what i was afraid of: that you would brek up with me easier than for example he would, because he also comes from a similar home like mine.
assumptions over
>who the hell rages if he can't handle the truth? like what the fuck..
i was his first, he learned everything about relationships from me: maybe I was the one who fucked him up? maybe i taught him to rage in front of the truth? and now i should just drop him because i'm not happy anymore with what I created?
maybe it's not that way, he's probably also responsible for himself, but maaan, my brain tells me that it's like this.

>>17908949
Don't worry. I've done this a few times. If you dont wanna fuck someone that's your choice man. I only wanna be with someone I care about as well.

>>17911745
>if she wants a bf so bad why doesn't she get one.

From what I can tell she is very introverted and can't really open up.
So, I am kinda thinking that maybe she is into my friend, but is to nervous/shy to actually meetup with him.

Almost every message from her seems to have some hint of them doing something together. Either watching some old movie, going to get coffee, or going to Disney World. (We live only a couple hours away from it)

>>17911752
does he want her?

>>17911558
Asian guys can be really attractive, probably my #2 after white guys, but I feel like the main reasons I've never considered dating one are because I'm a tall girl and usually taller, general cultural differences, and hapa babies.

>>17911755
Yea, thats why he's showing me every fucking message.

>>17911764
Also He's 19 and she ~23 or something (But looks 18-19).

They actually don't know each others actual ages

>>17911764
then tell him to nut up
if she really is introverted, don't let him give her a chance to flake

nothing wrong with driving up to her house and basically kidnapping her

>>17911770
AFAIK they don't know where each other lives, and I'm only class friends with her, so it's not like I can just find her address and give it to him.

Then theirs that age gap that can be an issue here as well.

>>17911776
not an argument
tell him to be more forceful or fuck off, it's not hard

>>17909477
There's a good chance she's offering you a seat to sit down.

>>17911778
I'll try to figure out something to be more forceful. (And I'll need to apply to my situation as well.....)

>>17911787
>hey let's netflix and chill
>*get drunk and fuck
>stupid autocorrect

>>17911790
Eh, Would be a valid choice if they were the normal types, and weren't extremely introverted virgins. And if my friend and I were both 21 so we could actually get the alcohol.

>>17911798
stop making excuses

>>17911800
I'm just saying that that tends to apply more the regular types.

Though he can maybe invite her to see that movie that she mentioned in this.
>There is a 1968 movie on the book, perhaps A good movie night movie (never saw it).

But for my situation its a bit more complicated to find something...

Girls
Been friends with this girl for a long time and she knows I've liked her in the past and we do have lots of things in common. I've improved my life and got a decent job and she started txting me recently. I said that we'd catch up soon and she said "Of course!!!" So I'm guessing I'm not over analyzing this and she wants to. I could be friendzoned but thats okay. But how long should I wait before properly asking her to hang out? Because I don't know what soon means to be honest.... lol

Do girls like a big, stronk man?

I'm no power lifter, but i have a big belly, big arms and lots of chest hair.

I have always been self-conscious about the belly but my arms get mired a lot(by guys tho)

>>17911895
>>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
>There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>>17911221

Despite how dumb it sounds i'm not lieing or trolling about this. I just really really wonder if there's any chance of what I think is a obligatory apology.

Shes responded positively to me initiating the conversation, but tends to be me starting them. We also knew eachother as friends before and she never used x's. but now her texts are littered in them.

Usually i avoid texting and we meet up in person. We knew eachother a while back and only recently connected in October. but i've been travelling recently, hence the texts,

Is it a good sign?

>>17911957
>and she never used x's
What the hell does this mean?

>>17909924
Meh, doesn't really bother me...

>>17910112
YEs

>>17911964
Can possibly symbolize Kisses?

What format are they used it?

>>17912031
Mainly X X X X X and sometimes at the start when i say start the convo.

Also does Z X Z X Z mean she wants me to sleep with her??? Just kidding.

>>17912055
I don't really know then.

If it was like

>Hey anon. How's your day been? xxxxx

Then it could be Kisses. I don't know really in your situation then

>>17912055
>tfw I have no clue what you kiddos are saying

>>17912080
I'd assume they're kisses, but if she didnt send them before, and is sending them now after hour long convos, thats a good sign right.

>>17912121
I would definitely think so.

Mind helping figure this for my friend? >>17911711

>>17912124
Dunno much about texting. But I wouldnt text anyone every day. Also thats pretty long winded, I ask questions if i'm interested.

>>17912138
Yea, but that girl seems to flake out on meeting up with him. That's the concern here.

Maybe the age gap may be a concern?

>>17912146
Yeah i'd avoid it, if she cant make it and suggests an alternate time is the only good sign.

>>17912178
Eh, true. She seems to find a way out, and then stops responding for a week. Then she resumes messaging.

From what I know, he's 19 and she is in her 20's.

Also, it seems like she is hinting at having him try again with stuff like

>There is a 1968 movie on the book, perhaps A good movie night movie (never saw it).

>Have you ever wandered around five points/riverside? When your at campus, you should check it out. A lot of coffee shoppes and bagel/smoothie places. Peanut butter smoothie = yum."

>I don't look like a Disney fan? Lol! It's because of my mature/pessimistic personality . . . Isn't it (lol). Love the Mickey Mouse! Do you like Disney? I'm going to Epcot, if that defends my maturity any (lol).

And she told him the day she's going in a different message

If a girl says "we can hang out later, I'm busy" is it always a sly way of rejecting you?

Asked a girl if she wanted to meet up and she said she would, but followed up with a message saying something like "probably not until the summer though, because of school."

That took me by surprise because the summer is so far away.