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Any advice for breaking up with a long-term partner? 10 years

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Any advice for breaking up with a long-term partner? 10 years here. High school sweeties. I don't think he'll want to break up so this is hard but it's better for him in the long run.
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>>17907217
Why are you breaking up?
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>>17907217
"but it's better for him in the long run..."
You can't make decisions for your boyfriend. You can only make decisions for yourself. Why would you like to break up?
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>>17907224

Because she's a dumb whore.
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>>17907224
>>17907227
these

nice try tho op

i mean, cmon
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>>17907282
I wouldn't jump that far, but I would give an arm for a relationship like that and would fight tooth and nail for it. Those things aren't common.
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>>17907224
>>17907227

He wants a family, I don't. He wants to live in the country, me in the city. He's capable, I'm dead weight. There are lots of reasons.
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>>17907349

Oh, so you're one of those useless city whores that would like to fuck around with other guys before settling down?

I guarantee you that you'll come running back the moment you're 30, single, an d all used up, wondering where have all the good men gone when your inherent value as a woman has plummeted lmao
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>>17907349
It sounds like your values aren't the same. Have you talked with your boyfriend how you feel?
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>>17907367

Often, on a casual level. I often talk about how much I dread living in the country, etc, been there and it's not really fun. He doesn't complain about the family thing but it makes me feel just awful because he'd be an awesome dad. Our sex drives are also different and we've both been working toward reaching a middle ground. It feels bad to know that I'll probably never match him on that.

>>17907363

Yep that me but my long term plan is to pillage a /r9k/ robot's Good Boy Points in a dramatic divorce and retire on the tendies
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>>17907393
So he knows you don't want a family and he's still with you? Maybe you're more important to him. He's responsible for his own choices. Don't break up with him just because you think you're holding him back from things. Stay with him or break up because of how you feel and what you want for yourself.
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>>17907393
i dont think you should feel forced to live in a country you dont want to be in. but you should definitely keep touch because youll miss each other for sure.
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>>17907217
I hate when people do this. Be honest with yourself instead. YOU want to break up with him because of reasons. If he thought it would be better for himself to break up with you, he would do it. Man up and admit that you're the one that wants to break up and stop trying to make yourself feel better about it.
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>>17907555
Exactly
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>>17907217
omg do it through text like I did. I was in a 10 year too. high school sweetums as well.

I figured he was gonna be heartbroken anyway so why not do it through text.It's way easier than in person or over the phone
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Sometimes I wonder how could 2 people be together for 10 fucking years if everything you said basically says that you don't like him all that mych. Why the fuck stay with him for 10 years?
It boggles my mind society even evolved in the first place.
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>>17908071
Can i just say that's super shitty? Maybe if it was a short term thing but this person deserves to be told the truth face to face. That is, if you have ANY honor whatsoever.

Anons, am I crazy for feeling this way?
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>>17907349
Tell him literally this. That's all.
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>>17908080
You're not. Reading things like this floor me.

>high school sweetheart
>been with you for an entire decade so far
>capable
>desires you greatly
>would be an amazing father
>wants to have a life with you in the country
>possibly loves you so much he's willing to give up having children
>LOVES YOU AND IS HAPPY AND DOESN'T WANT TO END THE RELATIONSHIP

Jesus Christ OP do you even know what your'e doing
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>>17908078
She didn't say she doesn't like him; she just said that their long term plans and values don't match up, which would make perfect sense for highschool sweethearts.
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>>17908318
It would be bad if you didn't want kids though. Or to move to the country. Trust me, I lived in the country as a teen; it's boring as fuck.
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>>17908328
>>17908342
They've had 10 years together, OP even said they've talked about all this stuff for who knows how long and he's fine with it.

And I'm the first person to say "break it off you're not compatible" when people are first deciding on a partner, but this isn't that. This is an entire decade of commitment. It deserves more effort than just suddently deciding they aren't compatible and that's it. At least try and reach compromise. Sounds like he's more than willing.
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