Seeing large families (7+) makes me so happy. And I just realised that all I want is to be a mother.
Where do I find a guy that wants lots of kids?
Is this guy supposed to be white and also own a farm or ranch of some sort?
>>17905519
I prefer white but don't really care where we live, so long as we're comfortable in it.
>>17905515
>>>/pol/
But only if youre not a crazy brainwashed feminist psychopath
>>17905522
Good luck. Are you white yourself?
>>17905524
Thanks I'm gonna need it. Yeah I am
>>17905523
kek
OP, there isn't a place where you can find men who want many children. They don't exactly have a club. All you can do is date men (or just talk to them) and ask them early how they feel about this subject (subtly, if possible) so you can sort them out fast and you won't realize your partner doesn't want to give you what you desire one year in the relationship.
>>17905523
I'm not a feminist but that place is weird. Too negative for my mental health.
>>17905531
Wish I was too.
>>17905533
How do I subtly talk about children without sounding crazy?
>>17905537
Wish you were what?
>>17905539
White?
>>17905538
It's not crazy to want a lot of children. There are lots of men who just want to have casual sex and make it seem like marriage and children is some weird strange behavior. But wanting to have a family and children is actually normal. I bring it up on 2nd dates and (I think) men think I'm sane and normal
>>17905538
Talking about children doesn't make you crazy. It's normal for you to want children and to have an interest in this subject. If you didn't we wouldn't have survived so long as a species.
By being subtle I meant you shouldn't make him feel like he's being questioned. Steer a conversation towards the subjects of family and children and listen to what he has to say, how he feels about it and see his reactions to what you're saying. Usually they'll make it pretty obvious whether they want children or not if you discuss the subject. You can simply start a conversation about family then say that you want a bunch of children and watch his reaction. If he doesn't share this feeling he'll most likely run away (unless he's really desperate), if he does he'll be more interested in you. Oh, but you should know that most men see this as a huge hint that you're interested in them and want to have their babies, so you shouldn't say that in a 1 on 1 conversation with a guy unless you're interested in him.
>>17905515
Join the Peace Corps and go to any 3rd World Muslim country. There, men who want 7+ kids are the norm.
>>17905515
Marry a mormon.
>>17905583
Marry a moron*
fixed it anon.
>>17905538
When your talking with a guy you ask him about his favourite tags on gelbooru, then mention yours are impregnation or pregnancy or something. Alternatively become a Catholic.
I'd give you as many kids as you'd want but I can't afford. I imagine it's the same for most men nowadays. Thanks for entering the workforce.
>>17905515
Few men will want to marry in the near future, let alone have children. It's a money sink just to have a stressful, shithole life and get fucked over by sexist laws and systems when the relationship inevitably deteriorates with the lack of collectivism and compromising with each other in modern humans. Good luck though.
>>17905667
That's the only thing that scares me. Divorce. I know I might not meet the right one but a girl can dream
you just find any guy you want to date and then you trigger his breeding instincts.
works like a charm.
>>17905693
Condoms exist lol
>>17905701
no, i didn't mean "get them to fuck you bareback and then tell them you aren't on the pill afterwards". i meant, get them to want nothing more than fertilize you and have you bear his children
>>17905515
All I want to do is have as many kids as possible too. Hopefully we bump into each other.
>>17905710
>bump into each other
hon hon
>>17905709
that's not a thing you can do
I'm white, want a ranch, and about 6-7 children. Is this predictable for white guys or something?
It would be cool and I owe it to my country and family to carry on a good legacy.
I'm in the same boat OP, I just need to find a woman willing.
>>17905719
No? The fuck does being white have anything to do with it?
>>17905715
you wish... i could make you want 7 kids in about half a year
>>17905728
and how would you go about doing that?
>>17905721
Because >>17905519 nailed it. Just curious if this is common or some shit.
>>17905733
you must be mad if you think i'd reveal my strategy
>>17905759
>>17905515
I think just about any rural-dwelling chump will be happy to oblige.
>>17905515
Mormons and catholics
>>17905719
>I owe it to my country and family
im like 100% sure neither of those parties asked that of you
I hope you find what you want anon. I married a woman who doesn't want kids, or wants one at most. As I get older I can't get over the feeling that what I really want is a curvy cuddly domestic girl who I can just put baby after baby into and we can raise our big family together and live happily and die in peace.
At least I have a nice cat...
It's not like they congregate in one area. Just see people, and mention something to the effect of 5 year plan. If it makes him shudder, then odds are he doesnt want kids.
>>17905985
It's not like it's an uncommon thing for parents to nag their children about grandkids.
>>17906047
>6-7
>>17905515
While the idea of just being a stay at home mother sounds so appealing and just dealing all your time into raising children just seems like such a fulfilling life, it does only work under certain circumstances.
Not only do you have to find a man who can support all of this (income, him okay with being breadwinner and you staying at home, a house to do this in).
You NEED to consider yourself too. I am a mother of one, and I always thought I would have at least three kids. Then number one wrecked my body completely.
I don't just mean I gained weight. I recovered from that well. What I mean is, after my first, I developed diabetes, I got postpartum depression, I have anemia, pregnancy sucked so much calcium from my bones that I shrunk one inch from my bones growing dense. I was a slightly rarer case in which for some reason, I do not produce breast milk. I also had to have an emergency c-section. I will have to have a c-section every time I get pregnant. And the pain of a c-section is near unbearable, worse than pushing the baby out.
Two years after my child was born, I ran into reproductive health problems. I frequently get cysts in my ovaries. If there is a cyst in my ovary, I don't release an egg. Then I can't conceive. The cysts can also cause problems if I do get pregnant. I've been to doctor upon doctor and there is no cure for the cysts.
You need to understand, not everyone can physically pop out several babies. Start with one, wait a few years to consider if motherhood is even something you can handle.
I love my kid so much. But I also think about how much it will cost us to put her through college.... Can't even handle that number times 3 right now.
I've altered my goal a bit. When my daughter grows a bit older, I really want to be a foster mother.
>>17906054
Honestly I wouldnt be surprised if my parents tried to encourage me to go that high, if I ever settled down and could afford it (odds are likely, between career and inherited assets). Everyone in their generation forgot to have kids I guess, so for my generation it's basically just my brother and I for the whole extended family.
If we don't have kids, the family name dies basically.
>>17905536
>not triggering roasties and leftists on untermensch boards while you wait for happening threads
The red pill awaits, anon
You have to go go on a date with a guy, then when you're sitting at a restaurant or some kind of café, you say "excuse me for a second".
Then you walk out the room, then walk back in sideways like a crab, and say loudly out of the side if your mouth " ChildreN I desiiire!! I DESIIIRE".
Keep walking at him sideways and try to step on the chairs and the tables, try to climb up on them like a crab.
It might sound a little unusual, but I know many lovely young ladies who started happy big families by following this advice!
Goodluck my dear, and feel free to ask if you would like me to elaborate on any of the above!
>>17905515
how the hell do you plan on properly raising seven kids?
>>17906069
Okay, this is not a normal experience.
I wonder if this women had proper pre and post natal care.
You can have severe reactions to pregnancy though, including preeclampsia and gestational diabetes which can then cause diabetes after pregnancy.
I have had 2 kids in 2 years and here is what I learned: your AFTER birth pains become more intense with each child.
But they can give you harder drugs for this. Actual birth becomes easier.
My body really is suited to pregnancy and I did great with both pregnancies, no stretch marks, no high blood pressure or swelling in the hands face or feet, no gestational diabetes, no problems really at all. I gained 10 pounds before getting pregnant and additional 10-15 pounds each pregnancy. So I am left with 20 pounds total to lose when you subtract the baby.
I found the second time around was pushing it a bit. I was getting very close to stretch mark or to broken blood vessels in my legs. But the baby came at 37 weeks and nothing happened.
As a woman, you deserve to find out what your body can do but don't be scared.
Some people can only handle one kid, some people can handle eight. We had a second right away and are adjusting to the added concerns but in the end it isn't such a big deal to us to make us question the decision.
Some people do great with a big family.
>>17906117
Yea, I did have proper care. Baby was completely healthy. I was not.
>>17906117
>Okay, this is not a normal experience.
I think it's more normal than you're giving it credit. Childbirth is a difficult thing, my mother had to have a C-section for both my brother and I simply because we were too large. She had lots of health issues with her guts falling open because of it basically. I believe she still has a mesh that basically holds everything in place to this day, and had to go back under the knife to get it repaired quite a few times.
I'm a guy who wants a lot of kids.
They're mostly religious,virgins, and want a virgin wife.
>>17905515
Im a man with a similar problem to you OP, i had a small family growing up so want 7 kids. My GF, who i want to make my wife, only wants 2 kids max. I dont know what to do to convince her otherwise. I know child birthing isnt a walk in the park but i feel like im with the wrong woman in the baby making department...
>>17906037
did she always not want them? or just something that came up AFTER getting married?
thing is, I want kids, girlfriend didn't. told me if I did, then we should break up, so I did. then over the thought of losing me, she wanted to get back together and we talk about it again a year down the road
do women change their minds later?
>>17905538
Just make it clear that you're talking abstractly about life goals in general, not about having children in the near future with him specifically.
>tfw male and want as many children as possible (with one female naturally)
>consider how many pregnancies my wife would have to go through to deliver
It's just sad. Why are twins, triples and up so rare for humans...
No woman will ever want to go through this. Worse even - I'd feel bad for just asking.
>>17906311
Because multiples are way harder to do than just one at a time
>>17906338
That is true, however if you compare the difficulty of doing *two* one-at-a-time with twins *once* it's ends up actually pretty close.
What I'm saying is:
Two singles is double the difficulty of one.
One twins is also more or less double the difficulty of one.
The difficulty argument only makes sense if you don't want more than one kid (at the moment of course! financial situation or whatever the reason).
Then obviously getting more at once is undesirable.
But here I'm talking about the biological tendency for quality > quantity is human birth.
It's a real and well-researched topic.
In cases like OP multiples would be the best way to go, because you will strive for a high number anyway.
In these cases multiples are like shortcuts to the same goal.
All I'm saying is that it's a shame there's no way to "encourage" it, and we have to go with the lousy human average of 3.5% for a multiple.
And some people end up with twins while wanting just one, and there's nothing do be done about it.
>>17906260
She's wanted them less and less as she approaches 30. Started out saying maybe two, now she just wants none.
>>17906383
I'd disagree, having two kids only a year apart makes a huge difference compared to two newborns the same age. There's a reason why twinning is a rare "mistake" in humans and all primates besides callitrichids.
But anyway, if you really want to encourage multiples you can do fertility treatments. That's what happened to John and Kate and Octomom.
>>17906438
Indeed.
I decided to dig around the topic a bit, and fertility treatments do exist.
Good to know.
>>17905515
Can you afford this?
>>17905515
Go on /pol/
>>17905728
Do it
>>17905515
youll want to seek out a guy closer to 30 than 20. i am 30, and did not want kids until very recently. before now, i was not in a financial position to provide the kind of life that i want for my hypothetical wife and children. now that i can, the idea is more appealing. that said, you also have to be the kind of woman that a guy would want to procreate with.
tl;dr: be awesome, look for older established guys
I'm a guy in a similar situation. Want lots of kids and wouldn't mind a housewife. I don't talk about it so there's no way for anyone around me to know. I'm from the city and am a medical student so it's not something that only hillbillies want, although I'm considering eventually looking for a young girl from a rural area. You're gonna need some luck and a bit of effort.
>>17905515
You found one. How do I find a woman who wants lots of kids?
>>17905678
It's not impossible by any stretch. All it requires is two mature adults running the household and budgeting for needs rather than trendy wants. If you genuinely want a large family it won't even feel like a sacrifice because children are the priority not shiny objects.
A full table at Thanksgiving is worth it to me personally. I make enough money to either buy many luxury items or raise a family.
>>17906511
Shop in a Mexican grocery store
>>17906539
>I make enough money to either buy many luxury items or raise a family.
Maybe you could do something smart with your money instead.
>>17906543
Maybe you could get a job.
>>17905962
>catholics
I wish. I'm a Catholic guy and I've met one family with more than four kids. Most have two or three.
>tfw come from a massive greek family where I have far more than 100+ uncles aunts cousin etc. and im expected to make the family even bigger and all of them always ask when im going to start having tiny greek children with some nice greek girl
If you're a greek qt i'll marry you op
>>17906551
A very well thought out reply. Thank you.
>>17905515
This. 23 w F who wants to have a family some day with this guy I love for over 2 years. I wanted my first kid by 25 but we just parted ways. He wasn't ready for grilfriend and I was broke chasing him out of state for the third time.
You can't force it with blind yandere passion. That's for sure. Good luck anon.
>>17905522
>>17905536
Hit me up I'm a fucking loser but this is my dream too, I'm working on getting out of it and I don't expect any dedication out of you until I dedicate to myself. Its very hard for me to find a girl my age who wants a large family and doesn't already have children of her own, especially someone who wants 7 like me, and I refuse to say that my wife has a son thats not mine.
Maybe just what I need is motivation.
[email protected] (this is another chan's throwaway email server hosted by one of their mods)
>>17905985
>Wanting to better your country by raising moral upstanding members of society
>Wanting to pay respect to my lineage by doing the same
>Somehow bad things
These are some things called Civic and Social Responsibility lad
>>17905515
How old are you and where do you live?
>>17905515
I dunno but there's a ton of them out there. My girlfriend doesn't want a ton of kids but has her whole maternal thing flaring up.
It's pretty dope.
>>17905583
Would say same thing. Community wants lots of kids and marriages never break up.
You don't need to care about the religious crap, just attend the church every now and then, do a Thanksgiving prayer on each meal and you're done.
Better is Utah, 99% white and Mormon.
I couldn't post this earlier since my cell network was on an IP ban, but...
What the fuck makes people want this many kids? Please explain it to me. Are you trying to build a basketball team?
Your kids are going to take up all of your free time, they're going to ruin yours (or your wife's) body, they are financially nearly impossible to take care of in the modern era, and there is no chance that you can equally pay attention to this many kids. They will fail in some degree, and this seems selfish.
People in the past had this many kids because they needed them to tend to the farm. Some were going to die. Protection did not reasonably exist.
I can get having 2-3 kids if you're hoping for both a boy and a girl or something, but even that is risky financially.
Please explain.
>>17907301
Because they're cute and just little balls of heaven and never do anything wrong.
>>17907301
Im trying to put together a basketball team.
>>17907301
Most people aren't slavishly individualist. A lot of 'what about me? ME ME ME' and that's not how parents think, or good parents anyway. They have children for the fulfillment of raising them.
>>17907301
Eventually you too will grow up and realize life is not all about self service. But until then just be glad that there are people who actually plan ahead for lots of children, there are more than enough people reproducing at alarming rates who don't give a shit about their kids.
>>17906701
>tfw no yandere gf to femdom me and force me to impregnate her
Life is disappointing desu
>>17908109
I'm 30 years old. I've lived long enough to see that most parents I know are fucking miserable, but they made their bed and have to sleep (or more literally, since they had kids, not sleep) in it. That doesn't necessarily make them bad parents, and I don't fault them for having kids, but pretending that everyone will see the benefit of this if they just "grow up" is silly as fuck.
Having kids doesn't make you an enlightened snowflake.
I love kids, I was the oldest of 5 so I've spent my whole life taking care of kids.
I definitely want a large family, 4-6 kids.
But I'm pretty religious and my wife HAS to be a virgin.
>>17905515
Don't do this anon.
I come from a big family and it's not like the media portrays it. Yes there are some good times but there is way more stress and drama too.
Instead of becoming a baby factory you should just have one of your own that you can devote your love and resources into raising.
If you feel the need to be surrounded become a foster parent or child counciler.
There are enough damaged children in the world. Even the most responsible parents become lazy or distracted after two kids
>>17908129
>become a child counciler
"don't have a big wonderful family, anon, have nihilistic crippling depression instead!"
>>17908121
If you are lucky enough to have found a job and people or hobbies that fulfill all aspects of your life, good for you. But you are no more enlightened through your lack of seed sacks than anyone else. Children take everything you have to give and then some more, there is no "benefit" you need to grow up and find. I just can't see how a life all about free time and money would be fulfilling past age 35 and I'd rather have lots of people to share it with.
>>17905515
Im one of 9. My dad has been married twice his first wife with his 6 kids 1959-1980 then my mom 3 kids1981 to his death in 2001. Its pretty chill when you all get along and grew up different lives and eras.
>>17908172
Work and balancing my friends and family life is already challenging enough, along with working out, getting enough rest, and then having a little bit of time to myself for video games or TV. I can't think of the last time that thought to myself "gee, I really wish I had more to do." I don't even have time for a relationship unless I sacrifice other things in my life.
Having someone to "share" it with isn't hugely important to me, but again, I get why someone would want to have one or two kids that doesn't live as busy of a life... But having more than that just becomes hugely overwhelming, and it's no longer really your life.
The only truly happy parent I know is unemployed and collected a big inheritance with his wife, so they can dedicate most of their time to their daughter. Most of us aren't that lucky and have to leave our kid at daycare eight hours a day.
>>17908217
It took me about a decade to get to the point where I could balance everyday life stuff with working, relationship, friends, hobbies. working out, and some sort of free time. I still suck at it but I have some semblance of a routine down now.
That being said. if I could provide for five kids (with or without a husband) I would happily do so. Desiring kids is like a flu I can't seem to shake, and it's hard for me to picture a future without them. I was born in the wrong era though, so like you said, I'll be lucky to have one or two that get to hang out at daycare while I work. I'd still prefer devoting my time to that vs. other things.
>>17908129
Found the jew
>>17908129
I'll counter this by saying my mom is one of 6 and she absolutely loved coming from a big family. She wishes she had more than just two kids herself. I love having so many aunts and uncles and soooo many cousins. Being with them are some of my fondest childhood memories. My mom has plenty of great stories from her childhood as well. And now my grandma has 6 loving children to look after her in her old age. She is the center of a grand family.