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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.

>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
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I know this comes close to the 'specific look', but, in general, what do men think of tattoos?
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>>17901778
Art is fine. Number 14 off the wall is proof of stupidity. In other words, the permanent marks on your body better have a good purpose.
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>>17901785
I want a small one on my shoulder blade (so I can hide it), that would be well done etc, and artistic.
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>>17901778
I find most of them pretty lame but don't really care enough beyond that unless you look like a rapper.
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Why do girls lose interest so quickly? Many times have girls seemed to lose interest in me before I get a chance to make a move, even if they seemed 100% into me when I first meet them.
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>>17901792
For what purpose? Define artistic. What will this mark do for you? What will it make you feel, since that is what art is generally defined as doing; making us feel something.
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>>17901778
Depends on the quality of the tattoo. Nothing trashy or too close to the face.
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>>17901778
Stupid mistake unless art in general is actually a huge part of your life. If you go big enough with it to be "the one with the tattoos" when people talk about you, it can add another layer to your persona. Anything else might as well be a tramp stamp that reads "Daddy Issues".
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>>17901798
Because you're boring.
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>>17901816
No daddy issues. I just like the way they look, in small doses.
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>>17901801
I wanted to do a saxophone, because music is a huge part of my life.
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>>17901824
You asked what men will think. That's literally the first thought when we see a random tattoo on an otherwise normal person.
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>>17901828
Okay, fair enough. I mean, one wouldn't really see it unless fucking.
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>>17901798
I agree with >>17901818
They find out that you're really boring.
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>>17901827
That's really fucking stupid, anon. If music is a huge part of your life, PLAY a saxophone instead of getting one doodled on your shoulder.
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>>17901836
I do play. I just like the way tats look. I also would think about other designs. Just throwing around ideas at the moment.
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Guys, why do you not turn to friends to help with emotional stuff?

Why is that burden always on your gf? And then, why do you (in general) have such a low tolerance for women expecting the same emotional support from you?

I ask in general. I do understand that there are exceptions and whatnot, just looking at trends.
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>>17901848
Depending on the stuff I do, especially if my gf got other shit on her mind.

>why do you (in general) have such a low tolerance for women expecting the same emotional support from you?
As you said yourself, very general and wouldn't apply for me. Sounds hypocritical and pathetic. Most likely reason is probably emotional immaturity and/or lack of experience.
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girls, what do you think of heavily passionate and ambitious guys? i'm thinking about "rising on top of the corporate ladder" or "my writing will change society" type of guys.
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>>17901848
>Guys, why do you not turn to friends to help with emotional stuff?
Most guys do, but most friends aren't therapists and thus give shitty advice and usually blame you (the girlfriend) because it's easy.

>Why is that burden always on your gf?
Because most guys can tell that the advice they're getting from their friends is shitty

>And then, why do you (in general) have such a low tolerance for women expecting the same emotional support from you?
I don't know you, but what little I've seen of this kind of situation stems from the WAY the woman goes about seeking this kind of emotional support. Usually involving passive aggression and blaming the person they're turning to for everything that's going wrong. Open up sure, but keep in mind how you present that shit.
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>>17901893
I think they need a reality check and to calm down
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>>17901778
Trashy.
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>>17901843
For whatever its worth, I think tattoos can be pretty hot. As long as its not something placed stupidly like your forehead or your neck. Also it helps if you didn't just get something generic just because it looked cool. Like if your infinity symbol is for any reason that can make sense than its all good. Or if you get something intense and original for the artistic value then that is pretty cool. That just goes for me though.
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>>17901848Guys, why do you not turn to friends to help with emotional stuff?

- Most of my friends are pretty childish. The ones who are competent have their own drama to deal with.

Why is that burden always on your gf? And then, why do you (in general) have such a low tolerance for women expecting the same emotional support from you?

- That burden rests on my girlfriend because she really is my best friend. I was good friends with her in high school and we've now dated for six years. There just isn't anyone I would trust more to deal with me. Plus, she is the one who will eventually have to share my life, so she should be the one willing to give her input when needed.

- Maybe I'm an outlier, but I try to give that same support back to anyone who needs it if I have the time available.
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>>17901921
>The ones who are competent have their own drama to deal with.
Makes you think.
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>>17901848
>Guys, why do you not turn to friends to help with emotional stuff?
Because depending on what it is, you can't go that in depth with friends. Friends also won't hug you, kiss you and hold you either.
>Why is that burden always on your gf? And then, why do you (in general) have such a low tolerance for women expecting the same emotional support from you?
Doesn't that seem a bit hypocritical of you? You're calling it all a burden and then getting saying that we should accept the burden from you. Give and take.
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>>17901848
>Guys, why do you not turn to friends to help with emotional stuff?
Because they're my guy friends.
>man sometimes I feel out of touch with my own reality spending so much time of the internet hounding world events and ignoring those around me
>ah dude, I feel ya, wanna touch tips man, it's uncut dude, don't get stuck inside lmao
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>>17901925
At my age it makes sense. Once you hit your mid-late twenties, people either have it together or they don't. Some friends still can't land a stable relationship if their lives depended on it. The more successful ones are getting married and balancing careers and/or even having kids. It is all a matter of perspective. Everyone's life experience isn't quite so uniform at this point so I don't ask others for help as much as I may have when I was younger.
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>>17901778
It depends really hard on what the tattoos are, how big they are, how many there are and the kind of girl that has them.

As a rule of thumb, I hate a lot of tattoos (by which I mean a large quantity of them on the body), especially ones that cover entire limbs. Small ones that aren't right in everyone's face is fine though.
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>>17901932
It's obviously a burden. I'm not saying that as a negative. I'm just asking why it's not shared, and not taken up (as in, your girlfriends problems).
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>>17901972
They are taken up by me. I've told her about my own but she has enough going on that she doesn't need the full picture, the full picture of her problems require much more attention so that's what I do.

I'm not sure why you're generalizing so much that guys are shit at this but we're not. In most relationships, it's equal give and take emotionally. It's a matter of the individuals personality than it is of what gender they are.
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Lads, when is it time to stop? Things went to shit with this girl I know, and well, I feel bad, and well, I like her, but time is running out for me, so I'm not looking for a relationship.

Problem is, one night we are having a cigarette talking somewhat fine, the next night she completely ignores me.

Then a week later, I ask her something, then ask in the future if she wants to hang out, and she says she probably doesn't want to after all that happened. I just don't understand.

I've been doing my own thing though, don't contact her, and I occasionally wonder what kind of 4d chess is she playing. It's not like I'm dwelling on it daily, hell, I'm just trying to understand and if I should try my chances with someone else.
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Girls

why would you tell a guy whom you
>dated for 6 months
>had sex with during those 6 months
>left to be back with your ex
>text him on and off throughout a year how much you miss xy and z with him
>tell him that the only chance is a new relationship
>talked with him about your relationship with "not ex-bf" and came to the conclusion that said other guy is right in that you're unhappy
>text him that the only chance with him is a fresh start
>yet you want to work on your relationship
all of that?

this is seriously beyond me at this point
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>>17902055
Next time she contacts you, just say "not after what happened" and never talk to her again.
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>>17902084
So play 4d chess with her? Or just be straight up with her and ask what's the move between us?
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I was going to make my own thread for this but this is more appropriate I think.

Ladies, lets say you meet this guy. You have good chemistry, fairly similar interest, and you go as far as to talk to each other everyday. However, you learn throughout your relationship(both early friendship and dating) that he has a VERY troubled past and tends to hit on heavy notes and mention tidbits about his experiences.

Is that a deal breaker for you? Would you ever seriously date/commit to dating a guy like this?

I realized I do this impulsively because I'm trying to open up and I can't help but completely hate myself when I show any sign of weakness or frailness.
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>>17902112
I don't have baggage so no, I don't think I'd date a guy with baggage. Opposites attract, but they don't last as relationships
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>>17902112
Maybe my English, but I don't understand 'troubled past' enough to decide.

I decide based on who's most likely to be at fault for the troubled past.

Like was the guy smuggling drugs at 7, dropped out at 16, but has cleaned upand studied since? Then it makes me appreciate him more.
Did he start abusing women at 18? I cut off all contact asap.
Did he have psychological issues as a teenager? Broke up with others cause of that? I do not care.

Case by case, really. I had relationships with two guys who could be considered as people with a troubled past. One only lasted for a few weeks, the guy started abusing drugs and started getting verbally abusive, so I peaced out quick (I did make sure he connected with his cleaner friends, he's fine since). The other time it was just awesome, lasted for a few years, and ended cause of something totally unrelated to the guy's past.
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>>17901771
Last night i told the girl i have been in love with for over a decade to reject me so i can get over her and move on. And she did. Now what? It honestly doesnt hurt, I just dont know what to do now.
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>>17901778
Dislike. I can ignore it if it's in moderation but stuff like full sleeve tattoos or anything more extensive would probably be a deal breaker.
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>>17901848
Because men don't talk to men about emotional stuff. Or at least, not in the same way women do.

desu I'm resistant to lean on women either though. Women have consistently used that shit against me if we ever had a fight to try to upset me, so I'm just not interested in giving them ammo for the future anymore.
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Women:
If a guy showed interest in you for a couple months, then just went ghost on you, even sometimes blatantly ignoring you in public, what would you think?
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>>17902253
The fuck do you think? That you're an asshole and not worth my time.
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I know that straight men like to watch lesbian porn, but do straight women enjoy gay porn? if yes, what's atttactive about it?
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>>17902256
Let's roleplay this then, bitch. If I'm the asshole, why did you always ask my friends about me, what I was doing, etc. And why do you still do so?
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>>17902260
dicks
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>>17902261
lol how the fuck should we know maybe you should just ask her instead of trying to roleplay your life on 4chan
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Guys:
How do you feel about girls that apologise quickly in arguments?

I always apologise and my boyfriend never apologises. The whole 'power dynamic' thing is really fucking with me, but I don't know if it's just in my head or if people really catch on to things like that.
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>>17902267
Because I'm not sure if the right answer is apologize for leading her on or just leave her the fuck alone.

Not that she would know, but I do feel a little guilty about what has happened. But I also feel like an apology would be either more for my ego or make her think I want to start something with her. But then also I feel like everyone wants some kind of closure.
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>>17902273
It depends on if you're actually wrong or not or if it's over anything important. If you just apologize for anything and everything, then I can see the power dynamic thing.
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>>17902273
Well, I'd be more interested in her opinions on a lot of things if her apology is genuine (to the extent of her understanding), not many people are capable of self correction, you bf clearly isn't one.
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>>17902276
Well just a summary of what just happened:

>Boyfriend hasn't had dinner with my family since 2013.
>My family keeps inviting him, he gives a laundry list of excuses that I need to communicate to them.
>Another laundry list today, lose my patience.
>Try bottling it up, but I know he doesn't want us to bottle things up in our relationship, so I talk to him about it.
>He acts insulted that I spring it on him 15 minutes before work, is very rude to me and then accuses me of trying to guilt trip him into saying yes.
>I apologise for mentioning it 15 minutes before work.
>No apology from him for being rude or accusing me of horrible things.
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>>17902284
Yeah that's pretty shitty then. But you still need to talk to him about it, if guilt tripping is what it takes to make him go then so be it.
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>>17902284
>No apology from him for being rude or accusing me of horrible things.
>being rude or accusing me of horrible things

lol his bad, maybe work is on his mind. Depends on what he said exactly, it probably isn't even rude, maybe he just asked you why you brought that up at that moment

I've had reeally sensitive gf before, ugh pretty hard to deal with, especially when I had to work on a tough project and had to tiptoe around her "feelings".
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>>17902288
I honestly don't want to force him to do anything he doesn't want to do. I was sad because it means passing on yet another rejection to my family and I just didn't feel like bottling it up this time. My logic was "I don't want to hide why I'm sad, so I'm going to tell him why I'm sad", not "Maybe he'll say yes if I tell him that I'm sad". It sounds like he doesn't trust that I meant the former and not the latter.

I hate this. People tell you they want you to be open and honest in relationships, but apparently only at certain times and only when you're communicating certain things?
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>>17902293
You have to talk to him and let some of this off your chest. If you just keep folding like this, he's going to know he can win every argument every time and it'll be game over for you. The relationship will implode after a while when you realize too late.
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>>17902260
>what is a fujoshi
>what is yaoi
>what is the entire slash fandom on tumblr
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Ladies.
What do you think is the best approach; or what do you think a guy should to score a fwb or fuck buddy situation.

P.s. not ugly
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>>17902314
i guess it just depends on finding a girl that is ok with being a known whore
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>>17902343
Well damn, why she gotta be whore? Why cant she just be a friend who between me and her do a lil suming suming on the low?
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>>17902253
That you're an asshole. And it's fine, not the first or last asshole I've ever liked or cared about.
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Women, why do you insist on refusing to acknowledge that you're inferior until it's too late?
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women, what are your views on male porn addiction
be brutality honest
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>>17902081
bumping
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Guys and I guess girls too

How the fuck am I suppose to deal with this?

>starting to get /fit/
>working out increases T levels
>feel this massive surge of Sexual energy
>I rarely get "horny" anymore. I just feel this surge of energy through my body
>I won't get a girlfriend for a few more years
>I won't have sex for a equal amount of time
>I don't fap anymore and it doesn't matter if I did, because I rarely get boners nowadays.


What am I suppose to do? My body is almost literally shaking with sexual energy. This is in my off days from the gym btw. It's frustrating
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>>17902526
Why can't you get a girlfriend, or a fuckbuddy or something?
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>>17902531

Because I don't have the space of mind or the time for a relationship. Also, I don't believe in fuckbuddies
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anyone here have a really attractive partner? whats that like?

all my gfs are only 4-6 (appropriately for me), just wondering what its like being with an 8+
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>>17902551
That's bullshit.
Even the president of the united states has a wife and kids.
I doubt you cannot manage to find time to date, or you're too stressed to have a relationship.
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>>17902588

I'm about to go through a very fast paced and critical point of my life/career. I literally don't have any room for error and I can not risk going through a heart break during the next 3 years. It would ruin me
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>>17902594

Shove a dildo up your ass or something. Experiment sexually by yourself.
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>>17902558
I dated a really attractive guy, maybe a honest 8.5/10. Beautiful body, handsome face, sexy voice, charming personality. I am a honest 5/10.

It was weird.
Girls hated me. Even my best friend grow resentment over me.
Sex was great. I got wet just laying in bed next to him.
Girls would throw themselves at him, even if I was with him. Weird as fuck.
Everyone treated him nicely and everyone loved him.
Set unrealistic expectations about the kind of guy I could get after him.
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>>17902622

no
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>>17902624
as a 3-4 guy that feels bad to read lol
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>>17902624

>Girls hated me. Even my best friend grow resentment over me

Wow. And people say that girls don't crave dick...

I'm a guy, and one of my friends is dating a 9/10. I'm happy for him. I'll be single my whole life, but I'm happy that my friends are successful. I don't feel any resentment because he's with a gorgeous girl.
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guys:
yesterday my bf and i played cards against humanity with some friends and the card "what killed my last relationship" came up. i put "world of warcraft" and my bf gave me a strange look and mumbled "ok...".
he obviously plays wow. do i really have to explain to him that it was just a game/joke and i don't actually have a problem with this?
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>>17902558
My ex was 8-9, I generally don't date below 7 but this felt weird for months and it was hard to get used to the idea that someone I'd normally would just crush on from distance is actually together with me and is actually into me. Just looking at her was a great mood booster.

Basically the only difference was that the feeling of "crushing" lasted longer than usually.

>>17902652
He probably just got a weak bantz game and couldn't come up with anything better than "okay". Explaining that it was a joke sounds too overbearing, unless he starts acting weird.
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>>17902652
you could tell him yeah, since he seems to have taken it personally.
he probably shouldn't have since it's a game, but hey.
nothing to lose by telling him you were just joking/playing.
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>>17902658
>>17902659
if i notice him playing less, i'll tell him.
damnit, i almost didn't take that card because i tought he might take it the wrong way.
he's a bit thin-skinned atm. can't hurt to be more careful.
thanks anons!
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>>17902644
Heh. I am sorry! Didn't mean to hurt.

>>17902645
It was weird. I was out for dinner with him and the waitress would be rude, my friends would make passive-aggressive remarks about our relationship, if I vented about a fight to my best friend she would say "oh go date an ugly doormat then".
Weird as fuck.
Especially because I have always dated average dudes other than him, so she knew I didn't have huge issues with SO looks.
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>>17902588
you stupid dense fuck. the president has a once in a lifetime oppurtunity of fucking course potus is going to make it work not to mention potus is absolutely 8 years tops so you have the guarantee that you do it once and its over with
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>>17902692

God damn. You girls are vicious. It's like those teen dramas on TV, but real life.
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>>17902115

> I don't have baggage

You sound very very immature, unintelligent and simply like a shitty girl to be around with. Everyone has baggage in their own form, only a truly arrogant person would say smth like "I have no baggage".
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>>17902709
It was petty as fuck. Really a lot of stupid drama over nothing.

He was very smart and a really great guy. We broke up because he didn't want kids ever and I did, but other than that I cannot say anything bad about him. A great relationship.
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>>17902733
I feel bad for the next guy kek
then again such is life, some people are destined to never be happy.
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>>17902733

how old were you?
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>>17902739

not her. But what do you mean?
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>>17902742
>not her
lol
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>>17902742
next guy lives in the shadow of mr perfect i guess
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>>17902746

Really, I'm not.

Now can you answer my question please?
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I got spilt all over me and my girlfriend said it was hot. She thinks being covered in liquids specifically red like wine and blood is hot. Is there a fetish behind this? It's hot I'm not going to lie.
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>>17902754

That's gross..
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Is it viable to use tinder if you're a virgin or is that something people expect everyone will have a bunch of experience at and would just be disappointed if you don't?
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>>17902770

Tinder is mostly for disposable relationships. Just go for it and don't tell anybody you're a virgin. Alternatively, tell and see the reactions. Worst case scenario you block that person and never see them again.
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>>17902770
as long as ur not autistic, u can easily pretend ur not virgin. i told my first girl she was like number 4, she didnt ever work out the truth

some tips
- practice with things that are fiddly if u dont know, like rubbers and bra strap
- take inspiration from porn but KISS, do one or two fairly normal positions youre not gunning for an oscar here
- also dont be too normal because the more experience you get the more stuff you want to try, you want to give this impression
- dont forget to tie the rubber off
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>>17902781

>dont forget to tie the rubber off

I'm 28 and don't know what that means
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>>17901771
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
... got me. Idk like some girl and I fell in love and every time things were working she found a reason it wouldn't work. Now we are friends only and I'm still in love with her, she claims all the feelings came from her being a xanax addict at the time but I know that's bullshit. We are still going to fuck and all that but like she says I have no chance anymore. But she's all fucked up and confused in general. I don't wanna stop being there for her and talking to her because I love her and she needs me, but I think I might be able to get her to realize what I have to offer if I step back from the friendship and let her see how much of a support and friend I've been to her.
Do you think that stepping back from such a relationship is a good idea? She's moved on and I can't. She's lonely and wants someone, she just doesn't have feelings for me anymore. I want her back and hearing her wanting other people in her life when I'm right here ready to give her everything is tearing me tf up. Do you think withdrawing might be useful here? Or should I stay by her side and let her know how dedicated I am? That feels like the right thing to do but not necessarily the way I'm going to get what I want, which is for her to come back to me.
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Girls, I downloaded okcupid last night n felt stupid after for doing so, because I only felt sexually attracted to the girls, but nothing more, no connection. I don't do hookups, but I want a gf already.

Any perspectives on this situation?
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Girls and guys

Is it weird that I'm working really hard to get /fit/ just so girls will give me attention just so I can reject them?
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>>17902758
Your gay
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>>17902781
>she was like number 4
F-four ??
damn Casanova lol
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>>17902788
if u flush condoms it doesnt matter, if you throw them in bin you should tie it off or it will stink

>>17902797
online dating is no good, stop now

>>17902798
yes

>>17902800
lying is a very good strat, i encourage u to pick it up
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>>17902777
>>17902781
Yeah you're right. I guess I'm just overthinking it because I've met some girls in the past that seemed incredibly let down when I was too anxious and nothing came of it. I just gotta go and do it.
Thanks for the tips anons
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>>17902804

>yes

I just have this strong desire for attractive girls to hit on me, just so I can deny them.
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>>17902804
>online dating is no good

i know that...but i think, should i just give a chubby girl a shot and see where it goes or...just remain miserable for a few more years?
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>>17902739
Next guy (current boyfriend) is pretty awesome too.

I have always been pretty lucky when it comes to relationship. Can't complain about any of the guys I dated.

>>17902741
We started dating when I was 20 and he was 24.
We dated for 3 years. He fell for me the first time we talked.
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>>17902798
Why reject them?
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>>17902818

now that you have a new boyfriend, do you ever just think and remember times you had crazy sex with your perfect ex? Times that your current boyfriend can't match?
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>>17902818
>Next guy (current boyfriend) is pretty awesome too
kek
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>>17902813
yeah and thats weird. you want vengeance but the person who 'wronged' you is long gone. so remember, "the best revenge is living well"

>>17902815
yes, take a shot at every girl you like, d'uh. think about what you asked and examine it empirically, a choice between:

{ chance at being happier in a fulfilling relationship || remain miserable }

you tell me
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>>17902825
Maybe the new bf has a bigger dick to compensate.
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>>17902824

I just have a really strong desire for good looking girls to come flirt with me, just so I can shut them down. I don't know, I think it would be fun to become really attractive and have girls come up to me to find out I'm not interested. It'd be odd because I'm a nice person, and I'm approachable. So it'd be funny to me.

That's honestly half the reason why I'm hitting the gym so hard. 50% for myself so I can feel good and 50% so I can attract and deny QTs
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>>17902828

>yeah and thats weird. you want vengeance but the person who 'wronged' you is long gone. so remember, "the best revenge is living well"

That's quite interesting actually. Why did you think of this?
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>>17902825
ofc she'd lie to herself if necessary, no woman wants to admit that kind of thing.
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>>17902828
>take a shot at every girl you like

what it's just physical attdaction though... and she looks like someone with a bad sexual rep?

Really I feel like I'm dating out of desperation, no love. That sort of attraction will probably make me disgusted with myself..her..the relationship..she may just perceive it as another hookup.
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>>17902825
My ex wasn't perfect - he had a really shit childhood, fear of abandonment, he was very distant, cold and sometimes not trusting. I have my flaws, he had his.
I don't think of my ex sexually.
Current boyfriend is awesome in bed and we have pretty good sex.
He's not as good looking (still better looking than me in my opinion) but not worse in bed and probably a better partner overall.

And yeah, big fat dick, can't complain :^)
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>>17902848

I just feel intimidated because I feel like any girl I get will compare me to her past exs. I'm 26 and never had a girlfriend. so it'd be so easy for a girl to just think "wow this guy doesn't know shit, I wish I was still with ******"
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>>17902839
because many guys who are rejected by their desires have the same feelings, which motivates them to do something

think about it this way. youre going to a lot of work so you can hurt someone else, a civilian in your war. let me tell you, those girls will be hurt for seconds/minutes (if it all); you think it will incur the same wrenching pain and compounding loneliness that the same rejection gave to you, but you forget that these girls have limitless choice. so you reject her why does she care, theres a line of dudes a mile long behind you. negging is a meme

you will only do some real damage if you get personally involved with her as say friends and then kindle a relationship, then cutting her off when she makes the moves, that would hurt. but thats also pretty psychotic in again its just a lot of work to harm someone who did nothing to deserve it

put your energy to good use, retard

>>17902847
1. you dont know someone from an online profile. it costs you nothing to meet her and talk, and its good practice

2. you are dating out of desperation because thats what your body is making you do. love is created in the brain by chemicals when you meet someone you really mesh with (this is done to foster pair bonding and so strong children). you will love someone when you meet them, not when you see them on a screen

3. if you dont like the look of her history (junkie, mudshark, etc.) then dont go for her

4. stop feeling so self obsessed, life is filled with regret and if you spend your whole time trying to avoid inducing it you will accomplish nothing
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>>17902848
Fucking knew it.
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>>17902863

I wouldn't get into a relationship with the intent to break it off. That is crazy.

But I think it would be safisfying to be good looking to the point girls come up to me, and never ever act on it. I don't care if I never have sex again. I just think that it would be so satisfying to deny a 8/10

>put your energy to good use, retard

What do you mean by this
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>>17902754
I've heard it called mess play before, i think.
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>>17902863
>self obcessed

no, my situation is i rarely approach anyone cuz I'm waiting for a good spark.

but, sometimes this spark happens to often or all at once (generally with the wrong ppl for age reasons or not single etc) so i feel the more i keep approaching someone, the more i cheapen the experience of being sincere to a girl.. and cheapen my ability to truly pair bond.
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>>17902797
How are you suppposed to know if you have a connection if you havent taken them on a date?
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>>17902833
cough cough narcissistic injury cough cough
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>>17902897
well, for one, the only girl i wanted to really take on a date, was some sjw chubby girl... and me, I'm mostly conservative, but i liked her face, stature.. but she is totally sex driven.. piercings on her nose..fuckin blue hair..

i mean dude..it was a deliberate poor choice to break out of my comfore zone and fuck already..

but i felt shitty and disgusted with myself after (for semi fapping orgasm reasons).
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>>17902904

no, I don't need to be admired. I don't need attention. I've gone almost my entire life without it just fine. This is just something I want to do
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>>17902805

Yeah just don't overthink it.We don't have any physical signs of virginity like girls, so the only giveaways are if you tell them, or get overly anxious.

Also, if you feel too nervous, just stall the makeout for a few moments where you feel convortable, like mutual masturbation. If she asks about it, just say you want to tease her for a little longer.

The less of a fuck you give, the best of a fucker you'll be
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>>17902906
Its been one day.
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>>17902876
> But I think it would be safisfying to be good looking to the point girls come up to me, and never ever act on it

this is not putting your energy to good use

>>17902889
how are you going to spark from across the room? inverse square nigga

pair bonding is only weakened through repeat re-conditioning of oxytocin, aka having sex with too many different people

youre not getting anything done waiting for the perfect girl, shes not going to fall into your lap thats not how it works for guys. you have to go out and get them

>>17902906
yeah so dont go for her if she has red flags like that. join social clubs and you will meet shit loads of girls, then its just waiting game for a good hand
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>>17902922

>this is not putting your energy to good use

I'm accomplishing a lot in other places in my life, careerwise and all.
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>>17902920
i didn't have sex with her, if that's what u mean, just felt bad i was stooping so low i guess
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Is it normal to dislike and not be trusting of women?

I'm a kissless virgin but I still have these notions about women
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Guys-
Why do you yell at sports?
I undertand cheering if something cool happens, or going "awww" if something bad happens, but why do some people get mad?
>THROW IT! Throw the ball!!
>You fucking idiot, you blew the game!
>GOGOGOGO! Mooooooove!! Run!!
>What are you standing around for?? GODDAMMIT
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>>17902936
same for me, just reverse genders
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ladies, the last few women i have dated said they liked me during the second date, and then told me a few days later that they dont feel a connection. the last girl that done this tried salvaging the relationship by saying we should try as friends, she however has barely spoke to since so i consider it completely over now. am i dating crazy women or is this a norm?
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>>17902936
>Is it normal to dislike and not be trusting of women?
>>17902942


Is it normal to let broad generalizations define how you interact with half the population?

Normal or not, it won't make you life better.
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>>17902922
what i mean is, i feel it cheapens attraction, i feel like the more i hit on girls, the less it feels authentic
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>>17902937
its an identity thing. us guys form an identity based on sports or other shit like arguing over the best console. its a pack thing. it gives us bragging rights and reinforces an identity.
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>>17902933
No, i mean youve been on okcupid for one day. Why are you getting upset over not finding your soulmate in 24 hours?
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How do I deal with being a good looking male ? I'm shy and introverted and don't like attention.

I'm in college and growing up I was ugly. Now I'm fit and good face. I'm also a huge nerd and I'm getting a nerdy degree.


I attract white women all the time and they just badly want my penis. These women are hot as hell too I don't even know how I'm getting this. I could try to put myself in the friend zone and it won't work.

Can I make this stop ? I honestly liked being unvisible loser that no one talked to.

I thought white girls all wanted black dick too. I'm pale as fuck. So I'm not sure if they are trying to cuck me or something.
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>>17902937
Testosterone?
I cant explain it really, I'm terrible at sport, as a kid I have always been yelled at, rather than being the one yelling. It stopped when I hit highschool and grew to 190cm, I just stopped playing sport altogether. Only started lifting when my cousin did and would always go with him.
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>>17902937

People do that when they like something so much they get completely absorbed into it. I've seen women do this at sporting events too. True diehard fans
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>>17902953
>soulmate

that wasn't my intention. my intention was to date already, fuck already, quit wasting time already, etc

which is what made it disgusting
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>>17902955

God dammit, I want to be you right now just so I can do this >>17902876
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>>17902955
Stop watching porn.
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>>17902964
Lol. I'm a mess man.
>>1790296
I can't mate.
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>>17902955

You're screwed up in the head. Put yourself toghether and start fucking those girls asap. Unless you were raped there's no reason to feel guilty about enjoying it.
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>>17902979

Take enjoyment in having girls crave your dick, but leaving them thirsty. Let them crave as much as they want, but don't give it to them
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>>17902937
you wanna see some shit

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pGNZ3GqYrVY
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>>17902980

He's not screwed in the head. Not all guys are ok with random sex
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>>17902955
shoot yourself in the head for being a terrible baiter OR actually sincere
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>>17902955
whoa slow down Casanova kek
So many guys like this anon posting on /adv/ today, what's with public holidays and the surge of delusional autists...
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>>17902993
>Can I make this stop ? I honestly liked being unvisible loser that no one talked to.
>I thought white girls all wanted black dick too. I'm pale as fuck. So I'm not sure if they are trying to cuck me or something.

If that's not screwed up, I don't know what is. He's on his way to be known as the cute faggot of the college, and then he'll come back here complaining about that or how he's stuck with a gf but regreting his wasted opportunities...

To each their own I guess, not my life being wasted...
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Sweaty men: hot or not?
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>>17903011
How's he wasting anything?

If he doesn't want to sleep around then that's perfectly fine. It pisses me off how society deems it "wrong" if a guy DOESN'T want to go around Fucking a ton of girls.
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>>17903021
this..

my beef with my okcupid situation exactly.. i just want someone mentally stable, who i can trust, that i enjoy being with, so we can get to the good stuff and be normal humans.

this NEED to fuck multiple women is what cheapens shit for me.. it's sadistic behavior. spiritually empty behavior imo
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>>17903021
Lol if you can't see what he's wasting I won't draw it for you
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>>17903012
depends on the smell and what they look like regularly

ie sweaty brad pitt is still brad pitt, sweaty anime pro is still anime pro
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>>17903030

What? So you really believe he's wasting his life because he has the ability to fuck a ton of sluts, but doesn't want to?

How is he wrong? He's not. It shows he has qualities.
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>>17903029
>Virgin idealizing women since he never had one
>>17903040
>Either whiteknight or roastie waiting for one
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>>17903044

I'm a guy. But I'm defending him because i really fucking hate how society puts this fucking pressure on us.

How if you're a male and haven't had multiple sex partners you're "wrong". Maybe that anon would rather just find someone he likes vs sticking is dick into every pussy infront of him. How is there anything wrong with that?

If anything you're a 18 year old desperate faggot who doesn't understand values. You think getting your sex numbers up is what matters. When I'm reality it doesn't mean shit
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>>17903061
It's called opportunity. You won't know where it leads unless you take it. Society doesn't pressure men into being stallions. I didn't even say he should take every single of those opportunities, just that he shouldn't feel guilty for having them, and could enjoy them on occasion free of guilt.

I'm not 18, I'm not desperate at all (actually having more and better sex every year with the single women I've been for the last 8), and if you judge my values by that opinion you're probably a churchfag or virgin who puts sex in a pedestal much higher than it deserves just for idelization or two millenia old sayings
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>>17903072

He doesn't have to take them if he doesn't want to.

No, I'm not religious, and I'm also not a virgin
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>>17903021
Hate this, recently had a female friend of mine badger me with questions because she was in disbelief that I would turn down having sex with her horny friend at a getty I was throwing.
Asked her how its okay for her to deny sex with a guy but not me with her friend her response was: "Its just wierd I thought all guys want sex"
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>>17903115

Double fucking standard
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>>17903133
are you saying that men and women are different? whoa wtf thats crazy
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>>17903145

We are all still humans
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>Boys
How do you deal with blue balls without masturbating?
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>>17903172
Out for a run, or immediately go hangout with a friend. Something engaging or that makes me laugh is the best thing for me.
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>>17903172

I lurk 4chan
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>>17903182
>Out for a run
It's too painful to move.
I can feel the balls engorged with blood.
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>>17903172
Sometimes when I want to masturbate I go to /gif/, stumble across the feels thread and then I'm not in the mood. Laughter, exitement, sadness or fun will take away the mood out everytime.
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>>17903172
by fucking something
duh
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>>17903172
By realizing 'blue balls' is just a myth.
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>>17903188
Try going for a walk instead. I love walks and listening to my music, think about my side projects and other stuff.
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>>17903172
Only cumming will relieve it for me

>>17903196
You obviously never had it, or don't even have balls at all
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>>17903011
I'm the guy that posted that and I got hit on by a good looking gay guy during finals.
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>>17902833
Are you me? Very nice to see this here.
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>>17903236

Nice to meet someone who thinks the same way
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>>17903044
I've definitely had women. Not all purely sexual though. Only some, and only one did I go all the way with.

What I'm saying upset you because it's true. Hell, I can see it in the face of these girls, all haggard looking. Very little attention to self maintenance. No one is perfect, but it is a transparent indicator of spiritual decline.
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>>17903276
Being clear about this too, they were all relationships or really close friends. with the one i fell in love with being the most sexual.

I mean hell, if i was horny enough and that chubby sjw was already naked in front of me I'd have blown that shit out. irdgf what she believes in, but it's BETTER to actually FEEL something. Otherwise, as soon as I cum I'll probably hate myself or feel disgusted by the situation..repulsed even. But if there was a good bond between us (probably unlikely with an sjw) I would feel great about it. It's very mental.
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>>17902558
I have had two really attractive boyfriends. One was my most recent ex. Other is my current.

Like the other poster, with my ex. Lots of girls were outwardly mean to me. I found out some of my friends were sliding into his inbox. Sex was cool because he was all give. However, I was with him for two years, and he turned very controlling for the last 6 months or so, I found out he had cheated on me a few times with a few girls, and he hit me in an argument and that was the end. He turned ridiculously narcissistic. He also was not very smart and our conversations grew dull, no depth.

I've been with my current boyfriend for like 6 years. And I have to fight myself to not get jealous. My bf is charismatic, funny, dresses really well, has god-like facial structure. Since we're 6 years deep, when we go out, there are moments where we do not seem like a couple. We just chill and talk. A few times, women at a restaurant or bar have hit on him. Two times, within our relationship, female acquaintances have professed their love for him.

However, a lot of people tell us we're like a power couple. My last ex, was from high school, and I dressed and wore my hair in a cringeworthy fashion. I also gained a lot of weight in that relationship. Probably why other girls were so mean. Now, I am not "ugly" like I was in high school. I lost like 60 pounds. Wear my hair nice. Dress better. So, I am pretty sure bf and I are on the same level of attractiveness. I just stress out because bf is a gem and I know all the things I like about him, so I can understand why other women like him, too:/
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>>17902937
I think it's just a sports fan thing.

I'm female and played sports all through high school and college. Women were the same way at our games. So was the audience.

Just the adrenaline of watching the game.
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>>17902798
Female here. I did that in the beginning of my weight loss efforts too. During my phase of fat, I was rejected a plenty and felt so down on myself. I was motivated to do the same to others.

It did motivate me to lose weight, but once I did lose the weight, I didn't actually go through with being the big sexy cunt I originally planned to be. I did reject a few guys who all of a sudden liked me after the weight loss, but not really in a mean way.
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>>17902861
It is not a race. I loved all the guys I dated for different reasons, in different ways. I don't think one is worse or one is better. Loving someone is a pretty absolute thing.
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>>17903330
How nice for you
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Can a slutty girl really ever settle down?

There's this girl I've known for a while. Kind of a tomboy, cool as hell, we get along great and lately I've felt the friendship dynamic shifting. I'd never really thought about dating her before because I honestly value her as a friend and didn't want to mess that up...but lately I've just been spending more and more time with her and I just feel this urge to be with her. And when we hang out she's been sitting closer, brushing against me more often.

So I can feel this shift. Thing is, I'm kind of a reserved person. I've never played the hookup game or been casual about my relationships...whereas that's pretty much all she's done since high school. She's talked offhandedly lately about how she's tired of that life and wishes she could find someone who just wanted to be with her for more than a few weeks or just as a FWB.

I care for this girl a lot but I just don't know if I want to get into a relationship with her given her history. Not trying to put anyone down, everyone has their own life to live and etc, I just don't know if I want to get into a relationship with someone who's been living that particular life.
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>>17903359

It's incredibly intimidating
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>>17903359
It's funny your description of your ex's flaws sounds very familiar. Think I've heard it every time a similar question was asked. Just search the archive
>I have really hot ex
>but what about ur current bf
>my ex has flaws he's fucked up emotionally cold distant etc.
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>>17903381
yes, but its unlikely

more to the point, why do you want one? those girls are trash
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>>17903381
Quite a few of my slutty friends have settled down and married. I don't think their husbands know their history though. And I honestly think it's better off that way. However, you know her history and it will linger.

Actually, one of my friends is in a relationship like that. He doesn't know the extent of her slutty past, but he knows she had some hook ups with some people we all know from high school. I can tell there is some strain there.
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>>17903381
Yes. A lot of girls have that 'free spirited' phase.
The issue is whether you want to be that guy kek
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>>17902944
bumping this
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>>17902713
I'm sorry you can't handle the fact that people have had normal, uneventful lives and haven't had to go through trauma in order to grow and learn about themselves.
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>>17902944
I didn't respond, cause I've no clue.

It sounds like they didn't feel any chemistry, but I mean, it's not something you can force, so I don't have any advice on that.

I heard some perfume changes that sort of perception, but that's a dangerous game so idk.
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>>17902944
Liking someone and feeling a connection with them are two different things. I like my boss, but I don't feel connected with them. "Let's just be friends" is a way of letting you down gently. It's really not that complicated
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>>17903381
Yes, of course they can. The studies people link on here showing stuff like "THE MORE PARTNERS A GIRL HAS, THE MORE LIKELY SHE IS TO CHEAT" and so on aren't all bullshit by any means, but they describe broad tendencies in populations of people, they don't deterministically prescribe the behavior of individuals. I'm sure there are girls who've had 10, 20, 50 partners who've settled down with guys and remained faithful to them. Of course, there are also "slutty girls" who've tried to settle down and found they just didn't have the self-control. It happens. It doesn't always happen.

If you like her, why not try it out? If you decide a few months in that it's not working or you don't fully trust her, well, it's not like you have to marry her. And you just know she'll be good at sex.
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>>17902713
You have to define baggage here because I for one would absolutely say I carry no baggage.
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>>17903388
What is intimidating?

>>17903389
My current boyfriend has personality flaws too. But it is kind of expected, everyone does.
Boyfriend is amazing.

My ex was fine. He wasn't abusive or anything, I would have stayed with him if it wasn't for the kids thing. He was a bit cold and distant, but I am as well.
I obviously didn't mind that he was hot, but it wasn't the main reason why I dated him.
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>>17903421
I really don't think it means much to say "she'll be good at sex" to someone who isn't looking for a slut.

>10,20,50 partners she's had sex with

that's a slut.

this debate really comes down to two kinds of people, those who have lived by escapism and exploration without serious commitment, versus those who commit themselves every time, only to find out ppl a shit.
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>>17903420
>Liking someone and feeling a connection with them are two different things.

i get that but they where obviously saying they liked me in a romantic/relationship sense. plus the last girl that did it to me was all over me on the last date, and we slept together.
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>>17902944
This is the norm but maybe you should try escalating a bit especially if you're taking them out on a second date. Women despite what some may say don't necessarily want to go out on a date and simply feel that they're with a guy friend.
As for the girl that told you she wanted to be friends just wanted to let you down easy
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>>17903439
>they where obviously saying they liked me in a romantic/relationship sense.
Unless they actually said "I like you in a romantic/relationship sense", you're making assumptions.

>plus the last girl that did it to me was all over me on the last date, and we slept together.
Physical attraction is a completely different thing altogether. Do you think girls who lust after Channing Tatum or Ryan Gosling like them for their personalities?
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>>17903439
Try and plan the next date during your current one to let that fire keep on going. Nothing serious maybe you pass a bar and mention its great, you two should go sometime soon.
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>>17903436

What is intimidating?

That any girl I'd ever date would have so many different experiences with men, sexually and romantically. That would mean my experience for that girl would mean less than how I'd perceive the experience. Basically, the experience would mean SO MUCH MORE to me than it would to her
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>>17903444
>"I like you in a romantic/relationship sense",

nobody says that though, at least as far as i know, and from personal experience. if you're seeing someone and they say "i like you", its inferring that they like you in a romantic sense. if you're on a date with someone, and you dont have any chemistry with them, you wouldent say "i like you". makes no sense, and its obviously going to lead the other person on.

>>17903441
>This is the norm but maybe you should try escalating a bit especially if you're taking them out on a second date. Women despite what some may say don't necessarily want to go out on a date and simply feel that they're with a guy friend.

what do you mean? sorry. i dont know what you mean by saying "try escalating a bit". i dont know how to make them feel like they are not out with a guy friend. i flirt with them, i tell them they look nice, i look after them. the last girl was cuddling with me and stuff.
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>>17903449
Why should it mean less to me than it does to you?
I am 27, I dated three guys and had sex with two. I love my boyfriend and sex with him means a lot to me, I was shaking the first time he kissed me. If you have feelings for someone the experience with them means a lot to you. Even if you kissed or fucked someone before, it is still meaningful.
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>>17903437
I'm not sure what your point is, dude.

I don't love the word 'slut' (just too much baggage), but that aside -- yeah, of course I'm describing a slut. So's the dude I'm replying to. He knows what she is. He called her a "slutty girl" himself.

I'm not saying "sleeping with 20 guys doesn't make you a slut," I'm saying "yes, sluts can and do settle down, and they don't always make terrible partners (though sometimes they do)."
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>>17903446
>Try and plan the next date during your current one to let that fire keep on going. Nothing serious maybe you pass a bar and mention its great, you two should go sometime soon.

i did do that. i was planning on seeing her on the Wednesday.
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>>17903469
>if you're seeing someone and they say "i like you", its inferring that they like you in a romantic sense.
Clearly you're drawing the wrong inference if these girls are telling you that they don't feel a connection with you after telling you they like you.

>if you're on a date with someone, and you dont have any chemistry with them, you wouldent say "i like you". makes no sense, and its obviously going to lead the other person on.
Unless they meant "I like you" to mean "I like you" and not "I like you in a romantic/relationship sense". You're making assumptions
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>>17902713
The only people who say this are fucked up people with baggage trying to make themselves feel better
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>>17903481
isnt it kind of backwards to say "i like you" to someone on a date and to mean it in the same sense as liking your boss though. even if they didnt mean it romantically, it was a romantic setting so its gonna be taken one way. its like playing a game with someone and saying "your good" and claiming they where talking about you being good at styling your hair.
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>>17903449
Every new partner is exciting. Also, if you don't start somewhere, you'll stay where you are forever. Go build up your own score instead of complayning that women are doing the same
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>>17903495

>Go build up your own score

I don't like the way that sounds
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>>17903490
Maybe it is a little misleading, sure, but if you're getting to know someone, "I like you" in a non-romantic way can be a pretty standard thing to say.

This is assuming that these were actual dates and it was clear to both people, btw.

>its like playing a game with someone and saying "your good" and claiming they where talking about you being good at styling your hair.
That analogy doesn't seem accurate, if I'm understanding that you mean it to be that they were being deliberately misleading.
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>>17903501
Ok, just stay where you are, shaking in fear. Sure a virgin will just fall on your lap anytime now, right from the stairs to the basement
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>>17903021
>>17902993
So much this
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>>17903502
>That analogy doesn't seem accurate, if I'm understanding that you mean it to be that they were being deliberately misleading.

nah lol. sometimes when you beat someone at a game you will say "you're good". the person who this is aimed at is going to assume it means he is good at the game. same sense i was talking about with the whole "i like you". she probably didnt mean it in a romantic sense if she ended it with me anyway, i just thought it was kinda careless.

she probably didnt like my personality but didnt want to say. i have probably only gotten all of my dates because women find attractive rather than because they enjoy my company.
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>>17903523
>nah lol. sometimes when you beat someone at a game you will say "you're good". the person who this is aimed at is going to assume it means he is good at the game. same sense i was talking about with the whole "i like you". she probably didnt mean it in a romantic sense if she ended it with me anyway, i just thought it was kinda careless.
That's not really the same thing though. Saying "I like you" in a platonic way is something you'd say to someone in most social situations, context isn't as big of a deal as it would be in your analogy.

>i have probably only gotten all of my dates because women find attractive rather than because they enjoy my company.
And yet you've done nothing to try and fix this...?
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>>17903514

I know I'm not going to find a virgin.. that's not something I ever expect to find.
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>>17903537
Not that anon, but I'm not sure what you want from this.
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>>17903541

I don't know either Tbh...
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>>17903537
You don't want to build up score for your experience to match everyone elses, but you also know thay finding a virgin will be nearly impossible

So you're just making up excuses to avoid risking rejection
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>>17903550
Your whole "building up score" analogy is really fucking juvenile, dude.
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>>17903471
you're comparing 2 to like 10+

and really that number doesn't mean much, because she could have realized how much of a slut she was at 3-4 dicks.

it's a matter of consistency, versus inconsistency. a manner of abundance, versus cherished few.
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You obviously do what what your dating life, but on a related note, not all people with "baggage" are damaged goods.
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>>17903535
>Saying "I like you" in a platonic way is something you'd say to someone in most social situations,

well tbf we where cuddling and kissing when she said it.

>And yet you've done nothing to try and fix this...?

how though? they claim i did nothing wrong, and actually treated them the right way. i have hobbies, goals, passions etc. i might be a bit chill, distant, and not edgy enough for some women but that is just me.
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>>17903558
What am I comparing?
You said that it couldn't mean much to me because I experienced it before, I said it means a lot to me because it's always great with a new partner and because I love the person I'm with.
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>>17903556
Use whatever term you want dickhead, it still means the same, drop the semantics and go fuck some pussy for christ sake
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>>17903567
No, you said you experience love with these ppl...

big difference to feel love for a tiny handful, and basically behave like a pornstar and say "my feelings are so deep for you, anon, yadda yadda" just another dick on her plate.
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>>17903580
You must have fucked something up.
I was replying to a guy who said he felt insecure when thinking about fucking a girl who had sex with other guys, I just said that with both my partners it was special because I had feelings for them.
I don't understand where you are getting that I act like a porn star.
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>>17903580
the guy doesn't feel exclusive, which is important.

HE SHOULD feel exclusive.

Instead he feels like another guy in line.

>>17903593
i wasn't comparing to that kind of woman, in fact i was defending your position.

i prefer a girl like you, with a small number of MEANINGFUL relationships (that went sours months or years into trying), versus someone who rebounds on dicks like she's playing ring toss.
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>>17903568

>go fuck some pussy for christs sake

But I don't do casual sex
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>>17903568
I'm making an actual point here, fucktwizzler, not just quibbling with your terminology. The point is that it's not a contest and not a game, and not everybody needs or wants to rack up the fucking numbers -- there are plenty of people who only sleep with one or two people, ever, only in committed relationships, and are perfectly happy with that.

I agree he needs to get over his insecurity, he's unlikely to meet an untouched virgin at age 26 (although it's not impossible), but going out there and sleeping with a bunch of people himself when that's clearly not something he's comfortable with is probably not the best way to do that.
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Fellow guys

What does it mean if you masturbate to the thought of this girl you're talking to, and after fap you don't feel interested anymore. It's like this for 99% of girls and always has been

BUT

You fap to this 1 specific girl, and after fap you still have a strong interest in her.


Does this mean that I don't care about 99% of the girls that I've talked to? I never had sex with any of them for this reason. Because after fap I don't feel attracted to them. So I never even get to the point of having sex, because it's not worth it.

But there is only 1 girl that I've still been strongly attracted to afterward
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>>17903628
>You fap to this 1 specific girl, and after fap you still have a strong interest in her.

its means you're in love.
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>>17903628
I'm a girl, but I thought boys had this one moment after cumming where they're not thinking or interested in sex? Maybe it's got something to do with that?

Also, don't just fap to them. Go talk to them and ask them out.
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>>17903621
Tell that to him fucktard, he's the one worried with it, not me

Things are extremely simple, people make them complicated. Doesn't care with partner count? Good. Cares? Fuck more. Cares but isn't willing to fuck more? Stay where you are.

You don't even need a flowchart, it's THAT easy
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>>17903647

Well that's shitty because things with her are over

>>17903661

Like I said, I lose interest of all the girls except ONE after fap. So I must not actually like all those other girls than right? Because the 1 girl, I can fap and still adore her.
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>>17902980
I do think I am mentally fucked up, but never been clinically diagnosed. I fairly certain I have social anxiety.

>>17902997
im being honest here mate, I would like some help. Im fairly clueless here since I was growing up I was ugly, I never thought about girls. I never was on the look out for signs of interest.

To show you how blind I am to it. When just became good looking I was sitting next to a girl in class. She was hot and looked like a bitch. I needed to know something for class and had to ask her. So i start talking to this girl and after he week she starts touching me constantly. My back my arms all the time in class. I had to go home and google why this was.

>>17903011
I was actually considering getting a bunch of escorts or hookers, before getting a gf. Im finishing my degree in May and could potentially land my first job making 60-70k if all goes well. So i can buy some escorts, get comfortable with sex since im a virgin then find a gf.
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>>17903671
I'm the guy from your first quote

I got caught showing parts to my cousing when I was a kid, got scared to shit to have contact with girls, spent the next decade anxious as fuck around them, not to mention I looked like an autist.

I only was in peace with that after I dated my first gf, between 18 and 21yo, looks definitly improved (not beautiful but beard and small eyes make me look like a mean motherfucker), and stopped giving a shit and overthinking relationships, sex and women that much.

Idk why you intend to get hookers if bitches are throwing themselves on you. All you have to do is chose one. If you look as good as you say they'll overlook a ton of shit you can do just to bed you.
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>>17903666
Look, shit-for-brains, I don't even know if we're actually disagreeing anymore, but we've a good thing going with these insults, so I'm just gonna reply again and keep the combo going. Fuck you.
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>>17903695
We are agreeing mr. flappy tits, and I also agree with the insults, so nothing more adequate than double agreeing to a double cuck
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does anybody else hate attractive people?
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>>17903717
Probably, but that's not to say that people like you are normal and mentally healthy
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>>17903706
I ... don't think I can beat Mr. Flappy Tits. You win. I fold.
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>>17902081
bump

should i leave her be?
should i text her on new years?
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Guys and girls

Do you ever feel awful after orgasm?

I typically avoid fapping because it makes me feel terrible. The part where I am wanking is fine, but the orgasm itself and the period of time after orgasm I feel fucking awful. Just dizzy, lightheaded, and drained. It's not a good feeling. I just went and ate a few cookies to get some sugar in my system but now I feel like I might throw up.

It's like this every single time I masturbate and cum
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Girls:

Homemade chocolates as a gift. How would you feel to receive this?

We're not together but are having sex and very fond of each other.
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>>17903760
I've gotten a migraine after I nutted a couple of times in the past. Not sure why, luckily its pretty rare.
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>>17903820
It's an adorable present, and very suitable for an intimate friend.
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Women, how can I have lots of casual, polyamorous sex with lots of females?
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>>17903887
I think you'd be better off asking guys who do that.
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>>17903898
They're all MRA faggots. I don't want a pick-up scene, I want good, old-fashioned free love.
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>>17903887
there are two routes you can take:

A.
step 1 - be attractive
step 2 - dont be not attractive

B.
step 1 - be rich
step 2 - dont be not rich

advanced users can actually mix these two techniques
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>>17903913
I'm already attractive, I just have no game.
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>>17903939
do you see where 'game' fits into any of the above processes?
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>>17903869
Thank you, I'd be happy with that response
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Is studying economics, accounting or finance an attractive attribute to femanons. Which degrees make one look the best?
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>>17903887
>being physically good looking never hurts
>being charming/charismatic/reasonably sociable if not extroverted with the right people
>being a good lover who doesn't just do a triumph hump but actually gives her a memorable time
>good hygiene, posture, wear clothes that fit you well, a hairstyle that flatters your face shape/the look you're going for
>talk to a lot of women, don't get hung up on a single one you don't even know just because she's pretty or you already went so far as to randomly chat her up, accept the first implicit rejection (lack of smiling, physically turning away from you, answering very sparsely, mentioning they're in a hurry in a dismissive way) and spend your time on girls who are more sociable and receptive
>approach strange girls preferably in daylight with other folks around, so she's in a comfortable position to get away and there's less pressure
>attend events that are likely to attract polyamorous people, get to know some online community to get an idea of what to go for (some examples from my observation: hipster/indie band concerts that don't cost much/have a hippie feel like being out in nature, weed/mdma/psychedelics related stuff)
>learn how to quickly and discreetly show some teasers about the kind of person you are, hobbies/memories/anecdotes about yourself or friends/idols... basically show off your life/personality
>don't get too discouraged by rejections if you can't help it at all, you have no clue what's going on in her world and how your appearance influences that - for all you know she's about to shit herself and you're a demonic final obstacle, to give an extreme example... no point in trying to analyze your failures when you can't see the bigger picture anyway, focus on improving yourself by looking at patterns in your own behavior during rejections instead

>>17903898
You take that back.
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>>17903965
this is a better response, thanks
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>>17903760
I feel guilt, disgust, self loathing.. even pray to God to help me.. then i go weeks without doing it..probably feel lonely ..single...everything else i usually feel..and screw up again.. i try to avoid fapping by all means.. i wear pants all day long, sometimes even to sleep, i open all my windows, watch tv loud volume, stay in blue boards only, drive places, get fresh air.. meh

try your best
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>>17903942
Think he's seeing 'Game' as being an ad hoc 'money saver'.

He wants to replace financial security with something that helps him talk his way into pants.
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>>17901778
I've never seen a tattoo look as good as natural skin
>>17901848
my friends aren't therapists, they'll either try to talk me into solving my problems through marriage or smoking my life away
>>17902273
depends if you actually mean it or not
>>17902652
he could've taken it personally
>>17902754
probably something like hemophilia/bloodplay or messplay like the other anon said
>>17902770
if you can get girls to go on dates irl, you can get girls on tinder. whether or not you choose to disclose your factory seal is up to you
>>17902788
physically tie a knot around the used condom so your load stays inside the rubber. if you suspect the girl would try to use it for a child-support baby, you can add some rubbing alcohol or tabasco to it prior to tying the knot to dissuade her.
>>17902937
sports fans do this, not just men.
>>17903172
pic related
>>17903381
if they've settled down, it's usually because they've past their prime and want something stable for their post-menopause life or they feel like they've gotten the best they'll get
>>17903628
the nut clouds judgement, post-nut is your clearest 5 minutes of thinking you'll experience after puberty
>>17903717
only the shitty ones
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>>17902937
Let go sometimes bro. It's not healthy to bottle up every emotion and shit.
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>>17903948
For me it's more, #1 would be something that shows interest in something I also love, #2 interest in something I find interesting in a more impersonal way and can intellectually relate to being very passionate about. And obviously a job that doesn't require you to work all the time (Europoor so for me that means forty hours/week is all the time if you have kids) and brings in reasonable pay is very much desirable for all the obvious reasons.

But it's going to vary between people and obviously choosing a career path that's high status/high pay is sure to get you the most women statistically speaking, especially if it's also in a field with some long glorious history. But you only marry one woman (ideally?) so how much that really matters at the end of the day..
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>>17903978
You're welcome, good luck! And I forgot to mention smelling good. That's really important. If you have some spare money try to find a good cologne and apply less than you think you need.
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>>17903760

I think the thing you have is different than any of the answers you'll get - feeling like throwing up seems very abnormal to me. Otherwise disgust or generally feeling lightheaded or "off" is common.
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>>17903948
Well, I personally wouldn't find them all that attractive, since there are connotations of being boring.

But in reality, what I find most attractive is someone majoring in something they're passionate about, be it politics, chemistry or philosophy, rather than for money.

I'm not to fussed about having huge salaries; with the right mindset and budgeting, you can eat well, travel and do what you want on less money.

So, I suppose to a certain kind of girl who only values material things, it would be attractive, but personally I prefer someone who is doing something they love.
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>>17901778
Most of them look like shit, especially the huge shitty ones that blur after a while and make you look like a pig that rolled in mud. Also my dad has one and I prefer girls that don't look like my dad.
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>>17903990

>the nut clouds judgement, post-nut is your clearest 5 minutes of thinking you'll experience after puberty

So if I fap and nut and don't feel interested toward a girl, I probably shouldn't even waste my time then right?
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>>17901778
Natural skin > tattoos, every time. If it's a more tasteful one, it probably will not cause a major problem; if it's not tasteful it's a pretty major problem. But in all cases it's a negative for me.

>>17903760
Used to a lot when bringing myself off. Stopped eventually. Still happens with other people though. Apparently there's a medical reason why it happens for some people, possibly treatable, but I can't remember what.
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Ladies,

Have any of you had success with tinder? and can I make an account without using facebook?
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>>17903887
Polyamorous as in fucking lots of them with all knowing of each other? Or as in being in actual relationships with multiple women simultaneously?
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>>17904068
that would be the implication, yes
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>>17903887
You mean fuck around?
Ask men, not women.

If you want to cheat on many girls simultaneously then you're just scum. If you just want lots of hookups, then look good and work on flirting and go to places like bars which are hookup spaces. It's not hard.
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>>17903913
Money doesn't matter, particularly with hookups. Only the most shallow, material girls care about a massive salary.
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I have a thing with a girl I've been on one date with, after having been set up with a friend. It didn't pan out, I moved past it thinking she'd ghosted it but ah well, it happens. Bump into her later, mutually feel a lot of chemistry. Invite her to a party I'm throwing that night, she comes by, and shit gets insanely complicated.

Turns out the friend who set me up with her is a perverse sociopath; he was using me to get rid of the other guys who were trying to date her, and once I'd done that, he lied to me about how she was seeing our other friend, whom she's had a massive crush on for a long time, lied to that other friend saying I wasn't interested in this girl anymore, and lied to the girl that she should forget about me because I was seeing someone else.


So I've dropped that friend and unraveled his lies, what I've found is that the other guy knew about the manipulation and didn't say anything about it (girl thinks he's really nice and she doesn't want to hurt him), and the girl and I are ridiculously compatible.

What the fuck do I do now? I figure I can wait and their 'relationship' will fall apart before it even begins, but I'm concerned they'll continue to manipulate her the way they did to me. I trusted these people until I knew absolutely I couldn't: she hasn't seen that yet.

What's the complete approach here?
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>>17904223

Tell her the absolute truth. Even if she doesn't believe you, it's better to give her all the information than to let her loose on some guy that's interested in lying to and manipulating her.
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I'm late for my period and spoke to my boyfriend about this. I wasn't too worried as it's normal to be a few days late but this is coming up to four days.

I mentioned I'd probably be taking a test in the morning. He said he didn't want to talk about it until we had a result.

This kind of upset me. He has no concerns over what we'll do if I am pregnant, we've been extremely open about it. It just upset me how he could be so indifferent about it.

Am I being unreasonable feeling this way? Should I just put it out of my mind until the morning?
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>>17904260

You're not being that unreasonable. It just sounds like your boyfriend finds no point in talking about the "what ifs" of the situation when you guys don't know. It IS sort of pointless to talk about it when you don't actually know.

Also it's not that weird to be even a week late. Very rare, but not an immediate cause for panic. Have you started taking any new medicines lately?
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>>17904260
4 days is nothing, i've had exes go over 2 weeks late. you're not pregnant
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>>17904249
Yeah, that's the way I'm planning to go. I guess I'm worried that she'll think I'm lying, too, to get with her, or that she'll believe me entirely and ;be afraid of commitment and sabotage a good thing' as she put it.
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>>17904260
He just doesn't want to worry with something that's still just a possibility. Hard to know what he'll do if it's confirmed, but for now he's just avoiding stress. You'll have plenty of time to plan after the result is out, not worth burning neurons now
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>>17904289

Man, either way that's the right thing to do. You'll regret letting her walk into that situation if you don't. I know it'll suck if she doesn't believe you or if she thinks you're lying, but at that point, it's on her.
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>>17904279

No different medicines, no additional stresses, no real trigger. I've been on birth control for several years and have been like clockwork other than 2-3 days either side, occasionally. I keep a diary of my periods. I understand I'm probably not but it's still a bit abnormal.

I'm not worried as such - we've discussed what we'd do in such a situation, I'm just a bit more anxious about it than he seems to be, which makes me feel uncomfortable.
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male here.

met this girl on a dating website, went on a date, she came over like a week later, tried to have sex with me. turned her down because it was only the second time i met her. after that she told me she didnt see it going anywhere. asked her if she would be down to be friends with benefits, she agreed. she came over last night and we had sex. then she pretty much left right after we were done. no round 2 or anything. she laid there for a couple minutes with me and then got up and started getting ready to go.

im almost certain she enjoyed it. ive had sex with girls who werent too into it and some who were way into it, i can tell the difference. not only that, but ive fucked a close friend of mine and we are brutally honest with each other, she would have told me if i was bad at it. plus the physical evidence was there, she was wet as fuck and her cum was on my bed. so i dont think my skills in bed turned her off.

but if she liked it, dont you think she would have stuck around longer? maybe she just got what she wanted and dipped? idk, i guess im just feeling insecure.

anybody have some input on this? not sure if i should try contacting her again or just let her hit me up next time?
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>>17904395
Maybe she liked it and realized she'd just turned you down to fwb and regreted it. Or felt guilt for having casual sex, perhaps it was her first time doing that...

Just ask her, it's no big deal to ask I think. Only she can tell why the reason, there's no clear interpretation being outside of her head
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>>17902789
You're literally me 2 years ago. Fuck that girl, she's using you for emotional support. She knows your feelings for her and still takes advantage of you. Realize your self worth and leave her and find yourself who returns the feelings.
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Could a female please answer a question for me?

There is this girl I work with and she is really attractive. I'm a 3/10 on /soc/, and she acts really weird to me. She and I stared at each other one day and again later that day. After the second time, we locked eyes for ~7 seconds she quickly turned around. Since then, every time she walks by me she always looks busy and it actively looks like she is trying to ignore me. Today, it appeared that she intentionally went out of her way and walked passed me twice within the same hour.

What does this mean?
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>>17904386

He's just choosing to deal with it when there's actual proof that there's something to be concerned about.
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>>17904395
You pretty much just turned her down for a potential relationship with sex, but completely okay'd the sex with no strings. Even though you still had only met her a couple of times and that was your excuse for not doing it while dating.

If I were her, I'd be confused as fuck. I'd wonder why you turned me down for sex while we dated, but okay'd sex as just sex. Personally, I'd feel like that's all you'd see me for. So I'd rather not stick around to hang out.

It's like saying, "Yo, you're not gf material, but I'd fuck you."
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>>17904464

She's weird, probably thinks you're weird but is ignoring the fact that she's being weird.

I honestly don't have a reasonable explanation for this one. She's just genuinely being weird.
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Dude here. I posted a few weeks ago about a girl who I thought was into me. Thanks to advice here, I managed to actually get her number and chatted with her back and forth for a week. So to recap
>She remembered my name after a year
>Offered to study for the mid-term the minute we met again (had plans so I couldn't)
>Signed up for a speaking exam right after mine so we would meet
>Offered to give me her number when I said we should stay in touch.
Now the conversation has died down, and it's been like a week since the last message. I'm beginning to have a lot of doubt, but I also don't want to come off too strong. I am thinking of adding her on snapchat, where I think I can play to my strengths (ie situational humor), but I don't know if just adding her out of the blue would be weird or not.
Judging from her social media posts, it is also fairly ambiguous as to if she has a bf or not.
What is your official prognosis on this situation? I am very socially inept and this is the boldest thing I have ever done in that capacity. Everyday I feel worse and worse.
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>>17904440
>Or felt guilt for having casual sex, perhaps it was her first time doing that...
kind of doubt it, she wasnt very shy about things.

>>17904478
i was actually very straightforward about it. i told her i dont usually sleep with someone so soon after meeting them, but a few days later over text she told me she didnt see it going anywhere, even after i told her i was still interested in her. so that doesnt make sense. and we were never "dating", we went on one date and since then we've hung out twice, and now i guess we're friends with benefits.
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>>17904479
>thinks I'm weird

:(
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>>17904504

Sorry man, it happens. Not your fault.
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>>17904464
you sound like a fucking creeper. 7 seconds? that is a really long stare...she was probably staring at you waiting for you to look away and when you didnt she did it herself. and now she feels creeped out by you. you sound fucking weird.
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>>17904464
people overreact to eye contact stuff

sometimes you space our in a direction or make eye contact with people

if she's trying not to look at you she might be trying not to give you the wrong idea.
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>>17904440
>Just ask her, it's no big deal to ask I think
also, im not doing this. the first time she came over i called after and asked if i had made things weird or something because her demeanor completely changed after i turned her down for sex. im not gonna be one of those guys thats constantly asking if everythings alright.
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>>17904511
Thank you for your honesty.
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>>17904502
It doesn't matter how straight forward you were about it, it was your actions

>wont have sex after a date
>will have sex if no dates and a few days later

What's the point of sticking around?

I'm just saying my female opinion of your actions.
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>>17904526
the only time eye contact means anything is if you catch them looking at you several times. thats a good way to tell someone is attracted to you. however, if you look at them and they just look back, youre retarded if you think that means anything.
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>>17904531
example: years ago at my old job, i always noticed one of my co-workers stealing glances at me and when id look back shed look away quickly. sometimes while walking by me her eyes would be down. she was attracted to me but shy. ended up dating her for a little while.
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Hey ladies is it a bad thing if when im talking to the girl i like that shes awkwardly/nervously laughing?
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>>17904529
youre not making sense. she told me she wasnt interested after the first time we hung out...shes the one who turned me down (not physically, but to see where things go dating-wise). i only asked her to be friends with benefits after she told me she didnt see it going anywhere because i was physically attracted to her and if i couldnt pursue her romantically i figured fuck it, ill just throw that out there and see if i can still get laid.
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>>17904539
no, not necessarily. unless youre just a complete weirdo who makes her that uncomfortable, it probably means you make her nervous. it could because shes attracted to you, or maybe shes just an awkward person.
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>>17904548
she said that after you turned her down for sex. I'm assuming she assumed you were uninterested in her since you turned her down.
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>>17904567
yes, but why would she then tell me she didnt see it going anywhere, even when i told her i was still interested?
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can women explain this? i've seen girls say similar things before. my ex said this to me, paraphrased: "i don't love you anymore and i can't love you anymore, i wish thinks happened differently but i won't ever love anyone as much as i loved you."

what does this even mean? i don't understand the concept of being in a new relationship in like two months, and then saying something like that. i get that it's probably just comforting horse shit, but it's bizarre to me. don't worry, i'm not trying to get back with her even though i've never hurt so much in my fucking life.
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>>17904589
>i get that it's probably just comforting horse shit
yep, there you go. you had the answer yourself.
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>>17904591

yeah, looking at it now i'm not sure why i even asked. i guess it's just because i've seen similar things, even years after breakup and people having moved on. i guess it's the one that got away shit, i don't know. either way time to go drink myself into a grave, take care anons.
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>>17904558
i forgot to add to my post that this only happens when we talk when she gives me a lift home not sure if that a critical part i missed or if im being a dumb
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>>17904604
itll be alright, anon. its temporary.
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This might be a question for either gender. I have always really sucked at getting women interested in me. I am starting to get worried because i am approaching 30. I am very well off financially and so far have only attracted women that mostly are after my money. I have spent 19K on 4 women since 2011.

I was just wondering if anyone can relate to this.

Unrelated, but since I dont have any women friends that I know that watch porn, I have always wondered what strait women focus on when they watch porn.
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>>17904616
sounds like she likes you. maybe. its hard to say with such little information.
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>>17904627
well fuck it i think im just gonna ask her out thanks for the advice and have a happy new year
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>>17904618

i hope you're right. six years and it's not easy the kind of autist like me that seems to genuinely give a shit. feel like i'll have trust issues for life now. but this isn't the thread for it. thanks.
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>>17904647
fukkin do it.
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What's a sexy way of saying dick during dirty talk?
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>>17904691

cock.
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Guy here, 23,

How do I explain to my female friend that I'm tired of hearing about her relationship issues?
She's starting to get irritating hearing her bring up how her roommates are getting laid / in relationships with and she's still single every time we hang out.


I extremely doubt this is a "sign" as she has made it clear we're just friends previously, and I tried to go out with a friend of hers.

Should I just hard change the subject every time it steers there?
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>Girl ends things with me
>No contact for 6 weeks
>hit her up, she sounds happy to hear from me
>ask to hang out, she agrees, then dissapears when I suggest a day
>starts being petty posting snaps of a street sign showing shes a block from me captioned "tad bit far from home :'("


wtf is up with her? does she want to talk to me or not? I do miss her but she didnt reply to my last text asking if she was free a certain day.
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How likely is flirting at a party likely to lead to a thing? Should I try to make a move on a girl that acts flirty at a party, and doesn't appear to be flirting with other people.
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>>17905127
Oh, also would talking about ex-boyfriends and how clingy the are and how she's hoping to find someone better soon be considered flirting
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M here.
Do the PUA tactics really work on girls?
If someone did that to me I'd think he is the most shallow douchebag thinking my affection boils down to memorized routines.

Do girls like shy boys who are kinda awkward when they have to advance the relationship in some way or do they like a more dominant male?
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>>17905840
Only if the shy guy is really good looking.
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