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My boyfriend won't spend money on me and it's making

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My boyfriend won't spend money on me and it's making me resent him..

He spends $1000 a month on himself on food and whatver crap. He lives at home and only has a phone bill and car insurance and has A lot like 40k$. I pay rent and for everything on my own and iWork 24/7 and I'm in school. I can barely afford food. I haven't bought anytnknf for myself since July. Since I work all the time we never have time to go out lately, last time he took me out was 2 months ago. I know I sound like a greedy bitch. But it's not really fair we been together two years and he's never taken
Me shopping and bought me something at the mall. He gave me lke a $50
Gift card for my bday last year and gave me a ring and gift cRd for Christmas and my bjrtndays in two weeks and legit I complain to him al the time about how I have no clothes and crap (I know it's not his responsibility but it would be nice?) andhe doesn't do anything about it. Like I just feel lke I deserve to be a little spoiled sometimes and it makes me depressed.. Idk what to do? I just asked him if he could take me shopping and he said no. Even tho my birthday is in 2 weeks
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>he lives at home
>he has 40k
does not compute
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>>17900594

Yeah. He's wicked cheap and won't move out even tho he has loads of money
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I think I should just break up with this dude he takes me for granted so badly
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How old are you both? How long have you been together? You said he has a large amount in savings or something, but does he have an income?

If you're struggling financially and he has an income and it's been more than 6 months that's pretty fucked up. If any of those elements are missing it's not.

If you feel taken for granted say so
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>>17900586
>Like I just feel lke I deserve to be a little spoiled sometimes
Then start earning more or find someone who wants to spoil you sometimes.

His money is his, yours is yours. It's pretty simple. If you don't like that he is kinda stingy at spending it, find someone else.

I am pretty much the opposite of your boyfriend when it comes to that and spend most of my money on others because I don't give a crap about most material crap but it's up to everyone personally how to spend their money and expecting that they spend theirs on you is pretty lame.
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>>17900610
24 . Yes he has an income. And yeah. I know. :(
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>>17900617
Rekt
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>>17900621
What does that mean
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>>17900596
Wealth=/=income

Just how much does he make? You say he spends 1k on random shit plus a few bills, so I doubt his income is anything significant. I wouldn't be surprised if he was a hair above minimum wage.

Sounds more like all that money is because of how little he spends and if he went out on date nights on a regular basis I doubt that that reserve will stay as large as it is for very long. Like exactly what are you hoping for date night? Cause unless you're happy with chilis, I doubt the guy can afford to spoil you on regular basis.

>>17900617
Ah fuck that passive aggressive shit. If he's actually spending 10k that's a quarter of his savings right then and there don't make it off as if it's not significant.
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>>17900610
>>17900610
And we've been together for almost 2 years
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>>17900617
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>>17900617
maybe he doesn't think you're worth it ;D
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>>17900626

Okay well I'm crying right now. All my clothes and everything is old, I haven't even been able to afford a haircut for 7 months, my shoes are so cheap my feet literally bleeeed thru my socks when I'm at work for 11 hours
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>>17900635

Probably :/ but if that's true he should break up sith me
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>>17900638
Why would he? You're too low maintenance to bother with breakup drama before he finds someone better.
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>>17900586
Anyone else puke at that nail? Holy shit
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>>17900636
There's kind of a big difference between "lets go shopping" and "my shoes are literally falling apart and I can't afford replacements". 90% of the time when women say the former they just want to buy outfits they don't really need. Does he actually understand you're in such a dire situation?
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>>17900642
Well that's fucked up leave me alone
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>>17900647
YES I've told him my feet bleed when I'm at work bc my shoes were $10 and he doesn't care
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>>17900617
>what makes it my responsibility to take you shopping
>this is how he is two years into a relationship
Wow. Is he autistic or just an asshole?
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>>17900646
What's wrong with my nail?
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>>17900653
So why are you still together with him?
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>>17900658
I don't really know. Scared to go through a breakup and be sad
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>>17900653
Well that adds a lot of context that was missing before. Plus I mean to be blunt, I wouldn't even bring up date night stuff if I was in such a precarious position because its so much less important. I'll admit, I'm pretty cheap too. I'm a broke college student and I follow the 50/30/20 rule, except the 30 is more like 10. But that doesn't mean being frugal is exclusive with empathy. He doesn't seem to actually care about your position, when a relationship is supposed to be something to the effect of a partnership.
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>>17900586
My boyfriend is the same way. I attempt so hard to keep things kinda even. We both live with our parents. However, my parents charge me for everything and I pay my own car and phone and insurance, and my boyfriend's family pays everything for him other than the internet and his mom has him buy new things occasionally when they break (dishwasher, etc.)

My bf has near 20k saved up in the bank. He's ridiculously cheap. But he didn't save all that money by spending carelessly. I think my bf spends about 500 on himself per month and just puts the rest away.

I'm left with pennies after my bills, gas and food. However, twice a year bf takes me shopping. We kinda set this up. We set a monetary limit on gifts. It's basically birthday and christmas. If the limit is like 200 on my birthday, we go to a nice dinner and the rest, I ask him to take me shopping. Then on his birthday, I will save up and spend that amount on him.


We do the same thing on Christmas basically.

I already know I'm dating a super cheap weirdo. So I make him feel secure with his finances by planning shit out. If it was like the week beforre my bday and I was like "Alright take me shopping." with no limits or planning time, I already know he would lose his shit.

Try working out a system. A fair one. Tell him what you really want for your birthday. Ask him how it can be arranged.
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>>17900663
And this is not making you sad now? Think bigger, your boyfriend is literally autistic. Any normal partner would actually enjoy doing things to make you happy
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>>17900674


I actually
Thought at some points in our relationship he might be autistic
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>>17900674
>your boyfriend is literally autistic
I wouldnt even call it that. He's just being a dick, pretty sure he's aware of his actions.
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You should probably end this toxic and emotionless relationship and figure out why you're so poor so you can make an effort and earn more money.

In the meantime ask your parents or your grandma or something for $200 so you can buy new shoes and some clothes.
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>>17900628
Hahahah what in the massive kek is this ?? Told off or not told ?
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>>17900586
>>17900655
>But it's not really fair we been together two years and he's never taken me shopping and bought me something at the mall.
>is he autistic or just an asshole
I don't understand. He's given you generous gifts on holidays. Why is he supposed to give you more than that? I can understand being upset on not being taken out on dates, but I don't understand this gifts thing.
After being with my boyfriend for 3 years, I never expected to be given gifts. Is this a thing? Why should he give you gifts? Why does he have to spend money to show he loves you? Isn't doing nice things for you and telling you how important you are and spending time with you enough? Why do you need his money too?

>>17900617
>whatever it's fine
It's obviously not fine, why do you say this?
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>>17900679
People who love each other take care of each other, he can't bring himself to use money to take care of you - cunts fucked
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>>17900586
do you think your boyfriend is a fucking walking atm or something?
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girl you need to figure out why you have so little money left every month, maybe there are things you can sell or cut out of your routine. Do you bike to work to save money? Why did you spend $10 on shoes when they are something that you're going to use every day? Get good shoes. Read up on living frugally, and you don't need a whole salon/spa day to look good. Figure something out. Because when you rely on other people so much, that's not really living.

The whole "take me shopping" thing is really an expectation, it's not reality. Your boyfriends doesn't have to take you shopping. Shopping =/= love or affection.
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>>17900713
Always read the thread for context before replying

There's a difference between expecting to be lavished with gifts and having bleeding feet because of destroyed shoes
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>>17900586
Break up with him. You clearly don't care about each other.
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tl;dr OP is baiting for sympathy attention with insane bullshit like "My feet bleed at work" and "I cant even afford a haircut" (Neither or which your employer would even allow, nor would continue if OP had even the most basic budgetary skills) and then complaining because her boyfriend won't buy her shit.

You can thank feminism if you want OP, you're a free woman and since you're both equals he doesn't have to pay for any of your trash.
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>>17900787
Idc if you don't believe me. Jusd c my feet bleed my work doesn't know, and I'm a waitress I wear my hair up At work.
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>>17900586
how much was tjhe ring?
it sounds like he just wants you for sex
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>>17900617
wow he sounds pathetic
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>>17900802
Idk prob like between 20 and 50$
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>>17900787
its not about feminism, this is about loving each other because theyre a couple. he sees she doesnt have basic necessities and hes neglecting it.
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>>17900586
Fucking phoneposters holy shit.
>He lives at home and only has a phone bill and car insurance and has A lot like 40k$
Did you ever try using your brain a little? There's a reason why he has "a lot" [sic], and it's sure as not not because he moved out like a retard and bought a bunch of fucking clothes and shoes and shit.
>I deserve to be a little spoiled sometimes
You don't. You're not rich, so stop trying to live like you are.
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>>17900596
no. he is smart.
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>>17900761
I would not expect my boyfriend to get me new shoes if I was complaining about my shoes.
I did read the whole thread. It's definitely not about just that. She thinks of gifts as an expression of love. I don't understand that.

If she specifically said, "Hey, I'm having a hard time at work with my bad shoes. I can't afford new ones. Could I ask for some help from you, please?"
Instead she said, "can you take me shopping"
When he said that he has medical bills to take care of and doesn't want any superfluous spending (Because she didn't phrase it like a necessary trip), she responded with hostility. Of course he'll be defensive.

This isn't about just the shoes, this is about gifts in general.
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>>17900617
you both sound a bit retarded

He needs to at least pay half of the rent, but if he remembers to give you gifts at appropriate times like christmas and birthdays, then I don't see the problem and you sound very materialistic if you're so hung up on it.

At the same time, he didn't exactly let you down gently and seemed defensive. He sounds a lot like my ex-husband, who forgot my birthday and didn't want to do christmas and banned us from buying furniture because 'the apartment would be too crowded' to the point where we only had two desks and a mattress on the floor, and didn't contribute to the electric bill for our apartment at all for a whole year.
Have fun getting fucked in the ass by tranny dick in Thailand, you wimpy fuck.

Anyway, yeah stop being a gold digger, OP. It could be a lot worse.
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>>17900761
No you dumbfuck.

A $10-20 pair of tennis shoes from Payless shouldn't make your feet bleed. There is no way she can't afford that.

Think of it this way, if he didn't have any money should he be obligated to buy her shit? Why should things change if he has money? This is just a case of jealousy and entitlement.

They should break up so this guy doesn't have to fund this gold digging entitled bitch.
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>>17900870
>He needs to at least pay half of the rent
He lives at home dumb fuck, why the fuck would he pay her rent?
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>>17900870
They don't live together. She was just bragging that she takes care of herself and that he gets free rent from living with her parents.
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>>17900870
oh whoops. I thought they lived together.
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>>17900795
I was a waitress for 6 years and then a line cook for another year. I get the shoe hell, especially when you're on your feet 8+ hours a shift. It does suck.

Dr. Scholls shoes with gel inserts are $30 at walmart. I've had mine for 2 years and they work perfectly. Most comfortable shoes ever. I've pulled a 16 hour double in those things. Look into getting them, seriously.

If you're waitressing and can't afford that at the end of the month, you either need to find a new job or work more. It's not your boyfriend's obligation to pay for your work expenses. And you paid for your own shoes, so there's no blaming the restaurant for shitty dress code either.

Cut your own damn hair. You do not need a salon hair cut. You're a waitress with a frugal boyfriend, not some high society escort who needs to look good. As long as you can put your hair in a ponytail while you're at work or keep it out of the food you're good. You're a big girl, learn to do without. Save your own money. You two aren't married, are you? The funds are not pooled, he's got his and you've got yours.

It seems like there's other issues in this relationship besides just the money. If the only reason you don't want to break up is because you might feel sad, that's... That's fucking dumb. That's ridiculous. A bad relationship is a bad relationship.
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Both of you are losers. This relationship isn't going to go anywhere.

No woman should be dating an adult living with his parents. You two aren't living together after 2 years, that should be torture. Neither of you are on a good career path or have a good future set. This is lined up for disaster financially speaking. He treats you like this now, he won't trust you in marriage. You shouldn't rely on a guy to buy you stuff but it's always good to find someone with good financials.
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>>17900908
>You two aren't living together after 2 years, that should be torture
What? Where is it normal to live together so soon?
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Just pisses me off cuz he took his friend out for his bday and spent lots of money on him. I'm his girlfriend, I go out of my way to make time for him with my
Busy schedule, and get nothing in return but a takeout salad from a pizza place
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>>17900921
For adults (as opposed to students)? America.

If any of my adult friends were in a relationship for 2 years I'd expect them to be engaged if not married
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>>17900955
We were supposed to move in together but he backed out, bc he said he didn't think id be able to take care of my financial responsilities. Wicked fucked up
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>>17900955
Where in America are you? OP is only 24. I'm on the West Coast with friends ranging from 20-34. My friends who are married had been dating for 3-5 years. 2 is too short.
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>>17900962
>he didn't think id be able to take care of my financial responsilities
You need help to pay for 20 dollar shoes. Can you take care of your finances? He probably realized that if he moved in you'd suddenly not be able to pay rent or buy food and he'd have to cover everything.
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>>17900975
This

Wtf is the rush to get married, it's supposed to be forever anyways
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>>17900954
>for his bday
But he celebrated your birthday too. It's not your birthday now.
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>>17900962
Ooooh, I get it.

The problem isn't 'I want my boyfriend to invest some money in me', because that can be solved by just normal communication. The problem is that you're fiscal responsibilities are inept and your boyfriend knows what's up. He's not giving you the money he's earned not because he's a dick, but because you can't earn money. He knows he'll be falling into a trap to spend all the money he's worked to get by throwing it at you. He wants someone who can support themselves and not rely on just him. This is acceptable. You can't even afford fuckin shoes, man, so tell me why the hell you deserve nice things.

You want someone to buy you things at the mall? Spread your legs and get a sugar daddy. Because that would be the only valid relationship where monetary gifts were required.

A relationship is a partnership. You two have completely different lifestyles. You might not belong with this guy.
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>>17900977
Watever lol . I'm just gonna resent him when I look good again. I'm pretty and I have a nice bod
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>>17900586

wow, who knew there were still girls like this. b8?


if not i hope you kill yourself. the problem here is you are expecting a man to shell out cash indefinitely for your existence. you want a sugar daddy, go be a hooker somewhere else
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He never wrote back so I said this lol is that bad ? I mean honestly I have other guys who aqua want me so I don't care. I'll resent him when. My life is more in order. I was Just swamped with finals and I got sick so managing evryrninf was hard
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I'm too embarrassed to receive gifts from my boyfriend but I had an ex who was a scrooge and it's very annoying.
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>>17901013
>thread
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>>17901023
It honestly scares me how many people agreed with her. /adv/ is not really one to play along with trolls. We always get people who take the bait. So I venture to believe that those people genuinely agree.

>>17901034
>have other guys who aqua want me so I don't care.
I thought you cared about him? Don't you love him?
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>>17901018
>when I look good again
>again
lel
So not only are you completely shit with money, but I guess you became a landwhale when you figured you got a man.
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>>17901023
Nah I want a man, not a pussy 2016 guy who acts like a Middle Aged woma, wanting a woman to be a provider. U r a sad weak man lol
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>>17900586
Break up, problem solved.
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>>17901044
Uhh no, I meant that I have no nice
Clothes and can't even get my haircut. I'm very thin , if anything I lost weight I can't afford from
Having no money ( I.e I can barely afford food )
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>>17901034
>aqua want me
>him when. My life is more
>I was Just swamped
>evryrninf was hard

...what is happening in this thread, the grammar is out of control.
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>>17901052
>clothes will make me look good
Brah, you can dress a pig up but it's still not going to know how to save money.
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>>17901046

so yes, b8.
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>>17901046
You'd prefer a sniveling pussy-whipped man who bends to your every will? Don't you want a strong, independent man?
I wouldn't want my boyfriend to break at every irrational request I gave him. He should have some self respect and recognize his own limits and values.
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>>17901057
I have a feeling there are two posters going on, the actual girl and then the troll that hijacked her poor phone style.
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>>17901052
Sorry that you're a loser who expects people to baby you.
Nobody owes you anything.
Life doesn't owe you anything.
The only person responsible for your financial success is you.
B8 hardcore.
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>>17901061

idk man even the OP seemed pretty b8y
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>>17901055
I'm not saying they'll make me look good, I'm saying it doesn't look cute when you wear boots from last winter that are old and raggedy, that I don't have going out clothes, just casual stuff that's worn out.
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>>17901060


Lol me neither but I want a man who can be a provider eventually, which my bf and a lot
Of guys here can't be. It's disgusting.
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>>17901066
You can even get free shit on Craigslist or a donation center if you're desperate enough
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>>17901066

>guys notice when your boots are from last winter

yeah, gay guys.
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>>17901066
>get kicked out of parents' house for being a spoiled bitch
>wah, wah, no one is giving me money for food, I can't even afford anything after all this rent
Enjoy your no money and no luxury goods. Go be a prostitute if you want nice things.
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>>17901072

>can't be

you mean they CAN be, they just choose not to waste it on you.
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>>17900816
Not even OP or involved in the thread at all, but you should know that "a lot" really is two separate words.
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this thread is the exact reason i tell my gf i dont have any money saved and im living paycheck to paycheck
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>>17901080
I know that "a lot" is 2 separate words. I'm trying to imply that 40k isn't a whole fuckload of money. Definitely not an "oh hey, we should just buy a whole bunch of bullshit because we're fucking LOADED" amount of money.
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>>17901066
You don't need to have new clothes to look cute. All my stuff is thrifted and I've been wearing the same jacket from middle school. I constantly get compliments for my style and I get strangers who tell me I look cute. Stop making excuses.

>>17901072
I'd expect a provider if you were married and had a child. I'd also expect him to have good financial choices if we were going to raise a household together. And you obviously don't make good financial choices.
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>>17901066
>its not brand new waaaah
Go to a thrift store you vapid retard
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>>17900586
I'm a struggling college student with debt and feel bad if a guy even buys me a movie ticket or lunch.
In the end it's your responsibility if you kind of suck at life (which I myself do).
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>>17901090
Lol okay thanks girl. Guess Ido too haha
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Okay. I'm over it I don't give a fuck anymore haha. I'll figure my own shit out, solo. If he ever needs help he's on his own tho
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This thread has officially gotten out of hand, I'm out.
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>>17900603
try communication first. if that fails, dump him. he really does sound cheap
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>>17901109
>>17901126
>I don't give a fuck anymore haha.
>but whatever it's fine
>but it's fine it's not your responsibility
>it's cool
Liar. You are not okay.
This is unhealthy. You know there's other ways to deal with conflict than denial, passive aggression, and manipulation, right? You're going to chase him away if you keep this up. Who taught you to treat people this way? Who taught you to communicate with people this way?
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>>17900680
This
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>>17901126
lel
>I was just giving you the privilege of giving me money
Smooth.
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>>17900586
Who the fuck doesn't live at home????

That's like....homeless people?
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>>17901013

Your a fucking dick. Read the OP post again.

The man child lives at home. You think he is a more responsible person?
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>>17901131
If I axfuLly communicate with him he ignores me and sruff. So he taught me to act this way.
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>>17901135


Well yeah. Because after I work my ass off to have everything I want, I'm going to resent the fuck out of him. It's his chance to be there for me when I need him, and he's not
Going to. He never has.
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>>17901141
Don't blame him for your own actions. Playing games of "he started it!" is immature. Didn't you learn this in elementary school?

>>17901140
Yes. It's financially wise.
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>>17901140
>people need to spend money on their own place because muh responsibilities
wew

>>17901144
>Because after I work my ass off to have everything I want
I hate to break it to you, but with all your fucked up decisions so far you're never going to have everything you want.
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>>17901126
This relationship you're in is toxic and unhealthy. You two probably aren't compatible considering how you both communicate (poorly).

Get out of the relationship. Room with a friend. Delve into your own hobbies and interests. Do your best to distract yourself and keep your thoughts off of him.

Also, guys don't find passive aggressive behavior to be sexy or funny, every anon here can tell you that. Apply to all future relationships.
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>>17901149
I'm not I'm just saying there's no communicating with him. There's nothing else I can say. He's not going to, so if I keep
Talkig about it he will ignore me more. He already hasn't replied back for 3 hours probably because I went so far as to ask him to take me shopping for things I need for my birthday gift, which I thought was reasonable seeing we've been together 2 years
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>>17901156
You were immediately hostile. I wouldn't want to talk to you either. Also if he's taking your passive aggressive "It's fine" seriously, then you've taught him that you'll immediately drop anything that bothers you at the slightest resistance.
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>>17901162
Well I don't wnqna fight with him. I'm not gonna make him buy me
Stuff. Seriously what am I
Gonna do? Whine and complain? There's literally nothing I can do. Hostile? What am I supposed to say? Oh okay baby
Don't worry. <33333 sorry I asked<3 like come on
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>>17901066
>it doesn't look cute when you wear boots from last winter that are old
You double negro, boots should last you for like 5-10 years minimum, no fucking wonder your bf doesn't want to spend money on you, you're like a financial black hole.

This winter I needed new boots so in autumn I looked up where I could get the cheapest nice, sturdy pair of boots and I bought some from there. They're nice looking and timeless, I take care of them and brush and polish them when it's needed, I'm hoping they'll last me for a decade.
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>>17901166
":/ It's FIIINNNE" is being hostile.

You could have said,
>Oh, I didn't know that you had those big medical bills! That sucks. I'm sorry. Don't worry about it, then! I'll be okay

You chose to guilt trip him by saying
>I've never asked you to
>It's almost my birthday
>I can't go to Florida
>I was giving you an opportunity to do something for me

THAT is whining. Do you know what whining sounds like? It's that. You're whining right now.
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>>17901178
Okay well whatever . I guess I'm an awful person and he should
Dump me then
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>>17900617
>I can't afford to go to Florida so you should buy me some gifts
Is this supposed to be a comedy? You should seriously look into getting a stand-up routine going.
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>>17901184
Well he told me for my bday he
Would take me. I told him I
Don't have money saved just in case so he's not taking me anymore. My family lives therre and we would stay with them. He would jusd have to pay $100 for a plane ticket
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>>17901180
You can learn how to be mature and responsible. Try maybe going to therapy, they could help you out. I'm serious.
You've learned skills that are effective in the surface level, but destructive in the long term. In your attempts to control men, you can guilt and manipulate them to do what you want them to do. But they will not like doing it. They will feel guilted and manipulated. Which will eventually make them leave you.
It's ironic, don't you think? The techniques you've learned in order to keep men around are the very same ones which will repel them from you.

You will have to overhaul the way you deal with conflict if you hope to have a healthy relationship someday.
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>>17901190
Okay thanks
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>>17901190
Should I say this
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>>17901198
jesus christ reading this whole thread you remind my of my ex so much. she was a fucking LOON and no you should not send that, You should drop the whole situation and shut the fuck up.

my god im reliving moments i had reading this shit, Guys hate that stupid passive agressive bullshit and just all your bullshit in general.
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>>17901198
Now you're just being bipolar. Take a day away from the phone to cool down a bit or he'll really think you're bonkers.
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>>17901198
You should change that to
>I'm sorry that I was so hostile.
It'll seem more genuine, and more like you've learned your lesson. It's okay to admit that you messed up. In fact, it'll make people trust you more. Try to avoid giving excuses after you say sorry, it'll make it seem like you don't mean it.
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>>17901202


Well I was trying to apologize and I already sent it
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>>17901203
It's already a shit show, dudes probably
Gonna break up with me
Soon. Whatever tho he will end up regretting it. I'm not a bad person, I just need some help right now
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>woman
>first sentence is that she wants more material goods from her boyfriend
>second setence an appraisal of her boyfriend's aproximate net worth

Really hope he dodges this bullet you sound like a cunt.
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>>17901208
>he will end up regretting it
You just keep on keeping on with this. He's totes gonna regrat breaking up with a bitter hag who can't keep a dollar.
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>>17901217


Probably
But whatver , I'm learning and I realiE that , I'm a student and I'm going to work hard to make my own money , I jus got sick and wasin finals week , and inwas sick for three months before school started so I used all my money which is why I've been struggling for the past two
Months
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>>17900617
Tell him to go to another country for dental work. I go to Mexico and see a solid dentist for a fraction of the price who sees mostly middle class people. The quality is honestly better too because at least in my experience, they have more time to answer your questions. I have to do some medical things too and might do it there. Of course you would need to know the language and having locals there that can help you navigate.

But seriously I recommend it and you can do it in lots of countries. I pick Mexico because I'm Mexican but I've heard of people going to Canada or Costa Rica
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>>17901219
Oh lord, I didn't even think to ask. What degree are you going for?
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>>17901225
Yeah he's noot
Gonna do that thanks tho
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>>17901227
None of ur business . I don't need more ppl telling me
I'm a loser and in not
Gonna make money ever. Fuck off. I've had a hard life I'm the only person in my family
To ever get a degrees leave me the fuck Alonne
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>>17900657
It's badly cut and badly painted. Maybe it's genetic but it looks like it's too short. Either way not a big deal, I mean for me at least I don't stare at the nails of people I'm interested in
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>>17901198
>>17901206
>>17901219
I'm gonna be a bit of a crazy person here. The saying "you'll draw more flies with honey than vinegar" is true. I find that it's much easier to get what I want out of people if I create this persona of being selfless, forgiving, and kind. I go barely out of my way here and there for people, and suddenly they think I'm some sort of angel. I let something slide, and they're grateful for me being so understanding.
Then when I do request something and I do it gently - "Hey, I'm sorry to ask, but would you be so kind as to help me with xyz?" They ALWAYS say yes. Every time. I thank them profusely and then walk away with what I wanted.

When you make excuses, people take that as avoiding fault. It'll make it seem like this will keep happening every time something bad happens to you. I take the route of, "Oh jeez, I had this really difficult week and I totally let it get to me. It's not cool that I took out my stress on you. You don't deserve that. I'm sorry."
It's a careful difference between "I'm sorry that I took out my stress on you, but this was a really difficult week." It makes it seem like you're expecting him to forgive him by saying the "but". It makes it seem like you think everything is okay. You should make it seem like you're not expecting forgiveness, and you'll more likely get it.
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>>17901233


Stfu I can't afford. Manicure asshole . Go fuck yourself ur a piece of shit human
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>>17900586 (OP) #
Dump him. He is keeping you on edge so you will be greatful for any little thing. He told you how much money he has in the bank as a carrot. Like eventually he will be nice to you. He is using you for free sex. When he fibds a woman that he is 100% sure about he will spend on her. Some guys do this to pretty girls that have low self esteem. He doesnt like you but you are worth having around. Dump him before you get pregnant. I know its hard to say you wasted 2 yrs but he has money. He could buy you a pair of shoes and give you some gas money. Im not talking every week but just when he see's you are struggling. You are wasting your youth. And dont jump into another relationship. You will attract another bum. If you've been with a lot if guys you may want to try being a sugarbaby to one guy. Or be a hooker for a day. Try for $450 an hour.
You boyfriend talked to you rough. Let him go.
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>>17901236


Thanks good
Tip
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>>17901231
Hate to break it to you princess, but a shit degree has a negative worth. Enjoy your massive debt. You're probably not even smart enough to get a useful degree, so I'll just assume you're getting something silly like Sociology.
Yes, I made an ass out of you and mption by making an assumption, but it's probably correct.
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>>17901240
:/ well that's one theory
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I think he's breakin up with me. He said "honestly I have a lot to say and I don't feel like texting"
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>>17900586
Only skimmed the thread but, advice from me:

Don't get in a relationship with somebody expecting them to fix your problems. Take care of your own shit and be grateful for what your partner gives you. If you think they're too selfish you can just leave and find another.
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Op your boyfriend doesn't owe you anything apart from his love. However, in my experience men always try to impress their girlfriends with gifts and little treats to show they care. But... That's also two way street, you also gotta give a little too. As your birthday is coming up I'd ask him for money instead of him buying you a gift you don't need. Since you are desperate for newer items.
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>>17900975
This is why the white race is going extinct
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>>17901052
Stop paying for internet and cable. You can get free wifi at libraries and various fast food places and cafes.
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>>17901250
You're probably too deep in the hole with your dynamic to come back from this. If this has been your technique for two years, I don't think that a change in your technique will be taken seriously - you've broken his trust in you a long time ago,
Take your lesson on how to treat people and use it for your next beau.
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>>17901266
Probably :/ oh well there's nothing I can do
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>>17901140
I know a guy who is around 25 and works a good paying STEM job while living at home. Imagine all the money he'll have saved up to provide for his wife and kids. God bless him
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Your boyfriend isn't obligated to spend money on you, damn he isn't even expected to.
If you cannot afford your basic needs you can ask him to lend you some money, but you should really ask your parents to support you or make that money yourself. "Take me to the mall and spend money on me" is ridiculous and makes you sound like a spoiled brat.

How much do you earn? What are you spending that money on?
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>>17900586 #
A lot of guys are telling you to bow down. They are just mind fucking you. They want to help him get over.
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See, these are the kind of vapid harpies that make me feel less upset about not having a gf
thanks, >>17900586
you made my day
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>>17900693
u got told desu
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>>17901250
I wanna know what happens. Call him!
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>>17901336


He said he's with his friends. Asked me
To
Come
Over at 1/2 am. Said he has a lot
To
Say.
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I'm driving around in my car crying
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>>17901349
How far away is that in your time zone?
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>>17901357


Like two hours . 1130 pm here .

I'm not driving to his house. He lives an hour away. I have to be up early. And can't afford gas . Hopefully he'll talk on the phone
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>>17901356
It's your win, faggot.
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>>17901356
>I'm scared ddo you have something bad to tell me
>I mean not really
>what do you have to tell me like bad things?
>Bae?

you're toxic, I feel bad for the guy desu
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>>17901356
>I'm driving around in my car crying
>I'm not driving to his house. He lives an hour away. And can't afford gas .

God damn.
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>>17901363


Why am I toxic??

Like I'm scared he's going to break up with me. I feel
Like shit.

I even apologized for asking him to tak some shopping and being hostile. How is that toxic .
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>>17901368


Haha true, kinda dumb. But I look crappy right now, so if he's breaking up with me I at least wanna look good when it happens
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>>17901370
>you ask if he has something bad to tell you
>he says no
>you ask if he has something bad to tell you
>you cry

seriously, why does he even bother saying anything to you when you don't listen AT ALL?
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>>17901373
>kinda dumb
>can't afford gas
see, this is why you can't afford shit
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>>17901378


Idk im jusd sensistive I have a lot of anxiety and fear of abandonment
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>>17901380
Idk I guess I do waste gas . I could be better w my
Money . But I don't buy myself anytnknf r spend stuff on things I don't need (food, gas, hygiene )
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kill himm
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>>17901383
so, you're a complete nightmare of a clingy gf who can't stop doing shit that she KNOWS annoys her bf
or do you just not know?
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>>17901384
You driving around is like spending money. Also are you 4channing while driving? If you end up driving more than an hour, that's kind of sad because you could have used that gas to go see him.
Why is the gas worth it to calm you down, but not worth it to go see him?
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If this isn't bait, this woman is hilarious. OP if you are baiting then I admire the skills.

If not, I feel bad for whoever ends up marrying you
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>>17900586
It sounds like you would rather have a sugar daddy than a boyfriend. If you decide you would rather be a prostitute than a girlfriend, check out sites like seekingarrangement.
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>>17901403
at this point, I don't care if it's bait
it's like an interactive reality TV show
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>>17901410
Meh, it's kinda sad. At least reality TV is scripted to have a happy ending.
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>>17901418
I'm all about the emotionally painful ones.
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>>17901425
I'm all about the cringy ones! :D
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>>17900975
How the fuck do you not know someone well enough to know whether or not you want to marry them after two years?
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>>17901614
If marriage is forever, why can't it wait a couple more years?
I've seen that 3 years is kind of a second honeymoon phase. It took me that long to realize how unhealthy my relationship was with my ex
The idea is that you're seeing how someone acts over time, to different and the same situations. It's about establishing a dynamic of who you are to each other. It's about establishing a lifelong trust.

Two years is honestly not that long of time.
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He basically told me that he thinks I'm irresponsible for calling off
Work when I was sick/to look for another job (I'm a waitress and work at a slow dead end restaurant and work 11 hour shifts and leave w. Less than minimum wage) and he can't rely
On me
To support myself in the future for the way I act . Bc I asked him to take me shopping for my bday

I live on my own, pay rent, pY all my bills, cook my food, clean, do my laundry, etc.


He lives with his mom and doesn't even know how to do laundry and has no bills, wakes up at like 5pm everyday. And I'm irresponsible bc I'm trying to find a better job so I'm not in this shittty broke ass position . hahahahahahahaha ahahah that's laughable!!
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>>17901685
What do we do with people like this, as a society?

They can't go to college and get a degree, they're not smart
They're too unstable for the typical pink collar jobs like public relations, human resources, or secretary jobs
but retail and food jobs don't pay much
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>>17901685
You are trying to paint him as the bad guy so that you can rationalize your bad decisions. Whatever he does with his life doesn't change the fact that you are living paycheck to paycheck, using driving as a coping mechanism when you can't afford gas, and buying cheap shoes that you have to replace rather than investing in better shoes for a longer span.
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>>17901692
They usually end up being stay at home moms. That's obviously OP's goal anyway.
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>>17901685
I'm kind of disappointed that this is all he told you. Just that you're irresponsible with your money? Anyone could tell you that. I think he just pussied out of breaking up with you.
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>>17901693
??


I was fucking sick for three months with Lyme disease right before
School started and I couldn't work my face was also paralyzed for a month. When school started I started working again but I didn't have my own money left. I barely make money at th job I have and it's a stressful bad environment / workers. Those ads the only
Shoes I could
Afford when I have other bills. I don't replace them. I don't have
Money to. He is the bad person haha
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>>17901692
I'm in university dimwit and I'm good at it

>>17901699
Well he's free to break up with me because I asked him to take me shopping for my bday. He's not responsible
Enough to be a boyfriend / doesn't wanna take responsility for that which is the real problem here
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>>17901705
It's not his responsibility to support you. He hasn't signed any papers stating that.
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>>17901712
No shit. I asked him
To take me fuxninf shopping for my bday and that's asking him to support me? Ok z that's pretty weird cuz I don't think thYs what I was asking
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>>17901716
He can't afford to take you out shopping for your birthday. You can't ask him to spend more than his budget allows.
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>>17901685 #
Dont move in with him. He is not going to pay his share and will move out at the drop of a hat.
My sister straight out told her boyfriend that she has guys that are willing to look out for her. And that she is giving her all so he should give her money. I dont agree with that but after hearing your story I think my sister is right.
Do not move in with this guy. Who wants to be with someone where you cant fall down. If you lose your job he woukd put you out. Dump him or take a "break". He probably has another girlfriend. Ask him. No attitude. Just write, "do you have another girlfriend".
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>>17901730


Except he can. He's just selfish and doesn't cadre to try to make me happy and not struggle to have anything nice
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>>17901734
True. Ans ice asked him if he has another girlfriend before He said no and he gets defensive
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>>17901305
this actually
walked into the thread seeing the first message, but reading through and I feel for the guy
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>>17901735
That is a very large medical bill he has.
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>>17901745
Probably lying lol
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>>17901705
>which is the real problem here
Not really no. Staying with somebody like that is.
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>>17901752
Me or him
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>>17901749
I see you trust him a lot. I'm sure he appreciates that. Makes him feel real loved.
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>>17901757
Both tbqh. He sounds like an autistic dick. You sound like a needy child. Not the best combination.
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>>17901764
Yeah cuz he totally
Makes me feel loved .. Threatening to leave me if I quit my job bc I make no money there
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>>17900617
>Passive aggressive it's fine mentality
>Goes on to complain about how it isn't fine

Pick one.

Also get a job if money is your issue or find a boyfriend who's more irresponsible with his cash.

He sounds like he's saving income and making some sacrifices to pay for his dental treatment and you're getting pissy because he's told you as much.

Everyone in this thread complaining about autism simply doesn't understand income and budgting, it's just as important as how much you earn if your goal is wealth.
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>>17901772
You realize that the point of wealth is to use it at some point, right?

Besides spending on your SO and family/friends from time to time is just basic decency. It's not like you have to be a sugar daddy and provide for them.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JLsGlfKoAwI
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>>17901126
this is bait.jpg
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>>17901770
When did he threaten to leave you? He just called you immature.
You blow things out of proportion. You're passive aggressive and unforgiving. When faced with a potential conflict, you freak out and start sobbing. You say things that you don't mean, like that it's fine and that you're sorry for asking. You are not fine and you are not sorry for asking. You don't trust him, accusing him of affairs, which means he has to convince you all the time of his fidelity. Your first thought when you struggle with him is that you could easily replace him. You imply that he's not good enough for you. You guilt trip and manipulate. You are narcissistic and really don't care about other people except for what they can do for you. You're vapid, shallow, and can't string a sentence together.
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>>17901716
I could never date someone who writes like this :(
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>>17901779
>You realize that the point of wealth is to use it at some point, right?
No it doesn't, that's lifestyle and choice. If you're a sensible adult you decide a standard of living that doesn't detract from your wealth but makes you satisfied enough to continue.

>Besides spending on your SO and family/friends from time to time is just basic decency. It's not like you have to be a sugar daddy and provide for them.
Which OPs SO has done. Ignoring the clearly manipulative and mental bullshit or bait (genuinely can't tell) she's putting out, she's clearly demonstrably bad with money or at the very least manipulative and untrustworthy with money. If I were OP I'd set boundaries and stick to them, and despite sounding like autistic bait he's being fairly up front and sensible about it.
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>>17901799
>to continue
For what? All the money you don't use or don't reinvest might as well not be there. (Saving doesn't make much sense in the current economy with such small sums)

>he's being fairly up front and sensible about it
Having someone you care about wearing shoes that make them bleed is not too sensible. Yes, it sounds like OP is bad with money but she asks for shit like clothes, which is close to "necessary" spending in her case. Is it really his responsibility? Obviously not. Would a decent boyfriend with some disposable income help her? 100%
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>>17901770
Why don't you just find a new job or take up a second job? Personally when I was studying full time I barely got enough hours to pay bills rent, etc at my retail job because my dickhead manager didn't like me. Whingeing about how unfair underemployment is didn't get me far so I just got a second job as a receptionist at a sports bar.
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>>17901685
>and leave w. Less than minimum wage
First off, that's illegal. The restaurant is required by law to pay at least minimum wage, so if you don't make it with tips they cover the difference. Second, how the fuck do you make less than minimum wage as a waitress? Well I guess from this thread it's not so surprising given that you're probably a fucking vapid cunt to the customers.

>>17901705
>I'm in university dimwit and I'm good at it
What's your major, dipshit? "Good at" university doesn't mean fuck-all if you're an education major or something stupid like that.
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>>17901685
You may as well go to sleep. You have to go to work and these clowns are trying to make it all your fault. Dont even think about that "boyfriend" anymore cause he aint thinking about you. Unless he really is poor and has been lying to you. If he is poor then he needs to be truthful. My first was like that. Broke as all gell but didnt want anyone to know. Good luck. Op.
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>>17901857


It's really slow. And cheap. Sowmtkmes I'll only have four tables in five hours. $25 bill. That's 25$ in tips at 20%.
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>>17901873
>Less than minimum wage
ur doing life rong, quit
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>>17901861


True could be


I've seen some of his money
But who knows desu

Fuck him. He can go find a girl to "rely" on. Lol, and I'll find an actual man.
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>>17901857
> The restaurant is required by law to pay at least minimum wage, so if you don't make it with tips they cover the difference
God I'm fucking sick of this dipshit advice. Yes, it's technically true, but how many times do you think your boss is going to let that happen before they shitcan your ass?
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>>17901879
Holy shit, a good conclusion it the end after all?
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>>17901876


Exactly. That's what I'm trying to do. And he told me I'm irresponsible for calling out to find another job
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>>17901882
>being a slave will teach that restaurant

>>17901888
I meant quit life. Remember, the razor goes down the street, not across the road.
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>>17901788


No. He said a lot of things and ended with "honestly I wnana live with you and have a future with you, but I don't know if I can ever rely on you to take care of ur own when u act like this"
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>>17901903
Where did you get "break up" out of that?
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>>17901909


.. Uh. It kinda implied he doesn't wanna be with me.
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>>17901913
Good god, who would?
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>>17900586
Girl, as a fellow girl, I'm telling you NOW, break up with him. Its not worth it. Its not just about money at this point. People show love in different ways and people want to be loved in different ways. This is terrible and makes you feel unloved, leave. He's making you feel unwanted.

I'm dating a brokeass dude who'll spend his last $5, no hesitation. We share finances and I mostly control his (he has poor money management, and I save vigorously) and we've only been dating seriously for couple months. You guys have been dating TWO YEARS and can't talk openly about it? He knows you're tight on money then he should be more than willing to help out because you guys are in a PARTNERSHIP. Money is a big issue when it comes to dating and the this is a pretty big one.

Dump his ass.
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>>17901918


Yeah. And he's mad at me for wanting to quit so I can find a better job. Like ok? That makes sense. What does it hahe to do with him anyway I pay for all my own fuckkng shit. I asked him to take me fuxninf shopping for my bday. I hope he loses all his money and some girl tells him he's irresponsible bc all he does is play video games drink beer and sleep till fucking it's dark outside.
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>>17901929
I get it that you're upset, but this really isn't the best place for a girl to come vent. Misogynistic guys here will only make you feel worse about things, and to be frank, just can't relate and empathize with you on the level you want them to. Talk to your friends instead. Just end things without feeling too bitter. I know you must feel like you invested a lot of time into this guy but don't hold too much negative feelings and just move on. Work on yourself and your hustle.
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Don't now about you OP, but you both sound unsatisfied. In my relationship money isn't keeping us apart, we share everything and if we fight these issues don't even come back (as in, we don't think about ourselves).

There's probably some trust issues between you too, he sounds like he doesn't really want to be a part of you (he also sounds more in control from the texts that I've read, talking like he can't handle you).

I don't know who's in the right or wrong, but you need to find in your heart what is important to you.
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>>17901929
Try find a better job before you can quit you current one. This is because it's much harder to find a new job when you don't have one. The reason why your boyfriend is telling you not to quit your job is because he knows you won't be able to pay your bills of you do.
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>>17901942


What do you mean he sounds like he's more in control
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>>17901951


I didn't quit I called out, and I was sick so I had a right to, and I'm being harassed by a girl
I work with and my work knows that
>>
who did pursue this relationship?
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>>17901952
I'm just observing from the texts, so I'm not 100% on this, but you seem freaked out right after he says he has to tell you something. Did he try to break up before? I knew guys like this who would rely on their partners fear to control them and talk down on them to keep them in their place. I mean why would he be feeling so uneasy after you felt sad that he wont take you shopping? He tries to defend himself immediately by complaining about you, I find that a tad bit sad to be honest.

But like I said, I don't know the complete story between you two, so you have to figure out if you are truly happy in this.
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>>17900628
Hahah
God I can't stop laughing. This is genius.
>>
After reading this thread it really makes me doubt the capacity of women to be logical and rational, especially the women typing "dump him he doesn't love you" bullshit.

I was the opposite of this guy. I spent a lot of money on my ex-girlfriend, and you know what, maybe not doing it like he did was the better choice. It's fine for him to want a more independent partner.

If you are going to feel "undervalued" and act all insecure because he doesn't spend his money on you just fucking leave. It's better for the both of you but I would put all the blame on you.
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>>17902048
This. OP is 100% batshit.
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What the fuck is wrong with you people on /adv/ encouraging this spoiled dumb cunt?
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>>17900886
best post itt
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>>17901971

Ya. I feel lke whenever I get happy or anytnknf he ruins my happiness for me. I told him I was quitting my job and trying to be happier, and he told
Me
He didn't wanna live with me yet and I just said okay no problem in response and he probably expected me
To be upset, but lke I said I'm being harAssed at work so I've been trying not
To let other people affect me or
Make me sad and angry. And honestly I was doing really good and stuff until he said that, because who says I have a lot
To say but don't wanna text idk he knew it would worry me. And like I said he knew I was trying to be happy again and then all the sudden tells me he doesn't wanna live
With me
Yet and I
Showed no angry or sadness from it and then all the sudden this happens, and all im trying to do is be happy and Indepdent, jusd asked him to take me shopping for my bday
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Rachel, is that you again?
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>>17901918
>We share finances
>we've only been dating seriously for couple months
>>
How do people like this even find 4chan?

I thought literal 12-year-olds on /b/ were as bad as it gets, but this absolutely baffles me.
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>>17901918
>We share finances and I mostly control his (he has poor money management, and I save vigorously) and we've only been dating seriously for couple months
What the fuck is wrong with you
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>>17901929
>he's mad at me for wanting to quit so I can find a better job.
See I had some sympathy for you at the start of the thread but this right here is retarded. I've been in a similar position, so I had to step back and put out applications on my own free time. You arent even talking about pausing to start some education or training as far as I can tell.

Quitting before you have another job lined up because you hate your current one absolutely is immature and short sighted.
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>>17901918
Girl, you're insane.
I've been with my boyfriend for 8 years and I don't say a word about his money. I don't ask him to pay for my things and I don't tell him how much he needs to spend on himself.
Money isn't an issue in dating - unless you're married or living together, you're two separate adults with two separate bank accounts. You manage your shit, they manage theirs. No issue.

If you're old enough to live alone you should be old enough to manage your money wisely and look after yourself.
You don't go, live alone, and then cry and expect others to pay shit for you. Your partner doesn't have any financial obligation towards you unless you're married.
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>>17900586
>2016
>not being an independent woman
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>>17900870
>my ex-husband, who forgot my birthday and didn't want to do christmas and banned us from buying furniture because 'the apartment would be too crowded' to the point where we only had two desks and a mattress on the floor, and didn't contribute to the electric bill for our apartment at all for a whole year.
>Have fun getting fucked in the ass by tranny dick in Thailand, you wimpy fuck.
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>>17902177
thanks for the kek
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>>17901018
Dumb as a rock for sure lol
BAKA
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>>17901126
This passive aggressiveness...
mm-mm, girl, mm-mm
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>>17900586
I can't believe no one said this but

do you suck his dick? and if you do really think if you're good at it

just suck his dick 3 times a day for 2 weeks and then see what happens on your bday
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>>17902405
>see what happens on your bday
OP gets to his dick again?
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What a clusterfuck.
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>>17901225
maybe she should go to mexico to buy her cheap shit clothing and "stuff"
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>>17901812
>For what? All the money you don't use or don't reinvest might as well not be there. (Saving doesn't make much sense in the current economy with such small sums)
That's not what wealth means. Unless you're contributing what you earn to earn more you're not creating wealth.

>Yes, it sounds like OP is bad with money but she asks for shit like clothes, which is close to "necessary" spending in her case.
Then you're reading a different thread. All I saw was passive aggressive attempted manipulation or at the very least lack of communication.

>Would a decent boyfriend with some disposable income help her? 100%
That's why assholes are like opinions.
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>>17900586

>I
>I
>I I I I I I ... I
>I
>I
>I

Seriously grow the fuck up, and stop being a self centered materialistic brat.
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>>17901913#
What he is saying is he will never loan you money. So if you get sick, tough chesse. Do not move in with him or you will be un court in a few months.
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>>17901013
this.
think of this scenario with the genders reversed.
OPs bf is broke as fuck,cant even afford fucking 10$ shoes, and asks for random gifts on top of that?
Chances are people(and especially other girls) would advice OP to dumb her bf.
So why wouldnt it be like that with the girl being the financially unstable one?
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If she starts being extra nice to him he still wont help. He is a moocher.
Some of the guys in this thread just want cheap/free sex with non of the emotions. Your advice is garbage. Thats why you have to play games on women. Either you're handsome or you are supportive. If you are neither you play games like op boyfriend. He is the type to break a womans spirit, marry her, and then pay asian whores $500 because they treat him better- but complain about them using him.
This is most of the guys on l-eddit.
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>>17900586

op - your bf is a total jerk

on the other hand - you are still dating him

see the problem ?
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>>17902806
>your bf is a total jerk
u a woman or sth
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>>17902776
> Asks him for money
> He's the moocher
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>>17900617
Ohio?
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>>17902062
#spoilers
Anyone actually encouraging the dumb fuck to break up is trying to give the guy a better life. This dumb cunt will bring him down, bring him down to China town if they get married. It looks like she fucked the relationship bad enough though, so I don't feel too bad spoiling the plot twist now.
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>>17900693
>>17902008
spotted the newfriends.
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>>17901238
>I can't afford. Manicure

As if you need to buy manicure to get better nails.
You are pathetic and helpless.
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>>17900586
>that stubby finger

loool OP I feel ur bf dont like to spend money on uggos
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Barely read the thread but if anyone needs new boots or a jacket this winter this milsurp site has deals.

Several different boots are 50-75% off.

http://www.militaryclothing.com/tru-spec-military-boot-zipper-desert.aspx

Not a shill but anyone trying to save money might want to see this.
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>>17903068
Please refrain from shilling like this in the future. If OP directly asked where to get cheap clothing it would be al right. But she is not.
You could have given the advice about milsurplus being cheap without shilling a specific site.

>>17901140
>BORDERLINE
>O
>R
>D
>E
>R
>L
>I
>N
>E

Every fucking time.
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OP drop your boyfriend like that worn up pair of shoes of yours
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If youre really struggling with cash as much as you say you are and need new shoes etc, maybe you should be more specific and less of what sounds like a money grubbing whore who gets upset when she doesn't get her way.

In this very thread you displayed what poor decision-making skills by driving around because you're upset immediately after complaining about having no money for gas.

You get defensive when asked what your going to school for but if you're not going for a degree thats going to benefit you in life why are you doing it?

You complain about being broke but want to quit your job? You sound like an idiot.
Look for a job whilst employed.

Overall it's pretty apparent you have poor decision-making skills OP and also resort to being a passive aggressive when you don't get your way.

Do him a favour and dump him yourself, you have nothing to contribute to him or his life that much is obvious.
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>>17903153
When people ask how to kill themselves here, you see posts offering 3rd options, similar to him.

Maybe something like http://lmgtfy.com/?q=milsurp+boots would have been more appropriate, but it just seems like a nitpick to me.
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>>17900586
Kill yourself
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>>17900636
Then get a better job so you can afford better things. You can't rely on any one else, not a boyfriend or family member, to help you. If they give you a hand, that's one thing, but you need to help yourself and not have a sense of entitlement.
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>>17900663
You're scared of change. You need to ask yourself if you'll miss him when you break up. If there are more negatives than positives in your relationship, break up and move on before you waste anymore of each others time.
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>>17901066
Go to a thrift store. You don't need brand new clothes to look good. You can't have high expectations when you can barely afford anything.
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>>17901140
Financialy yes. Unless you have a roommate, rent is expensive bro. It's not really "living on your own" if you're sharing a place with someone.

I'm 27 and still live with my parents because I work in Manhattan making 56k and it's a 45 min commute. If I were to move out, I'd move closer to my job, but a studio or 1 bedroom is at least an average of $1600 a month, not including utilities. If I could find a studio or 1 bedroom close to my job for around $800-$1000 I'd move out in a heartbeat.
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>>17901066
I work in an office in Manhattans Financial District and have been wearing the same boots for 5 winters straight. Nobody gives a fuck.
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You sound like you're unhappy with yourself regarding your circumstance, but you shouldn't blame it on anyone else.

What would you do if you broke up with him? You can't use your boyfriend as an excuse as to why you don't have new shoes.

You can't play a victim and you can't blame anyone else for your problems and for the way you act.

Learn to take care of yourself without relying on others to take care of you.

Want more money? Look for a better paying job. Does the better paying job look for certain requirements? Try to gain those requirements.
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>>17900586
Wow. He hasn't taken you out in over 2 months? I at the very least go out once a month with a person I date.

But to be fair you are kind of a greedy bitch. I'd dump you within the first month. I think you two should just split
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You sound like a miserable human being OP. I wouldn't even want to be friends with you.
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>>17900586
This is either a decent troll or you're a stupid entitled bitch. You deserve NOTHING.
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>my girlfriend is a waitress at a local wing joint and averages $16-$24 an hour
>non-slip shoes are $20 at wal-mart
>your boyfriend is kind of a douche if he literally never treats you despite living at home
>you should have more money left over after your paychecks though
>if my girlfriend expected me to take her shopping I wouldn't like it either
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>>17901913
Sounds like he's still living with his parents because he doesn't want to live with someone in a deadend job with no aspirations, who can't manage her own finances. At least this nigga has his head on straight.
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>>17900586
yeah girlfriend you totally need a man who will throw money at you and give you whatever you want omg this cheap loser omg

lmao poorfag
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>>17901954
You dont have to have a boyfriend and not everyone has to like you. You called off work to avoid a chick. F her. Your boyfriend is using you. F him. Just focus on your section at work and ignore her. You need to get at peace. Your life is cluttered. Started downgrading. Friends that are too much, quit dealing with them. Get a regional cell or a free lifeline phone and call it a day. Apply for govt food benefits, 6 months can really help out. Start jitneying. F uber. Ask your neighbors if they want to pay you a few bucks to get dropped off. Became a nurse assistant. If you can change an adult diaper you can make a nice money with on the job training.
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is the shit show over? :(
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>>17904178
I was really enjoying the glimpse into a gold digger's mind.
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>>17900586
>My boyfriend won't spend money on me and it's making me resent him..
lol fuck off
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>>17900636
1. You're an adult in a free economy. Let's focus on Adult. Adult means you can fix your own problems.

2. Expecting a boyfriend of only 2 years to treat you like a wife is selfish and stupid. You are a fool, and I think he's in the right not to soend his own mkney on you if that's what he feels like doing.

3. Expanding on the last point, even if you were married you have no right to demand him to buy you things you could get yourself. Save $20 a week somehow, it's your life, and buy your damn self some good work shoes. Get a better job, skip a semester, whatever, but YOU ARE AN ADULT AND YOU GET TO DO WHAT YLU WANT AND NEED TO DO FOR YOU.

4. Your boyfriend probably recognizes your passive-aggressive bullshit for what it is and isn't feeding into it. At the risk of sounding like a broken record, the state of your life is on YOU and no one else. If you are above going to goodwill or walmart yourself and getting a ddcent pair of work shoes for $40 you're a shitshow and deserve sore feet.

5. Quit fucking whining.
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>>17900617
Dump this guy. Like seriously. What will staying do? Nothing good. You could get married and then realize exactly how much you resent him and will end up leaving him later on anyway. Or stay and be miserable. He sounds very uptight and cheap.
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>>17904454
Any grown woman with a job that expects a man to spend his money on her deserves to be alone.
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>>17900638
ONLY two years? Fuck I hope in a year my bf doesn't treat me like that cause damn. Why the fuck be in a relationship for so long when the other person clearly doesn't care for you and can't spend $50 on an outfit or a decent pair of shoes?

OP if I were you I wouldn't be sleeping with a guy who treated me like that. Fuck that. If you can't at least be nice and understanding that the money situation sucks and at least treat your lady to some things she needs then I'm not spreading my legs for you or sucking your dick. Hell I wouldn't even give the guy the privilege of the "boyfriend/girlfriend" status.
Shit if my boyfriend told me how bad his shoes were and that his feet bled because of it and I had the funds I'd buy him two pairs of name brand shoes. Simply cause I care and I hate to know he's not able to at least work comfortably. It's called caring for the person you are in a relationship with.
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>>17900832
She sees gifts as an expression of love because that's her love language if he doesn't get that shit then she needs to ditch him. It's that simple. Now throw in that other shit she mentioned and he's an asshole as well.

Op you two are not meant to be together.
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this is why I can't stand Western women.
This is actually the standard, in my own experience as well

Where the fuck can I possibly find a woman that's not as shallow and entitled as
>>17900586
>>17902806
>>17904454
>>17904467
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I see two extremes on this thread.

Fuck you guys are retarded.

Op this guy is trash. You aren't a gold digger, you're far from it. Get off this god forsaken website, break up with that dick, have some fucking dignity and spread your legs for a guy who's actually going to care about you. I mean fuck.

And if you like being spoiled who gives a fuck, as long as you aren't driving anyone into debt or making them broke. There are guys out there that would ENJOY spending their money on you, because they care.
Source- I have a boyfriend who genuinely cares, and likes to spoil me. But I'm not used to it so I will usually decline excessive gifts/spoiling. The key is don't take advantage. Keep that in mind. Also when you find a good guy make sure you give him some good head ;)
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>>17904487
I'm not entitled I just know how much value a man will put on my pussy. There's no way I'm going to give it to him when he's being a douchebag. It's also not all about gifts and money, it's compassion and knowing he cares about you. Actions speak louder than words.
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>>17904503
Op :
>be me
>3 year relationship
>guy never gets me anything, not even on my birthday
>basically takes me for granted

>be me now
>2 year relationship
>guy is constantly spoiling me
>i spoil him back
>feel good and loved

dump that cheapskate
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>>17904487
Also the last man I was with was a broke motherfucker. But for some time I believed he loved me. And it was enough. That might've lasted too, had he not been an irresponsible, lying and lazy fuck.
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>>17904472
Never have I read such a load of horse shit. This entitled girl has an unreasonable expectation to be taken care of in a free market. If you're so self-centered that you honestly believe somebody has to buy you shit to be worthy of your companionship then you're mentally fucking ill.
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>>17904520
Obviously not every woman is going to be like that.

If you love a woman/man enough you will do what makes them happy/brings back them joy. If a gift every now and then makes that person happy then so be it. It doesn't need to be expensive or anything like that. It could be their favorite candy or something stupid like that. All she's asking is that her boyfriend care more about her. which is understandable, she's been letting this asshole plow her for two years. It would be a different story if they just started dating.
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>>17904514
how you fell for the guy and stayed? The hope to fix broken shit?
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Hey, take it from me:
When you start second questioning everything he says, that's when you know that it's the end.
All the stuff going around in your head are true, if he cared enough, he wouldn't have let you second guess every word he says.
Leave him, it'll hurt at first so you'll have to keep yourself distracted. Work on yourself and try to do some self-developing.
It'll be his loss.
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Fuck off niggers with vags
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Drop your paypal m'lady ill buy anything your heart desires.
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>>17900586
Ignore the trolls they're just being jerks, if you have Kik or something I can always be there to talk.
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I'm banging this cute blond chick that's kind of chubby yet would be at least an 8/10 if she wasn't fat. She's a 6 though. Her clueless manlet boyfriend spoils the fuck out of her and I just give her my 8x6 inch dick about once or twice a week without spending a penny on the fat whore.

I'm still young and have only started to become sexually alpha recently so I'm not the most experienced bull but this seems to be what tons of girls are doing these days.
She says she is very happy with how her life is now.

Just find a rich beta guy and cuckold him and you get the best of both worlds. Awesome sex and a guy who spoils you. It's win-win.
I picked this chick up when her boyfriend was in a. separate part of the grocery store. She was wearing yoga pants with a very visible black thong.

I could tell she was giving me fuck me eyes when she smiled at me, I just went up to her grabbed her ass, told her she was hot and asked for her number. She said that she has a boyfriend and I told that I don't mind. She just smiled and took my phone from my hand as I handed it to her.

Her boyfriend doesn't really like me, but she just gives him the classic ''why are you so jealous/insecure, he's just my best friend'' kind of bullshit

I also have a gf but that's another story
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>>17900586

I hope your boyfriend realizes his enormous mistake

Hopefully he dumps you and finds a good wife who respects him and raises a beautiful family
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>>17905521

>Fucking a 6/10
>she has a bf
>you have a gf

Youre an omega

T. Alpha
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>>17905535
My gf is a 10/10 (as far as Asians go, I mean) fun sized Jap and she is extremely submissive. Don't spend on a dime on her either, we always split the bill, so to speak

I like white girls better, but I'm yet to meet a white girl that is as utterly submissive as she is
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>>17905546
Enjoy your 1/2 Asian sons. They sure will appreciate you bringing them into the world.
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>>17905557
Nah, I wouldn't waste my big dick genes like that
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>>17905560
Does your gf know you never plan on marrying her and having a family? How did she react if you did tell her? Some might say she deserves to know.
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This was a really good read. I had a nice laugh.
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>>17905521
>blond chick
Blonde.

Men are blond, women are blonde.
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>>17905562
I told her I don't want kids and she says really wants to have my kids someday and practically begs me like ''pleeeeaasse'' but she is also extremely submissive like I said so she listens to everything I tell her and never argues
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Without reading the thread, i have a simple solution. Find a man who has the drive to do something with his life and a drive to make a relationship work, not just for convenience or for a good lay.

Ask yourself, would you be proud of this man if her were your son? Since the answer would be no, drop him because your kids are gonna turn out like him and you. And I know you wouldn't be proud of a daughter being with a man like him.
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>>17905603
She wants kids with you and you never intend to have kids with her. She does everything for you. Does she deserve better?
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>>17905521
I have a big dick to and I have a sexual fetish for spoiling my girl. But then again, I was born rich
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>>17905606
I turned her into a size queen and it's hard for girls to find a bigger dick than mine
I fuck the shit out of her pretty much every night, eat her pussy and always make an effort to make her cum so I think she is quite satisfied

She also sees me as high status because all her Japanese friends want to fuck me. Her best friend told me that she tells them I have a huge dick and am amazing in bed

She's a good women, and I care about her more than I ever have for a girlfriend, but I enjoy being a selfish person, and I'm pretty nice to her anyways.
I'm not abusive, and I don't insult her or show anger to her
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>>17905620
As long as you intend to settle down with her for life, you don't seem to be betraying her the expectations she has earned for herself by treating you like a king.
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>>17905521
>>17905546
>>17905560
>>17905603
>>17905620
Lol what is this RP
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>>17905665
>someone had sex on my Chinese cuckold porn cartoon enthusiast forum
>must be an RPer lol
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fucking whores. earn your own money
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>>1790554
I hope your girlfriend finds out about your post.

I'm sure if you look to Eastern Europe you'll find what you're looking for. Stop taking Asians away from everyone else!
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