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I think I ruined my life

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Please help, serious posts only. I seriously think I am fucked.

Preface: I am not on 4chan normally. I only came on here because I cannot have what I'm writing to get back to me because like I said, my life will be fucked.

Background: I am married to a literal fucking unicorn. I have been a RP subscriber for as long as I've been chasing women but this one is different. She is brilliant, well-educated, well-raised, used to be a 10 but still a solid 8 after having kids, sexually eager to please. She's an outspoken Trump supporter and loud anti-feminist (and dat ass.. desu). She has been faithful through all of my fuckups (including getting us homeless and getting a dishonorable discharge), including cutting ties with her shitty friends and family who told her to leave me.

Now: We are in a really great place. I've been able to get her to stay home now that I am employed and making more than her. She's really really happy, believe me.

Problem: So a few months ago, I found kik and started moving from basic porn to more interactive stuff. Tl;dr, I ended up meeting a girl at a hotel nearby and doing stuff.

Now my wife is wondering what's different but I can't exactly tell her that I fucked some fat, tatted girl with a lip ring because I still have no fucking clue how it happened. Last night she tried to give me a bj and I felt sick to my stomach. Ended up just going into work early instead of sleeping next to her.

What do.

Pic is what I found on her phone. She sent this to my mom asking what to do (wtf? I will admit she is a little psycho for doing that, but overall quality girl)
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>>17793587
Serious post here. You don't deserve a unicorn. Go be with the rhino.
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>>17793587
Sounds like her "Shitty" friends and family were right for not wanting her to be with you.
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>>17793587
Also file name is incorrect. My PC's time/date isn't up to date.
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>>17793596
Wtf, I was serious. I actually need /adv/ troll somewhere else. >>17793595
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>>17793596
This.

What'd you do to deserve a DIShonorable discharge?
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>>17793603
Doesn't fucking matter. That was just a side comment anyway. Can't you shits just hep with what's happening now?
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>what do
Confess, and suffer the consequences. One thing I have learned in life is women will always find out the truth. Sure, you'll lose your marriage and kids. But that's your fault.

>I don't know how it happened wah wah wah

Cry me a fucking river. You're a weak willed faggot who only sees the grass on the other side. You fucked up and now you're trying to weasel out of paying what you owe. You're gonna disregard this advice and lie to the face of a woman who would do anything for you. You couldn't even adhere to the simple task of keeping your dick in your pants. Pussy ass bitch. Hope you remember tricks for being homeless and alone. Fucking loser.
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>>17793608
>>17793598
Fuck you, OP. You're a piece of shit for the dishonorable discharge alone, that's pathetic.

Nobody here is obligated to help your dumbass. How can you have something that's so good, and still feel inclined to cheat?

She's going to find out, and leave you like she should have a long time ago it seems.

I hope you're miserable ;^)
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>>17793608
I'm going to type these steps very v-e-r-y slowly so you can try to understand what im saying. Good luck.

Stop being a whore
Delete kik
Pokerface it
??????
Profit!!!
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>>17793610
>you'll lose your marriage and kids
No way. She is way too invested. There's no way she would leave. Plus she can't afford to raise kids on her own.

Isn't it better not to tell her if I know she's going to stay anyway? I'm just trying to figure out how to feel less shitty and maybe how not to get so wrapped up again.
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>>17793616
Is there a way I can maybe get her to cheat too to even things out? That way it's on her?
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>>17793615
>still feel inclined to chea
Like I said, I wasn't inclined. It was just porn until it wasn't anymore.
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>>17793587

So it's a "I have a really great relationship but I decided to get intimate with someone else because fuck her" episode

Do yourself and her a favor and just break up with her. If you can do this to her then clearly you're not satisfied with what's going on between the both of you. You didn't ruin your life,you just found the path of where you want to be.
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>>17793615
>You're a piece of shit for the dishonorable discharge alone, that's pathetic
I'm in the process of getting turning into an "under honorable conditions" so BTFO
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>>17793626
>break up with her
Sbe fucking packed me a lunch with a "can't wait to see you tonight ;)" on the napkin. Dumping her is way too cruel.

And like I said, she's perfect. Why should she have to be a single mom of multiple kids just because of a moment's indiscretion on my part.
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>>17793623
>Is there a way I can maybe get her to cheat too to even things out? That way it's on her?

Kek did you go full retard? It's your fault and you still want to weasel out of it.
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>>17793637
IT's not like she's a fucking princess. She goes on 4chan all the time and games with guys on Steam while the kids are napping. How is that different than fucking cheating STFU
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>>17793637
>It's your fault
Actually, I only got on kik when her dad died and she got all weepy. So really, when you think about it, there should be a way to make her apologize for it.

(Ok, I'm sort of kidding, but isn't it a little possible?)
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>>17793618
Hahaha hahahahahahaha
I didn't think people this retarded actually existed. You must be American

You're gonna do what you want and we all know it, you piece of shit. Help yourself. She's great and you're a fucking loser scumbag and you're going to lose her and cry your gay little eyes out and die alone.
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>>17793635
don't act like you're doing her a service by staying with her and pretending to love her after you abused her trust. it's cruel to continue to lie to her the way you are.

you're disgusting. leave her alone.
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>>17793645
>She's great and you're a fucking loser scumbag and you're going to lose her and cry your gay little eyes out and die alone.

Ok well is it better to dump her or to tell her an have her dump me?

Plus this is a marriage not a break up so if I just don't file it's not a break-up.. right?
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>>17793608
People on /adv/ sometimes want to get a feel for what kind of person you are before they advise you, so if you mention something about yourself they might ask you to expand upon it to learn more about you.
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>>17793618
>how do i feel less shitty about something I know I should feel guilty about?

Not from going to 4chan expecting backpats, that's for sure.
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>>17793649
>pretending to love her
I do love her. She's pretty much my best friend and the person who gets all my jokes and likes all my shows. Like I said, I'm not proud of what I did. I just know her and know that she's in love with me and will forgive me so I just want to minimize the damage.

Plus her birthday is tomorrow so I don't want to ruin that.. And, shit, now I have to deal with that too.
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>>17793660
>Not from going to 4chan expecting backpats, that's for sure.
Come on, we've all fucking done it. ho's are everywhere, it's just a matter of time.
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>>17793629
>Getting a dishonorable to begin with
You already lost, sorry m8. And you really are a piece of shit,

>>17793624
More excuses, it's always someone elses fault right?

Oh well, considering your inflated ego I doubt this girl is as much of a "unicorn" as you say lmao.
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>>17793639
I thought you said you liked her and that you thought she was perfect. Now you don't like her and consider her video games as just as bad as cheating on you? Then leave her.
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>>17793662
I've never done it. When I have sex with someone that's not my partner, I tell them about it and invite them to join.
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>>17793665
>I doubt this girl is as much of a "unicorn" as you say

You're right. She's a lazy fuck who games while I go to work. Also, i'm pretty sure she's gay because last week she said she'd consider a threesome if that was why our sex life was tanking.

>>17793666
She has my kids dude. I'm not paying child support for an entire brood. Bitch won't suck me dry.
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>>17793635

It's far crueler to have something you absolutely cannot bring yourself to confide to your significant other in. Besides stuff like this isn't a one time "I had a bad time, that's enough" thing. Temptation,curiosity or a combination of both always has you swing back to it. It's in your system and doing it once already shows that you don't have the defenses against it. Hell if the girl was hot I don't doubt that you would sing a far different tune.

People who care for eachother just simply do not have this kind of behavior.
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>>17793665
>no longer assisting in blowing up children

Back to /pol/ army bro
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>>17793668
There wasn't time. Like I said, I didn't realize I was doing it until after. Haven't you ever looked up after 6 hours and wondered how you just spent 6 hours jerking off? Same sort of thing.
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OP irl
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>>17793650
You can still have a failed marriage where you hate eachother's guts even without an official divorce. Or she can file for the divorce and have lawyers force you to comply. You can absolutely break up with somebody after marriage.
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>>17793677
>People who care for eachother just simply do not have this kind of behavior.
See, this is helpful. What do you mean? Do you think she's just with me for the paycheck?
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>>17793639
>>17793644

>how is that different than fucking cheating
>different than cheating
> playing game =/= cheating

Kek you really are retarded. So you cheated out of spite now? Also the whole kik thing, just delete and move on, no use trying to justify her father's death with you whoring around.
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Yeah so OP you really are a horrible person. You're calling us shits and expecting us to only tell you what you want to hear. You're calling anyone who disagrees with you shit. The first anon was right. Go be with the rhino because you don't even deserve that. You deserve suicide to be perfectly honest. You are not a good person and can never be a good person.
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>>17793683
lol baaascialy
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>>17793682
No, never. I think you have a problem. Maybe you should actually talk to a doctor if your sexual urges are so strong you literally think of your infidelity as a blackout.
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>>17793635
>Dumping her is cruel
Nice justification, retard. She'd be better off it you left.

>>17793639
>Playing video games with guys online is now the same as fucking someone besides your partner

Is this bait
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>>17793690
Okay, but can we just think about what is best for her from this point on (like, I'm not the shittiest husband, I do care). Assuming I cut out all porn, and just work extra hard at making her feel loved, isn't that enough? Do I honestly have to tell her? Wasn't there a quote like don't make her feel like shit to make you feel better?
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>>17793696
>bait
I don't know what that means but she emotionally disconnects during CSGo. Like when she is sneaking around trying to knife people she won't listen to anybody else.

Plus, she's not perfect, she's scared of the dark. If I leave she has to sleep alone. That's not exactly fair is it?
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You're human garbage who doesn't deserve advice even from the shitters here.

Despite that I'll give you advice: the truth will set you free. Turn your life around and stop making excuses.
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>It's an OP is a colossal fuckup and thinks that other people on /adv/ are colossal fuckups so he comes here for pats on the back but ends up getting BTFO and called out for his retardation episode
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>>17793700
You won't be telling her to make you feel better. You have to tell her so that she can help you to not do it again (if she even wants to bother). You cannot trust yourself to do better on your own. You have already failed, and that's your proof that you can't be trusted.

Besides, if by some crazy happenstance she finds out anyway, that's worse than if you told her about it first.
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>>17793707
OP is clearly just fucking with people.
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>>17793711
>she can help you to not do it again
fuck no. She's not my mom. I don't want her up in my shit .
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>>17793705
>the truth will set you free. T
So when do I tell her? After Turkey day? After her birthday? Right now? Is there an etiquette to this?
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>>17793703
Do you really think she'd have a hard time finding another guy? I'm sorry OP, but you're not exactly the cream of the crop from what you've been telling us. If this girl so much as partially lives up to the "Unicorn" descriptor, then it will be easy for her to find someone better.

The reality is, you made a huge fucking mistake and now you're scared, right? You don't want to pay child support on the off chance of divorce, but you also feel disgusted around your partner because you know what you did was wrong, even if you try to pretend that it wasn't on here.

You won't be able to keep up the charade, and I'm willing to bet that you're the type of person where this might sit on your conscience for a while.

Honestly, you don't deserve her. You're just trying to paint her is a shitty bitch (And you're not doing a good job at this either) so that it becomes more easy to justify your infidelity.
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>>17793720
THEN WHY DID YOU MARRY HER?

Marriage isn't a contract where you get a fuck buddy to live with you and pump out kids: you two are supposed to be sharing your life together, and that means sharing this shit too.

Read your vows again and actually pay attention to what the words mean this time.
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>>17793725
>Do you really think she'd have a hard time finding another guy?
Who the fuck would want to support another man's kids? Plus everyone who makes more than me in this town I'm related to.
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>>17793675
I'm curious, tell me your wives flaws. But please look at it objectively, as much as possible anyway.
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>>17793730
>Read your vows again
Lol we wrote our own vows I don't even remember mine. Her's were a fucking book and I zoned out.
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>>17793724
No, there's no etiquette. It's best to rush into it before you chicken out and change your mind. If you put it off because it's a holiday you'll just continue to find excuses and never do it.
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I truly hate people like you, OP. Fuck you for taking this girl for granted. Very few women will drop their friends and family just to be with some fuck up who got a dishonorable discharge (seriously, how fucking pathetic) Now you go and cheat on her with some fat, tatted whore and act like the victim? You deserve whatever's coming to you and I hope it's divorce papers.
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>>17793738
Dude, that shit was probably important to her, and really important to your relationship with eachother. If you wrote your own vows then it's even more fucked for you to forget about them. Go dig those out of the attic or some shit.
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>>17793739

In fact, you should leave this thread now to do it. You can come back to it afterwards.
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>>17793736
Ok
1) She's gained weight. She was waifu thin when we got married but she is more like a dumptruck now.

2) She spends way too much time on the internet.

3) She doesn't get along with my mom.

4) She has talked to other people about our problems before. (I did damage control, but she was really inappropriate going to my parents about private stuff)

5) She doesn't dress nice since she started staying home with the kids - mostly yoga pants and tanks. Nothing nice.

6) She is constantly going on about government conspiracies which are total bullshit which just proves she's a weak-minded female.

7) There's more.
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>>17793745
>Go dig those out of the attic or some shit.
I left our wedding disk in a computer I had to return. Pretty sure it's gone for good.
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>>17793753
This is a shit excuse. Ask your wife if she has it.
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>>17793749
>4chan user
>government conspiracies

Somebody's gotta go warn this chick over on /x/ that her husband's a dick.
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>>17793758
No I got it from my brother who taped our wedding. She was really upset at me for losing it and cried a lot. I felt like shit but she seriously brings it up in fights like 5 years later. It's ridiculous.
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>>17793765
>ridiculous
You sure are.
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>>17793762
Seriously fucking don't. I don't know what /x/ is but I know she's been on /pol/ from her history. But she's cooking a fucking turkey so you won't find her anyway.
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every time OP responds i am continually surprised at how shitty he is.

OP, nobody is offering you advice on how to dig yourself out of this because you don't deserve it. you don't deserve to be in a happy marriage with this lady, you don't deserve our advice.

tell her you fucked up, let her move on. you're literally trash.
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>>17793738
I was trying my best to stay nonjudgmental about you, since I know people make mistakes and we can be shittier than usual depending on the people and circumstance. But...
>Doesn't even remember vows he wrote himself
>Loving wife put effort and care into hera
Damn can't help but feel like you're taking her for granted. Really shitty.

Anyway, I don't have enough experience to know what to tell you but my gut says be communicative and tell her. Let her decided what she wants to do with that information. If she leaves you, good for her. If she stays, then listen to her and actively try to be a better husband.
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>>17793770
/pol/ then, thanks. We just need to save the OP image stolen from her phone and post it somewhere over there to prove we're legit. She can't cook turkey forever.
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>>17793778
You pieces of shit.
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>>17793780
Like I said, tell her before someone else does.
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>>17793782
Fuck you is that the kind of bday present you would want? I think not shithead.
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>>17793778
>stolen
It's not stolen if I pay for it.
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>>17793785
Honesty from my loving husband who is so afraid of losing me he'll put his honor on the line to start his first step towards becoming a better man? Yeah, seems like a better gift than having anonymous tell me I've been cheated on.
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>>17793795
>cheated on
Define "cheated on"
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>>17793785
STOP PRETENDING THAT THE ONLY REASON YOU DON'T WANT TO TELL HER IS BECAUSE YOU'RE AFRAID YOU'LL HURT HER FEELINGS

YOU DON'T WANT TO TELL HER BECAUSE YOU'RE ASHAMED AND AFRAID THAT SHE WILL KICK YOUR ASS TO THE CURB

DO YOU WANT YOUR SPOUSE TO CHEAT ON YOU? I THINK NOT SHITHEAD, BUT YOU STILL FUCKING DID IT.
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>>17793799
One partner in a relationship fucks someone outside of that relationship, without the knowledge or consent of the other partner.
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>>17793807
So webcams sexting are good? I don't need to tell her about that shit?
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>>17793809
"fucks" here doesn't need to only apply to penis-in-vagina sex, it can apply to a wide range of sexual activity.
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>>17793809
fucking doing anything sexual with someone outside of the relationship without the knowledge or consent of your partner is cheating.

jesus christ i'm starting to think OP is just an elaborate troll.

of course that is still cheating. just like if she sent a picture of her boobs to a guy. that is being unfaithful.
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>>17793804
>SHE WILL KICK YOUR ASS TO THE CURB
Actually no. The last time she saw a questionable phone notification she brought it up to my mom to ask for "advice." (She's never had my password. I ve changed my settings since then too) I made sure my mom knew she was just being crazy so I don't think she'll get any support for leaving and it's not like she has anywhere to go.
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>>17793820
Okay, well. That's the grey area. What counts as standard every guy does it porn and what counts as cheating.
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>>17793821
Like what exactly all do I have to confess to? And she sends me boob shots so that's cheating because anyone can get into the cloud right? Plus, who knows who else she is sending those to. I'm pretty sure she's cheating on me too
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>>17793823
wow your mom is really involved in your life isn't she? what the fuck dude.
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>>17793587
Damn i read all this cringey shit. How people like you stil have a relationship is beyond me. Youre sick OP. At least fuckers like you make /adv entertaining.
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>>17793832
Yeah, like I said this bitch keeps talking to my mom about our shit because "she's the only person who would hear things out fairly" But like I said I fixed that and now they don't get along and don't really talk. Nonissue.
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>>17793835
>At least fuckers like you make /adv entertaining.
Glad someone is enjoying my pain. Fuck you.

Am I seriously worse than nobody? Bitch is scared of the dark literally. She would crawl back just because I have gns.
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>>17793749
Doesn't this make up for anything?
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>>17793843
Okay you must be trolling me brother. Very entertaining thread either way. On one hand youre an autisimo shitposter, in the other you really are a dumb mong. Thanks for the keks. Made my afternoon shit a good one.
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>>17793843
>My spouses flaws justify my infidelity
This is what you're saying. OP, no matter how much you try to tear her down, you're still the one who's in the wrong for cheating.

Curious as to how much $ you make per year tho.
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>>17793843
oh great now he's braggin about his giant negro scrotum
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>>17793853
>autisimo shitposter,
What does autisimo mean?
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>>17793829
thanks for making it obvious you are a massive troll.
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>>17793829
And why do you think she's cheating on you?
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>>17793854
>Curious as to how much $ you make per year tho.
More than you shit head.

Can I not ge>>17793853
>autisimo
No idea what this even means

>>17793855
You know I mean guns. Like she gets so scared at night when she goes to lock everything up its actually pretty adorable.
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>>17793875
She's constantly trying to be friends with my friends and she plays with them all the time online. She has Steam messages that don't back up anywhere so I have no idea what they are saying.
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>>17793875
Plus like I said she has zero girl friends. They haven't spoken to her since a cruise we went on.
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long shot but does your wife do asmr?
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>>17793877
>More than you, shithead.
You sound like your from a podunk town, so I doubt it.
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>>17793891
She has mentioned it. No idea what it is. Sounds fucking weird.
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>>17793891
Isn't it like hypnosis? Like I said, she goes on about conspiracy shit all the time.
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>>17793894
does your wife's name begin with an n?
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>>17793898
I'm not doing 20 questions with you shithead and no.

>>17793893
Like anyone would take on a woman with 4 kids. I am her best option you fucking white night SJW.
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>>17793587
>Pic is what I found on her phone
0/10
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>>17793901
Fuck you how else am I supposed to get evidence that she's being a total cunt.
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>>17793900
i thought we were having fun desu senpai
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>>17793587
OP is obviously trolling guys. Probably has nothing better to do.
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>>17793900
Lmao, you're seriously afraid of her leaving you if she finds out, aren't you?

I didn't even mention your wife finding another guy and you immediately jump to that.

But what is it, OP? 30k? 40k a year? kek
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Assuming you never cheated and found out your wife cheated on you and never told you about it what would you do?
Actual cheating though, like fucking another guy.
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>>17793908
It's not funny when people are talking about finding her threads and telling her. I came on here for legit help on how to reform without telling her and fucking things up. You all are little shits finding ways to fuck me up even more.>>17793917
I'd fucking leave the nasty whore. >>17793914
No I don't think she will. I don't even think she'll believe me. And that's more than the majority of this town. Plus I'm not a fucking mexican. She would never put out for a wetback.

And no I'm not afraid of shit.
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>>17793917
There's no way in hell though. She'd kill herself first. She gets awkward around medical staff.
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>>17793921
By not telling her, you are fucking things up, because she will likely find out someday.

If she is as you describe, I'll take her off your hands. I know you're just a troll though so while we're pretending
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>>17793921
>I'd fucking leave the nasty whore.

Why do you think you should deserve better? You're a nasty whore for cheating, deal with it, if you can at least tell her first before she finds out then maybe you'll be able to salvage this relationship. That's a big maybe.

Look at yourself from someone else's perspective.
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>>17793926
You are probably 12 and don't fucking deserve her. Fuck you. >>17793928
And it's not like she didn't see it coming. She found some questionable material on our home PC and instead of flipping out made me a picnic by the lake and told me she would stand by me if I decided to come out of the closet LOLOLOL. She's such a drama queen.
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>>17793587

Op what the fuck is the context of that pic, is the blue her or the gray her? If it's from her phone I assume you're the gray one acting stupid.

You're an idiot.

Don't be an idiot and tell her anything. Keep it to yourself and fuck her and stop cheating dumbass
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>>17793618
>>>17793610
>I'm just trying to figure out how to feel less shitty
That usually comes with being honest about your major fuckup to your wife.
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>>17793932
>Don't be an idiot and tell her anything. Keep it to yourself and fuck her and stop cheating dumbass

Finally! Thank you, and I'll work on it.
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>>17793644
>I cheated on you because your dad died and you were sad about his death
I really fucking hope you're just pulling our leg.
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>>17793944
kik is not fucking cheating you retard. No contact. And she like totally shut down. It was fucking ridiculous.
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>>17793825
Well, you should share it all with her and figure out what she's okay with.
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>>17793847
No.
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>>17793939
Finally i found a piece of advice that "I" wanted to hear. Im just going to ignore everyone calling me a shit head. Even tho they're right. Wew.
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You truly don't deserve her. That's obvious from this thread. You are not a good person and do not deserve help, as many have already stated. You simply do not want to accept this reality. You ignore or tell off anyone who doesn't say what you want to hear. You aren't looking for advice. You're looking for validation of the things you've already decided to do. You've already decided to lie to her, to perpetuate dishonesty and distrust, to treat her like her feeling are not valid, and to think of her as an idiot.

You cheated on her. There is no way around that. It does not matter if there was physical contact or not. You cheated. I don't care if you want to redefine what that means. You don't get to define what cheating is. You cheated. And you are not willing to accept that. You are lying to yourself. You cheated.

You are a disgusting person. You have belittled her in nearly every post you've made here. You talk about her as if she isn't human. You literally refer to her as a different species in your first post. You do not care about her or her feelings, you only want her as an object. You do not deserve her.

You are not a good person. You do not deserve her.
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>>17793957
Because you keep your fap stash out in the open. There is a line fuckface. Not everything is relevant. It literally was indistinguishable from porn until I was getting in the car. Granted, I don't know why I did that but it was 4am and nothing makes a lot of sense at that point.
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>>17793904
She's not, though. And why would you need it?
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>>17793939

Can you explain the OP pic tho?

/adv/ is full of moralfags. The only crisis you seem to be having is one of conscience. Get the fuck over it.

Self reflect. Recognize what things lead you to cheat(lack of sex, no kinks, etc) and communicate with her to change more things. Have a threesome if you need to scratch the itch. Just don't cheat. It's really fucked up to your partner and even if she doesn't know it's a terrible thing to do to someone you love. I've done it didn't tell her and felt guilt it but have learned from my mistake to never to do it again.

/adv/ is full of 15 year olds who have never been in relationships and aren't aware of the tedium of marriage and sexual boredom.

Also, OP, I can tell you're retarded. Seriously get your life together man.
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>>17793968
Is there a SINGLE RP A:PHA HERE WTAF
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>>17793968
this is the most accurate post in this thread
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>>17793968
OP BTFO NIGGER
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Fuck you OP.

You blame everyone while you fucked up and this whole time you've been trying to minimize how bad your actions were.

You had something great and you're blowing it. Cheating in the first place on your unicorn and now you're bitching about her? None of the flaws you listed are even that bad and you're just a picky fuck who's also a hypocrite. If she cheated on you, you don't seem like a guy who would be that understanding and her conspiracy theories are probably fucking reasonable, but you don't want to hear them or engage with her in a friendly debate. I shouldn't be surprised, you were in the army and were such an idiot that you got a dishonourable discharge. You are so fucking lucky, yet so fucking dumb and when we call you out, you say that we're trolling. Your "feeble minded female" wife and smarter than your ass.

I have some advice. Stop being such a fussy prick, own up to your mistakes (without telling her of course), accept that you are a scumbag and now stop being one. Appreciate what you have and try to make it last. Life isn't perfect and you're fucking it up by getting yourself into these things.

Rule 1. Don't cheat

Rule 2. Make sure your wife respects you

Rule 3. Respect your wife

Rule 4. Stop being such a pompous prick and show some Goddamn empathy for others

You're just like the cheating women that you and your "Red Pill" buddies lament for their rotten behaviour, but you call her "feeble minded".

My God you're a fucking idiot. Grow a pair of balls and become a man instead of the edgy preteen who blames women and everyone else for his faults.
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>>17793978
She is talking to my mom about me being "confusing" and "heartbreaking" (fucking drama queen) how much cuntier does it get
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>>17793979
>>17793939

Ps I am also RP, and if in the OP you're the gray you're being a huge game playing faggot that doesn't know how to deal with problems so you dread her

Dreading her constantly that long into a marrige fucks things up and leaves lots of resentment. Trust me

Balance op, balance. You can't treat her like a fuckbuddy.
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>>17793973
>Because you keep your fap stash out in the open.
Yeah. I watch porn WITH my S.O.
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>>17793968
>>17793985
>inb4 OP calls you children and/or trolls
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You have low willpower, you don't know what you want, you're disloyal and clearly stupid.

You're the antithesis of a man, especially since you were in such a good situation before. You could have taken a look at yourself and understood there was a problem. When things are going well but you still want something else, that means there's something wrong with you and now with what you have.

It's not what you want to hear, but you know it's true.

Tell your wife what happened so you two can get a divorce, but knowing that you are such a low form of life, you probably won't and you'll lie like a coward right to your wife's face.

Pathetic.
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>>17793973
What'd you even do at the hotel?
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>>17793979
She is constantly (like daily) linking me new stuff to try. She's not boring I just am not feeling it. Like we probably fight 2-3 times a week about it (she comes on to me in some randomize time and I wave her off or tell her I haven't showered in a few or something, she whines and asks if she's pretty blah blah blah) I'm just not feeling it. And it's not like I meant to "cheat" on here. Just one thing lead to another and I ended up meeting a cam girl in person. You fuckers would have done exactly the same thing

Also, you all think a girl wanting to "try new stuff" isn't total whore behavior but it really feels like that IRL. Like seriously, gtfo.
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>>17793987
Camming with random people to masturbate to and meeting them in hotel rooms while not telling your spouse and then begging the internet to tell you it's okay to do that. That's significantly more cunty.
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>>17793979
The pic is her demanding that we talk on the phone (because she "can't read my tone") and then crying when I let it connect. She's ridiculous and knows I hate phone calls.
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>>17793999
>And it's not like I meant to "cheat" on here
Yeah that doesn't matter. Try using that in court for example. 'oh i didn't MEAN to run him over!'. that shit won't work unless your last name is Clinton

And fuck you, I would not have done the same thing you generalizing demon.
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>>17793990
What a fag
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>>17793985
>her conspiracy theories are probably fucking reasonable
LOL. A government pedo ring selling little kids? Yeah, because that is reality .
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>>17793999
>And it's not like I meant to "cheat" on here. Just one thing lead to another and I ended up meeting a cam girl in person. You fuckers would have done exactly the same thing

You talked to a camgirl (A whore), decided to meet at a hotel, and something sexual happened. What the fuck did you thin kwas going to happen you absolute retard? Most people on /adv/ would not have done the same thing because we know when we have a good thing, and we're not childlike greedy faggots with an IQ below 80. You blame other people, claim that we're as stupid as you, and get defensive when people tell you how it is. You deserve the worst in life.

You are probably the dumbest person I've ever seen on /adv/. Not just in the content of the posts, but the way you speak. I'm starting to be convinced that this is an elaborate troll. There's no way that you're serious.
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LOL OP I totally agree with you, after reading this thread you made me realize what a total bitch cow your wife is, you should seriously dump that skank whore. I'm impressed you can deal with her whinging and carrying on.
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>>17793999
>>17794004

I was a little more understanding before but this is it. You're a faggot OP. You are irredeemable and everyone was right about you. Divorce her and leave. You're retarded. Straight up stupid as fuck. You're not RP. You have so little frame you can't talk on the phone because you know you can't hold it unless you seem stern via text

If you're too scared to talk on the phone with your wife you're a pussy.

If she's trying to have sex with you and you keep turning her down you're in the wrong. She'll probably cheat on you.

I'm 100% sure this is trolling you can't possibly be this retarded.
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>>17793989
>Balance op, balance.
tf does this mean?>>17793994
>You're the antithesis of a man, especially since you were in such a good situation before.
You don't even get RP. If I hadn't she would have.
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>>17794018
He was in the army. Of course he can be this retarded.
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>>17794013
So instead of educating your wife, you shitpost on 4chan. You're so much smarter.
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>>17794017
OP, this guy is plotting to steal your wife from you and you deserve it.
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neutral anon here, what is RP? role playing?
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>>17794017
Thx. People don't get how the little things really add up.
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>>17794018
>She'll probably cheat on you.
Lol, like I said, she's devoted. Not possible. Plus, the only males she has contact with are my family (hers is dead so that works out lol)
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>>17794025
>shitpost
?>>17794026
lol, not possible. She would
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>>17794039
I bet she thought you were devoted too. Divorce her and kill yourself shitstain.
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>>17794029
Red Pill>>17794040
?
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>>17794043
Whatever. Thanks for not being helpful at all. I'll just stay with the earlier advice: fuck her and be better. Hard A run necessary so see ya.
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>>17794040
We've all been successfully hooked.
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>>17794047
>ignore all but one person

Yeah no, you're just doing what you want. You refer to your wife as a fat cunt. You cannot become better. There is no hope for you. But this is something you do not want to accept, so you'll just say LOL FUCK OFF and ignore me and the other anons here (all 21 of us) that have told you the reality of your situation.
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>>17793587
Grow a pair. There's plenty more fish in the sea. I've been through relationships where I bought she was the one only for break ups to be right around the corner. Try to go out and find a girl who isn't a unicorn.
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>>17794056
No one has told me what I'm supposed to "confess" to? Like, where is the line?
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>>17794058
see >>17794040
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>>17794058
THanks. That's helpful. You're basically the only here who gets it.
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LOL that's not me fuck you you impersonator>>17794063
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>>17794063
Confirmation bias ass nigga over here.
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>>17794068
What? You are not OP. Don't know what exactly you are saying.
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Holy shit I think we've been made guys.
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>>17794072
we weren't guys before?
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>>17794072
We've been coaxed into a snafu.
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>>17794074
No we were clearly Xer's get your shit together.
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>>17794079
I'm constipated. It is already together unfortunately.
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>>17794076
We've been bamboozled?
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>>17793968
Holy shit, OP on suicide watch.
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MOS OP?
>mfw OP is some logistics fag who got dishonorably discharged
kek
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>>17793999
>You fuckers would have done the very same thing
>Implying I'm so desparate to fuck some fat tattoo'd camslut
Whatever you say
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>about 20 additional posts
>poster count went up by 2
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I spent an hour reading this thread and I rarely ever say it if at all, but I think this gave me cancer. Prostate cancer. And it's not because of OP, it's becuase of the dumbasses that are in their feelings replying to this troll. You know what, Maybe I'm the dumbass for spending an hour on this thread
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>>17794103
I'd say most of the posts here are OP's anyway, even the ones replying to himself. 7 posts for each poster. I know that's not as good as chemo or cannabis, but hopefully that knowledge helps your cancer a little bit.
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>>17794084
We've been Smackledorfed!
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>>17794115
Hoodwinked!
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Nipples!
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>>17793587
Heh. That looks familiar. Poor thing.
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>>17793749
I feel extreme kindred with your lady right now. I hope this is fake because you are like actually making me upset on her behalf.
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>>17793886
>Plus like I said she has zero girl friends
Jesus, some girls are just gossipy hags. That doesn't mean she's a cheater. NAWALT
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>>17794118
God I really really hope so. this is the worst thing I have read in a while.
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>>17793587
OP you're a piece of shit jerk!!!!! Tell her and stop being a twat
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>>17794176
I honestly think this has to be fake. No one is this heartless.
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Wow, what an abortion of a thread. Go neck yourself OP
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>>17793688
Not that anon, but I believe he meant if you actually cared for your wife you wouldn't have been a cheating scumbag
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>>17793644
This feels like the twilight zone. I think I have found my life double. I sincerely hope you die for screwing with that poor girl you have no idea what it feels like to lose your hero you mama's boy. I can't even be on this thread anymore. Well done you fucking troll, you are a horrible person. (Also, I acknowledge that I am pathetic for feeling this way over some anon's SO)
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>>17793734
Believe it or not, sometimes it's not about money and more about just not being associated with scum anymore, like you are
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Ugh. Fuck /adv/. Just came for a look see and a trial post. This thread makes me rage. Back to better boards with higher quality posts. Like /b/ or /x/ or /pol/
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>>17793618
What is alimony and child support. You're fucked and you deserve to be fucked
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>>17794095
None of your damn business.
>>17794160
lol women.
>>17794207
I am in NO WAY a "mama's boy" you fucking bitch. I can tell you're a burger by the way your heart fuciing bleeds over nothing.
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>>17794270
Already calculated. She wouldn't be able to live on Alimony or CP. Plus, I doubt the court would award her anything. She had a career before. She can get off her ass and have another one after. It's only been 6 years shitheads.
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But like I said, never going to happen.
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>>17793587

>I have an ideal wife
>but I still want to cheat
>Problem: So a few months ago, I found kik and started moving from basic porn to more interactive stuff
>Problem: I have no self control and am now a piece of shit.
>wat do?

I don't care. Ruin your life, ruin hers, ruin your kids. You've already set the wheels into motion, have fun watching everything crash and burn.

1/10.
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>>17793587
you are retarded
>because I still have no fucking clue how it happened
it happened because you chose to pursue it. you. you are responsible for everything that you do. you did this with full knowledge that youd be risking your marriage to someone that you consider to be a "unicorn". you made that choice. you made the conscious decision to fuck some other girl, despite your claims that your marital sex life was in good shape. you are retarded. you have the mentality of a child. no wonder you were dishonorably discharged. you are a disgrace to men. most women are trash (most people are trash, but i digress). you found one that is not trash, and instead of making an example (i.e. be a good woman, and you will get a good man) you chose to reinforce the stereotype of "men are pigs". when your wife learns the truth (and she will), theres a good chance that she will become trash, and that she will tell her story to many other women who will either become or remain trash because theyve heard yet another tale of good women getting fucked over. way to go, dumbass.
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hahaha

gooooood laugh, no one is this stupid
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>>17794364
>heres a good chance that she will become trash, and
So much this. You are the reason terrible women exist.
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Holy shit, you are a huge faggot. You're not redpill at all if you're going to cheat on your fucking wife. That is just asking for trouble. The whole reason you get a wife is because you want someone to love and trust. Just spin plates if you're going to do otherwise. What the fuck is wrong with you and your replies as well, are you borderline retarded? You way of thinking is so fucked up. See a fucking therapist for your insecurities
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>>17793635
You're an idiot dude
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>>17793639
Are you retarded? How is that anything similar to sleeping with some random skank?

>>17793662
No, we have not all done it.

>>17793675
Why are you referring to your wife whose trust you violated as a bitch?

>>17793749
You sound like a bitter dude who just discovered TRP and has no idea how to employ it into your life in the way it's intended. "weak minded female" says something about you, considered she is the mother of your children.

God you may be the worst person who's ever posted on here
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It's bait.
But killing yourself will solve the problem either way.
I promise.
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>>17794507
>? How is that anything similar to sleeping with some random skank
It's putting her interests ahead of our relationship. How is that not basically the same.
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Let this thread die already
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>>17793608
That was the only interesting part of the whole thing and it tells us you are basically a disloyal person in general.

This site won't fix your problem, but you basically have two choices: tell your wife everything and beg for forgiveness, or try to forget about it and try to salvage the situation with some bullshit lie and flowers.
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>>17794651
I'm just asking how to start this conversation. And how much to tell. No one will fucking address that.
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>>17794672
Jigs up dude. Just let the thread die it's getting annoying. Anyone who reads this just flag this thread
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>>17794649
How is occasionally using 4chan and Steam after propositioning her husband for sex and he refuses and then goes and wanks to camwhores her hurting your relationship?
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>>17794672
People already told you to tell her everything. Don't say "nobody addressed this" when a couple people already have but it just wasn't what you wanted to hear, just own up to ignoring the advice. There's no sense hiding just some of it. If it doesn't need to be said then it won't hurt her by telling it anyway, so you'd might as well just tell her everything. You start the conversation by saying "Honey, I have something to tell you." and then you tell her. If you have trouble finding the words then copypaste your OP, or show her the whole thread.
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