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Everything can be going great with my gf but then she FUCKS IT

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Everything can be going great with my gf but then she FUCKS IT UP and makes me extremely mad (even though I try to hide it) because of her phone habits. Some examples:

>I send her a message and a snapchat picture at the same time, she opens the picture, views it twice, then takes 1h to respond my message
>she takes 2h to respond my message while being on Facebook and liking stuff
>she takes 1h to respond my message while liking a picture that I POSTED on Instagram, meaning not only I'll get the notification, but she's on her phone, with it open

I feel like this just creates ressentment and screams passive-aggressiveness to me.

What the fuck is this shit?
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Wow chill the fuck out, OP. Now if you routinely sent her messages like "would you like to meet up in half an hour I'm in the area" and she'd ignore them, I'd understand.

What she's doing is not waiting on you hand and feet in terms of online shit. That's not the same.
>hurr but why can she do other shit but not come running to me
Because she feels like doing that more (or hasn't though of a cute response yet) and because you're her boyfriend and she presumably fucks you and dotes on you she trusts that you won't think she hates you if she takes an hour to respond to a snapchat.

It's also possible that the amount of constant reassurance/attention you want from her is off putting and she is trying not to create the expectation that she will go along with that. But that's impossible to tell from the information you gave, that can very much just be someone who's comfortable responding to non-urgent messages from their SO they speak to/see all the time when they feel like it.
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>>17577382
Congratulations on missing the point completely, I just wanted to say first of all to go fuck yourself because I anticipated fucking morons like you coming here. Let me spell it out.

The issue isn't that she's not always on her phone or isn't always responding to me, she could take 3h and I wouldn't mind as long as she was actually doing other shit, but when I have PROOF through actions and notifications that come TO ME that she's ON HER PHONE at that exact moment and just not responding to me, it sours the mood. It's that simple.
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>>17577387
Yesss, let the hate flow through you my young Jedi.
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>>17577387
you are an impatient anal retentive dick. that's the problem and the point
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>>17577404
You are pussywhipped and would let a woman ignore you forever rather than enforcing your right to be bothered by it.

I like myself better.
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>>17577387
I refer you to

>hurr but why can she do other shit but not come running to me
Because she feels like doing that more (or hasn't though of a cute response yet) and because you're her boyfriend and she presumably fucks you and dotes on you she trusts that you won't think she hates you if she takes an hour to respond to a snapchat.

my friend with mediocre reading skills. This is all it ultimately boils down to. She doesn't realize that it upsets you because this behavior doesn't happen in a vacuum, and she probably feels like she shows you more than enough that she has attention for you and enjoys your company. You can put your foot down and tell her that you feel passed over if she does shit on her phone without attending to your messages first, but be aware that you risk her looking at you like a petty and insecure guy, and/or feeling like she has to constantly adjust her behavior to prove to you that you're a priority, despite proving it in many other ways already. (Whether you agree with her on that or not, most people feel that they're a pretty swell partner.)
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>>17577414
Why do you want to waste your time with somebody as pathetic as her OP? You're acting all tough here yet I'm sure if you get with her she'll cuck you so hard and make you look like a pathetic beta virgin.
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>>17577423
We've been in a serious relationship for five months and it's exactly because I have an active voice and don't hide shit, otherwise I'd have imploded a while ago.

I'm guessing you're single?
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>>17577414
did your mother ignore you when you shit your pants so now demand immediate attention. I've seen little boys like you out with mommie constantly tugging on her skirt for acknowledgement. Your gf knows and don't blame her one bit. Hope she comes to adv for advise and I'll give her encouragement to get away from a nut like you
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>>17577429
She deserves a nice guy like yourself right?

Did you ignore all the classes in school where they teach you proper reading skills so you wouldn't have to bend situations out of proportion like this in order to make an argument?
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>>17577428
Guess wrong. 5 year relationship. But she does sound like a hassle from how you described her.
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>>17577434
I seriously do not know if you're sympathizing with me or demonizing me.
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>>17577435
Jesus OP, not him but get a grip on yourself. Ŷou are rabidly trying to convince a bunch of internet strangers you just asked for advice how much of an alpha stud you are. Now all the guy said was that no, he's not single and he's willing to concede that she sounds tiring. And you manage to twist it into him potentially "demonizing" you.

Work on your self esteem.
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People with shit habits like that get their urgency demoted.
>urgency #1:We have minute apart conversations so my responses are quick so you don't wait
>urgency #2: Not a quick responder so conversations don't need quick responses as you are busy and won't read it for hours
>urgency #3: You usually take a day or longer to respond, check at the end of day and write response before bed

Responses always take a fixed time and it doesn't matter if I write you now or 6 hours from now when you're only reading the message in 7 hours. In fact since I write you later my mind will be on our conversation more as I wrote you back more recently
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>>17577435
I don't have to do neither. You came here for advice and, as crappy as it may look to you, some of us are giving you some. The problem is that for you it seems everything is an attack to you or her. It honestly seems like a waste of time for us to try to give you advice with that attitude of yours and I'm sure I'm not alone in this.
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Sounds like youre a faggot but it doesnt sound like your gf wants to talk to you either so you should kill yourself

Ps u should also stop being a bitch
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>>17577433
I understand just fine. It doesn't take much for the real you to show. Spoiled wittle boy stomps and stomps and screams no one jumps
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She's being a cunt and playing games with you
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>>17577444
He said "I'm sure if you get with her she'll cuck you so hard and make you look like a pathetic beta virgin." and then "she does sound like a hassle from how you described her." /adv/ has a hard-on for trying to paint everyone as insecure for every problem though so I understand you.

>>17577446
It is crappy because I've made clear from the get-go that it's not a problem with how frequently she responds, as in

>The issue isn't that she's not always on her phone or isn't always responding to me, she could take 3h and I wouldn't mind as long as she was actually doing other shit

And that I wouldn't require constant attention and that even I would be annoyed if I had to spend every minute on the phone, but every time I do open the phone, I answer her. Sometimes I take a while but that's because I'm away from everything.

Her being ON THE PHONE and not answering, multiple times, is what bothers me, and that's extremely human and I won't accept it as a problem with me 'cause that's bullshit.
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>everyone ITT condoning OP's girlfriend's behavior

She's literally ignoring him whilst doing virtually nothing. It's perfectly acceptable to get upset at that.
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>>17577451
this. looks like someone has moved on your gf with the 'nice guy' treatment and it has worked out for them. probably selling their strong points as your weak points, OP.
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>>17577453
The very first answer you got specifically went into why she would be on her phone and still not respond to you. Which was further detailed in >>17577418
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>>17577456
you can bet OP has pulled this shit from day one and it fucking gets old and she ignores him now knowing if she doesn't respond in 2 seconds he'll go on a rant and why deal with his shit.
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>>17577369
What I read:
> why won't my gf pay attention to me online when I know she's also online, and is avoiding talking to me?

The answer to your problem:
Two parter:
a) Whether you're willing to admit it or not, you have deep seeded insecurity issues that will ultimately lead to this relationship failing, and given the fact that it's gotten to you so bad, I won't say long either.

b) she isn't talking to you because she's talking to someone else. She's getting what you can't give her because you're too emotionally weak and insecure. Ever wonder why chicks dig dbags - its because of the confidence they exude.

Overall, you will be the single handed demise of your relationship, and this is how women passively allow a relationship to dissolve instead of taking it head on - because they don't like confrontation. Soon, she'll be distancing herself anymore, and eventually she'll start calling you too clingy / insecure / childlike / "nice-guy".

At this point, I don't think its in any way redeemable and your relationship is set to fall apart.
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>>17577469
I forgot the cheating brigade came right after the insecure brigade. It's like clockwork.

You really should stop watching porn.
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>>17577469
>insecurity

Goddamn every goddamn thread anymore turns into "HURRRRRRRR SOMEONE IS INSECURE". We need to word filter that.

OP's girlfriend is literally ignoring him. There's no insecurity in being mad at that.
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Do pic related or break up with her. She has no concern about you and is ignoring you on a regular basis, do you really wanna stay with someone like that?
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>>17577476
the very fact that they have to write about such a situation excretes insecurity, and that's why you see every single thread devolve into the same comment being made about OP: "hurr durr insecure".

if these situations can't be resolved by the people creating the threads, what do they expect a bunch of internet anons to do, apart from treat it without any context besides a few words on a screen?
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>>17577476
OP talks about his girlfriend like she makes him feel loved (everything is going great EXCEPT). If that is the case then it is not normal to get "extremely angry", not just because she doesn't respond but because she doesn't respond "fast enough" to what's presumably nothing more than random pictures or "look at what I'm doing" snaps.

If I get a funny picture from a friend I haven't spoken to in half a year, you bet I respond quickly. If it's my sister or best friend? Not necessarily, because we have such a bond that whether or not I reply instantly to every single email becomes irrelevant.

And yeah, believe it or not, a lot of people who turn to 4chan for advice are insecure. It's not exactly an average sample size.
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>>17577474
>>17577476

You guys act like I haven't been around the block with women a few times.
I fucking know, because I used to be just like you, and this is how they pawn guys like you off. They are biologically driven to find the most suitable mate that they possibly can, and will chop and chose until they find what best provides for them. Men are driven to accrue resources and share them with a woman - there is no one in particular.
Simple math = if you can't provide and cater to her needs she'll leave you. You can't argue with evolutionary biology, it's scientific fact.
Swallow the red pill and understand that, and man the fuck up, you weak pathetic cuck.
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>>17577496
>misogyny meme

>>>/r9k/
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>>17577509
Alright, well sweatheart I tried my best to drill into you that darwin's survival of the fittest - ergo natural selection - is what part of the population can best conform to its environment to survive.
In this context, the environment is social skills, and a career - of which I take it you have neither.
You can't conform to environment, so therefore you will not survive.

Fuck you OP, I hope your relationship fails, you get cucked, she gets loaded full of jizz from a more emotionally mature and levelheaded guys, and you end up exocommunicating yourself from your peers and wallowing in internal misery wondering why noone in the world is willing to give you a chance or listen to you or respect you or take you serious.

After many many years, or I'll save you the time, ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ it's because you failed to conform you special fucking snowflake

Seriously, what's wrong? Didn't get enough attention in the daycare? Didn't mommy and daddy love you enough growing up; or were they too busy making a career for themselves?
You are broken internally, and only you can fix that. This is the advice you need - this is the only thing that isn't going to fix you.
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>>17577518
Bait
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Maybe she just forgot to reply m8
Seriously just ask her.
I open messages all the time and just not reply for hours because I forget about them or can't think of a good reply yet. I don't like having conversations via texting.
If its urgent, of course I reply quickly though.
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>>17577518
i like this. this is new pasta.
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>>17577446
Suck a dick my nig
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