Invite someone to lunch: bring and read a book... no big deal

>>17567810
Incredibly rude.
Why did you invite them if you don't pay attention to them?

What if it's just your wife?

Ridiculously rude. Wtf kind of question is this?

autism

>>17567817
It's even worse.
She is your wife, if you want to make your relationship work pay attention to her.

>>17567810
why would you even invite someone and then do that? easy way to be hated by that person

>>17567837
It's inconsiderate, but maybe he feels so comfortable with you that he feels he doesn't need to make conversation. Plus you're already married, he may feel he no longer needs to impress you or be romantic.

>>17567861
Seems like it shouldn't matter if he's comfortable. If I tell him how it makes me feel, shouldn't that matter, if he's comfortable and I'm not.

Honestly depends on the relationship. A girl I like is big into books and got me into some of Steven king's gunslinger series. This is the type of person where you would most likely both have something to read and just genuinely enjoy being in the company of each other's presence.

>>17567861
Is not about being romantic, it's about not being an asshole

>>17567927
And I love to read but didn't have a book as I was just on a work lunch break.

>>17567927
My boyfriend loves reading.
We stay at home and read almost every night, he even reads me to sleep every night since we met.
But if we go out together, it is to stay together.

How is this any different than than texting.

It is smartphone tier awful (aka the worst) , unless you're both reading and analyzing the book.

>>17567817
I got my husband into Alistair Reynolds sci-fi and we will sometimes point out a different part on our smartphones if talking about it at the date/dinner. But other than that, all distraction is off the table unless it is a pressing need like an emergency phonecall from work or immediate family.

And we love it. We talk, enjoy the food and alcohol and atmosphere more, and have a more coherent memory. >>17567927
Cannot stress enough that it is only relevant if you either went out with intention of discussing the novel or have it conveniently on a device to whip out on a whim while talking about a certain part.

You can talk about that in private or at the home instead of out.