>friends grandfather dies
>wants all of her friends to come to the wake
>I dont really want to go, I never even met the man
Wat do
>>17565238
Don't go?
How close are you to this friend?
>>17565245
Not that close but she really overrates our friendship.
Hey Friend, I wanted to thank you for inviting me to share this painful experience with you. I am sad that you are grieving for the loss of your grandfather, and I'm humbled that you feel I'm close enough to lend you comfort.
I am here for you if you need my support, but I would prefer not to disrespect his memory by coming to the wake, and I would rather leave that space for his loved ones to share their private sadness amongst others they recognise.
>>17565238
It's more about being solidary to your friend, if you don't go and fail to give a good excuse she'll probably think less of you.
If you care about that, go. If you don't, don't.
... I just noticed >>17565347
Probably the most polite but believable 'no' you could give. That could work.