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There's something I'm having an issue with in regards to my relationship with my girlfriend. The specifics of what the issue is are not as important as what I should do about them.
Basically the problem is that these things that historically for me have been immediate deal-breakers didn't bother me up until a couple weeks ago. I've been with my girlfriend for 7 months. She is the only person I have ever met in my 33 years that I was able to date for any length of time who exhibited said deal breakers.
I had a very graphic dream that involved her, the deal breakers, another man, her saying " I don't need you anymore I have a real man now", and they both proceeded to stab me to death
For the first time in my life however, something that I have hated and despised for more than half my life I am open to changing how I feel about. It's become a major internal conflict for me. I've never had an internal conflict before. At least not in regards anything of importance. I'm seriously questioning my own existence and outlook on things. I love her more than I ever imagined I could love anything. That being said, the powerful negative emotions and feelings I have towards the deal breakers are causing me great Stress and Anxiety. As a matter of fact it's starting to become debilitating. I just don't know what I should do. I don't want my emotions to ruin something that my logic can plainly see as the best thing that ever happened to me
Please help
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>>17562908
The absolute ethical weight of the deal breakers would be a very important factor in any advice we could give you. Without knowing them, it's hard to say whether we should side with your emotions or your logic.
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This really isn't the sort of thing we can answer without specifics.
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Well the only specifics I am comfortable giving are that the deal breakers are something that with any other woman I have been totally unable to become aroused because of.
She's the only person that I have been sexually attracted to while having the deal breakers. Like I said. They didn't bother me at first. But now they do. I don't know how they ever were something I was able to deal with. Let alone becoming an issue overnight. As if a light switch were flipped
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>>17562938
Oh, well in that case, you should definitely listen to your logic. Because consistency is not a logical thing to expect of yourself when dealing with entirely different individuals. The different input will result in a different outcome, and that she's giving you a particularly and markedly different outcome indicates how great her difference is as input. Stay with her!
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Any tips on how to deal with the anxiety?
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