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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't fucking know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.

>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off.
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Girls that are normies and go out on the weekend, it is bad to say, message you on facebook on the weekend nights? Like does it come off as weird?
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>>17455782
No, why would it? It's better than getting a message after work on a week day.
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do women realize that they are killing us with yoga pants?
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Guy here. Looking to ask girls, namely girls who generally dislike facial hair.

If facial hair is a deal-breaker for you, would you still consider meeting the guy?

I would definitely like to start dating again, but I also really like my beard. If a girl tells me that she doesn't like facial hair, I am more than willing to shave it, but I don't really want to do that until I'm sure that we can work out.

My reasoning:
>she & I are compatible as a couple = she gets what she wants
>she & I are not compatible on an emotional/personal level = I can't give her what she wants anyways, so why shave?

Would this condition be acceptable to you, or do I really need to shave for the first date?
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>>17455774

>GIRLS:
1) If you go on a Tinder date and it goes well, how would you respond to the guy asking if you wanted to go watch a movie at your place?

2) Girls who got back together with their ex, under what circumstances did you do so?
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>>17455774
would you date a guy with a cuck fetish as long as he told you he would never try to act on it?
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>>17455893
Does he identify as the cuck or the bull?
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>>17455877
We don't really care because yoga pants are comfy as fuck. Do men care when they kill us with those grey sweatpants?
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>>17455896
cuck but would probably do both.
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>>17455903
>Do men care when they kill us with those grey sweatpants?
What

Yoga pants are tight and show off a womans ass, how do grey sweatpants come off as sexy?
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>>17455919
Diff anon here but it's great when the guy has nice legs and he wears the slightly loose sweats hanging low on his hips...less is more, like, you can tell he's got nice legs but you get to imagine the rest.
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How do I tell the barber to not cut it too short or even medium. My hair are a little big and Id like to keep it that way. What am I supposed to say. Please respond.
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>>17455926
take a picture of what u want done retard
they picked a career in hairdressing not mind reading
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How do I know if I'm annoying this girl? She replies with texts that are longer than it seems she would if she thought I was annoying but I can't really tell at all.
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>>17455925
its bc sweats show off ur cock
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why do girls wear makeup?
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With doggystyle, do most women instinctively know to arch their back / bounce their ass towards the dick as it's going forward?

My girlfriend is pretty dull, she just spreads her legs and lays their and expect me to pump away until I cum but this is barely exciting
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>>17455983
Not sure, but it's crazy these days. I see girls on IG who put on enough makeup to ice a cake, just to "look good" in one picture. Guys buy into this shit and end up with a completely false idealization of women, when in reality not only is the bitch in the picture actually ugly as shit without makeup - but most if not all women irl are pretty average compared to their makeup incarnations. For me, I can't fuck with it. My ex was like this, she looked great with makeup, then I finally saw her without it and she looked like someone I wouldn't even talk to. I prefer natural look over this any day.

Not to mention how egotistical these makeup bitches are now.
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>>17455926
male here: "Mister barber, do not cut it too short or even medium. My hair are a little big and I'd like to keep it that way."
use your hands and your mouth to communicate to him what parts can be a little shorter and which ones can be a little longer. maybe ask what he thinks as well.
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>>17455774
Girls:

If you text a guy randomly out of nowhere that you miss him, does that mean you like him?

Long story short, I like a girl. She showed signs that she likes me at the start, then she started calling me "dude/BFF" and things became more platonic. I stopped contacting her at the end of classes to deal with getting friendzoned. After like 4 months on no contact, she texted me that she misses me.
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How do I explain the business card scene in American Psycho to my girlfriend? She cannot see why Paul Allen's card is so superior to the others, it's like she literally cannot see any differences.
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>>17456004
Various reasons. I personally do it because it feels nice, makes me feel pretty, and it gives me a little extra confidence. It's also fun and kind of relaxing to use your face as a canvas and try new looks on it.
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>>17456062
She probably just misses you. Maybe in a non-platonic way.
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>>17456024
my GF is really pretty but she fucking cakes on makeup every day and i just deal with it, when she gets out of the shower without anything on her face my cock gets so hard and i fuck her into the dirt. i dunno how to convince her to use way less
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i have a female friend that ive cuddled and fingered and kissed years ago and sometimes when we hang out theres some sexual tension maybe, she stares at me sometimes from across a room. anytime we hangout she will text me and talk with me for a day or two then stop replying. one other time she asked me to massage her ass . that went nowhere. recently we were at a small gathering drinking and having fun and i always treat her nuetrally without like flirting or being weird especially since we havent messed around in years. but someone jokingly told me to get the fuck out and i was like "oh ok.." so i jokingly whnt for the door & she reached out to me like she didnt want me to go. and the night went on & i kinda flirted with her a little. skip to like 6am and we start going to sleep. me and her are alone in the basement and i hug her( kinda drunk at this point) and ask her if she wants to cuddle, nothing more(i was being honest) she said no. so i slept like 4 ft away from her. so she texts me the next day & we flirt a lot then i send her a picture of myself in tight briefs & my abs. then she stopped replying. is she cobfused or does she just like fucking with me??
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>>17456074
you can't anon

it's just one of those scenes women will never understand.
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>>17455983
Because they like it and feel energized and good about themselves by doing it in a way they feel becomes them, or because they are cripplingly insecure and cannot withstand the temptation to "fix" things, and pretty much every nuance in between.

For some girls it's just what you're supposed to do and walking outside with your bare face feels like still wearing your pyjamas. (Society kind of backs this one up: no way you can go to a job interview for a serious position as a woman without any make up, that will be viewed as unkempt.) For others it's so much routine and part of their style that they don't feel as much like themselves without it. Many girls have a skewed idea of how pale/tired/homely they look without make up. And it gets scarier to go out with imperfections showing when virtually every sex peer just hides them instead, makes you stick out in a bad way. You name it.
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>>17456004
In my experience some people "get" sex and some don't. Everyone can improve, but it's like dancing in the sense that some people intuitively understand how to move in synch with a rhythm and for others it goes completely over their head.

There are women who instinctively know it and women who enjoy porn and have seen it and copied it etc... but it's definitely not something everyone but your girlfriend is in on. Sex is so hyped that you'd easily forget that plenty of people are complacent, lazy lovers despite gushing over the concept.
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Femanons.

>What does "wild" "dangerous" "adventurous" etc mean when you say you look for those qualities in men?

I'm pretty puzzled by it, is it just excitement generally? compatibility? of a show-off thing with your friends that you're in an exciting relationship?
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>>17456004
No we don't
I've tried it a couple of times with my boyfriend and we're still learning how to make it better
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>>17456281
Personally - I think the worst thing a guy can be is boring. He can either avoid it by being intellectually stimulating or by being very physically active and adventurous.
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>>17455880
I like facial hair but I wouldn't expect my boyfriend or a date to shave/grow a beard to please me.
If he never kept a beard maybe I'd ask him to do it for a few days to see what he looks like but that's about it.
I think you should find more tolerant girls.
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>>17456062
She probably misses her BFF.
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>>17456285
>"boring" is a valid criticism for anything
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>>17456074

Cinema is something that women cannot and will not ever be able to truly appreciate.

They can be part of the creative process:

Editors, set designers, costumes, etc.

But the number of good female directors can be counted on one hand.

Bottom line is: Tell her the entire point of the movie is that they're trying to look the same, like the same things, eat at the same places, work at the same jobs; this causes them to be nearly identical and often mistake one another for some other character.

Fucking Cliff Notes for women; lulz.

Also, fuck Reese Witherspoon was such a QT22/7 back in the day; except for dat chin.
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>>17456281
I'm maybe not the best person to answer because they are not qualities I look for, but especially wild and dangerous mostly sounds to me like a young girl wanting an exciting fling with a guy who picks fights, dabbles in drugs, is doing impulse things all the time... Like the masculine version of a manic pixie dream girl.

I'll excuse adventurous, which I think can still mean someone who is easily enthusiastic, up for impulsive plans, likes to try new things/to travel etc without a necessary edge.
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>>17456074

"Look at that subtle off-white coloring. The tasteful thickness of it. Oh, my God. It even has a watermark."

>MFW
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>>17456297
Someone who doesn't have something I am interested in to say. Someone with no sense of humour or conversational skills. Someone who isn't charismatic. Someone who doesn't enjoy discussions, who is afraid of confrontation.
Better?

If you do adventurous, wild shit at least I can ask questions about it and listen to your stories.
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>>17456074
How do you understand the scene?

I always thought it was just a ploy on the narcissism of the four men.

Obsession over the mundane details of a business card to one-up each other.

I might be wrong tho.

Maleanon btw
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>>17456299
>wrote a big autistic post about how women dont understand cinema while misunderstanding the scene yourself

It's a pissing contest, not an effort to look the same.
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guys, whats the point of a strip club?

whats enjoyable about paying to see women undress who you cant fuck while you sit there getting horny beside your friends? isnt that extremely frustrating and incredibly awkward?
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>>17456362

Never been but, yeah, that's kinda why I wouldn't go.

That'd just be awkward. Plus, I've been called creepy much (awkward teenager got bullied alot, never got over it) that I'm used to actively avoiding looking at women.

Then again, that's why they serve booze I think. Overpriced booze.
Drunk people don't feel awkwardness ("I lovvee you soo much, man").
The moment you sober up, it gets awkward, and awkwardness ruins the night, so you keep buying overpriced booze.
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>>17456362
Not a guy but strippers are hot and mostly paid to make you feel like the man. They charm and flirt with their clients in a way that plenty of guys will have never experienced sincerely in real life.

Another option is getting a thrill out of the power element of the money. Either in a submissive way (she's such a hot goddess that you as a sorry guy can't help but throw money at her or whatever) or in a dominant way (she doesn't want to be there, doesn't want to do those things to you, but what she wants doesn't mean shit because you're a paying customer).

From what I know either of these is the most common reason to love stripclubs. As for just enjoying them, it can be a fun drunken night with a sexual edge without being experienced as uncomfortably explicit/homoerotic.
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>want sex
>refuse to buy, because fuck that shit
>a relationship doesn't sound bad, it could be something interesting
>broke as shit
>dating on Dante must be murder raped to death tier difficulty if you're a jobless broke dingus
>get a job
>get bored of it
>feel like shit
>barely any breaks
>"vacation" doesn't last long
>wake up in the morning just so that I can get to work
>then go home to work and sleep so that I can work tomorrow
>pay bills
>buy "enough" food to stay sane
>practically not allowed to quit my job
>if I continue it, I become a legit zombie
>everyone else has fun jobs, or jobs they can just barely tolerate

And that's why I don't have a job and never will have a job.

Am I date worthy?
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>>17456435
No, you're a sad sack of shit.
Sucks.
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>>17456437
>Sucks.

I wish.
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Guys

Would you date a girl that used to be fat? Knowing that she has scars from loose skin removal?
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Why is cider gay?
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>>17456439

wouldnt care about scars and being able to lose weight and actually keep it off says good things about your self control
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>>17456439
if shawty a mega babe and we hit it off idc about stretch marks or scars
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Why do women always feel harassed when I strike upa conversation with them? Is it because I'm ugly?
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>>17456458

talking to strangers in general is weird and uncomfortable, if you want to do that go to a pick up bar
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>>17456462
That's what I was referring to.
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Stupid question but I'll do it anyways:

To girls, would you date a 20 year old guy who still lives with his parents?
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Dating confuses and scares me.

Wat do?
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>>17456498
Don't rush into anything. Listen to your gut
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Anyone

I had a dream last in which I was hanging out with my QT, and this guy walked up. Put his face close to hers, they looked into each other's eyes and kissed. It freaked me out. I know it's just a dream, but I woke up with bad anxiety, and feel like shit right now. How do I feel better??
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>>17456498

Avoid it. You don't HAVE to date. It's not a life requirement. The only 2 real requirements in life is paying taxes and death
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>>17456501

learn to lucid dream and kick his head off next time
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>>17456508

Right after I saw their emotional moment, I think I vomited in the dream, but right then I woke up feeling really sick and worked up. I still feel like this. I've had anxiety for a long time, but this like set it off.

Fucking dreams
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>>17456494
I am older than you, so I don't think I'd date a 20 year old.
I would date a guy my age who lived with his parents, tho.
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why do waiting for girls text drive me fucking insane, there's a high chance she won't even reply to me
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That's jesus showing you what she has been up to bro, sorry, if I were you id confront her about it
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>>17456536

Please no.. :(
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What do you do if you think a girl is attracted to you and giving signs, but you're not interested?
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Question to girls
You expect from your boyfriend to help your mom cook the lunch after the first night together at your house? And the boy only know your parents from yesterday, and the girl don't know the boy's parents.
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Girls

For those of you with guy friends, if they are good looking and all, do you ever have thoughts about them?

I ask because I'm talking to this girl, and she usually hangs out in a big group of friends (both male and female). I've seen pictures of them all together hanging out having fun. But all of the dudes look so cool, and look attractive in that sense. Like they look much better than I do. So.. I'm confused as to why this girl is even interested in me. I'm a skinny white guy who looks much younger than he is.. But all of her male friends look smart, cool, and more attractive than me. She doesn't know this, but I feel a bit intimidated.
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>>17455877
Yes. Thats the sole point of yoga pants. Any girl that uses that dumb excuse of "oh but they're comfyyyy" or "I can move better!" just doesn't want to admit they're wearing them so people will look at their butt. Idk why they're so ashamed t b h, it's like they're implying there's something wrong with wanting people to find you sexually appealing. Everyone does it, just fucking own it.
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>>17456548
I expect him to offer to help in the kitchen or with the dishes.
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>>17455889
1)
>at my place
only thing that stands out in that. Just seems kinda weird to be inviting yourself over to someone else's house. But otherwise if she's cool with it how the hell would that be an issue? You hit it off and want a second date? How is that bad?
>>17455983
Because the beauty industry has told them they won't attract a mate without it.
Plus most girls do actually look 100x better with at least a little make up. If you're one of those "girls that wear make up are ugly" kinda people, then you're the minority. Most guys I have ever met prefer chicks to do themselves up in the most appealing way possible.
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>>17456593
An if he offer the help, but they say no? You expect him to help anyway?
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>>17456553
>For those of you with guy friends, if they are good looking and all, do you ever have thoughts about them?
Yes, I thought they were attractive at the beginning, but there's a reason why I'm not dating them.
All the guys in my friends group are pretty attractive and, of course, good people but either so similar to me that we don't compensate each other at all, or have a different lifestyle (do drugs, fuck around), or not interested in having a family in the long run, or kinda mentally unstable.
If she's with you, there's a reason. You're better than them for her.
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>>17456599
No, lol.
But it's polite to ask, just that.
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>>17456435
You just want sex so thats your first sign that you aren't "date" worthy.

But also no, next to nobody finds a dude living in poverty with no skills, talents, goals or ambition to ever improve his life attractive. Plus you're assuming every single job will be something you hate all the time blah blah blah woe is me I just can't stand working at all for anything and just want hand outs.
You sound like a lazy fucker who would rather generalize in order to justify your laziness. It's easier to sit on your ass with cheeto dust on your fingers and bitch on 4chan than it is to actually try right?
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>>17456458
Probably because you do so in inappropriate times, or you are seriously misreading them as feeling "harassed" when in reality all they did was politely say "no thanks".
You also probably go into the approach with zero self esteem, assuming they're going to find you ugly and creepy, and therefore you fulfill your own prophecy.
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>>17456494
Depends, but for the most part yes. You're barely out of high school, it's still very reasonable to be living with your parents. My sister's 23 and living with our parents because she just finished college and is applying for jobs.
Now here's where the exceptions lie. If you're not going to school and don't have a job, you will seem like a lazy ass who just wants to mooch off his parents instead of getting a life of his own.
If you're not in college but have a slave wage job, it's hit or miss. Depends on if you're actively trying to move out and live on your own or not. If that's the case, I'd date you. But it wouldn't last long if you keep dragging your ass.
I'm a firm believer in there's 2 acceptable routes after high school, you either go to school and get to lean on your parents a little longer while you're doing so, or you go out and get a fucking job and start your independent life.
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>>17456600

I guess that makes sense.. It's just hard for me to understand because I know there is much better out there than me, and she's a really attractive girl.

But, thanks for the reply anon
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>>17456626

What about if you're 25 and have a good paying job where you could afford your own place, but live with your mom.. BUT you're trying to jump into a entirely different career path and doesn't want to buy a house yet because you don't know where you're going yet..?
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>>17456513
idk but that low self esteem and robot rage is probably why they don't reply.
>>17456547
Tell her that. Or just deflect her signs. Chances are she won't ever make a definitive move, so as long as you don't then she'll get the hint eventually. If she does make a move, then that's only a bonus for you because then you can just tell her flat out "no".
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>>17456628
Anon, not all girls care just about the looks.
My boyfriend isn't all that attractive, but he is the best person I've ever met and he makes me so happy. I could date guys much more attractive than him, but I can't think of ONE person who is a better person than he is and I'm proud.
Maybe it's like that for her, too.
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>>17456636
I mean, if you have the opportunity to explain all that. Why not just rent for the time being though? If your mom needs help in any way, like she's older or disabled or single or whatever, I can look past that. It'd actually be noble of you to stay and help out your mom in that case. But if she doesn't need you there and you're just using her place as a free ride, then it's just a little questionable.

My other deterrent for a dude who lives with his parents is the sex equation. I will never have sex at a dude's parents house, even if they aren't home. Shit's just creepy to me. And I would hate having my own place be the sole sex dungeon, I'd want to mix up the location every now and then, Plus that means I'm always having to do the damn post sex laundry.
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>>17456640

Perhaps you're right. Thanks again
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>>17456646

Renting is a waste of money Tbh. So, I live in my mom's basement right now. But I buy all of my own groceries, do my own laundry, cook my own food. Do everything myself. I just think renting is a waste. I want buy a place, but since I'm trying to go into a completely different career field, I'm not ready to buy now
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She definitely has daddy issues lmao

I'm definitely going to keep hooking up with her, but what do if shit gets weird?
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>>17456660
I feel ya, but it just says more for your responsibility. Especially in a first impression mode where you likely won't have the time to explain your whole life's story.
It may be a waste in money, but socially it's not. Just depends where your balance lies. That being said though, again if I were courting you and got this explanation, I could still go for you. Given your circumstances, I could over look it (but don't expect sex any time soon). I'm just saying on the standpoint of when you're just meeting a grill and she hasn't gotten to know you well, living with your mom is a yellow flag at minimum.
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>>17456671

I hear you, that makes sense. I guess I'll just wait a few more years before starting with girls then.
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>>17456694
I mean you can certainly try, I may just have dumb standards myself due to being really awkward around parents that most girls don't share for all we know, but just don't get too discouraged by any rejection.

Overall though, you have the right idea. Your values should come first, and if you really don't feel its time to move out then I do admire you for sticking with your gut and deciding to put grills on the back burner for the time being. Best of luck with the career tho friend.
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Girls and Guys

This question might be dumb, but Its a serious one...

I don't want a girlfriend, and I also don't believe in random sex/hook ups. But I have a strong sex drive, and urges, and fapping doesn't really help... what should i do?
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>>17456589
You are not a fucking girl, don't answer the questions directed at girls
If you actually wore yoga pants you'd see the light cause you'd know how fucking comfy that shit is
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>>17456706
Have a FWB?
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>>17455880
Facial hair is hardly something that could be a deal breaker
Just because a girl doesn't like facial hair doesn't mean she dislikes it enough to cross you out because of it. Quit worrying about inane shit m8.4
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>>17456710

umm. Well, I've always heard those things never workout. And that they usually end badly.
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>>17456706
You're gonna have to budge on something, what you're describing doesn't exist. If you consider a fuck buddy a random hookup at least.
If not be warned, 9 times out of 10 someone will catch feelings after fucking long enough.
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>>17456721

Shit..
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>>17456706
See a professional
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>>17456743

What do you mean?
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Do you think it is weird if I ask my girlfriend to have sex for the first time without condoms and to take a pill instead? I don't want to have sex in condom for the first time ever. Only the first one.
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>>17456749
Clearly means a hooker
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>>17456772

that's random sex tho
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>>17456770
Why don't you talk about getting some serious birth control method?
The pill, contraceptive ring or IUD would work well.
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>>17456770
You can ask but she may not be down. I know I'll never have sex without a condom. I simply cannot trust anyone that well to not decided to cheat on me the night before, get AIDS, and then come home and give it to me. And given this would be your first time with one another, I'd especially never do it without a condom, because the relationship is still rather fresh.

If she's not on the pill, keep in mind you may have to wait a month or so while she gets into it. Taking a bc pill for the first time the night before you have sex doesn't work you know. She may have to go through a whole month's worth before she's fully protected.
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>gf jokes about something I'm uncomfortable joking about (namely jokes about cheating on me, death of one of my friends, things I'm insecure about)
>I ask her politely to not joke about them because they make me feel uncomfortable
>She gets angry at me and tells me that she shouldn't have to filter herself around me and/or watch what she says

Am I asking too much?
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>>17456798
No, she's being insensitive.
I am exactly like her and I joke about stuff I shouldn't joke about, but if someone asks me to stop, I apologise and shut the fuck up.
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>I react negatively (anything from being slightly annoyed to in tears) to something my girlfriend said or did
>She cries that I'm forcing her to stop doing/saying certain things and guilting her

How do I deal with this?

>She nags me all day (15+ throughout a few hours) about something (eating habits, some work that needs to get done), I get annoyed and tell her to stop. She complains about how I'm forcing her to stop voicing her opinion and guilting her into being quiet because I'm annoyed

>I'm upset that she refuses to meet my family after two years of being together and because she's "uncomfortable being portrayed as my girlfriend". She calls my tears fake and just says I'm forcing her into meeting them and guilting her with fake tears.
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>>17456818
You find a better girlfriend.
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>>17456798
Nah, she's being a cunt. I always say you have the right to ask people not to make certain comment around you. (However you don't have the right to dictate what they can and can't say period.)
For example I'm a rape victim, rape jokes were how I coped. I still make them and laugh about them. They're literally how I survived and didn't an hero after that event. However I understand not all rape victims feel the same way as me, and may feel uncomfortable with them. So if they say something like "Hey I don't feel right about that" I'll just say "Ah my bad, I'll refrain from the subject while I'm around you. I may slip up every now and then though, but I'll make a conscious effort and apologize when I do". But I'll continue to make the same jokes with other company if I choose.

Now if you're a pissbaby who literally everything is offensive to you and she's just frustrated because it seems like every little thing she says sets you off, I can understand. But to me that just means you aren't compatible as people and should probably part ways.
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>>17456818
Move her to a new home
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>>17456818
Dump her. She sounds like a 5 year old with double standards.
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guys: what is your ideal female body (you would have a long term relationship with this female, not just a ONS)

i know everyone has different preferences but i'd like to see if there's some sort of consensus
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>>17456818
>>17456825

this desu
dump her
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>>17456829

Not fat.
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This questions for guys and maybe girls if it applies to you.

My girlfriend just asked me if I wanted to watch her makeout or fool around with a girl.

I knew she was bi when I went into this but im kind of taken aback now.

I kind of just want her to myself but at the same time theres a possibility of a threesome (which I knew from dating her she's really wanted).

My only real concern is if it starts with her having me as a boyfriend and someone else as a girlfriend... which Im not cool with.

What's a good way of aproaching this without coming off insecure?
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>>17456832
Is that the only requirement? What if she were underweight?
Not TOTAL skelly, bmi of 17 or something
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>>17456835
Keep in mind the average dude's idea of overweight is actually a healthy weight. So yeah, you actually have to be semi-underweight to be considered "average" in this day and age. Like the sweetspot is just a little below the medical average. Being slightly underweight, not a spoopy skele, but not necessarily healthy either.
Also BMI is the most retarded method of gauging your weight possible, it classifies ripped athletes as obese. Never use it.

Also depends on your distribution. I was 113lbs at my lowest, medically underweight, but due to my figure guys still categorized me as "chubby".
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>>17456835

That wouldn't bother me at all. Then again I'm a pretty slim guy. But, skinny is fine.
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>>17456835
>>17456829
I find it hot as fuck (specially with abs and v-taper) but that's personal preference. Go to /fa/'s thinspo and see you are not alone.

The perfect body for me is Laura Ludwig's with a bit more ass.
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>>17456845
This is totally false.
When I was 125 lbs (I am 5'6) guys actually told me I should gain weight, and I looked sick.
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>>17456852
You probably carried it well. All my fat goes straight to my gut and thighs. I was 113 at 5'3 and only getting attention from self admitted chubby chasers.
My point was it dosent actually matter what the number says or what your doctor says, only matters if you /look/ fat.
You can be 80lbs for anyone cares, but if you /look/ fat, you're fat. You can be 150lbs, but if you /look/ skinny (somehow) then you're skinny.
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>>17456878
My best friend is the same, if she goes over 110 lbs she looks much fatter than she actually is. She is VERY thin, probably barely 100 now.

It really depends on your figure. I think I am very proportioned, I have big breasts and butt and a very thin waist. When I gain weight, I do all over my body and keep proportion.
I also dress well and enhance my features. I am now around 130-135 and I look well.
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>>17456773
>>17456772
No, i meant hitman
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>>17456829
Slightly curvy
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Why do guys put up with Coffee Meets Bagel?

One potential match a day sounds horrible
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>>17456852
Depends on a guy. I prefer BMI 16-18.
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>>17456927
You go around and ask for girl's BMI? Because that's pretty sick.
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>>17456904
My whole family's got the gut curse lol. My sister was much worse than me, back in high school actually dipping into the late 90's every now and then, and she still had like, a beer belly. It was ridiculous. We just really like to hold onto our stomach fat, which unfortunately is arguably the sole defining factor in what makes a person "fat".
People overlook thigh fat (because T H I Q, or something.), people overlook breast fat, people overlook fat in the face, stomach fat? Fuck no you cow lol.
But I guess if I were just /RIPPED/ this wouldn't be an issue. But muscular women just look like apes to me and I have no intention of looking like that either. Plus the way I put it on so easily it would mean being absolutely obsessive about my food and exercise regime, to the point I can't have a single slip up ever. I don't have time for that, so I'll just resign myself to "chubby chasers" who want my average healthy bod.
When I get back to it that is. I'll admit I've put on too much weight this past year and actually am chubby now. Which to most guys means I'm morbidly obese kek.
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>>17456829
Short (like 5'3-4) and not skinny. Athletic body type/curvy.
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>>17456936
It is pretty hard for woman to get ripped.
I exercise 4 times a week, run and swim mostly, and I literally have NO visible muscle but in my shoulders and legs.
I try to stay around 130 lbs because that's where I look best. I inherited my mother's prominent ribs so if I go much under that (120-125) I look like shit - I look like I have 4 tits.
I eat about 1000-1200 kcal a day during the week and pretty much whatever during the weekend. So a yogurt and fruit for breakfast, salad for lunch, meat for dinner.
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>>17456829

My personal #1 preference of female bodytypes is pear/hourglass. I love women with slim waists and large hips, it looks so... i don't even know how to describe, it gets me so horny and brings a strong desire to impregnate the woman then protect and provide for her and the offspring while murdering anything that threatens their safety.

But for a long term relationship body doesn't matter as much to me as other qualities that make a woman interesting like being smart, well mannered, ladylike, having good hygiene, a likeable personality and interests of her own.
These things are much more important when measuring the value of a woman to me than her body, but of course, these qualities fall flat on the ground if you are skinny like a skeleton or too fat.
Even slightly overweight is fine if your fat is well distributed, but keeping yourself in good shape and having the aforementioned qualities make you a woman of the highest quality.
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Girls

what would you remember more, a passionate long sincere kiss, or sex?

Context- it's with a guy you might not see again for years. And he's someone that you really trust, and care for.
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Either gender

Can a relationship work when you have opposite political views? As in someone being on the left side of the spectrum and the other being on the right.

Or is this a different values sort of thing?
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>>17457012
Yup, my girlfriend and I are on opposite sides. We just don't talk politics. It's as simple as that. My parents are the same way, with my mom being super liberal to the point of ignorance and my dad being super republican, but not a religious zealot republican. They've made it work for 40 years, but again, they don't talk about it. They have friends for that.
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>>17456973
lol thats what I'm saying, the only way I could possibly have a truly flat stomach is if I were completely ripped and had a 6pack. Because no matter what I do none of the fat comes from my stomach, until there's literally no other fat left.
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>>17456999
pic related.
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>>17457012
Very difficult to make it work.

The left and right have opposing moral views on some issues.
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>>17456829
Skinnier = better.
But doesn't matter much as long as you look good in clothes.
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>>17457012
Deeepends.
Two things matter
>How your political views influence your lifestyle?
>How good you are at discussing?

I am on the left side and my boyfriend is on the right side.
We have quite similar lifestyles. The only thing we disagreed on was me being a housewife in the future, but we talked about it and agreed to both reduce our work schedules to spend time with kids (since it's possible for both of us, and he doesn't want me to be unhappy as I'd be if I didn't work). In every other aspect that could influence our relationship, we agree (abortion, marriage, divorce, how to raise kids, sleeping around, drugs, alcohol, etc).
We talk about politics often, but we know how to discuss. We're old enough to not think bad of each other because of different ideals or opinions. We don't get angry. We talk, and when we get at a dead end we stop discussing. And use all the tension from good discussion to have very rough and nice sex.
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>>17456911
this
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>>17457043
Well to give context to my situation:
I'm lean more liberal on a lot of things (and she of course is more conservative). She's religious while I am an atheist (though I couldn't care less about debating religion).

Something like abortion I advocate strongly while she doesn't. Civil rights issues (I mostly support gay rights since I have friends and family that are) she tends to agree with but her family doesn't too much (some of mine doesn't either).

But in terms of drugs, raising kids, and monogamy etc. I do agree with her on.

I also follow politics fairly close and in college I have taken a lot of Political Science and I major in History with a large emphasis on politics in the past. But I don't get into heated debates with people since I try to be respectful and expect the same.
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>>17457073
I am atheist, my boyfriend is a preacher at a church.
We agree to respect each other, and that's it. We talk about religion, but I deeply respect his faith and he understands my lack of faith. I agreed to raise my kids christian, tho (even if in moderation) because I know it means a lot to him and I ultimately like christian values.

I am pro-choice, but personally wouldn't abort. He is pro-life. So while we argue about it for the sake of it, when it comes to our relationship we just agree that we wouldn't abort if it happened to us. If you find a shared decision on this, it is not an issue.

Civil rights, it's not an issue that affects you. Especially if she's generally fine with gay rights.

I like debates because they're interesting. It's fun to discuss. If you both are able to keep calm and don't be disrespectful, then it's not going to be an issue.
It has never been an issue for us.
Actually, it got us so much closer.
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WOMEN

Do you know when you start your period?
It seems like every month, we find out she's on her period by pulling out a bloody dick.

Ruins my shirt (i'm chubby, I wear a shirt during sex), and often will leave streaks/stains on my mattress.

I'm just trying to protect my assets ya know?
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>>17457096
Well, I start bleeding, of course I know my period started.

Does she have a regular period? In that case, download an app to track her period and track it.
After a few months it gets pretty precise.

It happens to me pretty often - when she gets close to her period put a blanket under her butt and wear dark tshirts.
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>>17457096
Some are less subtle than others. Back when i did get periods, id have pms symptoms pretty early on to give me a hint. Some of my friends said theys spot a but before hand, just small amounts of blood when they wiped or whatever, not enough to actually ruin their clothes.
I honestly would highly recommend the pill. I have a period maybe twice a year if its a bad year lol. Plus even if she doesnt want to skip them all together, itll at least be a relatively surefire way of tracking it.
If all else isnt an option, then the only thing you can do is track her damn monthlies. It aint always gonna be accurate tho. Part of the reason i got on the pill was because i could never guess when itd actually come. Id get 2 in a month some times, none the next, they just came and went as they pleased. She may be in the same boat.
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Guys

What's the appeal of extreme dark lipstick? I can't stand 'em.
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>>17457012
Id say rarely, especially if theyre really on either end of the spectrum. It usually coresponds with your core values in life, and therefore becomes a deal breaker in most people.
I only have one couple friend who makes it work, but only because shes just barely over the liberal line and hes just barely over the conservative line. Theyre both still relatively middle ground, and they just choose not to discuss the topics they know will start a fight and just vote silently of one another.
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>>17456553
I do. Honestly I also tend to grow more attracted to people over time anyway, so I'd fuck about 80% of my social circle if it was purely a matter of looks.

But it's not. I value those friendships and typically the attraction I feel is fleeting and superficial. For example, I have a sudden urge to kiss someone, but I know it would take very little (an awkward noise or remark from them, for example, slightly bad breath, an incompatible kiss) for me to get very turned off. Which would create uncomfortable situations threatening the friendship.

So yeah, sometimes I have occasional daydreams, but I'd never act on it.
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>>17455774
Where do I find a modest beautiful white nationalist gf that is aware of racial differences, and cares about the future of the white race?
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>>17457148
White supremacy forums and/or meets. And then you need to have a lot to offer yourself, in order to find a girl who's beautiful and modest and compatible with you (and you probably also want her to be sweet, and smart, and enthusiastic about sex, and having compatible future goals).
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I'm worried I may have fallen in love with a girl on our first date.
We met through a mutual friend, who set us up, and we went out the next day. I've never clicked with a girl so well, we got along like we had known each other forever, and within hours we were all over each other.
Sounds great right?
It was.
But at the end of the night when I'm driving her home she tells me she's not ready for a relationship, having just gotten out of one less than a month ago, which sucks but at the same time is kind of okay, I told her not to worry about it, and that we could have just have fun together.

She cried and talked to me about her ex and we kissed and she went home. She texted me to let me know she got home and asked if it was okay if we were just friends. I said yes, but told her I hoped we ended up as more, did I screw up?
I've known this girl less than 72hrs and she already knows things about me my best friends don't know, I actually feel comfortable with her when I never have with women before and I just don't want to end up loving someone who can't be with me.
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>>17457126
all lipstick is unappealing to me
same with most makeup
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>>17457126
It really depends on the girls skin tone.
A pale woman with a dark red lipstick is sexy as hell but a black chick with dark purple looks awful.
Black looks good with the right outfit
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>>17457161
If she aint ready she aint ready. Nothing you could have done.
But dude you still know nothing about her. I dated a dude for 6 months and was still finding out new fudamental things to his person. Youre just excited to hit it off so well. Dont downplay love that much, you have a crush if anything.
All you can do is either accept her terms in your relationship to one another or move on. Be her friend or dont
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Am I wrong for assuming a guy might have a thing for me if we stay up until 6am (same time zone) chatting and playing online games together? Or is it more likely that he only does it because there isn't anyone else awake at such an odd time?
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>>17457173
Just ask him. Guys who stay up until 6am playing video games don't tend to have the best social skills.
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>>17457171
I suppose I should have said 'fallen for' as opposed to love, English is my first language but I speak it poorly.
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>>17457126
Lipstick that doesn't look natural is generally unappealing to me. Especially the brightv red you see too often.
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>>17457177
Seconding this. Don't assume any ability to take a hint.
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>>17457184
>but i speak it poorly
Kek i understand m8. Advice still stands, you dont have many options. Plus believe me, you dont want to engage with her seriously until shes over her ex anyways.
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To either:

Relationship issue. The tl;dr is I feel love and unwanted and don't know wtf to do nor how to cope with it.
>bf still does stuff that lets me know he still cares about us
>at the same time it seems he's lost all interest in me
>no desire to sex, no urge to talk or spend time together
>works hard, frequently tired af from it, doesn't get a whole lot of time to himself, porn is easier faster and more exciting
>these are things I understand
>having so little interaction with him makes me completely and utterly fucking miserable; like if I were to detail the breadth and depth of the extent to which this impacts other areas of my life you guys would cringe so hard you'd feel embarrassed /for/ me
>this is a thing he understands
>lately it's gotten to where I'm starting to feel myself pulling back
>not getting as excited about hearing from him or getting to see him because acutely aware it isn't that he actually wants to see me too but rather just that he doesn't want me to be sad about not getting to see him
>not even checking to see if he's responded or reached out for days at a time because the longer I give it, the more likely it'll be that I'll have heard from him
>not enthusiastically going for it if sex does happen to come up because really really really not a fan of the "kinda wanna drink bleach" feels that him falling asleep right after expressing an interest invariably leaves me with
>all the yearning and longing really sucks balls
>concluding I've become an obligation and feeling guilt over being a burden instead of joy at getting to see him sucks the most balls
>preemptively suppressing or rejecting myself at pretty much every turn in a futile attempt to avoid the pain or disappointment doesn't help shit; also just really sucks balls
Any thoughts or advice appreciated. "How I've recently begun reacting to it clearly isn't making anything better but is it making anything worse?" if a specific question is preferred. Support/criticism both welcome.
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>>17457024

well, because I'll only be spending 2 days with this girl. And I don't know if the situation and time will permit both.. However that would be ideal.
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>>17457220
I feel like you feel obligated to stay around because of the combination of you loving him and him still doing "stuff" that lets you know he cares about you. That's not the case. You've talked about this and you are lonely and feel unappreciated. It is absolutely valid to decide you want to be with someone else instead.

It kind of sounds to me like he either has fallen out of love with you/has completely taken you for granted, but still wants the stability and familiarity of your relationship, or he has become overworked, depressed, whatever thing that makes him simply not have enough energy and zest left for life.
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>>17457173
He might, or maybe he just likes having a friend. I do that with friends and I do that with crushes. Come on.

>>17457161
Don't confuse love with New Relationship Energy. You have chemistry. That doesn't mean she's your soulmate. Don't do anything stupid.

>>17457126
I like lipstick because it makes my eyes drawn to their lips and I find lips attractive.

>>17457096
Sometimes I get a certain cramp in my thigh that means I'll be getting my period in a day or two. Sometimes I am surprised by ruining a pair of underwear.
I'd suggest she gets one of those period apps. It predicts when your next period is after you've given it a couple cycles.

>>17457012
I'd say if they weren't radicals, it could work. If they're both open minded and willing to say, "Yeah, I see why you'd think that way." But if they are baffled by the other side, it'll be difficult.
Avoid talking politics.

>>17456770
Why is this so important to you? Keep in mind that it takes the pill 2-4 weeks to be effective after she starts taking it.
If you're asking her to take Plan B, that's really inconsiderate. It's called Plan B for a reason. It's a painful load on the body.
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So, girls.

Have you ever tried sucking your own nipples?
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Guys:

What is the ideal dating history/age of a marryable woman?
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>>17457245

I have now.
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>>17457245
My titties are too itty.
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>>17457245
Kek yes.
Unfortunately i cant reach the nip tho since mine are already kinda more downward facing than normal. Ill admit to giving myself a hicky trying in the past tho.
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>>17457245
More often than I'd care to admit, but I can't.
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>>17457245
Yup. Can lick them, but can't suck on them without suffocating.
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>>17455877
It's not a conscious thing for all but yeah, of course.

>>17455880
Maybe take this with a grain of salt since I'm neutral on it but yes your condition sounds acceptable, bear in mind that facial hair is actually a selling point to some chicks, and unless you'd feel more confident that way no you don't need to shave first. Do groom it into a tidy appearance though; plenty of girls really like beards but the unkempt mountain man look remains a pretty niche appeal across the board.

>>17455893
Doubtful.

>>17455926
"Just need the ends trimmed please, I'd like to keep the length"

>>17455950
If she's replying she's not annoyed. That's not foolproof of course but it's a good rule of thumb to go by.

>>17455983
To misrepresent ourselves. It's not a malicious deception thing, it's a feeling better when you feel beautiful thing. Objectives vary: covering up blemishes, making flaws less noticeable, enhancing or emphasizing features you like, enjoying the artistic aspect of what you're able to do if you're particularly skilled at applying it, enjoying the fashion aspect of accessorizing your face to the rest of your outfit. Some resent it. Some don't bother with it. Some go all nutso feminist over it. It's just another thing.

>>17456004
Not sure but if you want her to do something differently you've gotta communicate that to her somehow.

>>17456062
Nigga she felt like YOU friendzoned HER lol. See if you can make something happen. You're still on her mind.

>>17456074
Harness your autism and explain it to her like she's autistic. Not even joking.

>>17456119
Pic might've been too much too soon. We're not as taken by visual stimuli as you guys are.

>>17456281
It means you're bored and boring and want to do cool shit and want someone to do it with and don't know where to start so a guy who already knows what's up that you can tag along with will be hella attractive to you.

>>17456443
Because fruity.

>>17456458
Because college "education".

>>17456498
Socialize.
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>>17457250
>What is the ideal dating history/age of a marryable woman?
Zero/20

I literally cannot envision the level of desperation and self-hatred that would ever compel me to date a woman who was over 25 when I met her, regardless of my own age.
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>>17457012
If it was something like "I like socialism" vs "I like working hard to earn for my stuff," it could still work.

If it was something like "Ban all guns" and "Gays shouldn't be allowed to marry," it could be harder to maintain.
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>>17457358
Guys like you are disgusting.
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>>17457371
And yet I'm married.

Don't ask questions if you don't actually want the answer. That's a piece of advice a lot of girls could use, IME.
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>>17457250
This depends very much of the man his cultural background and education.
I'm a classical musician, I think that that may have had some influence on the fact that I see some lifestyles as frivolous while others see them as normal. I don't like one-night-stands and I only have dated people I wanted to date, this means I only get involved in relationship that will last for a few years, and I would not get involved with someone without them satisfying the very same standards I consider to be good for myself.
Given this, I think the ideal age for marriage goes between 24 and 27. The dating history should go from 1-2 men for the younger, and 2-3 men for the older.
As I said, it is by large a choice that depends of the cultural background.
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>>17457371
So are single women in their 30s which is why they become single women in their 40s and 50s.
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>>17457371
The question asks "ideal," not "realistic."

Marriage is a major commitment that many people fall prey to, and if you're gonna be in it for the long haul, why the fuck would you want to compromise?
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>>17457371
>t. 28-year old single mom with three kids from different fathers
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>>17457385
Yes, this too. It seems obvious to me that the *ideal* dating history's zero, since the probability that a woman will stay married to the same person for her entire life and not get divorced halves from "zero long-term premarital relationships" to "one long-term premarital relationship".

Nevertheless, I'd still *accept* some history, especially if it was just a couple short flings etc. or a high school boyfriend.


But ultimately, why in the fuck would you hitch your cart to a sick horse? Forget that.
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>>17457377
A lot of disgusting people found someone desperate enough to take them. It's not a good indicator.
I am not the anon who asked the question, anyway. I just found the second part of your comment genuinely revolting.

>>17457383
Most single people in their 30s are unappealing.
Which is why they are single that late.

>>17457385
I would prefer someone with a low number of partners, too. That's not the point.
I wouldn't compromise when it comes to marriage, my husband is a great person and I adore him. The quality he has and our amazing relationships matter more than the number of people he fucked or how old he was when we met. I find shallow and pretty disgusting the comment he made.

>>17457391
I am 23. I have no kids. I had one sexual partner, and I am married to him.
No worries.
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>>17457245
No.. Have you tried sucking your own dick?
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>>17457428
Of course.
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>>17457417
>Most single people in their 30s are unappealing.
They are unappealing by themselves, that's why no one has married them.
A single woman past their thirties is likely to never get married.
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>all those people marrying young (<25) or wating to marry someone young
Unless you've been with someone for at least 4 for years it is too soon to marry when you will still change a lot on the comibg years.
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>>17457434
I am >>17457417
I've been with my boyfriend 7 years - we started dating in december 2008.
Lived together for 4 years.
Married a couple of months ago.
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>>17457434
People doesn't change that much. You should be able to know if your partner is a total wreck before 25.
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>>17457434
First, that anon did say he'd never marry a woman he'd *met* whe she was older than 25. Seems to me he would've just said "I'd never marry a woman over 25" if that's what he meant.

Second, you do know that physically it's best for a woman to give birth for the first time at age 16, right? Our society's habit of waiting fucking long is what's really unwholesome, not marrying early.
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>>17457441
>lived together for 4 years
That's huge.
I think everybody should live together before marrying.
>>17457445
They change their priorities, location, jobs, education, etc.
Even if their character don't change much there are a lot of things in life to change between 20-25.
A 20yo girl will see the world much differently when she is 25 if she strives for a better life, same with boys.
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>>17457126
It is only attractive if you skin is white snow.
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>>17457455
>A 20yo girl will see the world much differently when she is 25 if she strives for a better life, same with boys.
I have to say, that sounds like the exact kind of moronic modern consumerist-society attitude I'd want to avoid in any girl I'd consider marrying.

The good life doesn't change.
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>>17457173
Yes. There is nothing in what he is doing that may be an indication that he is into you.
Sometimes I go that time without sleeping because I have insomnia and nothing better to do.
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>>17457465
What, personal growth is moronic modern consumerist shit?
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>>17457455
>They change their priorities, location, jobs, education, etc.
A woman in her early twenties should have her priorities set straight. If she has no education at that age she probably isn't in college, then is not worth bothering with her, it is always a bad idea to marry and even date a woman without a university degree. If she has that she has plans for her education, for a future job, and she will know what this job will allow her to do (where and when).
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How do I move on from letting myself be in an abusive relationship?, being manipulated so easily by someone?,
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>>17457483
Be single for a long time (think something like a year) and work on yourself. Therapy, practicing boundaries with friends, reading books on abusive relationships and the people that fall for them again and again, whatever works for you. The most important part is to isolate yourself for some time so you can enter a learning process without being already sucked into someone else's shit.
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>>17457470
Yes? Personal "growth" is a myth that alienates people from one another. People managed to live happy lives for all of uh, time, before the 1960s, without that shit.

"Personal growth" is just a different way of saying "constant dissatisfaction with one's present circumstances", which fuels consumerism especially in a society which has lost all non-materialistic values.
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>>17457483
Learn to say no.
To yourself and to others.
>>17457480
People change, having a plan and realizing it's not what you really wanted happens. You are allowed to change, you don't have to be hellbent on the same thing you were when you were 18.
>>17457465
Can you elaborate?
I don't understand what you are saying specifically.
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>>17457490
That's not what it means, criticizing how something is used isn't the same as disagreeing with the context. Personal growth is just becoming a person with more maturity, insight and self control throughout life. And wise old people were a thing before the 1960s.
As was the concept of personal growth itself, by the way.
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>>17456494
Yes, as long as he is living with his parents because he doesn't have the means to move alone at the moment, but plans to do so in the future (he has a job or he is studying).
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>>17457230
Hey thanks for responding.

>you feel obligated to stay around
Nope.
>you are lonely
Very, yeah.
>and feel unappreciated.
Nope.
>decide you want to be with someone else instead.
Nope.
>It kind of sounds to me like he either has fallen out of love with you
Spark has definitely faded for him.
>/has completely taken you for granted,
Not so sure about this one but maybe to some degree? Could be I guess.
>he has become overworked, depressed, whatever thing that makes him simply not have enough energy and zest left for life.
Nailed it.

I'm not looking to break up with him or find someone else.
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>>17457494
How many wise old people do you know that advocate hopping boy/girlfriends into your late twenties?
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>>17456829
All you need to know is low waist-to-hip ratio. Even all of these answers arguing about weight, BMI, and muscle/fat ratio are all really the same answer. It's ultimately about a WHR.
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>>17457538
People learn from what they experience, but that doesn't have to mean the experience was great. You can learn the same wise lesson from doing something right right away, as from fucking up and realizing you fucked up. That people cite relationship hopping as a source of personal growth doesn't mean that personal growth means relationship hopping. It also depends on the individual: some people take a lot from every relationship they have, they have insight in human dynamics that they elaborate with the new experiences, they have the ability to critically reflect after the break up and learn stuff about themselves. Others are not that self aware and just go through the motions, and in that case no amount of meaningful experiences will yield the same results.
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>>17455774
Girls, how likely is it that you'll get bored of a relationship if everything is okay?

I'm 24 and I've been with my gf of 21 for almost five months but she's going to leave to pursue further education in another city. Our relationship is great, I think, but I can't shake the feeling I'm too boring in the sense we haven't had a single argument or discussion since we met, we have nice dates and are generally kinda quiet (we both hate clubs and she doesn't even drink) and we've even made some plans for the future like moving in together after she comes back from her studies in a year.

This is the first time she'll live alone (used to live with parents, then her brother) and I think the distance and the fact I'm honestly kind of a boring guy (I hate video calls and I can't sext to save my life for example) and pretty deattached will inevitably make her drift from me. Don't get me wrong, I love her, she's the best thing to happen to me in a long, long time, and I don't want to lose her, but I get this feeling of inevitability given our backgrounds.
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>>17457096
Lol here: hydrogen peroxide, the sooner the better, and don't use hot water to rinse. Heat sets stains.

>>17457148
Churches, gun clubs, conservative forums online/groups irl, maybe okcupid.

>>17457161
Stay the course. Don't get your hopes too high but see what develops and enjoy it for whatever it turns out to be.

>>17457245
Yes. Keyword being tried.
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>>17457591
>Girls, how likely is it that you'll get bored of a relationship if everything is okay?
Not at all if there's nothing to be bored with. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I'm nowhere near bored.

> she's going to leave to pursue further education in another city
This is the bigger problem. Not because it's boring being in an LDR, but because it's hard. You need to accept that your relationship probably won't last the distance given your personal characteristics
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>>17457173

He might just enjoy the company. The best thing to do would be to just ask him.
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Girls, what do you think about scars?

I have like a 4cm long scar on one of my cheeks. Looks a little bit like a nike logo.
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>>17457614
Unless it's very puffy and fresh or very brutal (like burns), they either look good or neutral to me.
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>>17457601
>You need to accept that your relationship probably won't last the distance given your personal characteristics
I've pretty much made peace with it and that's partly what worries me. It doesn't feel right, yesterday I was planning on going out to a fancy place and my brain just said "nigga, why are you wasting so much money?" and ended up just going over to her house and ordering pizza + watching movies. It's like sleeping in a hotel room, you don't get too comfortable because you know you'll leave in a few days.
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Girls:
What do you think of extreme stretch marks on guys?, does it kill of my chances?
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Girls (again):
What do you think of skinnyfat guys?, skinny but with a large belly.
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So I basically need help in trying to make a girl see me as a sexual object after a bit of a debacle.

>mutual friend introduces me and the girl and we meet up to hang out
>she's getting out of a relationship with crappy sex and just wants to fuck
>have a pretty fun day and really get to know each other
>take her home to fuck and I can't get it up
>stress, guilt, idk what it was
>she wants to try again for the next few days, but I can't because I have school and am generally busy
>she patches things up with her boyfriend for a while, stops being flirty with me, tells mutual friend that I'm being too pushy for sex even though I'm pretty sure I was just matching her
>also tells mutual friend she thinks she just wants to be friends
>finally breaks it off with her shitty bf and we start hanging out a lot
>makes flirtatious remarks to me constantly, feel things are going better
>hang out with her and some friends last night, I hug her and kiss her on her forehead good night
>she asks "we're just friends, right?"
>tell her "for now" and that I'm not looking for a relationship or sex or anything from her right now at all since we're both so damn busy, but that I won't be satisfied just being friends with her forever
>says "we'll see" and that she's not looking for anything and is not really interested in any guys right now sexually or otherwise since she's going through so much shit
>find out today from mutual friend she has been fucking some guy she has known for a while who's a friend of her sister's

I'm a bit pissed that she's fucking the dude, but I can't be upset given the circumstances. I have a feeling she tried to let me down easy. However, I want to know, how do you make yourself a sexual being or build up sexual tension after having an episode like erectile dysfunction that makes her see you as a non-sexual entity?
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>>17457634
Not sure what to picture. I think normal stretch marks (from growing) are a complete non-issue. But I guess you're talking about having lost weight etc? Do you have pics to give an idea? Faded already or still reddish?
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>>17457624
You need to have a serious talk with her about this and what's going to happen. Tell her all you've told us. Communication is key in relationships, especially when it comes to big decisions.

>>17457634
>>17457638
I think those guys need to learn to read the OP.
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>>17457614
Ex had plenty of scars. Loved to kiss them after sex.
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>>17456439
i dont care about scars or cellulite the only people who give a fuck about those thing are women
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>>17457638
Agree that this is individual (and I'd need to see in real life but am typically okay with chubby guys) like the other poster said, but just wanted to add that the term skinnyfat typically means that you are slim enough to look skinny in clothes, while without you are still a bit flabby all over, just not dramatically enough to be immediately recognized as chubby.
What you describe sounds fatter than that.
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>>17456978
This, brother. My girlfriend has this body type and a big ass with saddlebags, but a flat stomach and doesn't look out of shape - just a big lower body because that's where her fat is mainly distributed

I could die peacefully in this pussy
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Do promiscuous girls usually commit to a serious relationship when ready, or will they cheat and sleep around whenever they can?
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How do i find a gf as someone who has no job, no car, no license, and lives with his parents?
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maybe this is a dumb one, but okay, guys, this guy I really like (I see him about 2-4 times a month because of my job, but it's not a situation where I'd be shitting where I eat, so don't come at me with that, please) added me on Facebook recently. First of all, is that an indication he likes me? (we have no mutual friends, so he would have had to search for me) or am I dumb?

also, should I just suck it up and shoot him a message? I was thinking about just sending him a meme about his NFL team. (I'm a diehard fan of their rival.)
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For a 25 year old woman, how many man she's been in a relationship with or slept with is "too" many?

25 years is a lot so what would the average be? From all the women I know In real life it seems to be above 5, and a lot of them wanted to marry the guy they were with but the man was cheating so they ended it. Can they really be blamed for this?
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I like to answer questions in this thread for guys, but I wish it was more common to be thanked. Or even just responded to. I don't even know if they read my answers half the time. How will I get my faux social interaction?
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>>17457225
passionate kiss with sex, omg duh, sploosh. jfc if you can't handle doing both you can't handle doing either one
come on now
>>17457245
yep, i can't suck 'em but I can lick them
>>17457591
I generally won't leave if I'm happy. If I'm bored I'll distance myself until I miss the guy, and then hang out again. I always need a little space from time to time.
Distance is hard and I'm not a fan of LDRs.
>>17457634
I'm not sure, if I like him, it's cool. Same with skinny fat. I can deal with shit if I really like the guy.
>>17457639
you don't. you find someone else. accept it and move on. she's not going to keep trying with you because she thinks you aren't attracted and can't get it up anyway and you're too busy and shit. good luck
>>17457700
i'd like to say they will, but idk cause I'm not really promiscuous, I just don't commit often. but there's a dude I'm deeply crushing on who I'd commit to in a heartbeat, oh my fuck.
>>17457709
jesus fucking christ no you don't. get a license, get a car, get your life together. don't drag someone into that mess. please.
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>>17457735
i don't know, but it's nice to be responded to and thanked. i like to help, too. or try anyway.
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Girls how can i earn your pity?
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>>17457718
I'm kind of surprised to hear that 25 year olds have been with 5 guys that they wanted to marry. How long were they dating them?
I generally think it's less important the number and more important the circumstance. There's a big difference between a woman who was in a string of long term relationships, versus a woman who got her number to the same level through a gang bang.
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>>17457744
Be this guy >>17457709
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Jesus, you people seem to have no clue how dating and marriage works in today's world

Give up the archaism; get over your traditional values.

Guys, if you want to marry a woman with no dating history while she's at the age of 20, good fucking luck. Even when I was 16, my 16 year old girlfriend had already fucked two other guys and lost her virginity at 14 to begin with.

A lot of dudes in here seem to have an absurd idealization of the world or "ideal" woman. There are no "pure" virgins. The woman you will marry in the future just got her face painted in a gangbang last night. Get over it.

And are you niggas really saying you wouldn't fuck with a girl over 25? Even if you're OVER 25 yourself? I can't accept that my fellow male peers are this fucking lunatic. If anything you should want a woman this age, the young bitches don't want to settle down you fucking fools they want as much dick as they can get and even when they've had enough they aren't trying to get married. This isn't the 60s, it doesn't cost $5 a year to raise a 4 year old child.

And let's not act like its the quality of men that make it harder for women to find a suitable spouse

Just look at most of the posts in here

90% of the guys think their dick is too little to even please a woman
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>>17457757
>Even when I was 16, my 16 year old girlfriend had already fucked two other guys and lost her virginity at 14 to begin with.
Are you implying that this is normal? Because it's not if you're a normal, middle class person living
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Can a relationship with a big age difference have a chance of working out?

Met a woman who is 45 who is wanting a serious relationship and I'm 21.
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>>17457738
Well that's positive, I've dated her 4 years ago but ended it because I knew she could destroy me. She's a 9/10. I know she loves to sleep around. On the other hand somehow she seemed to be really into me. Even told her family about me. She recently invited me for coffee, I should give it a try.
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>>17457718
>From all the women I know In real life it seems to be above 5, and a lot of them wanted to marry the guy they were with but the man was cheating so they ended it. Can they really be blamed for this?
>fucked >5 guys who ended up being cheaters
Uh yeah, they can be blamed for that.
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>>17457748
Okay the girl in particular has been in a "lot" of relationships. She's 25, she's pretty sweet and it's her default, because she got played a lot by guys in the past. She said most of her relationship lasted 8+ months and the longest was two years. Her most recent was with a man she was madly in love with and wanted to marry, they were together for 6 months and she found out he had a wife and children. She knew about the child already but the man told her he was divorced.

Honestly I don't know if I should be turned off by this, why would she date such an older man if she was only 24 years old? But then again she comes from a completely different culture than me so who knows
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>>17457773
How can they be blamed for something they didn't know? Or the actions of someone else?
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Girls, is it true that complimenting a guy on his eyes is the compliment you give when the guy actually has nothing going for him and is quite ugly? Growing up, i got complimented on my eyes by my mom a lot, and a few girls, but i supposedly actually have a rare shade of baby blue eyes so i don't know what to feel.
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>>17457779
Because everything is women's fault and men are blameless no matter what happens, duh. Did you forget where you are?
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>>17457757
>give up your values
>it's CURRENT YEAR!
How about no? I'd rather be alone than marry a bitchy Christmas cake. I don't owe it to some romantic failure to excuse her bad life choices.
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>>17457779
>How can they be blamed for something they didn't know?
Look, that shit doesn't happen at random. If you get five in a fucking row, it's clear she's attracted to a certain type and that type is "shitbag". I'm not a man like >>17457783 implies either, I know how this works. I've had to tell friends to shut up about their "dreamboat" crushes who are obvious slime more than once.

She needs to get a grip and stop swooning over douches, basically.
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>>17457798
>I'm a superior woman who is clearly better than these sluts
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>>17457789
Having relationship that didn't work out doesn't make someone a "romantic" failure, you idiot. You can't go into any relationship knowing whether it will work out or not.

What you're really saying is "I need a young inexperienced girl to compensate for my shortcomings and own inexperience because I'm too insecure to be with someone that's been dickmatized by superior men"
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>>17456362
personally, i find them really disgusting/expensive and would rather get a root canal than go into another one.
I'd wager it's the appeal of a woman consenting (through the legal exchange of an agreed-upon sum of money) to strip, grind on you, and wave her tits in your face. if you get a loose one, there's also the potential of prostitution.
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>>17457800
She is right thought, the only constant is you.
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>>17457800
>that advice is no good because it comes from a man
>actually nvm that advice is no good because it comes from a bitch
Convenient.
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Bumping >>17457220


>>17457744
Be in genuine need of it and stand to benefit from receiving it without that causing any harmful effects for anybody down the line.

>>17457763
It can but it's not all that often that it actually does.

>>17457781
Nah, otherwise brown eyes being boring wouldn't be a thing. If your eyes are getting remarked upon its because they're remarkable.
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>>17457808
>implying there's a difference between men and a woman who doesn't like other women when it comes to opinions about women
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>>17457817
It's not a bad opinion on women.
If something happens to you repetitively, you obviously have a part in it. You don't casually meet 5+ people who are cheating scumbags. You have a preference.
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>>17457817
>implying that anyone who contradicts you with the truth must necessarily hate women
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Is it normal for women to lie about their past partners?

All this talking about the subject has made me realize a girl I'm dating first told me she had her first boyfriend when she was 20 and then about a month later she said she had a boyfriend when she was 18

I want to call her out on this but I like her a lot and I don't know if it's worth ruining everything that's been going so great

How can I word it so it doesn't come off too bad?
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>>17457763
>Can a relationship with a big age difference have a chance of working out?
Yes, but it's a much higher chance if the man is the older one.

>now watch as I get dogpiled by people who've never seen the statistics but hate the very idea that there might be differences between the sexes
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>>17457825
It is not normal to lie.
On the other hand, a lot of guys get incredibly pissy when girls have a high number of partners, so it's understandable if she did.
Also, don't talk about exes.
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>>17457825
I also wonder. I always feel girls try their very best to hide such things.
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>>17457825
>How can I word it so it doesn't come off too bad?
Short answer: you can't. Once she realizes you caught her lying she'll lose her shit at you practically by necessity — she'll rage both out of embarrassment (which she'll try to push away by telling herself (and you, loudly) that YOU'RE the guilty one), and out of necessity, in an attempt to cover up her shit.

Effectively, you have to make the call. You can go "look I like you a lot and everything's going great, but I'd like you to clear this up, you can trust me, really", but there's still a roughly 90% chance she'll blow her top. And if she doesn't, it's because she wouldn't have lost her shit anyway unless you were being super offensive about it. So yeah, your phrasing is basically entirely irrelevant. Just don't go full retard.
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>>17457830
Why is there a difference in this situation? I'm actually curious
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>>17457825
Off to a great start. I wouldn't expect sincerity any time things get hard for her.
Lying is easier...
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Girls
Is this normal for you to kinda just ignore messages from people you are "friends" with? I know this girl she is always feels to be busy with something. I wouldn't say that we are really close friends but she gets personal with me sometimes.
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>>17456439
probably
>>17456443
are you that paralyzed by your food/drinks implying your sexual orientation that you have to ask an anonymous group of strangers if your beverage makes you gay? that's closeted-gay tier gay
>>17456706
something's got to give, either cozy up to getting a gf or get used to ons
>>17456829
not obese, but not anorexic, with an hourglass shape
>>17456919
i don't use the site and i don't know anyone who does
>>17457126
contrasting colors, that's why bright white colors look good on dark skin
>>17457250
a few to moderate amount of previous relationships/25-30
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>>17457851
>>17457837
Really sucks because I feel like she's been straight forward and honest about everything, but this. Nothing else she's told me seems like a lie or even something I could catch her lying about, but this. Why is it this one thing that women feel the need to lie about?

>>17457835
What's wrong with talking about exes?

>>17457842
Alright. She's not the type to argue or spazz, not so far at least. We've never come close to arguing, besides one time I joked about her flirting with other men - she said she "doesn't like that (being accused of this" so .. Yeah she might lose her shit
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>>17457849
Lots of reasons, one of which is that women just generally prefer older men and men prefer younger women – this is consistent across basically all human societies, so it's nothing new or unique to the US. If a man's between 10-20 years older than his gf (assuming he's at least 30), their remaining time they have the libido to be sexually active aligns pretty well whereas at least for the majority of women it's the opposite case if the woman is older.

Also, men just stay attractive to women much longer, there's no female George Clooney, and the reason isn't Hollywood evil. Men also BECOME attractive later which is why there are so many whiny 19yo guys on these boards (and incidentally also why there are so many women getting buttplundered over men not wanting to start dating them past 25. You'll notice there was no reply from a man disagreeing with the anon who said that).

The social and couple dynamic of relationships is also adapted to these facts, so a lot of older woman - younger man couples tend to get awkward in many social situations, or just if the woman has more money than her boyfriend and offers to pay for stuff. Despite what people might tell you this isn't some grand conspiracy or an arbitrary social rule, it's adaptation to some basic facts of human life. So for an OW/YM relationship there's just more friction built in, you're wading against the stream instead of going with the flow. Doesn't mean it's wrong or doomed, just harder.
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>>17457835
Why would you want to be with a guy that gets pissy about something you can't change?
Why would you want to lie for all the relationship?

No wonder people hate their exes
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>>17456439
You're not fat anymore so yes. As a general rule, men will never, ever give a shit about scars unless it's something facially disfiguring.
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>>17457825
>get conversation onto a relevant topic
>mention some experience you've had regarding it
>start to ask her about what that experience was like for her
>interrupt yourself to clarify and ask whether her first real relationship was the one at 18 or the one at 20
>finish asking the rest of whatever the first question was
Just be nonchalant and don't make a big deal out of it basically.
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>>17457891
>We've never come close to arguing, besides one time I joked about her flirting with other men - she said she "doesn't like that (being accused of this" so .. Yeah she might lose her shit
Yeah, that's a bad fucking sign. Clearly she has some deep insecurity about this type of thing– now, that might just be because she's kind of a sperglord, BUT it could also be that she was kind of a huge tramp before and is scared to death of you finding out/hypersensitive about comments that get too close to the truth.

You shouldn't assume that's what's up, but bro, I'm sorry to say there's a pretty good chance.
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>>17457825
Do you go looking for problems in your relationship or something?
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>>17457825
The average amount of sexual partners for a 22 year old is 8
You should be concerned with her lying more than anything
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>>17457825
This thread will help you ruin your relationship with their replies. This isn't anything to fret about, when you catch her lying about actually having cheated on you while you ARE together or something - then just fucking forget about it. She just might not want to disclose this information to you, but, if she's STD free and if she's loyal to you as well as faithful, you have a good thing going it seems, why cause unnecessary drama?
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>>17457718
Guy here. I'm almost certain this is bait but whatever

25 is NOT old, you're not even halfway trough the best years of your life and unless you're a party whore will look even better than when you were 18.

Honestly the range is probably 3-5 for most girls and unless guys are absolute autists will have a similar killcount so he won't care. Like someone already said, it's less the number and more the circumstances of the sex. Personally, however if a single one of those was with a married man or due to cheating that's more of a dealbreaker than the girl having been with 50 guys.
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>>17457757
Why don't you give up your frivolous life?

>they want as much dick as they can get and even when they've had enough they aren't trying to get married
That is the reason nobody takes seriously a woman in her late 20s or past 30. People know they are worthless as women.
If she didn't get married before 27-28, she never will.
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I get that this is an individual taste thing but still i figured i'd ask the girls here.
Do you think glasses are attractive on a guy/would you date a guy that wears glasses?
How about braces?
Im unfortunate enough to have tje unholy combination of both right now.
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Jesus Christ, I sure am glad I live in the real world and don't take 4chan seriously. I can't even begin to imagine how fucked up people who actually believe the bullshit here must be.
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>>17457718
3.

>Can they really be blamed for this?
If they somehow managed to date only that kind of people, it's likely they as shit as their boyfriends.
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>>17457893
>>17457913
>>17457929
>>17457923
These. Look, as people, we've all done things we can't change. Maybe we are ashamed of them, maybe we embrace them - but to let our worth be dictated by arbitrary bullshit is pretty bullshit. Past is the past, if things are going good in the now, don't ruin a good thing. At least let it ruin itself if you're gonna fuck it up anyways because if she's really as bad as your paranoia is leading you to believe then it will do just that eventually
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>>17457923
The average amount of partners in a lifetime is 5.
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>>17457938
This is the first question in the OP ffs
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>>17457931
>25 is NOT old, you're not even halfway trough the best years of your life and unless you're a party whore will look even better than when you were 18.
Simply not true, maybe for your personal tastes but when psychologists have done blind tests where they had men look at pictures of women and rate them, 22 came out as the peak of a woman's attractiveness. Of course a 25-year-old 9/10 will still look better than the vast majority of women, but typically not better than herself at 22. In the typical case, everything after that's downslope, no matter how gradual.
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>>17457939
There's a lot of bullshit going on in particular, at the moment, but which bullshit are you referring to specifically?

It really seems like these anon have no clue how shit is in real life and I'm kind of surprised but then again I know where I am
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>>17457939
We're all in the real world.
It just happens that some of us can ask for higher standards than others.
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>>17455893
Nope
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>>17457944
Lol, no. And it's probably even higher in Europe.
"The study, conducted by Sean Horan, an assistant professor in the department of communication studies at Texas State University, in San Marcos, Texas, surveyed 183 people—whose average age was 22—in Chicago and Austin, Texas, and found that the average number of sexual partners they’d had was eight. (The results weren't broken down between men and women.)"

But an anon on 4chan is more qualified to tell these things, and this study is totally bullshit right?
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>>17457951
All of the bullshit ITT. It's pretty easy to spot it when you're not indoctrinated into the /r9k/ mentality.

>>17457954
If it makes you happy, then think what you want. If you're unhappy, then perhaps try some introspection. But given that this is a board where people with problems flock to by its very nature, I'd guess you're unhappy.
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>>17457944
No, that's the *mean* amount. A subgroup of people whore around to an insane degree and push the *average* up to the levels he's talking about (it's 12 or more by age 30, for instance).
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>>17455893
Honestly no. Don't believe 4chan dude, only a certain kind of woman enjoys that. For most it's as degrading as it is to the cuck (although he's getting of it) because he's basically pimping you out, on top of that for free.
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>>17457939
mad roastie spotted
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>>17457954
>I-I'll only fuck and marry a girl who's just stopped feeding from her mothers tit a month ago
>l-low standard retards!

And this is why your baby dick will remain as dry as the Tuscan sun.
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>>17457954
You sound depressed
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>>17457939
>>17457958
I've literally never gone on /r9k/ because it looks like a cesspit of (other) people who can't accept reality. I just read papers on this shit because it's tangentially related to my job, and it's hard to notice that it fits perfectly with a lot of social shit that some people like to deride as "traditional".
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>>17457957
average is not the same as median.

The average reading in america is 6 books a year per person, but the median is between 1 and 2.
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>>17457957
Here - http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nsfg/key_statistics/n.htm
Study on a US national sample of over 12k people.

Men - 6.6
Women - 4.3

I think that a study on the large sample by the National Center for Health Statistics is pretty reliable.
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It's not a matter of 3-5, or 5-10.

Even ONE other man having nutted inside your girl is too many. So when you talk higher standards, unless you're only fucking virgins, there's still a man out there who has bust inside and on your girl. So she will never be, just yours.
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Niggas really complaining about body counts lol. As long as the ass is phat and she isn't cheating on me and she has a job and her shit together/not a crazy bitch, I couldn't give two shits. Then again I've fucked a lot of girls so I'd be a hypocrite to care as it is.
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>>17456494
I am already lol
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>>17456082
Holy kek, you meant to respond to the makeup question but responded to the doggystyle, my sides
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>>17457012
It can, but it's less likely to. And it's absolutely awesome when you connect and can have deep discussions with your partner on those topics. It feels great to just "get" someone and have someone "get" you like that. I'd be so sad if it was a forbidden topic that would only lead to arguments.

I also totally agree that political views are often based on your morals and values, and those are absolutely going to affect your life and relationship.
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>>17457945
Yeah but like i said, i'm specifically asking what the girls itt think. I'm not assuming that they speak for all women, i'm just asking their individual opinions.
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>>17457710
apparently too dumb, or i'm too impatient, my bad, guys.
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>>17457974
Nice strawman there, The Nardier. It's not about some medieval girlfriend purity, but specifically about what the chances are of your marriage actually holding together if you marry her. Like it or not the odds fucking plummet if the girl's had any long term relationships before you.
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>>17458006
Are you dense or something?
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>>17457096
Yeah mine is pretty consistent thankfully, and I keep track of it in my planner so I can predict when it's going to come and when I should start wearing pads. I also start getting that feeling in my gut a few days before.
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>>17457710
dumb
Guys can add women to facebook only for talking and friendship just like women.
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>>17457994
As the guy who asked the doggystyle question, i found it hilarious
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>>17458010
True, but at the same time you can say you have less of a gauge of the chances of it working with a woman who has almost no experience for a variety of reasons.
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>>17457765
yeah, go for it, I hope it works out for you!! Just because someone appears to like sleeping around doesn't make it true. just so you know. it could be for any number of reasons, she's not ready to commit, hung up on someone (read:you) or maybe she just has a high sex drive she needs to fulfill, i don't know her. but yeah! good luck!
>>17457781
nah, I don't compliment men I don't find attractive. Honestly, I rarely compliment anyone because I feel those are earned. But I think I might be in the minority. Either way, I only seem to compliment guys on appearance if I think they're attractive or occasionally if they're wearing some article of clothing I dig.
>>17457825
I don't lie, perse, but I'm wont to forget things. I am gonna have to update my list of partners because I don't actually know my number, it's 10 or 11, but I don't actually remember.
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>>17458024
Don't bother arguing, they're just going to post those graphs that float around /r9k/ and here to 'prove' that you're wrong
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>>17456770
I understand this, I'm talking to/seeing this girl who is a kinky virgin and it's passed my mind that I want to be deep inside her bare. I know, it's stupid, unimportant and dangerous but I guess it's just male instinct. By some random chance of the world I've also had little experience fucking with condoms.

Anyway, rambling. If we go further I'll have to have a chat about virginity in real life (we've talked about it online).
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>>17458024
>you have less of a gauge of the chances of it working with a woman who has almost no experience for a variety of reasons.
statistics say the opposite
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>>17457700
They are less likely to be faithful or have a successful relationship
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>>17458024
>you can say
You don't get it, do you? There's hard evidence here, well-researched CDC studies, it's not just something where I throw out a floating thought and you throw out a competing one, rationalizations for what might be without any attempt to find out what is. It's a FACT that the greater number of serious relationships before you a woman has had, the more likely she is to divorce you. No amount of desktop hypotheses can explain that away.
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>>17457801
Nah I agree with him. Someone who has had a history of failed relationships is obviously going to be more likely to be a bad partner and have another failed one with you.

That's why the divorce rate only increases with each subsequent remarriage. They don't "learn and grow" from their previous failed marriages and do better the next time, as nice as that sounds.
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>>17458035
You marry one person, you don't marry a statistic class. If you're looking at one single person, statistics are almost useless. What matters if women with 47 partners chat on you 3/4 of the time, if your wife is the 1/4 of the cases?
You should marry a person because they proved you to be trustworthy, willing to communicate and work on your couple, because you're a great match and you deeply love each other, because they have the qualities you seek in a long term partner and because they are willing to be there for you.
Statistic mean very little when you think about ONE single person, which is the case in marriage.

My boyfriend married at 21 - they both stayed virgins till they married. They stopped having sex after a year together. He stayed with her for 7 years before finding the courage to divorce.
We met shortly after he finished his divorce and we've been very happy since. Rarely argue, always solve it, have tons of sex.
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>muh hard evidence
>I read a statistic so I know everything that can happen with a woman based on how many people she's fucked
Pathetic. Make a new thread
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>>17458055
You do know most guys in here saying these things don't even deserve the kind of woman they want so badly, right?
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>>17458053
you sound like a hoe
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>>17458055
you are a woman
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GIRLS (AND GUYS):

What do people talk about on dates? The more detail the better. (1) ether coin for the best answer given in 24 hours.

I'm 26 now and I've never been on a date. I haven't said more than 10 words to a woman in years. If I went on a date I wouldn't know what to do. I wouldn't know how to act. I wouldn't know what to say.

Spare me a minute of your time and type out what you talked about on your last date up to the point you said good bye.
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>>17458115
There's no set list of date topics. You just talk. Like you normally would.
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>>17458011
I don't understand what the issue is so i suppose i am.
Can you explain it to me?
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>>17458115
Some ideas:
- what you've/she's been up to
- plans for the next days
- about you
- hobbies, interests
Don't forget to throw questions every now and then
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>>17457096
Why do you wear a tshirt?

She may want to consider getting on birth control, most methods make your period regular
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>>17458102
Because...?
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>>17458055
>statistics have no bearing on likely outcomes
>muh superiority
Yes, calling them pathetic with no arguments of your own sure does make you look secure with yourself and in the right.
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