Hello. Me and my girlfriend have been together for more than 3 years. We've had a healthy sex life. She likes sex a lot and is very active on it. If it was for her, we could have sex everyday or every other day. It is me who doesn't have the energy and will to have it that often but we're very happy with each other.
I've always had a fantasy of seeing my girlfriend have sex with others. Normally when I was porn, it is of porn similar to that, that I watch. Or, I watch regular porn but think of the girl being my girlfriend and getting banged by others, it turns me on A LOT and have been for years, even before our relationship started. Around 2 months ago we arranged her going out with her best male friend (he likes her but she doesn't like him enough like for a relationship, she sees him just as a friend). I had the idea and she was open to it if I wanted it. After 2 "dates" on one they made up in his car, and kissing, touching, and her blowing him (no finish) happened (all with my permission). I had no problem with it after she told me about everything, it turned me on a lot. For her, she told me she liked it but didn't mind doing it again or not doing it ever again. But, after cumming the next day I kind of regretted it. Didn't know what to feel, because, I did like hearing about it, but I don't wanna be a "beta male" whom his girlfriend has sex with others.
Fast forward today. I am in Europe as an exchange student and won't see her for a year. I told her if she wanted to keep going out with him (because it turns me on and because I don't want her to be 1 year without sex). She says she is okay with it, and that shes okay with any limits I impose and would stop if I wanted to. She also says that she by no means would fall in love with another guy just through this, because she can have sex just for fun, and with me its for love. (I know its hard to trust a girl with things like this, but I do trust her a lot, and she would never cheat of me.
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I do trust in her a lot, and I have been her only crush and love since elementary school. So, this is a long story and situation so I might've missed a lot of details. But what do you guys think I do? Should I let her go out and have sex with her friend, or should I not do it at all?
TL;DR: Girlfriend loves sex, the idea of her with another guy turns me on. I'm away as an exchange student for a year. I trust her a lot. Should I let her have a friend with benefits?
bump to see if I find a kind person with any advice
yea man go for it!
>>17454278
No, you fucking idiot. Just break it off with her now. Cheating with permission is still cheating. She's going to end up leaving you, and you'll be a laughingstock
>>17454277
Look at this ultra cuck.
If your sexual drive is different find a woman that suits you more. Don't take someone's girl if she isn't for you.
Guys like you make me sick and makes me laugh because I have taken women from you before. Weak and broken in the mind.
Do yourself a favor, a big one.
dump her. right now.
go fuck some european girls, drink a lot, party hard, screw around with other people.
You WILL NOT marry your girfriend.
believe me, I'm over 30 now, I've been there, I've seen people going throught this as well.
In a few years you will be with someone else, and will regret every minute you spent in Europe not fucking ou partying because of a girl who was sucking dicking back home.
This may seem unreasonable for those who are in love, but trust me, unless you are rich and can go spend a lot of time abroad, seize your oportunity to live a different year in your life.
Also yeah, if she wants to fuck around, she doesn't need your consent, you should be fucking around too. ffs young people these days...
>>17454415
certainly not a way too narrow and simplistic view on this complex question. Nice dogmas too.
>>17454277
If you trust her and don't mind but in fact want her to do stuff like that with other men, I don't see a reason she should not be allowed to. But think of possible consequences. Some people can change attitudes they've had all their lives quickly. Just in case, prepare yourself mentally for the worst case (her leaving you for someone else or having lost all interest after not seeing you for a year, such things), so you don't get crushed when you return and a lifelong partner isn't around anymore.
>>17454423
that has to be one of the most stupid things I've ever read. I could not formulate a reply that useless if I tried to.
>>17454436
Do as many mental gymnastics as you like to justify cuckoldry.
>>17454443
can you actually make a legitimate argument why anything is wrong with that?
also check'em
>>17454436
You just did. congratz.
>>17454445
To most people, monogamy is a necessary quality of a loving relationship. If you can't agree with this, then it doesn't matter anyways, it's not like your future wife is going to be having your children
>>17454453
>To most people, monogamy is a necessary quality of a loving relationship.
have you read OP? Does he sound like the person to whom that idea applies?
>>17454464
have YOU?
>But, after cumming the next day I kind of regretted it.
>>17454277
>I've always had a fantasy of seeing my girlfriend have sex with others.
stopped reading there
you disgust me
this is not to say that what you are doing is wrong or anything, to each their own
but you fucking disgust me
Sounds like you're more worried about what other people may think about you.
This said, open relationships can turn into emotional car crashes because they're simply harder to handle. Relationships with "socially safe" boundaries may have grey areas, but you don't have to radically set your own rights and wrongs.
Good luck.
>>17454415
>Cheating with permission is still cheating.
You cheat if you break a mutual agreement of monogamy.
>>17454277
OP, this isn't healthy.
It's perfectly acceptable to have a fetish, or some fantasy in your head. But acting on it and fantasizing upon it are two very different things. Could I fantasize about and have a fetish for gore? Completely. But acting on it would be very wrong. Your scenario is obviously not that extreme, and is completely legal, but will still have a negative effect on your life.
You may come to a day where you lose her, and potential future relationships, because you acted on this fetish. And that is not worth the short term gratification. You're asking your girlfriend to form a bond with another man that will undeniably detract from your bond with her. An entire year having sex with and spending time with another man will most likely leave you estranged from her when you return.
It's not as if you'd be actively denying your girlfriend sex for a year, if she really does love you she would understand that you're taking a unique opportunity to see a new part of the world, and it sounds like she would be understanding. If you can handle a year without it, so can she.
I am not judging you for your actions, simply imploring you to cease them, for your own benefit. It sounds like you have a very loving girlfriend, and it'd be heartbreaking to see you lose her over something so easily prevented.
Also, don't make decisions while horny, seriously. Especially about something important like this.