So I hit it off with a girl on tinder and I got her number, but

I never used Tinder but I used OKC.

You log in, and you get tons and tons of messages. I made a point that I was going to sort through all these guys, message all these guys, find one who was right for me.

It was overwhelming. Some guys didn't take no for an answer. I felt dishonest talking romantically with more than one man at the same time. I quit the website and left a lot of guys hanging I am sure.

Online dating isn't for everyone. She probably felt overwhelmed, anxious, and really didn't want to talk. And once you neglect a guy for a day or two it gets harder and harder to go back, knowing you have to explain yourself. I don't know if you could have been different, other than taking some initiative yourself.

You didn't do anything wrong. You were just lost in the shuffle. You were one of a hundred that "hit it off" with her and got her number.

>>17395582

she probably got bored in that time. its not that you did anything wrong, but you didnt do something exceptional either.

if you want to meet her, ask to meet her. sounds to me like she got bored though. after a couple of days you should have asked her on a real date already.

>>17395593
I can see that being her situation, online dating is terrible on both ends.

That's why I didn't text her first for a while, the time starting compounding until I just said fuck it and did it. Is there anything I can do to alleviate her anxiety? I'm not exactly a smooth operator.

>>17395600
She seemed reluctant (I didn't badger her for it) to give out her number, so I doubt many made it pass the tinder stage.

>>17395618
I wanted to, but I work overnights so I either had no time or no money. I might jump on this pokemon go craze...

>>17395629
>That's why I didn't text her first for a while, the time starting compounding until I just said fuck it and did it. Is there anything I can do to alleviate her anxiety? I'm not exactly a smooth operator.

I don't know. Eventually I just started to force myself to talk to a guy even when I didn't want to. I held onto that guy, forced myself to talk to him every day, and fell in love.

I'm not a man. I think its better if you show initiative more rather than waiting for her though.