I feel like a faggot talking about this, but I don't really know where else to go to get some advice.
I feel like I finish too early in bed and it really makes me not want to get with anyone and lowers my self esteem.
I jerk it multiple times a day so I dont think that has anything to do with it. I dont really want to have to get any of that shit that numbs your dick because I feel like it'd ruin everything and I dont wana stop my girl to "put some shit to make my dick numb" on.
>>17389791
God you're a faggot
Jk. Honestly I have the opposite problem, like I CAN'T cum. I'm pretty dominant, and my mind is usually on telling her what to do; having the girl work for ME. In the end I usually don't cum for a long time.
Maybe try being more dominant? It's not something I was born into; I used to be a huge beta. It helped to learn seduction a little, though. I got more 'cocky and funny', and that changed how I viewed women in a way.
normal people don't have porno length sex
>>17389791
Fuck her like you mean it. If you feel you nutted too early, compliment her. Tell her how hot she is and that got you way too excited. Play with her nice bits until you get hard again. Fuck her more.
just get your girl off from non penetrative stimulation or penetration from toys before you even JAM IT IN, then it wont really matter how quickly you cum
alternatively you can just cum then keep going using your fingers/tongue/toys until she's satisfied
I have the same problem as you, anon and I have spent a lot of time worrying about it instead of having sex.
I think
>>17389924
is fine for one night stands, but gets boring in a long term relationship.
One idea is to buy special kinds of condoms that help with this kind of thing - though it becomes a tradeoff in that you won't be able to feel as much during sex.
The BEST option is to talk with your doctor about it. There are prescription medicines that will help you. Just make sure you emphasize that it's a problem because he'll probably say "it's normal to cum quickly" or some nonsense like that.