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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

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FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't fucking know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.

>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off.
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Ok so I've been seeing a girl for more than a month now. Over the last few days we've not been speaking as much (before it was almost like one non stop conversation with no more than two hours without talking), I asked her a few days ago where I stood with her and she told me that she "loves spending time with me" so we set up another date which she has just cancelled, I believe her reasons though.

Basically I know I'm getting into my own head and want to stop being a little bitch. Any advice?
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Reposting:

Ladies, how does a guy respond to a girl who is the touchy-feely type in a way that you're interested in them. A co-worker of mine started talking to me a lot out of the blue after working together for about 6 to 7 months. One time we spoke for a good while and she told me how she was interested in another co-worker before I started working there. Another co-worker of ours found out about this and had sex with him. I guess this left her salty because she told me how she's not interested in going out with anyone. However, after we spoke about that, she started resting her head on my shoulder and would give me looks and it's obvious that she wanted me to look back at her. Weeks later she would have a huge grin on her face when she sees me come in for work and would also go out of her way to hug me (there was a customer she ignored just to hug me). She would also say, "oh my god it's my favorite person!" when she sees me.

(CONT)
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Why do chicks take forever to reply, are they trying not to seem too eager?
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>>17388743
One thing that annoyed me though is that, when I texted her telling her about all of those things that she would say and do to me, she wasn't interested in me. She said that she "definitely would have told me" if she did like me. We still talk a lot on Snapchat but it's obvious that she's not interested in me. I don't get it, the things she said and did sort of implied that she had some inkling of her liking me more than a friend but apparently not. I told her that maybe I just read her wrong. I was really hoping that she did like more than a friend. She's traveling around Europe at the moment and I told her if there was any chance that we could go out and be more than friends but she never replied to that specifically. Like I said, we still talk a lot and I'm not salty just annoyed at myself because I fell like she wanted me to say something serius to her but I didn't. I was just surprised and confused because she's gorgeous and I'm not the best looking person. I just didn't have the balls to say anything and now I feel loke I may have missed my opportunity.

Ladies, did I fuck up? Or is she just really friendly? Also, if this happens again, how do I respond?

Thanks
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>>17388749
>im busy
>i dont like talking to them
>dont want to be seen as eager
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>>17388706
What do girls think of hair guys? I am like pic related and i have heard many girls talk about hairy guys with disdain.
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Do girls feel when a guy cums if hes wearing a condom?
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Guys: my bf is having a jealousy fit because i went to catch a pokemon with a mutual friend for 5 mins. Bf was watching a movie with a few friends and a bunch of others (including me) were outside. There was a neat pokemon near and so we asked who wants to go and catch it. Since everyone else was being lazy, me and that friend went alone. We caught it and decided to also do a pokestop turn. When we got back, i could tell my Bf was pissed. Did i do something wrong or is he overreacting? I know i should have told him i'm going away, but i knew we'll only be gone for 5 mins and we had to act quickly
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>>17388785
We don't even really feel it without. We feel you tensing up and twitching, but not the actual cum
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>>17388782
It's all fine till it reaches the shoulders. That said, being hairy is better than being hairy and shave. Stubbles are worse than hairs.
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>>17388749

In my recent case it's because she's actually busy. So one day we just merged Google Calendars.
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>>17388789
overreacting. But lol if you think females can be mutual friends with dudes. He will try to stick it in at any opportunity. Guys know this and that's why he mad.
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>>17388754
>>17388743
First step - stop asking women about dealing with women. I'm serious. Women can barely tell THEMSELVES the truth, let alone a man. No woman is ever going to hand hold you on the way to her vagina.

Second, this girl got burned and now she's using your obvious affection for her to rebuild her confidence. Women are selfish parasites sometimes just like men are selfish dick bags. Your girl and her behavior are exhibit A.

She's not doing it on purpose to hurt you. This is just how women act, brother. Who she really wants is that coworker. Watch, I bet you she'll fuck him sooner or later.

Also, what your girl's co worker did was typical for a woman. They work in pack mentality. The coworker her that your girl wanted that guy's dick, so the coworker was like OOO he must be something special! and went out on the hunt for his cock. It's pretty common and it's one reason women lie their asses of to each other and themselves - because when they don't lie, some ratchet bitch swoops in and steals her man just to prove that she's a better bitch JUST LIKE beta bitches competing for women.

You literally have a 0.1% chance of ever going near this girl's vagina. The 0.1% chance is that there is a path, but a doubt you have the Game to pull it off.
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>>17388806
I meant he's just a guy from our social circle. I don't do "close male friends" exactly because of that reason.
What could i have done differently to avoid him getting jealouse? Would it have been better if i told him? Went with more people than just one guy?
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>>17388789
Can you stop being a woman and actually give us the details that we need instead of the details that will cause White Knights to ride to your aid in droves?

WHY was your boyfriend upset? Pretty critical piece there that you conveniently left out.
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>>17388817
>WHY was your boyfriend upset?
Uh, I think that's what she wants to know.
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>>17388812
Yea, I think you're right. It's just that I've never spoken to her while I was working there until all of that shit started happening. I was going to keep trying but fuck it.
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>>17388785
I'm with >>17388794, I don't feel it, I can guess it happened because he stops thrusting.
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I'm in love with this girl I've known for years, and she knows how I feel. She has tols me she's into me. Problem is, she is in the process of figuring out how and when to break up with her bf (she has never initiated a break up). I always try to be there for her, and I just hate seeing this guy treat her like shit and think that she's an easy lay. Every time, she comes to me about what has done this time, and I always tell her to get out of the relationship. She wants out, we both know it, yet it feels like she's dragging out the inevitable. The guy even says shit like "you'll never have anyone like me" and all that self-entitled douchey shit. At this point, I'm at a loss. I love her so much, yet I can't stand by and let this go on any longer.
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Ladies,

What sort of porn do you like? And what's your source of it?
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>>17388817
K...
He said he has been looking for me and didn't know where i was. Which is true. But only for a couple of seconds since he just stepped out on the veranda and asked where i am and everyone told him where i was and that i'll be back in 5 mins. I said i'm sorry i didn't think about telling him i'll be away since i thought he's busy with watching the movie anyways and because we had to male haste.
He didn't say anything about me being alone with that friend. But he was behaving strangely after that and since the "couldn't find you" would not be such a big deal, i am admitedly jumping to conclusions.
Him behaving strangely was
>wanted to go gome IMMEDIATELY after i came bavk out of the blue
>was very silent on the way home and gave short answers when i tried to talk to him
>was avoiding me at home and went straight to sleep without us having sex, which is VERY unusual and strange
>kind of reluctantly Gave me a good night kiss
>was still grumpy in the morning
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>>17388816
>Would it have been better if i told him?
meh, no difference imo

>Went with more people than just one guy?
Probably this would have been best. Guys realllly don't like their girls hanging out 1-1 with dudes for any amount of time.

Again, he doesn't seem mature and you really didn't do anything wrong but I can see why he would be upset.
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>>17388873
Yeah, it went trough my head for a miliaecond to not go becuase nobody else wanted to come with us but then i thought that's pretty silly.
Should i just let this go or ask him what's the matter?
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>>17388856
Youporn, redtube, youjizz, just free porn sites I can find from Google. I like soft core, female friendly, doggy, amature... No blowjob vids, gangbangs or anal. I don't like bimbos or fake tits on the girl, and I don't like too much dirty talk or loud obnoxious fake moaning. I like the guys to be youngish and good looking, no huge age gaps between partners
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>>17388881
define female friendly porn? Sure, I get that most porn is made for guys, but how does female friendly porn differ?
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>>17388891
Go to a porn site and watch some. It's usually more tasteful and uh... Gentle towards the girls.
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>>17388874
No, let it go. I doubt he will bring it up again, unless he thinks this dude is trying to pursue you and if he does it will just sound silly.

"Remember when you went to go catch vaporeon with KEITH for 10 minutes?!?!"
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As a guy is there anything possible I can do to help with my girlfriend's period
She does not get moody or lashes out at people when on her period (she does before and after but thats not relevant as of me typing this) she just gets terrible pains and her self esteem plummets for some reason. She always tells me when she is on it so I know for a fact she is on it right now.
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Guys do you always message girls when you feel like talking to them? Or do you wait for them to message you first?
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>>17388917

Chocolate, painkillers, heat pad/hot-water-bottle are things that tend to bring comfort and provide relief. Small snacks throughout the day, too, instead of big 'regular' meals. Stuff I can munch on without thinking about it, like dried fruit and nut mix. (I tend to forget to eat)

It varies, though. Have you asked her what she likes for you to do? She'll be the best one to tell you.
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>>17388782

I really like it, but I think I'm in the minority.
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>>17388749
>Talking to girl
>Say good morning as usual
>Nothing
>Go hang out with friends later in the day
>Friends tell me to try and ask how her day is with heart eye emojis
>She texts back with hearts and we talk all day like it's nothing
I really don't know. This girl's really inconsistent though. My other friend texts back fast as fuck though.
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>>17388942
I haven't asked because I am not usually with her when she is on her period, when she gets on her period she usually holes up in her room and snapchats me and her best friend (who is a girl so she might be on the same period cycle as her, idk I heard girls do that) and almost always doesn't want to hang out, as like I said her self esteem plummets and its hard to convince her to hang out when that happens. I do make an effort to offer at intervals to go get her any snacks or anything from CVS though. She has a heating pad and uses it for her cramps.
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>>17388941
It depends on our relationship. If we are good friends (or more) then yes I will message them first when I feel like talking assuming they haven't already messaged me. If we aren't good friends at all, then it depends on my objective.
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>>17388941
I message people when i feel like, but it's rare for me to feel like texting.
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>>17388856
2D is the best. 4chan is okay, but 7chan has a lot of boards dedicated to my specific interests.

I don't really go actively hunting for it all that often, but finding a really good hentai/doujin is great. I'm still pissed about the god-awful adaptation of Secret Journey.
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>>17388816
regardless of who he is if you are dating somebody you REALLY should not be hanging out with ANY guy 1-1 for any length of time in absolutely any situation unless he is family. In fact you really should not be hanging out with only a group a guys without him, or be hanging out in a group that is pretty gender imbalanced.

Basically its best if you really just avoid hanging out with other guys.
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>>17388956

Do you ever have periods (of time) where you feel gross and just want to withdraw to your man-cave and play vidja in your underpants and not see anyone?

That's what it's like for (many of) us. It's uncomfortable, tiring, just feel bloated and in pain and cba to make the effort. The fact she's still reaching out to you and talking is good, it's her way to keep in touch without necessarily being present.

You're doing good, my man. Send her cute kitten stories.
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>>17388941

If I text you it means that I'm thinking about you

If I don't text you it means I'm either not thinking about you, or I'm thinking about you but I don't want to appear thirsty

Some guys are really self-conscious about anything that makes them appear thirsty
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Ladies,

What do you feel when a guy at a bar/club buys you a drink? Do you think its awesome or do you feel creeped out? Does it depend on his looks or personality?

Thanks,
M
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Girls

I feel like shit. So, I'm going to be visiting with a female friend of mine very soon. Just as a small backstory, in the past, we had feelings for each other. But because of uncontrolled reasons, we never got into a relationship. Well, she's dating another guy now, and you know, I'm glad for her. She's happy. And that's important to me. The thing is, it's hard for me. Because she's the only girl I've ever met that makes me feel different, and happy when we talk. No girl has ever gotten me as excited as this her, or made me feel positive overall. I'm just worried that I'm going to be really heartbroken when I visit. Obviously, I respect that she's in a relationship. And I would never ever do anything to sabotage this. Because her happiness matters to me. It's just I feel terrible, I just want to give her a big hug, and hold her close. But, I know that's not going to be appropriate now..

I guess it's just harder for me because I planned this coming visit months ago, and at the time, we had some feelings. So I was greatly looking forward to cuddling, and kissing her. But, that won't be happening.. :/ what can I do so I won't feel so shitty?
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If you were romantically involved with a co-worker, but keeping things on the down-low because of work, would you ever see that progressing to an out-in-the-open relationship?

Would you be more comfortable about acting more affectionate if you were around co-workers than you trusted, or outside of a work environment?
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>>17388859
Hmmmm. Guy you're responding to. My imagination is running wild. Some of what I'm about to post will be pure conjecture and projection, but bear with me here.

A couple of things occur to me. How faithful do you think your boyfriend is? Does he have a history of cheating? Has he ever been cheated on?

The reason I ask is because that's a very insecure way to act. Putting words in his mouth, maybe he thought you went off and blew the dude real quick while he was busy watching the movie. Some people in this life suck and will do that to their partners (cheat when their partner is in another room), both men and women.

If he hasn't cheated/been cheated on.... that's still very insecure from what you're describing. It would also explain why he was reluctant to talk about it - how do you tell your girlfriend that you're acting like a little bitch? Most women judge men negatively for stuff like that, "Oh my gaaaaawd, don't you truuuuuust meeeeeee" etc. etc.

So, I think you'll get the truth out of him if you make him feel like he's safe in the "nest" to discuss his feelings no matter how pants on head retarded they may be. If he opens up to you, see it as a chance to connect and don't judge him openly. Don't pander to his insecurities either.
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>>17389013
I usually don't accept drinks from strangers.
I'm not creeped out, but last time I did there were drugs in my cocktail so I'd rather avoid it.
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>>17388835
Uh, I think there was obviously more to the story that she was leaving out and, in her own words, jumping to conclusions.

This is why you people are not very good with the ladies. This right here.
>Girl tells story
>Obviously a story which is written to garner sympathy
>Mr. White Knight over here acting like that's all there is to it, she couldn't possibly know!
>She knows bro. She knows.
>So do all of those other women that pretend like they don't know what they're doing or what's happening. Pro tip - they know.
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>>17389074
How did that go?
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>>17389082
Well, I didn't get in any risky situation.

I realized something was wrong because I usually can handle alcohol well, and after that cocktail I went from "normal" to "totally wasted".
I can remember that it took me 2 minutes to blink.
My best friend told me that I asked her to call me a taxi and take my home, and paid her the drive back. I can't remember this. I induced myself vomit and felt okay the morning after.
It was scary tho.
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>>17389102
Shit that's horrible! That's my biggest fear when I buy a girl a drink is that she immediately assumes its drugged.
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>>17389102
Damn, looks like mom was right; don't trust strangers.
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Guy here. I've had the sex twice and I'm bad at it. Is there anything that I must do while fucking, or does it depend too much on the preference of the girl I'm with?
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Question to both ladies and gents

What is your ideal?
What is the fattest you would date or have dated?
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>>17389145
Between 10% and 15% for a chick, max would be 25%.
I really find fat ugly.
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>>17389027

Anyone? :(
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>>17389145
Guy, here. 30% or less
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>>17388749
I have the opposite experience. I'm lucky to get 2 texts a day from a dude.
Must not be hot enough lol. Probs just the back up chick if the hot ones turn em down.
>>17388856
Depends on my mood, sometimes I want a gangbang pussy crushing experience, sometimes I want something sweet and nice. Generally though I like amateur or homemade. I like to hear the guys moan, but most of the fucking time men always gotta be silent thrusters while the women make this fake inhuman squeals. My favorite porno I saw was some czech brothel video. I really like the idea of glory holes, but not the dick sucking kind like, chick with her legs and puss sticking out to fuck kind. Idk if there's another word for this kink, because searching glory holes always yeilds dick sucking. Which is actually a turn off. Dick sucking is only fun to do, not watch. The sounds it makes just disgust me.
I just use pornhub and co.
>>17388891
I find "female friendly" just means soft. Which I always find funny, like women can't get their rocks off to rough play.
However it's nice that the women don't always look like they're in excruciating pain while mustering a weak "Oh yeah I like that(?)" There's a lot of pussy licking.
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>>17389145
Read the OP, depends on a person's preference.
However if you were to ask me, it depends on height/weight and maybe boobs.
30-20% looks like the sweet spot for me
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>>17389027
>>17389157

Dude, I'm sorry. I would like to give you advice, but I'm not sure what my experience as a girl does to help with your situation. I've been on both sides of that story and it sucks. For both sides.

First of all, I'm new around here so idk if this breaks some unspoken code, but sending internet sympathy hugs your way.

Second:

> in the past, we had feelings for each other.

This is so important. It shows you that you're capable of feeling affection towards someone, and also that you're capable of receiving it. This means that--though it doesn't feels like it, and I know you're not ready to hear this now--it's not an isolated case.

You are worthy of love, and you have the capability to

> feel different, and happy... [and] positive overall.

regardless of whether it's something she's done or not. *Because* you have felt these things before, it means you're able to feel them again, so you want to know how to feel less shitty?

Great, good, you've had a lovely experience with her and you cared deeply. That's not going to go away. That stays with you, it's part of your story. Doesn't mean it needs to be your destiny.

Work on getting to that feeling *by yourself*. Do, and pursue, and learn, and experience, and collect all the things that put you on a path to feeling "different, happy, and positive overall". Make *yourself* the project, improve yourself, and you will naturally exude confidence, happiness, and serenity, which will in turn attract others who are exuding the same energy.

Sure, this doesn't help short-term. But look at it this way. She now has a boyfriend, he's her project. You now have yourself, you're your project. You can be happy for her, *and* be happy and excited and at ease about yourself. Talk about ways you can achieve what you'd plan to, but make yourself--and not her!--the priority.

Your friendship will be stronger for it, and who knows. In the end you'll become a better person, and maybe circumstances might change.
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women, how often do you guys get complimented, on your looks, or something else?
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>>17388749
>he texts women

>>17388789
>i went somewhere alone with a guy who probably wants my sweet bod why is my bf jelus el oh el?
just tell him to stop being insecure, or maybe don't go places with other dudes. for all you know he let slip to your bf that the dude you were with has a crush on you
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>>17389145
i'm a dude and i literally only care about personality and facial asthetics and booty

although currently i'm crushing on a chick with a bad face and no booty
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>>17388917
Not really, just bring her whatever she asks for, I garuntee she knows better what's best for alleviating her individual symptoms than you or anyone else in the world can. No period is the same, even women can't tell another woman how to help it. It's just kind of something you figure out by trial and error over the years, at this point in the game I'm willing to bet she's figured out a good regimen, because nothing will erase the shit completely.
If she isn't already, talk about getting on the pill. Seriously it changed my life, I had periods twice a month before I was on it and had the worst pms symptoms all year long. I could never catch a break until I got on the pill and suddenly everything was perfectly fine. If she is already on the pill, she should talk to her gyno about it. That particular kind just might not be the best for her, and could possibly be causing this too.
>>17389013
Ecstatic that a dude actually finds me attractive enough to want my attention out of all the much hotter chicks in the room, no matter if I'm attracted to him or not.
However if I'm not attracted to him, I will thank him, but reject the offer. Not going to send any mixed signals or try to abuse the generosity of strangers.
But also I never accept a drink I didn't watch the bartender make. If a dude walked up to me holding a drink and said "here", even if he was Jensen Ackles I ain't drinking that possible roofie concoction.
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>>17389206

First, I'd like to thank you for your reply. I feel really lonely, and have no one to talk to. So thank you.

It's just.. I'm fucked. This is the first time in my life (25 years old) that I've ever experienced feelings. I've never had feelings for someone, or experienced emotion before her. So I feel all fucked up. It's like she flipped a switch in my heart that I didn't know was there. And, I just don't know what to do. I just really feel miserable. People at work all the time ask me "are you ok?". Because people can just tell I'm visibly miserable. I don't know what to do.
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>>17389216

idk, i don't get complimented to my face, actually i do, but i also get looks of like envy and people like i wish i could do that because I have a lot of hobbies and i'm really smart and other women find that subversive and threatening, but then other other women, like ones i'm related to, find it charming
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>>17389068
I mean I guess it depends on your line of work, and your ranking between one another, but frankly I don't think any employer has the right to dictate what a person can do with whom off company time. Especially since the majority of people end up meeting their future spouse at work.
As long as you're professional at work, what you do on your own time is none of their business. So I say tell coworkers all you want, be romantic outside work around coworkers all you want, but don't bring that shit to work. The second you start even so much as discussing private matters on company time, you're fucking with your employer. Just takes one break up for someone to get pissy and then file sexual harassment lawsuits on the company because one of you told your work buddies about their crazy dick/pussy.
>>17389141
Every pussy is different. Every dick is different. There is literally nothing you can do to get better in general, only get better with an individual person.
Well I lied, there is one universal rule to getting better at sex overall, talking to your partner. Every single one, ask them what they want and how they want it.
>>17389145
Tiny image is tiny. None of those dudes look really good to me. I like super skinny twig boys, no muscle.
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>>17389246

You're allowing the girl to have control over your emotions and mood. That's a powerful thing to give someone
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>>17389216
My boyfriend does it regularly, which is very nice.

Before that, not regularly, but occasionally from friends and family (though my mom, like all moms, would say nice things all the time). Never from a random guy though. I've never been "cat-called" or hit on by a stranger.
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>>17389216
Never. I think the last time I got a compliment from someone that wasn't my parents was 5 years ago when I was with my last boyfriend.
Dudes do not approach me in real life, and women just typically do not compliment other women without some ulterior motive.
Of course the desperates on good ole 4chins will throw a compliment on anything that could possibly have a vagina, but I do not count these mass produced compliments as they are never genuine.
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>>17389206

>>17389246

This is a good post, dude, but I empathize with you too on this. I've got a similar demeanor, but different situations. I don't think there's a way this visit isn't going to hurt, and I won't berate you with speculations about what you should have done in the past.

For what it's worth, that feeling of a certain switch being flipped and being left helpless is something I completely understand. But you aren't fucked if you choose not to be. You will live, and you will be stronger for going through something painful, if you don't just sit there and despair.

In the short term, I think you are going to be sore. In the long run, examine these feelings and work to see past them, because I know they can feel like a wall. Don't let strong feelings be all-consuming, see how they can be controlled. Nobody is born on purpose, this world is absurd, and there are no rules. We can be the masters of our own hearts, there is nothing to stop us but ourselves, so do not give in to hopelessness.
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>>17389246

I know, sweet, it's a real punch in the chest. I'm not diminishing your experience or how you're feeling, I only want to remind you that this happens to almost everyone at some point. Time heals and all the rest of the recycled adages.

In my case, knowing "you're not alone" just pissed me off, but maybe for you it's different, I don't know.

What I would like to add, though, is that you could just mention it to people at work. I know it varies place by place, and you don't necessarily have those kinds of relationships with people but... sometimes people surprise you. There's no harm in making yourself vulnerable and asking for support from your community.

Just a "hey, actually I'm down because of a girl and I'm struggling to feel my old self". Doesn't mean you're crying in front of your boss, but some days (at least for me), an unexpected hug and offer to go for drinks after work makes all the difference

> I don't know what to do.

There's nothing *to* do, sweets. Pull up your big boy pants, and make a plan. Concentrate on that, you can allow your mind to drift but at least you know there's a track to bring it back to.
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>>17389264

I don't know how to prevent this!! I don't fucking know!!
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>>17389216
All the time, brah, so when I get an attitude with an ugly dude and they act like I ain't shit after they hit on me and I wasn't feeling them, I straight laugh in their face a la Eartha Kitt, the losers. ️
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>>17389282

You've invested your well-being in having her, the idea of her, her affection. If you can remove that investment, you'll have your soul back to yourself.

Consider how much you are suffering *because* you let your happiness be dependent on another person like this. I know why you did it in the first place, because if you had been with her as you wanted, that investment would have paid off and you'd have felt amazing (for awhile, these things fade).

But because you didn't get what you want, that desire is just sitting there burning you. Understand that if you stop being invested in her affection that it will no longer hurt you to lack it. This is the general danger of letting your happiness be dependent on others. This does -not- mean that you should not invest anything in others, but there's a certain moderation that is necessary in order to remain a stable person.
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>>17389216
Relatedly, is it at all a positive sign from a woman if she asks for your opinion on hear appearance?
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>>17389268
You are gorgeous, the most beautiful woman i have ever seen in my life.
>>17389282
Nigga, pain passes away, doesn't mean you aren't going to suffer because you will; the right thing to do is learn from this one so when the next comes it doesn't hit you like a truck.
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>>17389297
such edge, much angle
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>>17389321
I do have a face frame.
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>>17389275

The only thing I've learned from this, is I'm never going to get involved with girls again. Because I never want to experience this ever again.

>>17389280

It's really difficult.. This girl is a good friend to me, and checks up on me regularly. I'm actually flying im near where she lives and we will hang out for a few of the days I'm there.. That's going to be terribly hard for me.
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>>17389315
A-anon I....
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>>17389315

Trust me, there won't be a next one.
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>>17389343
Your mother can die or another parent, fuck, she might die. There are always amother way the world can make you suffer.
>>17389341
Luv ya bae
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>>17389340
Don't say that. Cloistering yourself from future experiences is just a small act of suicide. You have not experienced a pain so deep that it warrants quarantining that part of yourself.

Furthermore, you will love someone again, in all likelihood, even if you say otherwise. And if you don't learn from the past, you might get hurt again.

So unless you're prepared to literally kill yourself, or never look at a woman again somehow, learn from what you experienced.
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>>17389369

>you'll love someone again

one thing I do know about myself, is when I say I'm going to do something. It happens. I've never had a girlfriend before, I'm 25 and never had one. By choice. I've never wanted one, so I acted on it. In this case, I intended to just be friends with this girl. But our personalities really clicked, and we both developed feelings. After experiencing what I'm dealing with now, I never want to go through this again. So, I'm just not even going to talk to girls anymore, period.
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>>17389386
How do you plan to function?
I was gonna call you an idiot but then i realized i do the same thing but in a smaller scale with people in general, then i remembered i am an idiot.
You are an idiot.
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Ladies,

When it comes to anal, pick one:
a) Never tried anal, don't want to
b) Never tried anal, but want to, or at least curious
c) Tried it, didn't like it
d) Tried it, it was at best OK. Would do it for my BF if he really wanted to
e) Loved it
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>>17389459
d+

Doesn't hurt, doesn't feel goodl, but I love being extra dirty for my BF.
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>>17389459
A
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>>17389257
>>17389266
>>17389297
>>17389309
Have you ever cried after getting one? trying to figure out if this chick is being weird

>>17389268
sorry anon
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>>17389369
not him but after my divorce i've completely ignored women besides a rebound fwb i dumped after 2 months

that's what i learned
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>>17389423

>how do you plan to function?

What do you mean
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>>17389459
A.
I don't really get the sudden outburst of ass/anal lovers. Like if they were just always there but too afraid to vocalize it, or if it's just some fad that will die out pretty soon.
>>17389489
It's good.
Though I don't get complimented, I do have some input on the crying thing. She's probably got shit self esteem.
Like, the only compliments I get are from my dad, usually about my school work/grades. I got a 4.0 for the first time in my life last semester, and I know that is something that should be acknowledged and is impressive, but I just feel super fucking uncomfortable whenever he compliments my hard work. Because I never feel like I deserve it, like I didn't actually work hard at all, because I don't think very highly of my academic skills. And the fact it comes from him usually makes it worse. I was always a shit student until college, and it was the number 1 reason my dad and I didn't have a good relationship growing up. I don't really blame him now though, since I had undiagnosed ADD at the time. He just thought I was being lazy, and I just plain didn't know why I was such an awful student and couldn't pay attention to class and homework.
Anyways, compliments on my intelligence always feel disingenuous, almost like they're mocking me. Could be something like that with this chick, she could be so insecure about whatever you're complimenting her on it makes her uncomfortable to hear something that contradicts what she feels.
Like google "why do compliments make me uncomfortable" sometime. It's a weird little thing for us downers man.
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>>17389530
>>17389483
Would you be willing to try it with/for your BF if he asked you?
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>>17389530
compliments make me uncomfortable too, but I don't run to my room and cry when i get one lel

and anal's been pretty gr8 for me. free contraception and all that jazz
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>>17389541
I know for a fact that my boyfriend has no interest in anal, so no.
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>>17388706
A question for girls:

How far can confidence take someone?


I have all these "ehh" traits in terms of stature, looks, dating experience, etc. While I think it's possible for me to improve on a few of these things, I'm not focusing on them for the time being because then I'll just fall into the trap of excuses. Those excuses will just lead me back to developing socially awkward behavior, so I'm trying to not get that shit in my head.

Anyway, I know I can hold a good conversation with the opposite sex and lately I've just been having these waves of good (or corny as fuck) feelings, like "Fuck yeah, I'ma go out there and do the shit I like to do. I'm gonna meet someone nice and have a fucking blast."

Am I supposed to translate that in some manner, or is just noticeable?

Or to reword, let's be generous and ask if a 4/10 general ranking guy with a lot of charisma can get action. Second guessing is something I'm trying to fight, but aiming too high is also pretty stupid, right?
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>>17389580
Confidence is just one piece of the pie
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>>17389580
if you think you're a 4/10, women think you're a 1/10

confidence is a meme which only works for above average men

I suggest downloading some sappy romance anime and having a good cry
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>>17389541
Nope. Its one of the few things that's completely off the table for me. I'm pretty open minded to trying new kinks, but there's just a handful of things I will never even try and this is one of them.
I mean, I already get hemorrhoids pretty badly. My ass already hurts 90% of the time, I haven't taken a shit that wasn't painful and bloody since I was 5, just runs in my family.
Plus just the idea of it disgusts me so much it kills my lady boner immediately.
>>17389580
I dated a dude that was a solid 3. I thought he was a 10 when we were dating because he was so confident in himself, and also dominant. He knew what he wanted, how to get it, and knew he was gonna get it. That really got my engines goin.
However on the flip side, you can be a solid 10 but if you act autistic as fuck aint no panties droppin any time soon.
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>>17389141
where THE FUCK did you get that picture of me lmfao
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>>17389141
you need practice, for the most part
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>>17389282
shit, I know I once made a similar thread a few years ago, but I don't remember if it was on this board or somewhere else.

Anyway, the advice that helped me that time was that time continuously moves forward. One day you'll be older and wiser, and it's up to you to get to a point of understanding or maturity that will trump the feelings you have now.

Main thing is you're not going to turn your heart around overnight. It took me at least a year I think. If you want, take some time off, give yourself a break from the daily stress and do what you gotta do to maintain your health. "Have a good cry, a wank off, and a good sleep" was one of the one liners I got.

It helps to have other goals, like a point in your career or something that inspires you to accomplish things.

I'm sorry, but like with any wound or pain, it can only ease with time.
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>>17389588
ouch, damn
I'm not one for crying much, but hey, time to find some 2D girls
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>>17389591

Nice to know regarding your 3/10 dude. Maybe confidence does get you in the door.

>got my engines goin
But then what happened? You saw through the veil?
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>>17389619
one night we were about to have sex for the first time. When we were undressed I made the mistake of lifting off his paper bag.
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>>17389660
I laughed, but then...
ouch
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>>17389660
I see. I should try putting on a plastic bag under my paper bag.
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>>17388941
I usually message. If she doesn't reply a couple of times, I'm done trying and just let her reach out to me.
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Girls,

Would it be weird if you found out that a guy wrote about an experience (non-sexual) he had with you in order to practice creative writing? Assume you know that improving creative writing skill is a goal
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>>17389710
Depends on my relationship with him
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There's no "General Questions" thread in /x/, so I guess this will work.

Looking for some paranormal or spooky shit to check out today (1AM EST currently). Got the day off, and all my friends are busy. Any places I should check out in Central MA?
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>>17389911
There are paranormal hookup threads on /x/ all the time, and they often list spooky places.

http://archive.4plebs.org/x/search/text/Paranormal%20hookup/

Good luck
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Why does my girlfriend withhold love and affection during PMS?

>won't return "I love you"s half the time
>outright refuses affection (will bat my hand away if I offer to hold her hand)
>noticeably very reluctantly gives affection when she does

This is especially hard because we're both very affectionate towards each other normally. We usually constantly kiss/hug/hold hands/cuddle whenever we're together and it suddenly shifts to next-to-none affection during PMS. Why does this happen?
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How many of you, guy or girl, have cheated on your so?

Are you still with that person?
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>>17388856
It surprises me that I'm apparently in the minority with this among the women here but I honestly barely like any porn at all. Most of it is so bad/faked it doesn't get me hot at all, and if I do find a good amateur thing with decent sound that usually takes so long I'd much rather fantasise, which I honestly prefer in any case. Much easier to imagine some kind of emotional connection which is kind of important to me.
Exception: Hegre-Art has some good stuff.
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>>17389074
Fuck I've had the exact same situation. A (female) friend of mine brought our drinks and we left them standing for a bit so I suppose someone put something in mine, because I don't get that fucked up from one Martini. Really dry mouth and my heart was beating crazy but at the same time I felt so tired. Some guy offered to drive me home and he was probably genuinely trying to be nice but I was super paranoid at the time and just wanted to get out so I just crashed at a friend's. Scary shit.
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>>17389459
C, if trying by myself counts at all.
Honestly don't see what's all the buzz about, but different strokes and all that.
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>>17389955
She might just be not in a nice mood, that happens. But talk to her if it seriously bothers you so much.

>>17389960
I'm a girl, I haven't, but I should say that I came very close once. The relationship was basically done by then and it really wasn't a good one in the first place (and I later found out that she had cheated on me, with a guy) but I realized if I'm that okay with just betraying her like this without caring much, I might as well just break up with her and do it properly instead of going behind her back and fostering more bad feelings.
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Please help me.

My fiancé has told me several stories of sexual immorality. He has emotionally cheated, he has flirted and sexted (while single) with a woman who was engaged, and he has a two-night stand with a woman in between seeing his most serious girlfriend who he said he believed he was going to be together with forever.

In contrast I've never been with anyone else and we didn't even kiss or hug until several months into our relationship. It goes without saying that I am very serious about him and that he is the man I want to marry. In every other way but his sexual past he is perfect, and we have an amazing relationship. I will stand by him against anything, but the thought does nag me that I need to be cautious of him in the future to make sure he doesn't treat me the same way, as well as recognising that if I knew these stories before I met him, I wouldn't have even considered dating him.

He was upfront with the number of people be slept with initially, but not the nature of some of these encounters.

My question is this: I really want the full story of his most recent gf, the most serious to date, and the girl he slept with while with her. He told me his most serious gf and he were on a break and that he felt guilty about sleeping with her, but didn't feel he did anything wrong.

Is it wrong of me to contact the girl he slept with and find out her side of the story and what really happened? If he did cheat would she even admit it? I want to just throw her a message just to get the chance to see if she contradicts his story. If I did and she never replied I wouldn't be upset.
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>>17390091
I always think it's better to discuss such things with your partner first and telling him about your concerns, because going behind his back to contact some girl from his past is almost guaranteed to piss him off.
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Girls (and guys I guess), anyone ever date a coworker or colleague or anything similar? I like this one girl in my classes (long story short, we're in a very small major and there's only like 30 of us so we all know each other similar to a workspace almost). Pretty sure she likes me back, problem is that I don't want to make it awkward for us if things go sour in the future. We're both kinda socially awkward as it is so I'm thinking it would blow over after a while once we get back to being just friendly classmates, but I just wanted to see if anyone's perspective on that experience.
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>>17390210
I've started dating a girl I met in one of my classes too, or rather I just chatted her up, we became easy friends, I thought she was cute but didn't think much of it because I'm lesbian and obviously most girls aren't so I'm used to crushing on people I'll never be with, and kinda put it aside, but a few months later we got really close and started dating, and we're still together.
So yeah that can definitely work out Anon.
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Girls how unattractive is a missing front lower tooth?
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>>17390309
Not pretty but not horrible. Either way that's easily fixed.
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>>17389459
First for B
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>>17390118
Sure, if you want to not be engaged anymore, go ahead and contact this random girl he slept with while he and his then gf at the time were on a break.

>You are a fucking retard, anonette.
>Just leave it alone. Digging into his past, especially his sexual/romantic history, without his knowledge, is a sure way of showing that you are not to be trusted.
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>>17390316
Would you think he's cooler if he took extracted it himself without painkillers?
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For both I guess: does having anal sex make the air smell like poop (if its not prepared with enema and no eating beforehand)?

for girls: does not outright saying no to anal mean shes interested? I had trouble putting it in (her vagina) once and she jokingly said "how hard can it be, i only have one hole ... well, two technically but yea"
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>>17390328
Yeah, the past is in the past, let it go

>>17390336
No I'd think he's a bit of an idiot clinging to archaic ideals of manliness, as if enduring pain is awesome and not stupid. But that's just me.
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>>17390367
Okay ill justdo what I need to then and if sense the oppurtunity to impress someone with my pain threshold skills I will
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>>17390390
That works I guess.
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>>17390347
>does not saying No mean Yes
Nope.
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For ladies

What helps you with your insecurities? What makes them worse? What do you look for in help from others?
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>>17390411
>What helps you with your insecurities?
Working on the things I am insecure about.
Having people I love and trust compliment me on those things, sometimes.
Talking about my insecurities.

>What makes them worse?
Critique.

> What do you look for in help from others?
Support, someone who understands me, someone I can be weak with.
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Is it a bad thing to tell a girl you're interested in about your weaknesses? Like not being good at socializing and whatnot? Does that make a man look weak to a female and therefore she would not be interested in him? I know it depends in the girl but I'm talking in general.
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>>17389619
>>17389660
Wasn't me lol.
But yes, after we broke up and spent some time apart I stopped seeing him with rose glasses I was just like "Wait, that was the dude I was dating? No. He was much more attractive wasn't he?" and all my friends were like "lol no"
I always say, attraction for me is 30% looks and 70% personality. There are some things in the looks department I just cannot overlook (namely being obese), but with the right personality suddenly I just don't notice the other flaws.
>>17389710
Did you publish it or anything? And was it particularly personal or just a run of the mill/fun experience? Because if it was personal, I'd feel pretty creeped if you published it without telling me. Even if you changed the names and nobody could really trace it back to me, I'd still feel kinda violated.
If you just wrote it purely for practice/shits and grins with no intention to show it to anyone, nah idc. Id still probably want to read it myself though.
>>17389955
I'll tell you this, PMS fucks with literally everything in your body. It completely throws your brain and emotions outta whack. She gets moody, its just a side effect. Don't take it personally anon. Imagine you just injected yourself with a shit ton of testosterone and suddenly you wanna go life weights and be angry or something instead of being affectionate. I'd bet its mostly just the hormonal imbalance that's fucking her personality/emotions. If it's really bad, have her talk to her doctor about it. Drugs might help get it in line. It did for me.
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>>17390411
>What helps
Having the right people (or the audience it's directed at) comment on it positively, getting positive attention for it.
>What makes it worse
The wrong people commenting on it, positively or not. The right people commenting negatively.

For example, I've got body issues to the max. Whenever a dude (irl) comments positively on my body, it makes me happy. This is why I side eye all the beautiful women complaining about "cat calling". I get the grass is always greener and it can get annoying all the time I guess, but god damn I would kill to be cat called. Even if it's really gross cat calling. It would validate my appearance.
However whenever my friends or family comment on my appearance, I feel worse. Because they're obligated to say that as my friend/family. I do not believe for even a second they mean it, they're just trying to make me feel better. And if they're trying to make me feel better, that means I have something to feel bad about.

>What do you look for in help from others
I don't really seek help, because it's just such a vain hard to talk about issue. And because again, seeking help for it just makes it worse. I'll just get showered in those fake compliments said only to make me feel better if I try to seek help.
So I lie and wait, fixing myself until I'm the type of chick that gets commented on by the people I want to comment on it.
>>17390645
If you're not close yet you do not need to go into your autism yet. Chances are she sees it already, so if shes talking to you she's obviously looked past it. Like I don't start my conversations with dudes saying "Oh hey, btw, did you notice I'm a fat disgusting hambeast? Also just letting you know I've got a really gross roast beef vag and disproportionately large innie nips. Anyways wanna bag this trainwreck?"
Piling on all your bad points all at once is a good way to make sure someone never sees your good ones. They'll find out your negativities on their own.
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Male coworker 10 years older than me asked for my age and commented that I look older than my actual age. He then asked me to guess his age and said that he is old. Is this a sign that he is into me?
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I guess that's mostly a Q for the girls, and there most likely is no simple, one answer, but anyways:

I'm a pretty boring guy when it comes to sex, it seems to me. You blow me, I eat you out, we fuck in missionary and then we cuddle and that's it. I enjoy that, and I havent heard any complaints so far, but I'd like to try some other things, both for me and my partner.
I tried doggy, and it felt kinda nice, but we seem to have incompatible heights, so it is really stressfull to get a good rythm going. Other than that, I'm trying to work my dick a bit deeper into her mouth, but I dont want nothing too extreme or fetish like.
So what would be some good ideas/positions/… to try to get started and find my own way what I like and what she likes?
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>>17390725
Hard to judge…
I work in a mixed environment (ages and genders) too, and we often joke about ages without anything to it…
Then on the other hand, many guys (myself included) fantasize about younger girls/women, so there's that.
But without any other signs, I wouldnt think too much off it.
How old are you, and what line of work/positions are you in?
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To anybody:
I have thick black curly hair and i was thinking of growing it out like Jon Snow.How long would it take and any tips before i start?
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hey /adv/,

I'm a 22 year old virgin, but not a shut-in or ugly, I was just busy surviving in this godawful country.
Since stuff has settled down I want to experience love for the first time too but there are 2 things regarding sex that I want to ask (I apologise for my ignorance in these matters):

1) Is taking a girls virginity really that big of a deal ? Granted, I only know stuff about this from hentais I've seen but it's often shown as being "someone's special first who breaks the seal". Is there actually something special to it ? How about you guys ? Did you feel something special when you penetrated/got penetrated for the first time and the hymen ripped ? Or doesn't anything bleed or hurt and that's just something the japs made up ? The reason why I'm asking this is simply because if I'd get a gf my age, there'd be no chance that she's still a virgin and knowing that I kinda developped that complex.

2)This is even more pathetic than 1) and I got no clue how my brain comes up with these things.
If a woman has a partner and they have unprotected sex and the guy comes inside her. What happens with the remains of the sperm ? I know most of it just flows out but it's a fluid inside a tight wet spot so there definetly will be remains.
The reason why I'm asking this is because I just feel extremely uncomfortable, knowing that when I'd have sex with said women that I'm poking around with my dick in someone elses dried up jizz.
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>>17389660
lel
>>17389748
Try stoicism then.
>>17390769
The vagina and company cleans themselves; if you inject semen on your bloodstream the same will happen.
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I told a guy (he immigrated to my country) that I regret not going to a bar in his homeland when I was traveling around his country. He volunteered to take me to a bar in my city in a joking manner. Is this a sign that he is into me?
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>>17390782
Probably or maybe you're that fat chick with tons of hot friends.
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>>17390732
Yeah, doggy (and standing up) is a position that can be pretty limited by a height difference. But there's other stuff like the girl on top, spooning etc... lots to try, there are plenty of website with illustrated positions and you can try different ones out. It's not just about a different "vibe" psychologically but also about the best angle. This is partly personal because it is influenced by the tilt of her vagina and the angle of your penis, but some positions tend to hit the g-spot better than others.

Here's some ideas you might like to consider;

Foreplay
>teasing each other and grinding, getting more antsy before moving to a "real" sex act
>lapdances, strip teases - obviously not all girls pull this off confidently, but if you're comfortable together goofballing your way through can also be very fun and surprisingly sexy
>use stuff like ice cubes on each other, give massages as foreplay
>look at porn together either before sex to get excited or during to add another element

Oral
>69 (can have similar issues with height, or it can work out just right)
>facesitting
>facefucking (it doesn't have to be violent, if she puts her hand up to the base of your dick she can give soft pressure whenever it's too much, and then it's basically just a blowjob where you're more active)

Sex acts
>big fan of mutual masturbation here, if you both enjoy to play with yourself doing it pressed together can be very intimate and thrilling
>roleplay - it has a bit of a weird reputation, but you can just do something "normal" like teacher-student or bitchy popular girl-nerd... the appeal is not mostly in that you are convinced by the script, it's about the psychological scariness of acting out a role and the intensity it brings to do something out of your comfort zone together
>have sex in front of a mirror so you can see yourselves going at it

Also, if you don't already and haven't tried it enough to know you won't like it, dirty talk can really change the vibe.
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>>17390785
>maybe you're that fat chick with tons of hot friends
What? I don't get this
I am not fat
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>>17390775
>>17390769
A small quantity of the sperms DNA carried within the semen is kept by the body for immune purposes. It essentially plays the same role as allergy shots, building a "tolerance" to your cells within her body to weaken the immune response to your sperm, thereby increasing the likelihood of conception.
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>>17390769
>1
Depends on the girl. For most people the experience is memorable because it is their first experience with something so "adult", it basically becomes a coming of age thing culturally. Having said that, it is most common to look back on your first time as awkward, uncomfortable and clueless. Especially for girls, because it is extremely rare for them to finish (or even feel more aroused than nervous) when losing their virginity.

The hymen is a thing, but not tied as strictly to virginity as popular culture makes it seem. It is a tissue fold that doesn't close off the vagina (or menstrual blood would have nowhere to go) and can tear because of a fall, sports (notably horseback riding and gymnastics), use of tampons etc. If there's a big opening in the hymen (they differ in specific shape and form of the opening(s)) and her first time is with a smaller guy, it can even remain intact although she had sex.

Bleeding is a normal occurrence during the first time, but that just has to do with the people being clumsy and nervous. A woman who is aroused (= her vagina is looser to allow penetration) and relaxed (vagina muscles are not stiffened up), she can be penetrated without pain or blood even for the first time. Usually what happens though is that the guy is young and inexperienced and eager to fuck, and the girl is nervous and wants to get it over with, so they don't have enough foreplay. Or the girl isn't emotionally ready to begin with. Then she isn't wet enough and/or cramps up and the fiction of ensuing penetration creates tiny wounds that bleed.

>2
It leaks out. Ideally she goes to pee directly after sex to avoid traces of semen remaining in her urinary tract, which can cause UTIs (urinary tract infections). Some sperm cells naturally remain and try to fertilize, but that's no issue.
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>>17390807
Yeah but that's part lf the imunosystem and doesn't fill space extra-cell (is this how it's written in english?), but maybe he cares about that, idk.
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>>17390793
>there are plenty of website with illustrated positions and you can try different ones out.
I already checked out a few, but havent found any site yet that seems informative and turns me on. They're either way to technical, as if sex was something where you 100% follow a manual, or just some totally opposite "do what feels right" stuff. I'm searching for a middle ground. What's your fav site?

>It's not just about a different "vibe" psychologically but also about the best angle. This is partly personal because it is influenced by the tilt of her vagina and the angle of your penis, but some positions tend to hit the g-spot better than others.
That damn g-spot… Still searching for it. so far, I only found the >>>/g/ -spot, but that is totally off…
Just out of curiousity: What works for you?

>look at porn together
Sounds interesting, but then, I'd be kinda worried that this would be seen as some kind of "youre not hot enough for me, so I gotta get other stimulation" thing.

>69
Duh - Why didnt I think about that? Might be fun.
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>>17390810
>someone else's dried up jizz
That's not a thing. The sperm cells that remain die within at the very most a week or so, and then you're talking about a handful of hardcore remaining cells that are dying. Then they're all dead.

The vagina is self-cleaning and has a slightly sour ph-level to deal with unwanted intruders. Women have discharge, which is basically sticky goo that is typically off-white, to constantly remove bacteria, dead cells or whatever found in the vagina. So once the sperm cells are dead they are enveloped in the goo and deported.

I realize that this is new stuff for you, but the vagina isn't some sort of static pit. I mean, you don't worry about a girl having vomited with the mouth she's going to kiss you with, right? It's the same for a pussy, it's a constantly self-cleansing and self-balancing part of the body, not some plastic bag you dump things in that stay there forever.
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Do girls have a thing for big eyelashes?
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>>17388859
your bf is a floop noodle
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>>17390815
You're right, most of semen either leaks out after the enzymes within break down the coagulation proteins within the semen(Semen coagulates to form a "cap" that prevents some of the speed from immediately just falling out due to gravity and such, which is why it takes a while to clear it out.) or is eradicated my macrophages present in the upper reproductive track. I only mentioned that because he seemed like he was wondering if his sperm is going to make some sort of permanent mark on the girl. Regardless, the body generslly removes anything that doesn't belong ultimately.
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>>17390769
are you a mudslime? You sound like a mudslime.
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>>17390817
It doesn't have to turn you on, it's not porn, it's just about getting ideas from that turn you on when you put them to practice. I don't really have a favorite or anything, I've just used them in the past and found some with clear drawings to give you an idea of what was possible.

I like being on top, but it's so individual. It allows the woman to dictate the depth of penetration, the rhythm, to tease the partner while seeing his facial reactions... but I have no problems finding a rhythm, it comes natural to me. Some women have more problems with that and then it makes them feel self-conscious and awkward, in my experience this is kind of a love/hate position.
Also the position in which you sit on each other's lap as well as possible (kind of picture the guy crossing his legs and the girl having her legs around his waist, only without actually crossed legs because your blood flow doesn't like that) is physically not the best to move freely in, but it is extremely intimate because of the natural eye contact and how cuddly it is.
Also really like spooning but that is also because I love to have my neck licked and it's so easy in that position. Really good for a lazy, mellow Sunday morning fuck.

It's all about how you introduce it. As long as you present it as a suggestion and pay attention to her body language, facial expression etc, it's hard to go wrong. It also helps to bring it up as "would you find it exciting to try looking at porn together?" instead of "I'd like to try looking at porn together, are you up for that?"
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>>17388816
I bet that guy would have gotten a kick out of it, even if he is smart enough to realise thats all he's getting
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>>17390835
Thanks, very interesting! I'm not convinced about the porn thing, but I get where you are coming from.

However the
>it's not porn, it's just about getting ideas from that turn you on when you put them to practice.
part, I dont really agree with.
I'm pretty sporty, and my gf is too, plus she's really skinny and lightweight, but most of the positions in porn just look really uncomfortable for both parties or downright impossible without special training or a broken dick.

But I'll definitely try your other suggestions!
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>>17390853
What? I think you misunderstood here, I didn't mean porn, I meant that there are actual websites with just positions listed.

You got me to look this up at my family computer with my parents sitting across from me so please use it:
http://www.sofeminine.co.uk/m/relationships/positions-of-kama-sutra.html

There's more stuff like this, just google things like "sexual positions listed" "sex positions illustrated" "kama sutra overview".

And yeah, there are plenty of positions just for novelty or to feel like you're doing something crazy, that aren't exactly comfortable to do on a regular basis. But that's not all there is!
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>>17390853
Also wanted to add that yeah, they tend to use positions in porn where you have optimal view of everything going on and it looks dramatic. In real life you are very right to priotize comfort and physical sensations over that, you're enjoying each other not putting on a show for an audience.

And I saw that I forgot to mention it in my earlier post, but one thing to keep in mind that many guys fuck up is to not try to top from the bottom if your girl is riding you. It fucks up her rhythm and kind of takes away from the joy of her being in charge and setting the tone and pace for the sex you're having. So no thrusting when she's on top, be the passive partner.

Good luck!
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>>17390857
Hahaha, sorry.
Was formulated a bit bad from my side. I meant that there are sites that are written/drawn/pictured/described in such a way, that the idea of trying that position myself does not turn me on the slighest. Like reading a manual for a lawnmover does not turn me on…
And then I totally forgot what I said, and decided to misunderstand you…
And thanks for the link! Looks good. Not too technical, but some helpful hints.
>Only try this if your man is super flexible and strong - you don't want to give him a hernia!
that's just the information I need (seriously!).
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Is it a bad idea to have sex when a girl is on her period
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>>17390679
It is almost certainly never going to be published and it was kind of personal, but really only about how I felt in the moment, it had little to nothing to do with her.

It does, however, involve drug use (which she is aware of) and my feeling as if I were in love with her (which, to my knowledge anyway, she is not aware of.)
I planned to show her this but do you think I should? I'm still not sure if that feeling of love was genuine or just from the drugs
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>>17390884
Ah yes, I totally get that, but I think you're missing out if you let that get too much in the way of keeping it in the back of your head. It's a world of difference doing it and seeing it laid out like that, a technical description of missionary would not sound that hot either, it's just something to take note of so you have a sort of archive of things to try when the opportunity arises. But I do understand that it can be presented in an off putting way.

Very valid indeed. Good luck picking stuff that works for you two!
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>>17389797
Friends but you flirt back and forth with each other
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>>17390893
Not necessarily at all. Lay down a towel with a dark color, so the bloodstains aren't too visible. That's pretty much all. It will feel slightly differently because the blood has a different sensation than lube, but it's very subtle.

Also, some girls have hormones that explode when they're on their period, and depending on the person sex can really ease period cramps.
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>>17390893
Its more preference than anything. I wouldn't do it, because I find it gross, but there's nothing really all that wrong with doing so other than that factor: Do you find it gross?
Some women say having an orgasm alleviates their cramps even, this isn't the case for me though. I've masturbated on my period before and it only made my cramps worse. Then again, I usually get uncomfortable cramps after orgasm anyways.
Now, obviously if you've got a blood borne illness/std, you probably shouldnt.
And the one thing you should know is that having sex while the girl is on her period DOES NOT mean she can't get pregnant. It's unlikely, but possible. Keep that in mind.
>>17390894
I mean, how close are you? If you just met at a party and got stoned and suddenly wrote a story wondering if you were in love with her, yeah that might be weird.
But it can also just be a funny story of "Man, I got so high I was convinced you were the love of my life". Idk how she'll feel, I don't think I'd mind though.
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>>17390927
We've been friends for a couple of years now so maybe its not so bad. I think I'll show it to her, thanks
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>>17390936
Oh yeah def, she'd probably find it neat then.
And hey, at least you got an out if she does respond to your feelings for her poorly, like she isn't interested. You can just be like "Oh, no that's what it felt like high hah hah it's just the drugs talkin! Right...."
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How do I explain to my gf that it's not okay to hang out 1-1 with "mutual friends" without looking like an insecure cuck?

Physical distance at this moment doesn't allow me to "talk" with the guy so I don't know what to do.
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>>17390961
Why isn't it okay?
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>>17390973

Why her hanging out with a guy I know from elementary school (that has been out of my circle of friends for about 8 years) isn't ok?

Are you a woman?
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>>17390983
>being this insecure
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>>17390961
>How do I explain to my gf that it's not okay to hang out 1-1 with "mutual friends" without looking like an insecure cuck?
Why is it not OK?
I hang out with a female friend whos got a bf all the time, going on hikes or cooking or going swimming together, and my gf also has some male friends she knows from sports, and continues to train with, without me being there to watch her.
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>>17390961
You can't because you are an insecure cuck.
If you're that insecure that you cannot trust your gf and have to dictate her life to her, you have no business being together.
I'd dump my bf on the spot if he told me I wasn't "allowed" to do anything, much less see a friend.
You can tell her it makes you uncomfortable maybe, but not that she can't do it. However, I think you need to take a step back and ask why that makes you uncomfortable. It's going to be incredibly insulting to her that you do not trust her to hang out with people for whatever reason (assuming you think she'll cheat.)
I would be so hurt if my boyfriend said that to me I would not want to stay in a relationship like that. Especially if I've given no reason at all for my bf to think that way. Has she ever been bad to you? Has she ever been unfaithful?

Chances are you're just going to insult her if anything. You're saying you don't trust her. You're saying you think she's a cheating whore.
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>>17390961
Dude if you can't trust her now how will you leave her alone in the future
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I used to be your average /v/ autistic shut in up until three years ago.
Things have improved lots since then, I talk to lots of women on a daily basis, hang out with a lot more people, out of which, the majority I've known in the past year alone.
I' am feeling good. I don't have a gf yet, but I'm working on it slowly.

I just want to know something, how can I shake off the feeling of "being a friend of a girl I'm interested in is just winning second place"?

I am not interested in every girl I meet or befriend, only a very tiny selection of them, yet I'm haunted by this.

I can't get over it, I feel left out everytime one of them friendzones me and chooses another man. I feel like I'm being lied to, taken advantage of. It does not feel anything like "friendship" to me, but plain pain and hostility.

I feel this is the last remnant of my autistic past, I want to get rid of it...please give me some advice..
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>>17390983
Wouldn't you knowing this guy since elementary school make it more likely that you trust him to not be a douche and make a move on her?

Yeah, this is the ask the opposite sex thread. And for your answer, I don't really see a way. Ultimately you are saying that you don't trust her no matter how you phrase it. He can't fuck her if she doesn't fuck him.

And it's one thing to be sceptical of your partner's judgment when she wants to go to an alcohol drenched festival with a bunch of men (or something like that), but realize that your underlying message is that you don't feel like she can casually hang out with someone without feeling tempted to cheat. That's pretty insulting.
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>nice girl I've met at friend's party is in hospital
>pretty sure she considera me decent
>great chance of bonding
>suddenly afraid of seeing her
Why am I such a fucking pussy. I got so agitated thinking of going that I almost shat my pants.
What the fuck is wrong with me
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>>17391018
autism probably but no problem (or butterflies in your tummy whatev)
Go there, why the fuck not? If you haven't known each other for long, you don't have much to lose.
If you're that nervous, say you can't stay long as soon as you get there, lend her a book or something and, if things go well, say you'll visit again.
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Let me lay a situation on you, which I keep remembering with a mix of hope and regret that I want to verbalize.

Me, Girl, and Friend are sharing a hotel. Something bad happened, we're feeling shitty. Me and Girl are close but cautiously flirty, at this stage. Complicated context behind this, doesn't matter here.

She looks over at me with pouty lips and tells me she's sad. I go over and she sits up continues her doe-eyed look. I decide to up the flirt game one level, so for a little moment I stroke her hair, rub her shoulder and whisper a sweet nothing or two. She just keeps looking at me with those big eyes like she wants more, but I'm held back by the third wheel 5 feet away digging around in his bags, and also by the sense that pushing too far right now when she's genuinely upset could backfire. So I was cautious.

The thing is, in retrospect I think I should have kissed her right there, when she was looking into my eyes while I was touching her. I regret that I didn't. The moment was not expected, but I didn't do NOTHING. I gave her some pretty unambiguous affection. But I'm conflicted in the feeling that I could have taken it home right then.
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>>17391086
Well yeah, I'm not forced to stay there for an hour. I'll go tomorrow though, I need some mental preparation and she'll be there for twenty days
>autism
Yeah. what's strange is that my autism pops out only the second time I have to see a girl. first time I'm always smooth
guess its about expectations and stuff.
thanks man
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To anyone, just out of curiosity,
I have this little nub of skin between my asshole and vagina. Its right above the anus really. It doesn't hurt per se, but it does feel uncomfortable when I touch it. I don't think I've had it my whole life, but I've had it as long as I can remember. Sometimes I feel like it gets bigger and smaller depending on the day.
Not that I've seen many assholes in my life, and I know porn is not a great representation of body diversity, but I've never seen it on anyone else before. Anyone else have anything like this, or any idea what it is? Googleing it only really talks about hemorrhoids but I really don't think it's that.
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>>17391091
Chill, due. Not a girl here, but I can tell you that you're probably better off waiting too much than waiting too little.
Go slow, and everything that should happen will eventually happen.

Plus, she most likely noticed Friend's presence too, so she won't be taking that as a "statement of no interest" from you. Get yourself some alone time with her, maybe talk about those other times you did nice things together and find a better opportunity for the two of you.
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Ladies, can you answer me this question? I'm not sure if this woman finds me attractive or if I'm just being dumb:
I have this Vietnamese coworker who is a married woman in her late 40s

Anyways, one time we were talking a few weeks ago. She asked me what I did for the July 4th weekend. I told her I went to a block party and took dance classes.
She lit up and said, "Oh! I want to take dance classes too! Where do you go?"
I told her where, and she said, "take me!"
Sometimes when I talk to her, she does this face where she smiles and I could see her smile, then she looks like she softly closes her mouth, then (Barely) open sit and see her tongue sliding through the bottom of her top teeth.

Half a year ago, she once said "maybe I should take you out somewhere too!" after I told her that I was gonna go with another girl coworker to some religious event, but I didn't go due to sickness.
I think she also said that I look cute when I got a haircut.

Maybe I'm overthinking this and she's probably not attracted to me at all.
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>>17391127
Aite nigga. She strikes me as that type, anyway, but that moment was a doozy. We won't be in the same city for a few weeks, but that's what I've been intending to do when she returns. We know each other well now, I hope to softly put it out there in words.

We really went through some shit, but there was something there, and I don't want to let her slip away. Part of me feels like I already did, even though I know I didn't really. I guess I just miss her and it's making me vulnerable. I'll stop overthinking it.
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>>17391150
Hahaha, man, I know how that is. Well, slipping away doesn't happen like that, even if she ends up hooking up with someone she'll still be close to you, "other city guy" is just a guy.
Anyways, I'm just pitching in here to tell about the time I was planning to "softly put into words" that I had feelings for a girl. All was well, till one day I got tipsy, decided it was a good idea to down a big cup of vodka and open uo my heart. The next week she told me I made the most ridiculous and cliche'd love confession, puked over her and repeated myself thoughout the afternoon, while she tried to make sure I wasn't going comatose.
FF two weeks, we're hooking up, FF two years, we're still together
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>>17391180

She's traveling with family so I'm not worried too much about hookups. I'll avoid the vodka, I think. GJ nig.
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>>17391124
post pics
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Serious question, as a 20 year old girl, is it a bad idea for my first date to be a 36 year old guy who comes to my city for work every couple of months? Will guys in the future judge me for this? Can I just go for a non-sexual fling? Will people judge me for that too?

Alternatively, should I just keep in contact with him solely as a language exchange partner? Is that ok or will it be inappropriate/leading him to think I want his dick? (and yes, I created that other thread)
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>>17391209
I'm 38 and my gf is 23. It all depends on the kind of people you are. For us it's not an issue, we hardly even notice the age difference. It doesn't come into play really, we would be just the same together if we had a smaller age gap.

There is a big difference between 20 and 23 though. At 23 a girl is already more mature while at 20 she is still a kid.
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>>17391209
I would judge you for poor decision making.
How do you plan to make this work?
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>>17391216
>There is a big difference between 20 and 23 though
I know, so will people judge me for this?
>>17391217
I am scared of this. Most people say it will not work, but since there doesn't seem to be any horrible "side effects" (sorry my English is bad), why not give it a shot?
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>>17391231
Because you will only see the guy every couple of months, those pixels better be goddamn good for you to have any deep conexion with him, and then there is the age gap.
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>>17391216
Wasn't judging until
> big difference between 20 and 23 though. At 23 a girl is already more mature while at 20 she is still a kid
Talk about double standards

>>17391209
People will judge you, but if it helps they would aven if there wasn't that age difference. If you guys don't make it a problem, it won't be. Other guys will probably think of the 36dude as some kind of predator, but it won't change their opinion of you by much
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>>17391238
The distance is a much bigger issue than the age gap. And she has never been in a relationship so it would not be the easiest one to start with.
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>>17391244
I know, age gap is just the cherry on top of the cake.
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>>17391209
Don't date people if you're not convinced. If you don't like him enough to handle the consequences, don't go.
Age difference and distance are problems. You'll need to put effort into this. Decide if he's worth it or not.

My boyfriend is 33, I am 23. We started dating when I was 20, and we're getting married next year.
Age difference has been an issue but we worked it out.
We had been living apart for a while, too, but we always made time for each other and made plans to be together, and we haven't slept one night without each other since 2 years ago.

Stop worrying about people judging you.
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>>17391238
>pixels
Eh? I don't get this. What are pixels?
>>17391239
Well I don't think I have to tell people about the age gap. Like if a guy I am interested in in the future ask about my dating history, I can just say that I dated a coworker and not mention his age at all or lie aobut his age.
>>17391244
So are you guys suggesting that I should just stay as friends/language exchange partners with him? You know, he may not be interested in me at all and completely reject me if I ask him out.
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>>17391216
It's not that I don't believe relationships with an age gap can work - when either is below thirty, that is, I think that once the youngest partner is roughly around that age it starts to matter heaps less - but whenever I read shit like

>we hardly even notice the age difference
I wonder what that's like. I mean, is she the one already 100% set in her ways, developed and mature like she will be for the rest of her life at twenty three? That seems extremely doubtful, there's so many experiences she hasn't been through yet. She has only had a handful of years growing into herself since puberty.
Or are you the one who never emotionally grew beyond being twenty three?
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>>17391255
The only contact you'll have with him for 90% of the time will be through a computer/phone, ergo pixels.
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>>17391254
>Age difference and distance are problems
I like him a lot - it's more like people say it will never work. See >>17391134
Well your age gap is smaller and I assume both of you are at least from the same country?
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>>17391255
>pixels
I think he's referring to you two talking by Skype

>are you guys suggesting that I should just stay as friends/language exchange partners with him?
I'd think if you guys really liked it other, there would be no problem in making it work.
However, as it appears that you two don't know each other that much and that there isn't even a relationship to invest in right now, you should probably stop putting that much effort into it and get the next better opportunity that'll pop up.
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>>17391239
>Other guys will probably think of the 36dude as some kind of predator

No. They won't. Guys will never give shit to another guy for dating younger. If someone does, it will be a girl in the same age group as the guy.

Why don't you check your judgment at the door and let guys who are actually in their 30s tell about what guys in their 30s think?
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>>17391261
Lol
>>17391265
>you should probably stop putting that much effort into it and get the next better opportunity that'll pop up.
Are you saying I should find other language exchange partners or find another guy to date?
I really won't mind having him as a language exchange partner. I flew all the way to another country hoping to find a language exchange partner. I stayed there for 5 weeks and I couldn't find anyone!
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Guys and girls:

So I met this girl last year, and I'm pretty sure she was flirting with me and wanted to fuck. Not that I get tons of girls, in fact I don't really get any, but even though I thought she had a cute face, she was a bit too short and chubby for me. We never really hung out and just sort of stopped talking. So, fast forward a bit, and I ran into her a couple weeks ago. We talked for a bit and she told me we should hang out some time and I agreed because why not, she could be nice and a good friend.

Now, last week, I met this other girl that I thought was really cute and asked her out only to get rejected pretty badly. Later that night, I was drinking with some friends and ended up drunk texting the first girl really late at night. Nothing too bad, just asking her if she was doing anything. We ended up making plans to get lunch next week, and she suggested we get it to go and bring it to her place and basically "Netflix and chill."

The thing is, I didn't really know how badly I wanted female attention until I got rejected, and even though I'm really not into this girl that much if at all, I'm pretty sure I'm gonna go for it. Is it a good idea?

>>17391209
>is it a bad idea for my first date to be a 36 year old guy who comes to my city for work every couple of months?
Depends on the guy really.
>Will guys in the future judge me for this?
Who says they have to know? Yeah, some guys would probably judge you for it, but personally I wouldn't care and I don't know too many guys who would think it matters that much.
>Can I just go for a non-sexual fling?
Like, just date him and not get physical? Yeah I guess you could do that but it seems like you want a friend more than a date.
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>>17391256
She is mature for her age and I'm young for my age. So it evens out a bit. Still there are obvious differences, such as me knowing ways of the world that she is new to. But it's not an issue because we are both easygoing people and have fun together and don't care about little details like that.
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>>17391270
She asked about guys in the future. Her future. If a 25 yo guy meets a 25 yo girl that tells you she used to be with a guy who is now 41, don't you think he would think badly of the older dude?
Also, as somenone said in the other thread
>no 36 year old would give up the chance in 20 yo pussy
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I feel people stare at me, but not in a positive way due to the fact that im short 5'6 male, but my face is 7-8/10 and otter mode body. I feel like it would be better if I was uglier looking and this height since people might not stare.

This seem right?
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>>17391209
>non-sexual

No. At that age he knows what he wants and he will not get into a relationship without sex. No sex means just friends. There is no in-between.
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>>17391264
He's from the US, I am European.

>it will never work
Honestly, it's up to you. If you don't want to put all the work to move past your differences, of course you won't. Me and my boyfriend managed, with distance and age difference, but it was a lot of work.
We have different needs, we want different things in the next few years, etc, etc. It has never been easy, but always been worth it.
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>>17391287
No. You're just projecting now. Stop trying to give "advice" on this subject.
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>>17391274
Yeah, I meant you shouldn't keep trying to have a realationship with him, considering all the cons and the few pros.
That aside, it'd probably be totally fine for you to be language exchange partners and close friends and whatnot.
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>>17391287
>don't you think he would think badly of the older dude
I am asking if a guy will think badly of me because of my dating history
>>17391294
Ah you sure you are being honest here? I know that LDRs that work out are rare but not unheard of irl
How did you manage to relocate?
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>>17391306
Well it is true that a long term relationship is unlikely to work out. I'll just see what happens a few years down the track. Maybe both us will still be single when I am older.
>it'd probably be totally fine for you to be language exchange partners and close friends and whatnot
Even as skype buddies? I thought older people weren't into these sorts of stuff. And as people said, guys and girls cannot just be friends
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>>17391289
No. You've spent too much time digesting /fit/ and /r9k/ memes. No one cares enough about you to stare at you.
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>>17391296
Yeah, says the child at heart. People are judgemental, and she came hera because that's what she's worried about.
Can a relatinship work well despite a large age gap? Yes, surely. Will people in such a relationship be seen with bad eyes by ohters? Also yeah, eventually.
What's your advice? Should she try to get together with a friend who lives far away and who she doesn't know is interested or should she keep it pg and keep her language exchange partner?
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>>17391140
no response, huh?
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>>17391311
Nah, I'm fucking lying on an anonymous board.
Relationships that work out are rare. LDR are more difficult then others of course, but it's not even that hard to keep one if you have the means, a plan and you're genuinely into the other person.

>How did you manage to relocate?
He lived in my town since he was 25, for his job.
After around 6 months of dating, he had to move back to the US and we didn't know if he was going to come back. We visited each other every 2 months or so for a while. After around 6 months, he moved back here and we moved in together, 2 years ago.
After we get married, of course he's going to stay here.
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>>17391318 what >>17391292 said was
> No sex means just friends. There is no in-between.
Maybe he won't be your closest skype buddy, but you can be pals without a romantic relationship
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>>17391140 >>17391341
Man...
Is she like that with others? Do you want her to like you?
I don't know what's your take on the subject, but a married woman hitting on a younger guy doesn't seem to me like something that would end well. You'll probably be better off keeping your distance.
Don't stick your dick in crazy.
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>>17391330
My advice is that the age gap is not such a huge issue as you make it to be. And most people won't be judgmental about it.

I have personal experience about it so I think I can speak some things about it.
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Girls

If you found a guy attractive, and you and him got along great and overall you thought he was a really nice guy.. If you found out that he's really depressed and has been struggling mentally pretty bad lately, would that hinder how you thought of him? Would you lose attraction or view him as "weak"?
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>>17391370
Yes it would make me lose interest. Not because he's "weak" or whatever bullshit that is, but because he needs to fix himself before getting involved with other people. Dragging another person into your misery is not fair man.
And as someone who's mostly stable, I just plain do not want to get involved too heavily in another person's mental illness. I wish you the best, and would help you in any way I could, but I would not date you.
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>>17391361
I wouldn't be surprised if she's like that with others.
I'm kind of torn up about that fact that I like her, but she's married.
I'll try to keep my distance as much as I can, but we're under the same supervisor (there are several supervisors and all of them have their own group of workers)
I'll try to keep my distance, but I think I realized that having your own hobbies and doing your own thing is a big turn on for women.
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>>17391370
Not really, no. If I like someone at his worst, I will like him at his best for sure.
Depression is a disease and I treat it as such. I wouldn't find someone less attractive for being sick.
But there are some things I am pretty strict about. I would date someone depressed if he didn't use his depression as an excuse to be a shit human being, he was treated for his depression and actually doing better, and he didn't expect me to be his therapist or responsible for his well being.
I also would take things more slowly than I usually do and probably wait till he got healthy and functioning before getting serious.
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Why for some people its so hard to deal with the opposite sex while others do it naturally? its kind of rethoric but I'd like to hear your opinions
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>>17391391
I blame it on my childhood. I spent too much time inside and got introduced into videogames too early
On the other hand my family did their best to keep my little brother out of home. Fuckers used me as a beta tester
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>>17391344
>Relationships that work out are rare
I know (lol just look at taylor swift)
>but it's not even that hard to keep one if you have the means, a plan and you're genuinely into the other person
Oh really? So I should just give things a shot? I am just worried that asking him out will just ruin things. I genuinely do want a language exchange partner and I don't know if guys will judge me for pursuing a 36-year-old guy for my first date when I am not even 20
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>>17391391
Because they're not used to it.
If you spend all your life around people of your same gender, you will never learn the dynamics of interaction with the opposite gender. Once you learn them, it's all easy.
If all your friends, your co-workers, your classmates are the same gender as you are, you have little chance of practising.
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>>17391391
I think its mostly self esteem. People who have no issue talking to anyone really are generally really confident in themselves. Now why some people seem to take blows to self esteem well while others crumble at the slightest negative experience, is beyond me. Idk if theres some hard physical thing in the brain somewhere or how we're wired that makes us different or what.
I could also see upbringing and childhood interaction being a smaller role too. Like, if you were a girl and grew up with a bunch of brothers, (or vice versa) you probably won't have that much issue with the opposite sex because you just have a lot of experience with them. Or if you made a lot of friends from the opposite sex as a youth, before you really noticed the differences between boys and girls.
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>>17391406
>guys will judge me for pursuing a 36-year-old guy

Divide people into 4 categories of general reactions:

Guys his age won't care or judge
Girls his age will be a bit jealous and judge
Guys your age will be just bitter because they're envious they don't have what he has
Girls your age will think it's cool and talk about wanting an older guy too
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>>17391417
So if this is the case, should I just ask him out and see what happens? Very little cons but a lot of people say the chances of anything long term happening is pretty close to zero
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>>17391406
You don't need to actually ask him out, just spend time with him in person, flirt, and see how things escalate.

>if guys will judge me for pursuing a 36-year-old guy for my first date when I am not even 20
Some will, some won't. People will judge you for everything you do. If you think he's worth it, date him.
I've been with my boyfriend for years and other than his ex wife, I don't know about his exes. They're all "a girl I used to date". Same for him. You just can avoid talking about it.
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>>17391422
Really? Flirt? Like call him guapo? Or be less explicit? And see if he flirts back?
I hardly ever flirt and I don't know how to flirt.
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>>17391422
And should I flirt with him in front of other coworkers? Seems very awkward lol
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>>17391391
The way I see it there are three main components to it.

>social experience
If you grew up being friends with girls (or guys, but I'll stick to male perspective because I don't want to keep adding this stuff), you were in a mixed male/female crowd as a teen and so on, the knowledge that the opposite sex consists of just individuals like you are - nice people, shitty people, people with hopes, dreams, memories and fears - is much more innate and well grounded. You won't jump to "maybe women really are whores" if you end up with a rotten apple, it goes without saying for you that "women" are just a bunch of individuals. Who surely have some themes in common to a more or lesser extent, but not so extremely that it matters much for a one on one relationship.

This knowledge will also prevent you from putting the opposite sex on a pedestal and/or having the starting point that they must be complicated and hard to figure out, which only hinders you.

>self esteem
Which is mostly caused by having had a warm, stable childhood/upbringing and more or less positive social experiences growing up.

Healthy self esteem pretty much boils down to really believing/feeling that you're an okay human being, and have no less right to be there and try to be happy than anyone else. If you have this in spades and a girl treats you shittily, you'll shrug it off much easier because you realize that her being a cunt for no real reason reflects way worse on her than being a bit awkward, or just imperfect and not attractive to her, does on you. That makes those kind of happenings much less traumatic and personal, just like you wouldn't lie awake at night because a man was a jerk to you for no reason. That has nothing to do with you.
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>>17391420
What's the worst that can happen? Go for it. Just be realistic, in that you know it would be difficult to maintain a relationship with such a long distance. But it's of course not impossible. If you're okay even with just having some fun without a serious relationship, then definitely go for it.

You always regret the things you didn't do and not the things you did do - this cliche applies here very well.
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>>17391374
>>17391384


To add, what if this same guy was always there for you when you were down. He talked you through a panic attack in the past and helped you stay calm. And someone you could always trust?
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>>17391440
>overall happiness
If you enjoy your life, that shows. You smile more often, are more relaxed, less easily angered, more energetic, quicker to be enthusiastic. Those are all very attractive features. On top of that, being unhappy (whether you hate yourself or hate your life circumstances does not really matter) makes you focused inwardly, shut off towards the outside world and other people. That is not only off putting and difficult to make contact with, but it will also make you less aware of you surroundings and less likely to realize that you are in tune with someone.

Obviously these all influence each other. If you are awkward because of limited experience and suddenly become a lot happier and more secure in life, chances are that you will be able to overcome your earlier nerves surprisingly easily. If you have had proper social experience, that benefits your self esteem. Having proper self esteem makes it easier to be happy.
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>>17391431
>>17391432
You don't need to ask him out on a date. That's what I meant. You can just ask him to hang out, ask for a coffee, ask for help to do something. Just find an excuse to be alone with him.
Don't go all the way and be weird about it. At the beginning, me and my boyfriend were mostly nice to each other, smiled a lot, made very light physical contact, and small things like that. Then we slowly made it more obvious, started joking around, jokes got more and more sexual, and you can imagine what happened next.
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>>17391441
>If you're okay even with just having some fun without a serious relationship, then definitely go for it
I am not into one night stands
>>17391422 said I should try flirting first. Like call him guapo? Or be less explicit? And see if he flirts back? I hardly ever flirt and I don't know how to flirt.

And should I flirt with him in front of other coworkers? Seems very awkward lol
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>>17391431
I'm the 38-year old guy from before. And if he's like most guys my age, you have absolutely nothing to worry about in terms of what you say or how you flirt. At this age we know what we want and skip the games. You need to be straightforward. If you just tell him you're interested in him, most likely he'll give you a straight answer - if he is interested as well, or not. You don't need to worry about the flirting part because he knows you're not experienced in it. If he likes you, he'll like you no matter what you say.

Unless he's an asshole. But hopefully not, since you have taken a liking to him and all.
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>>17391452
He will only be in my city for two weeks. It's not like he lives here. He will fly here thrice ever year and stay around two weeks each time
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>>17391454
>one night stands
No one is telling you to go for a ONS. You can have fun for however as long as you want. And if you're away from each other a few months, then you can have fun again when you see each other again.
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>>17391457
Do you talk to him when he's not in town?
If so, start doing it through text.

Are you seriously worrying about having a relationship with someone who you don't even know that well, and who maybe isn't even interested in you?
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>>17391455
Oh so I can just explicitly asking if he is looking for something more serious?
>>17391460
Will guys judge my first relationship as something "not serious"? My parents certainly will. I live with my parents, and I cannot just "disappear" from my apartment without a reason.
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>>17391465
Should I wait until the next time I see him and ask him out?
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>>17389955
she doesn't actually find you attractive. if she did, her pms would consist of trying to get your dick as much as possible
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>>17390091
>immorality
none of that is immoral, besides maybe the 'emotional cheating'

but by all means contact his ex who will have obvious bias to ask her about stuff. i'm sure you can trust her more than you trust this guy :^)
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>>17391466
I can't speak for him of course, not knowing him, but guys of our age are much more open and straightforward about what we want.

Before getting ahead of things though... how well do you know him? Do you find him attractive? Would you have sex with him? Do you know if he is even single or has a gf/wife?
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>>17390347
anal doesn't smell unless she literally shits on you

and no don't stick it in her ass without permision, the farthest you can go with that is rubbing it while your fucking or licking her out
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I'm very attracted to 'scene girls'. Piercings, tattoos, tinted hair... but I have nothing of those attributes, I'm an incredibly mild guy, and I've been told that I look too much like a nice guy.

How can I become more attractive for that type of girls? I know this might come off as an extremely stupid question, but meh, kinda wanna read opinions here.
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>>17390679
>this guy i thought was hot was actually average
>this means looks aren't really important lel
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>>17391484
>how well do you know him?
Not very well but we had a nice conversation. I was quiet and shy the first time we met and this time we can only spend a couple of days together.
>Do you find him attractive?
Yes - very! Although he is probably average looking to everyone else.
>Would you have sex with him?
Yes if it's something more serious (not into one night stands or short flings)
> Do you know if he is even single or has a gf/wife?
He is single
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How would you react if you're above average looking friend hooked up with an ugly fat person?

>>17391486
I don't have any advice but I feel exactly the same. Really weird as a "vanilla" black guy that I feel really attracted to scene girls and pastel goths.
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>>17391238
>le age gap meme
roasties gettin' toasty
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>>17391287
>If a 25 yo guy meets a 25 yo girl that tells you she used to be with a guy who is now 41, don't you think he would think badly of the older dude?
are you implying that that I would actually have a serious relationship with a woman that old?

maybe in ten years
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>>17391506
Putting "le" before something and calling it a meme isn't likely to get anyone to take you seriously.
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>>17391511
no one care
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>>17391499
Only speaking as what I myself would do - obviously there is no guarantee he is like that at all. We just are the same age.

If he is attracted to you, he'll find a way to make it work. He has the means to fly and see you more often, or to fly you to see him, or to fly you both somewhere to meet. And if you're going to meet a few times a year for a limited time, you bet he will want sex. He won't commit to a serious relationship without it.

Again, this entirely depends on what kind of a person he is. We don't know from just a few of your posts.
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>>17391443
Again, I can be friends with you, I can help you in any way I can, but I will not date you.
I'm just a firm believer nobody has the right to date when they aren't mentally stable. Dating only makes that shit worse, everyone thinks its the cure, but it's not. It just makes both parties miserable.
I said earlier I was "mostly stable". Even I'm off the market by my own choice because of that belief. Maybe I could handle a relationship, but I'm not all quite there. I will get there soon, but until then it's not right for me to date. It's not right for me to unload my baggage onto someone else and weigh them down. So I'm continuing to work on myself, fix my insecurities and issues, so that one day I will be ready to get back out there in the dating world.
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>>17391544
What issues do you have that you want to fix? What are you doing now to fix them?
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>>17391490
What. Lol I never said looks aren't important, hell I clearly said it's 30% of what I look for in a partner. I'm just saying it's not the only factor, and actually not even the larger factor.
Like here, I'll give you three examples of guys I knew. There was a dude who I loved completely, but just for who he was as a person. He was unattractive to me though, so I couldn't date him. It is important to me to be physically attracted to the person I date. If there's absolutely no physical attraction at all, you're screwed.
Then there was this dude, who was barely attractive at all yet because of his personality I found him even more attractive. Even if he wasn't that attractive, his personality made up for it.
And then there's a dude I've met who was a 10/10, really conventionally good looking guy. Chiseled jaw, fit body, great eyes, looked like a young Jensen Ackles really. However as I probed him for information and got to know him, he was kinda scummy. Killed my attraction for him all together. So you can be a complete 10/10 but have a shitty personality and I can't even get it up for ya anymore, so to speak.

Its all a balance. You can't just have one without the other. You can have less or more of one, but they both have to be present. So to reiterate, looks are important. They're just not as important as you think.
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>>17390832
nah, I just got kinda abandoned by my parents, so I had to do everything on my own. I am from a first world country but the government doesn't give a shit unless you got bags of money
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>>17391443
I honestly don't think that this is a great dynamic to start a relationship. If two mentally unstable people get together, it inevitably gets awful. You have mental issues, she has mental issues, you won't help each other out and get in one of those pathetic teen drama relationships. It's a vicious circle.

I have been depressed before, even if I am doing good now, and I've been doing good for years. My boyfriend is depressed.
He is in treatment and he's working on it by himself. I am very proud to say that he's mostly out of it.
Our relationship makes things better for him because I bring him order, peace and comfort.
At the same time, we have kept healthy roles through our relationship and always talked about these things lightheartedly. Before we started dating, I knew he was going through a rough time and we discussed how to handle it properly.
I have never been his saviour. I've just been supportive when he needed it, helped him if he asked me, and I have been patient with him if he needed it. He never treated me as his therapist, he doesn't unload his baggage on me and he mostly worked on his problems himself.
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>>17391571
whatever you need to tell yourself to avoid coming off as a shallow loser
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>>17391522
>He has the means to fly and see you more often, or to fly you to see him, or to fly you both somewhere to meet.
Yes, but why would he pick a 20year old girl who is not financially independent?
I don't know too. I think I should just ask him out and discuss things with him
My parents will almost certainly frown upon it, thinking that he wants me for sex, I want a fling, DTC
There are other cons such as he may be too old to want to raise kids, he will probably pass away before I do, etc
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>>17391559
I have an eating disorder and body issues. Thats the last part of my mental illness I have to kick. I'm no longer suicidal, I no longer have panic attacks, I've even kicked most of the social anxiety. It's just the anorexia I gotta beat.
I'll admit, I've only just started to tackle the issue. I was taking them all one at a time to not overwhelm myself. I just deemed myself good enough on the last issue, the social anxiety, so I'm just starting to brain storm on the fixes for the eating disorder.
I'm still not at a weight I feel happy with, so I do want to continue losing, but for starters I'm just going to try not to be as drastic about it. For the record, I'm not even considered medically underweight. I'm actually within a healthy weight range, though at the max of it. The eating disorder was kind of a new thing that started about a year and a half ago. But I figure I should nip it in the bud before I do become skeletor.
I want to continue losing weight, but still be within my healthy weight range, just at the lower end of it rather than the higher, for wiggle room. I'll make a conscious effort to stop losing weight when I hit my goal of 115.
For starters, I'm going to slowly try to nix my unhealthy eating habits. I've been doing about 500-700 calories a week, alternating 100 calories a day and fasting. Sometimes I eat more, sometimes less, sometimes I eat on my fasting days but just work out to negate it, other times I just abstain all together.
I'm going to try getting back to 300 calories a day at first. Work up from there until I'm eating right again.
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>>17391585
Lol anyone who says looks don't matter at all is lying, you included. You gonna look me in the eye and say you'd date pic related?

Sex drive and sexual attraction are things people have. Its like saying you're shallow if you wont date a man. He's got a beautiful personality, his penis is just a physical thing.
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>>17391600
you're still a shallow loser, and one who can't own up to her character flaws to boot

sad
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>>17391592
You never know. Ask him! It has never been an issue for me and my younger gf. Yes, she is a young student with no money, so I pay for everything. I fly her out to places where we meet and spend time together (we live in different countries too). She's an intelligent girl and I have no doubt she'll have a good career after graduating.

Once again, only speaking as a guy his age. No way for me to know what he actually thinks. Having sex with him is the easiest part - if he likes you, he'll take you. The harder part is making it into something more serious. So make sure you make it clear you want a serious relationship. Hopefully he's a good guy and will not try to pump and dump you.
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>>17391522
I need to leave now. Mind sharing a spam email so that we can discuss things there?
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Girls:
Some guys recommended me that I should just go and tell this girl I like "Hey I have feelings for you" etc. It sounds like a bad idea, how do you girls react when a guy says this? Isn't it absolutely implied if the guy just asks you to go have drinks together?
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>>17391613
>The harder part is making it into something more serious. So make sure you make it clear you want a serious relationship
Yes this. My parents will probably assume that he wants me for sex
Really? There are guys like this out there who don't mind?
Many people have told me that when I speak in my native language, I sound younger than my actual age. This doesn't happen when I speak English though and he told me I look older than my actual age. I am scared that I will be too childlike for him
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>>17391614
Really? Well okay. I'm just one guy, but if I can help then why not.

[email protected]

(Sorry for the contactfagging)
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>>17391606
When did I say I was a 10/10 man. I'm not perfect, I know that. Neither are you. You have preferences too. Everyone does, I'm just not in denial about it. It's 100% ok to not date someone you don't find attractive. Girls are not obligated to like you man.
And you forget that just because someone is unattractive to me (or anyone else for that matter) doesn't mean they're unattractive for everyone.
I dig Asian men, and I'm the only person I know who does.
Still though, please go ahead and prove to me how not shallow you are and tell me you'd date that chick up there. Or that sexuality is bullshit because it's all about the physical aspect of a person. Go right ahead.
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>>17391625
it is a bad idea
no reason to ever do that to someone you don't think will reciprocate

just ask her out normally. this isn't an anime
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>>17391628
>I am scared that I will be too childlike for him
Maybe, maybe not. He could find it cute. Or he could think you're just a kid and not be interested.
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>>17391635
Thanks, just making sure it's a bad idea because I thought it was weird that people told me this is what I should do.
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>>17391634
kek such damage control. project harder, sweetie
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>>17391640
however it is a good idea if you are planning on cutting her out of your life. i've used it to great effect that way
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>>17391625
It's not /absolutely/ implied when a dude asks me out for drinks that he's interested, but it is implied. Like hell I just got invited out for drinks by a friend of a friend I didn't know all that great and hadn't seen in a while. I shaved my junk and everything ready to throw down. He literally just wanted drinks though, and to be friends. Egg on my face man. Had to deal with the razor burn for nothin. So it's certainly not absolute.
Though if you just met this chick, going that far would probably not end well. Just keep inviting her out on those mostly implied dates, until you reach a point of closeness where you can openly call them dates, and then confess your feelings.
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>>17391643
ah... that makes sense, maybe I will then
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>>17391641
k bye sweaty lul
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>>17391638
And what if he lies that he is into a serious relationship when he is not?
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>>17391656
It's a risk you have to accept. This is regardless of age. Guys will lie to get sex. Some will be sincere and not use you, others won't.
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>>17391675
This is true. I was 17 dating a 16 year old who promised me he wanted to seriously date me, but all he really wanted was to lose his virginity and get practice for hotter women.
And then I've also had female classmates date older guys for the "presents" and free rides. People use other people all the time, no matter age, gender, anything. Unfortunately theres no universal tell, just gotta hold onto your own values and not let anyone push or trick you into something you don't like.
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>>17391727
This is a good way of looking at it. Be pragmatic. If you're going to have sex with someone, make sure it's because you actually want to have sex with him/her. That way, even if it doesn't become a serious relationship, you will have had fun.
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>>17391750
Exactly lol, this is why I'm glad I never actually banged that dude. I just never felt ready for sex until I hit my 20's. Stood by that and told him sex just wasn't going to happen. Dumped me immediately and finally admitted his intentions. Even though it hurt, I'm glad I didn't let myself get used just to keep a bf who wasn't even interested in me anyways.
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Men woud lie and manipulate to bang, it's nature. Our species wouldn't survive otherwise. Our species wouldn't survive if women wouldn't get clingy after getting fucked - we didn't have condoms back then, every fuck is a possibility of pregnancy and a woman would not survive alone after getting preggo.
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>>17391808
What the fuck are you talking about?
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>>17391829
Humanity
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>>17391808
Don't do drugs, kids.
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>>17391829
I guess women don't have the biological urge to reproduce, unlike men, so men have to trick women into reproducing. Because being a mommy isn't the number one life goal in the vast majority of women.
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>>17391938

lolwut? Have you never heard of the biological clock?
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>>17391938
>I guess women don't have the biological urge to reproduce

Have you ever talked to a woman? Like, at all?
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>>17391971
>>17391988
Come on guys... that's some pretty unsubtle sarcasm...
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I'm trying to get back into the dating scene using tinder. Would you guys mind rating my tinder profile? It's been a while for me so id appreciate any feedback.
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>>17392011

Oh.
Now that you say it, it's pretty obvious.
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>>17392014

Oh fuck you, I laughed.

>nonthreatening dad jokes
>chill smile
>woman (sister?) in a photo show pre-approval suggesting you're not a psycho that women flee from

Looks pretty good to me
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>>17392014
Have to say I never used tinder but I've seen some profiles online. This looks pretty good to me but my advice would be to swap picture 1 and 2 - it's a fun goofy picture, but makes you look significantly less attractive than you are, and first impression yada yada - and remove picture 3. This one I'm least secure about because I can see how perhaps pictures with girls would help, but I think especially if you're looking for something serious it's a bit weird, and you make that awkward "yay this is me taking a picture jesus I feel stupid" face.

Also not a fan of your description, it's unfunny to me. I would prefer something short and semi-witty about yourself and what you're looking for, like... "[age] guy, biggest fan there is of both [band/artist] and my dog/cat [name], love throaty female laughter and looking for a girl I can evoke cute noises from".
Obviously this is just to give you an idea. Also if you have pets DEFINITELY include a picture of you and the pet. Or a stray animal. Bitches love animals.
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>>17392028
It happens to the best of us.
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>>17392014
Cringey. Maybe that will work. But seriously, don't have a picture of you with another girl even if she is your sister.
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>>17392057

Are... are you being sarcastic again? Oh god, what is reality?!
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Question for other girls: have you ever cum from penetration alone?
Also, what is your personal favorite sex position?
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>>17392011
Kek yup. Gee I thought I was obvious too? hah
>>17391988
>>17391971
Its alright friends, I was being heavily sarcastic. Like for real I was trying to make sense of what that asshat was trying to imply, only men want to reproduce? lol.
>>17392042
>show pre-approval
Huh. That's never the impression I got with dudes posing with other chicks. Actually I immediately swipe no on dudes who have pics up with chicks, especially if they're attractive. I always assume they're exs or other women they're interested in. Figure I don't stand a chance and bail.
Only thing that makes me bail faster is the ole posing with small child/baby pic. If its not your kid, NEVER post a pic like that on tinder unless you state your relationship to it along side. I will assume its your kid and nope out so fast.
>>17392084
No, and statistically most women wont.
That being said, I enjoy doggy most. At least visually, just looks hot to me.
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>>17392050
(different anon just chiming in unsolicited)
>biggest fan there is of both [band/artist]
so douchey good lord
>and my dog/cat [name],
blatant pandering... but yeah, fuck, it works, I support this concept
>looking for a girl I can evoke cute noises from".
legitimately sounds like fishing for fucking, and gives the 'throaty' comment creepy context
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>>17391140
How old are you?
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>>17392097
>at least visually
You prefer the aesthetics of the wall or the door?
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>>17392099
The band - dog thing is a combination, the pet makes it clear (??) that it's not that serious.
And it was meant as an innuendo, like making a girl laugh or moan, whatever works for the match.

I guess it's just personal, this would work for me. I don't like it when guys are pretending too hard that they're not after sex when that's what they want, and I think a non-crude nod is actually pretty sexy.

I thought the joke he originally had was lame but the other girl loved it... you can't please everyone I guess. Maybe my opinion should weigh in less heavily because I have no tinder experience myself, maybe my judgement is just off because of that.
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>>17392113
Ok, you got me anon I lol'd.
Meaning I like to watch it in porn and shit. I've never actually tried it before, I'll admit. Never had a partner long term enough to try anything other than strict vanilla.
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>>17392113
>>17392120
Though if I had to guess, I'd say I'd like the aesthetic of the pillow my face is buried into ;)
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>>17392014
youre fucked, sry m8
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>>17392120
>not having a mirror and watching yourself get fucked from behind

It's like you don't know how to live.
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Women, what do you consider as flirting? I swear I don't get it unless it's really obvious.
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>>17392126
Dunno why you think so. Other than the picture with the chick, he seems pretty good to me.
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>>17392084
Do you mean without ever as much as touching my clit? Or just if I've ever had a vaginal orgasm?
Because why would I ever do the former.
To the latter, yes, but it's tricky and takes forever and I kinda feel like it's not worth the trouble half of the time.
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How do I recognize a fake orgasm
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>>17392014
tinder is not for average men
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>>17392084
>>17392154
I'm an idiot and forgot the second question. I'm no expert on sex positions but whatever it's called when I'm on my back on the bed, he's standing and my legs are up towards his shoulders.
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>>17392131
Hmm, maybe that would be appealing. But idk, face down ass up sounds like a beautiful mantra to me.
>>17392158
Actually talk to your chick about what she likes so she doesn't feel like she has to.
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>>17392106
I'm 27 years old.
I really hope her attraction is a healthy normal attraction and not one she wants to pursue.
I'll just have to be more aloof around her as to get her less interested.
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>>17392158
You can't. There are tell tale signs of an orgasm (vaginas muscles spasming, her breath becoming fast, shallow and jagged, the muscles in her thighs being flexed for a moment or prolonged time, being (over)sensitive directly afterwards etc... but all of those can be faked. There is no foolproof way to know.
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>>17392158
I've never faked an orgasm but I honestly don't see how it's tough to spot. When I orgasm I spasm like a complete spastic and my pussy contracts like dildos are made of fatherly approval. It's more than just moaning y'know.
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>>17392158
you can't

literally all you can do is stop fucking basic bitches
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>>17392178
The vag spasms always bothered me, I never get those when I orgasm. Idk if I'm just a freak, or if I'm not really orgasming, but that shit has never happened for me, I've even watched myself lol.
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>>17392179
All girls are different. With some girls, an orgasm is obvious. With some girls, you can't tell at all.
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>>17392199
I know some girls are pretty reserved about it but I figured there's enough uncontrolled stuff going on that you could always tell.
But I'm only going by myself here so probably not a big help.
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>>17392206
I'm a guy, and just saying by my experience with being with a few girls. And it's definitely a lot nicer when I'm with a girl who will obviously orgasm. With those who don't, it's guesswork, and even if I ask her she will never tell the truth.
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>>17392213
Make her hate you and she will.
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>>17392213
I never understood that, if I'm not getting off, wouldn't I tell the guy so we can work out what's wrong? Or is it embarrassing or something? I orgasm really easily so I've no idea.
If anyone here has ever faked it, what was the reason?
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>>17392194
I wouldn't worry about it. Hardly anything is as personal as the way in which you climax. And it also depends from moment to moment, I've had orgasms where I couldn't breathe or make any noise for something like twenty seconds and was just shaking, and I've had orgasms where the moment I felt the sensation it had basically already faded and I doubt there was any outward response at all. Depending on the build up, arousal, and probably also stuff like point in my menstrual cycle.

I doubt you're not really orgasming if there are other signs...
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>>17392223
idk man when i got divorced a lot of weird stuff came to the surface, some of it seemed contradictory as well
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>>17392223
Yes, the I FAKED EVERY ORGASM route during an angry breakup.
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>>17392243
Elaborate, please. I'm interessed.
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>>17392228
>I orgasm really easily
Most girls don't. You're lucky, as are the guys fucking you.
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>>17392228
It's something you slip into, from what I've heard. You fake it a few times because it turns you on, you want to impress the guy, you're afraid he's not going to believe that it was good if you don't, afraid that he'll find it a turn off if you tell him you rarely or never come from penetration, and then you either have to fess up and tell him you faked (painful) or you have to pretend that he did some magical thing the first couple of times that is now lacking... or you can just continue faking.

Obviously some men are also obnoxious about it and turn sex into a challenge to get her to climax instead of something fun, but the above is what I think is most common.

Personally I've only faked an orgasm once (shamefully enough it was during mutual masturbation, too). I had initiated another round and was enjoying it, but not that aroused anymore, and after my lover came I realized I didn't have it in me anymore and just wanted to cuddle. We'd only been together for a short while back then and I was afraid that if I told him he wouldn't believe that he didn't do anything to turn me off, or that I hadn't been into it for longer while he was completely exposed pleasuring himself next to me.
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>>17392256
I know I'm very lucky in that regard yeah.
No guys fucking me though.

>>17392259
I suppose on some level that's understandable, inadequacy is a bitch. Though I honestly thought it'd be common knowledge that orgasming from penetration is pretty darn tricky for the vast majority.
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>>17392272
Lesbian or virgin? Just curious.
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>>17392250
>you have a small dick and I can barely feel it
>i stopped letting you fuck my vagina after our separation because i didn't want to get accidentally pregnant
>i didn't want to have sex with you but when i'm around you i still get so aroused that i can't control myself
>also it makes me feel like im cheating on the guy i cheated on you with because i don't want to fuck you but you're so fucking good at it omg
>p.s. that's what i told the victim advocate and why you got a call a few days after our divorce was final asking about how you raped me
>p.p.s. that's also why im losing my job and got prescribed a shitload of anti-crazy pills
>p.p.p.s. every few months im going to call you and cry for an hour even though i told you to stop talking to me because i 'can't do this'
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>>17392280
I'd post that whynotboth.jpg if I had it.
But yeah, both. Yay me. You know the stuff they say about all-girls schools? It's unfortunately all bullshit, aha.
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>>17392286
Lesbians don't exist though.
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>>17392286
Easily orgasms, high sex drive, and all your orgasms are from masturbation? Be sure to never go to /r9k/, you would get tons of fat neckbeard beta virgin orbiters.

But, yea, good luck. If you're reasonably attractive, you can find someone on /soc/ or Tinder or even pokemon go.
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>>17392288
Please be joking...
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>>17392303
"No"
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>>17392285
Kek
Bitch is crazy
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>>17392295
Pretty sure robots would shit on me for being a woman and all that. Also stuff á la >>17392288
Not that I care of course, if that's their idea of entertainment oh well.

And it's alright oddly enough I'm not going crazy about having sex or dying as a lonely cat lady or whatever. Sure I'd like to have a girlfriend but that happens when it happens. I'm not in a hurry, and until then I'm good at distracting myself anyway.
Thanks though Anon.
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>>17392318
Can i be your gf if i'm a boy?
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>>17392316
yeah...

i sure miss her though
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>>17392327
Get a better rifle.
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Why not dogs instead of cats? At least you can train dogs to lick your pussy.
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>>17392318
Nice meme.
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>>17392333
Obviously meant for >>17392318

Trips wasted, sigh.
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>>17392325
No Anon sorry.
No trans pls.

>>17392330
Hah! Seriously divorce Anon though sounds like you're better off without her but obviously thats easily said by some stranger on 4chin.

>>17392333
I have a dog actually, well my family does. Not for that obviously though, I doubt that works really.
Not that I'd be interested I mean. You know what I mean.
Nice trips tho.
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>>17392344
I'm not trans.
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>>17392353
I was just joking, on the lesgen on /lgbt/ there's always trans people trying to 'fit in' with actual lesbians.
I'm pretty much exclusively into girls, sorry Anon.
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>>17392363
So you're a TERF?
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>>17392370
A what now
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>>17392344
Spread peanut butter on your pussy and have your dog lick it. Works better if it's a male dog obviously, and bigger is better.
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>>17392363
I went there once, i got lost with all those acronyms and people hating on those acronyms. Fuck me, i'm never going to places that deal with sexuality ever again.
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>>17392396
That seems kinda gross, I'm really totally fine with masturbating without canine assistance.
Plus we got a terrier anyway.

>>17392397
Hah, yeah. See >>17392370, but it can be kinda fun and also often really shitty, like the rest of 4chan.
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Help please femanons..

Been going out on dates with a few girls ever since I got back into the dating scene, and now things with one are getting pretty serious, and I want to break it off with the other girl I've been seeing. What is the best way to go about this? Ghosting is such a shitty thing to do.
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>>17392724
Being honest is usually a good thing.
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>>17392766

I don't feel like I could say "sorry but I've chosen another girl instead of you"
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>>17392771
you could keep seeing both, or just say that you've decided to go exclusive with someone.
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>>17392772

I don't want to let on that I've been seeing another woman
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>>17392783
What do you want, then?
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>>17392795

I want a way to let a girl off without hurting her feelings or letting on the reason is that I'm seeing another.
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boys and girls.

Do you split the bill with the girls on dates? How do you bring up the topic if she expects me to pay every time?
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Anyone can respond desu I just dont feel like starting my own thread.

How can I feel more masculine? Im an incredibly small 24 year old and I feel like a child. Nobody respects me and I cant approach girls because Im ashamed of myself.
How should I act?
How do basically compensate for being a pathetic manlet without looking like a tryhard douche?
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>>17392783
why?
that's not a bad thing anon
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>>17392851
Fap less (or don't, I'm not your mother)
Join a gym or do pushups in your room until you beat your own record.
Think about how average dudes don't get to 12 while you're ages past that
Go apeshit
Profit
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>>17392851
Most girls aren't pornstars wanting you to pin them to a wall or to punch down anyone that catcalls her
Know that many of them like sweet abd caring people
Now, if you want to get intimate with someone, make that show. They'll see friends as friends and "more than friends" as more than friends.
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>>17392818
>Hey gurl, can you cover up this time? I might need to get groceries late.
If she pouts, ask what's wrong. She goes "I think it's ridiculous for a girl to have to pay" tell her she's a sexist prick or take advantage of her basicness to disappear quickly.
If she doesn't pout, say "maybe next time we'll split?", idk...
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For first date, is putting your arm under and around the boys too bold/slutty/easy? Like in picture.
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>>17392851
>be 2016
>ashamed of being queer
>chill out man
You don't need to feel masculine to talk to girls. If you want, you can get angry at inanimate things and cuss like a half drunk, half Irish half Aussie sexagenarian under your breath.
Testosterone goes on a feedback loop.
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